Post by underwaterrhymes on Mar 21, 2016 19:33:52 GMT -5
LOL @ me. I totally have you moving to the Boston area.
FWIW, it took me nine months to find the job I have now and it suuuuuucked. But it has been great because I was able to take it with me when we moved. I do think you're going to find an awesome fit for you, but I'm sorry you're having to look at all.
Thanks, @randomcdn . It's smart to put things in perspective.
The reality is I know I'll be ok.
But it is a stressful situation as the primary breadwinner.
You obvsiouly don't have to answer, but would your brother help?? Like, pay off your house...lol
Lol. I would never ask him to do that. I'm sure he would help, though.
We own a condo free and clear. If I really couldn't afford my house anymore, I'd have a place to live for about $700/month (HOA fees that include water, cable, security, etc.).
LOL @ me. I totally have you moving to the Boston area.
FWIW, it took me nine months to find the job I have now and it suuuuuucked. But it has been great because I was able to take it with me when we moved. I do think you're going to find an awesome fit for you, but I'm sorry you're having to look at all.
It's fun to talk about it!
I actually know a good number of people who still live in the area, including a friend who was in my wedding.
Thanks, @randomcdn. It's smart to put things in perspective.
The reality is I know I'll be ok.
But it is a stressful situation as the primary breadwinner.
One of my biggest problems, I plan things and didn't plan this. And how the hell do you plan when you don't know where you're going to work? Too many unknowns I can't control. If I could just know a start date!
And yes, you'll be fine. It will work out. Things you will appreciate when you have a new job. And income again.
From what I recall you are doing the right things. But feel free to page/pm me if you do want any (hopefully new) ideas or perspective. Good luck.
I'm really thankful I can come here and vent and lament. I know that I generally have a fairly cushy life, so I truly appreciate everyone's kindness and support during this uncertain time!
Better idea. I could sell the condo and pay off my house.
I feel like a genius now.
But I'd still have to SAHM. LOL.
Isn't it funny how sometimes things like this don't occur to us when we are in the midst of stressful situations? I wondered a few days ago whether you'd considered it, because I thought it was just sitting there paid off.
I'm really thankful I can come here and vent and lament. I know that I generally have a fairly cushy life, so I truly appreciate everyone's kindness and support during this uncertain time!
It doesn't matter how much or how little you have--uncertain futures are scary!
ETA: It sounds SO cheesy, but when I was job hunting almost exactly a year ago, I was so disheartened and seriously didn't think I'd ever find anything. A random comment to a casual acquaintence led me to the job I have now, and I'm so happy (and making more money) than I ever though I could/would given my degree and previous experience. You'll find something great.
Boston/former Boston peeps -- what's up with Dorchester now? I haven't lived in the area since 1998, and, back then, I volunteered at a inner-city after-school program there.
I'm super suburban and Dorchester is just the place I drive through on the way to the zoo sometimes. But I'm pretty sure therearesome areas that have been gentrified now.
I almost think you should take it so you have a job while you look, as long as your H wouldn't have a fit about you taking MisoToddler and the nanny. You'd be home one week and two weekends/month, and you travel most weekends anyway. That's not horrible. I guess maybe you don't work as much as I do during the week, but honestly, I'd barely notice if H wasn't there. I'd miss Nika though.
I almost think you should take it so you have a job while you look, as long as your H wouldn't have a fit about you taking MisoToddler and the nanny. You'd be home one week and two weekends/month, and you travel most weekends anyway. That's not horrible. I guess maybe you don't work as much as I do during the week, but honestly, I'd barely notice if H wasn't there. I'd miss Nika though.
There's no way my nanny would go to Boston!
But good thought re being employed while seeking a new job.
Sadly, I don't think it's going to happen by April 1.
I almost think you should take it so you have a job while you look, as long as your H wouldn't have a fit about you taking MisoToddler and the nanny. You'd be home one week and two weekends/month, and you travel most weekends anyway. That's not horrible. I guess maybe you don't work as much as I do during the week, but honestly, I'd barely notice if H wasn't there. I'd miss Nika though.
There's no way my nanny would go to Boston!
But good thought re being employed while seeking a new job.
Sadly, I don't think it's going to happen by April 1.
Yeah, if the nanny won't go that's too big of an impediment. I only advocate ruthlessly leaving husbands for careers. Not daughters. I spend a week a month in NY and it isn't bad, but then, I do think of CA as my home, and you'd be doing the opposite.
Can you negotiate a longer employment period in lieu of severance?
Regardless, you'll be fine. Everyone gets hired again eventually. Even my junior associate who got fired during the recession, then took 18 months off to go wander around the world until his severance ran out, whom we all swore wouldn't be employable because WTF just interrupts their career for 18 months to wander the world, was employed again after the economy recovered. He's now happily in house at a vitamin company.