How is Everyone?

[Dory1988]

I know the board is pretty quiet but I've had some big life events happen that left me wondering what everyone else is up to.

I'm still in the Navy at the same place.  Got spun up for a deployment that got kanked.  DH and I decided to separate.  We're living separately and working on paying off some debt before we file.  He's still getting medically retired within the next couple months.  I'm just trying to figure out who I am again.  I think I kind of became defined by my husband, especially after he joined the motorcycle club.  It feels good to just do what I want and be who I want but I'm still sad that he's gone.  Anyway, like I said, what is everyone else up to?

[meltoine]

I'm sorry about the divorce, but glad you're rediscovering yourself in the process!

MH is getting out in the next couple of months. His paperwork is all approved except for the underSecAF. We're moving back to NY at the end of this month. This was all somewhat unexpected. We planned for him to stay until retirement, but a lot of less than ideal circumstances arose and we decided it was best to cut and run.

[pennylane]

Dory1988 Sorry to hear about the separation, but it's great you are getting yourself back so to speak. I totally understand how easy it is to get wrapped up in your spouse's stuff.

Good luck meltoine with the move and transitioning to "civilian" life.

My life if fairly boring these days, since I stay at home with the toddler and H has been kind of busy. DH got assigned to a different aircraft (he's not happy at all about it) so Navy stuff is blah right now. We are still adjusting to our current location even though we've been here a year. Finding new friends sucks.

[Deleted]

I was just literally thinking about "us" the other day. My divorce was sad at first and then relief. I think it's how most go. SO is a nice board. I consider them and MM "my" boards.

I'm DoD so I feel like I don't really belong. I think Ghostmonkey's husband was a contractor? Maybe? I don't think she made the migration. I'm currently at a guard base. I'm trying to redeploy by the end of the year. I had a phone call with HR about it. Went home and cried because I don't feel like I belong state-side (if that makes sense?) and I am very much friendless at my new base, even after being here for 7 months now. They want me to stay state-side for a year to full-fill my PCS obligations. I feel isolated and alone.

[kpol]

Hugs Dory1988

Although MH is still AD, we aren't near a base and I know how you feel, @lemonlover. We had such an amazing group of people when we were stationed overseas and have no one here and want to go back. The people here are just not our type and it's way too transient of an area to meet any long lasting friends. Our dog is our only friend here!

We have some awesome trips lined up in the next few weeks and months so I'm really looking forward to that.

[G22]

I'm sorry about your divorce FMF. I hope you start finding a new normal and happiness with that.

DS just turned 6 months old last weekend. It's flying by so fast, we are really enjoying this age! He's so much fun! DH will be deploying soon, so we're just gearing up for that. And trying to do some traveling here and there when we get the chance. We went up to Amsterdam last weekend for a quick trip, that was a lot of fun!

[nsl]

Hugs Dory1988 and @lemonlover.

H is deployed right now, so I'm holding things down on the home front and trying to stay positive about the direction my professional life has taken since our PCS last summer. The bottom line is that we were in our last duty station for nearly a decade, and I got really happy and comfortable there. Change has never been my thing, and the last 12 months have felt like all change all the time. I'm going to give my new job another year, and if it's still not working out for me then I'll start exploring other options. H has told me that he'll support whatever I decide to do, which is incredibly liberating.

[ilovecandy]

Hey everyone. H got an email.about volunteering for a deployment. He looked into it. It would be to a place he has been before and he would be working with people from his last unit. However after looking into it it sounded like the deployment was going to be like his last one and things happened in the last one, that sounded like they might happen on this one, things that were not good. So we opted for him to not.put his name in for consideration.

He dropped a warrant packet so we should know at the end of.month for him.

I recently interviewed for a promotion at my.job but didn't get it. So that sucks. I hate the whole.trying to do what I need t.do for my career yet it is hampered by h's career since we have moved every few years and so on shit. I recently did.ivf and that was not successful we are gearing up to do a frozen embryo transfer now.

[brandienee]

Man, Stan I am sorry. You've got a full plate.

Hugs to Lemon and FMF.

DH is deployed right now and we just moved here. I feel like everything is jumbled. We were in New Jersey long enough to get comfortable, so I really really miss it. I don't know that many people here yet. Ugh.

Other than that, things are great. Not knowing anyone leaves time for me to freelance and work, and maintain my hobbies. Which is nice. DS is almost 8 months old. He just started crawling and is the cutest thing on the planet. Solo parenting is hard, but he is so worth it.

[meltoine]

I'm sorry, Stan. I had no idea - I thought you guys were in a better place for a while?

ilovecandy - good luck with the packet. I'm sorry about your promo and the ivf, but I hope your FET is successful!

[Dory1988]

I'm sorry Stan. I know that can be really hard.

[ilovecandy]

Also hugs stan. That sucks.

Mel are you excited he is getting out? We keep going back and forth. Currently our answer is if he goes warrant he is a lifer. If he doesn't get warrant he will get out at the end of his contract. It sucks that it is happening so much sooner than you guys planned but you seem to have a good attitude about it.

[meltoine]

May 8, 2016 15:48:16 GMT -5 ilovecandy said:

Also hugs stan. That sucks.

Mel are you excited he is getting out? We keep going back and forth. Currently our answer is if he goes warrant he is a lifer. If he doesn't get warrant he will get out at the end of his contract. It sucks that it is happening so much sooner than you guys planned but you seem to have a good attitude about it.

I'm excited now, but it's been a process to get here. We always planned on him being a lifer, too. But I'm focusing on how nice it will be to be around our parents for the kids. 

[G22]

Crossing everything for you ilovecandy! I hope your FET is successful!

[prettyinpink]

Hugs and hellos to everyone!

FMF and Stan big hugs. I hope things workout the way you both need them to.

Mel good luck with your new adventure.

G22 your little one is so cute!

I Love Candy good luck with your transfer!

Brandie we need to connect soon! I'm so sorry I havent been able to yet.

I'm pregnant again. We had our first appointment the 29th and we had a heartbeat and things looked good! I go back this Friday to have a better dating scan as it seems I ovulated a week later since baby was only measuring 6 weeks and I thought I was 7. I'm a little nervous just because of what happened last time but this time everything looked good and the doctor said I could tell our family so that made me happy. We told E's parents this weekend which was exciting. I just really hope everything will be okay this time.

[meltoine]

May 9, 2016 12:14:03 GMT -5 prettyinpink said:

Hugs and hellos to everyone!

FMF and Stan big hugs. I hope things workout the way you both need them to.

Mel good luck with your new adventure.

G22 your little one is so cute!

I Love Candy good luck with your transfer!

Brandie we need to connect soon! I'm so sorry I havent been able to yet.

I'm pregnant again. We had our first appointment the 29th and we had a heartbeat and things looked good! I go back this Friday to have a better dating scan as it seems I ovulated a week later since baby was only measuring 6 weeks and I thought I was 7. I'm a little nervous just because of what happened last time but this time everything looked good and the doctor said I could tell our family so that made me happy. We told E's parents this weekend which was exciting. I just really hope everything will be okay this time.

Squeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

so excited for you! 

[G22]

Congrats prettyinpink!!!

[pennylane]

Stan, I'm sorry about all of the suck recently. I hope things turn out well for you.
G22, That little guy is adorable!
ilovecandy, Hoping for a successful FET for you.
prettyinpink, Congrats!

[killercupcake]

I'm sorry Stan, I didn't know.

H is wrapping up his second year in college. He's still working full time and going to school full time. I offered to let him go down to part time once I started working, but he wanted to stay at full time, so whatever. lol

I'm on the tail-end of my first year as a counselor. Well, testing coordinator. I don't have a caseload this year, but I'm guaranteed one next year. I'm absolutely loving my school and I love my job as is, so getting students is going to be even better. That said, I am SO READY for summer vacation.

[Deleted]

Stan, I'm sorry. And not to be creepy but I remember you talking about the hot dog/drink combo at Costco and think about it every time I get a churro.

prettyinpink, eeek babies!!!

[styme46]

I'm sorry Dory1988.

Stan, now you definitely need to come visit. I didn't realize things were that bad between you two again. (((HUGS))) my friend. I am here if you need me.

prettyinpink, congratulations!

Things are good here. Dd just turned 11 (OMG!) and ds will be 4 in August. We are looking at possibly buying a resort near our cabin so that is terrifying. I am getting really burned out on my job for a lot of different reasons so as terrifying as buying a resort is, at this point, I think it is better than staying in a dead end job that I am unhappy in. Don't get me wrong, I love what I do, but the politics, the lack of opportunity to advance in my Department, and a certain person on my team are making it really hard for me to want to come to work every day. The resort is an established resort and h and I have some great ideas and experience we feel we can bring to the business to make it even more of a success then it already is. H and I are great. He is amazing and we are so lucky to have him.

[Dumbledork]

May 5, 2016 20:09:03 GMT -5 meltoine said:

I'm sorry about the divorce, but glad you're rediscovering yourself in the process!

MH is getting out in the next couple of months. His paperwork is all approved except for the underSecAF. We're moving back to NY at the end of this month. This was all somewhat unexpected. We planned for him to stay until retirement, but a lot of less than ideal circumstances arose and we decided it was best to cut and run.

This is basically us, but his contract ends next summer.

DH was definitely going to be a lifer up until very recently. He's had two surgeries on the same ankle now and his physical therapist has told him that he should really never run again. He's 28 and can't run. She thinks he could get med boarded, but his doctor seems resistant to it. He has another appointment this week to have it checked out again and hear for sure what his doctor wants to do.

Either way, he's getting out. It's been made clear to him that while he's really good at his job, he's unlikely to go beyond where he is, and that's just not good enough for us. If he doesn't get med boarded, he'll transition to NG to keep working towards his retirement.

We're moving to STL when his contract is up and I'm SO EXCITED. We'll still be a few hours from my family, but we've found a great school for DD to continue her Chinese immersion, the area looks good for DH to find employment, and I can work basically anywhere. The only downside is MIL.

[Dumbledork]

His doctor got the med board ball rolling today!

[amaristella]

Dory1988 , Stan ,Sorry that you're going through so much.

G22 ,Sorry about the looming deployment but glad things are going well with the little guy

ilovecandy ,Sorry that your ivf did not turn out. Best wishes for the FET process!

prettyinpink ,I'll have my fingers crossed for you that things turn out well this time. People think I'm crazy for hating ultrasounds but for me it's just a terrible mental rollercoaster.

Meee?? I just spent 40 minutes locked in my own garage trying to instruct my too tired for reason and sense 2.5 year old on how to unlock the deadbolt that he locked. Of course this scenario would only occur when DH is out to sea. But now I've learned my lesson and I keep house keys, you know, hidden in the garage area.

And mentally I'm pretty much ignoring the fact that I seem to be pregnant again. I haven't even been to the doctor to pee in a cup because part of me will always worry if everything is going okay in there and part of me doesn't want to acknowledge that my supposed due date is the same week DH is set to deploy again. (We so wish he'd been sent to the other ship he was originally supposed to go to. The one that just got back from deployment) I just hope that we made the right decision. DH was like, well we're not getting any younger and I was thinking well, maybe this kid will want out early like A did and I'll end up with a Christmas baby instead of a first day of deployment one.

But I have a house to live in and after many months of Navy fuck ups all of my HHG and our car are here safe and (mostly) sound. Sitting on a couch, sleeping in a bed and having more than two of each type of dish in the cupboard feels like such a luxurious way to live.

[meltoine]

@amristella Congratulations! Sorry you got locked out.

[NomadicMama]

Dory1988, I'm sorry to read about your separation.  I hope that you are able to find what makes you happy and fulfillment!

pennylane, life with a toddler at a newish base is hard.  I hope that you find your niche!

@lemonlover, my DH is now a contractor (he retired a year ago).  You belong here!  Hopefully something will shift so that you feel grounded wherever you are.  

meltoine, best of luck with all of the changes coming up!  I hope that everything falls into place and that you, your kids and the families all enjoy and appreciate living near one another!

kpol, moving back to the States was difficult for me, too.  A new family moved into our neighborhood in January.  They were coming from overseas, too, and the wife/mother and I clicked.  We'd been back for 11 months and I was floundering until then.  It made coming back that much more difficult.  Things are better now, but it's taken time.

G22, Amsterdam?  I'm so jealous!!!!  That was my favorite city I visited while we were overseas.  I hope that you are enjoying your overseas experience!

nsl, you have endured a ton of change in the last year.  I hope your DH is home soon and that your job situation gets better!  This greater area is challenging since we, as military families, blend in.  It's good and bad.  

I have to put DS to bed, I'll be back to finish responding!

[G22]

NomadicMama, we LOVED Amsterdam! Such a fun city! We are really enjoying being here. It's finally started feeling like "home" and so far it's been a great experience!

[blondemoment123]

Sending internet hugs to those having a hard time.

H hates the NG and can't wait til his contract ends. He'll be just a few years short of 20 (including the usmc time of service) but he refuses to stay in.