So..

[Smurfette]

I am bored. This board is so slow lately. How about we vent/confess/letters/whatever to get the ball rolling

[Deleted]

Three months after having a stroke, my dad can finally sit up with help and he can talk. I drove home on the long weekend to see him for just a few hours. I cried like a baby.

[twoplustwo]

DS started day care two weeks ago and now has foot hand and mouth disease. Everyone keeps telling me it is all the daycare's fault and I need to switch him. The only other daycare around is an extra $35 a week so the husband says no. And right now we are on a waitlist for on post daycare.

I am just irrationally annoyed that everyone is telling me their opinion, and the husband won't listen to it because he thinks they are being dramatic.

[twoplustwo]

That is great Lemon! Glad to hear he is making progress.

[amaristella]

Never had a fasting blood draw before today. I totally went splat and passed out. After 15 minutes (guessing) I still couldn't quite get up out of the chair so I called DH to bring me home and buy me Gatorade, candy and a chili cheese dog on the way.

[MrsAggie]

Sept 4, 2012 15:39:34 GMT -5 amaristella said:

Never had a fasting blood draw before today. I totally went splat and passed out. After 15 minutes (guessing) I still couldn't quite get up out of the chair so I called DH to bring me home and buy me Gatorade, candy and a chili cheese dog on the way.

I had a fasting blood draw in high school. It was the only time I've ever passed out. I had hypoglycemia issues to start with. I was talking to the phlebotomist and then dropped in mid-sentence.

I'm completely jealous of your chili cheese dog, by the way.

[amaristella]

Sept 4, 2012 15:44:18 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Sept 4, 2012 15:39:34 GMT -5 amaristella said:

Never had a fasting blood draw before today. I totally went splat and passed out. After 15 minutes (guessing) I still couldn't quite get up out of the chair so I called DH to bring me home and buy me Gatorade, candy and a chili cheese dog on the way.

I had a fasting blood draw in high school. It was the only time I've ever passed out. I had hypoglycemia issues to start with. I was talking to the phlebotomist and then dropped in mid-sentence.

I'm completely jealous of your chili cheese dog, by the way.

It was yummy even if it tasted weird at first. But hey, my ears quit ringing. It usually takes a minute to set in with me. I learned with nonfasting blood draws just to wait in the chair for 30-60 seconds after they finish just in case. I always get totally embarrassed because like today 4 vials is really not that much. I don't know why it affects me so much.

[MrsAggie]

Confession: BIL is 30 and SIL is turning 34 in December. They started trying to have a baby in December. I never bring it up because I'm worried they're having fertility problems. In the next year, I'll probably want to start trying. If I get pregnant before SIL, I'm going to feel astronomically guilty. Part of me wants to wait another year if they're not pregnant by next year. Is that crazy?

[G22]

Sept 4, 2012 15:49:42 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Confession: BIL is 30 and SIL is turning 34 in December. They started trying to have a baby in December. I never bring it up because I'm worried they're having fertility problems. In the next year, I'll probably want to start trying. If I get pregnant before SIL, I'm going to feel astronomically guilty. Part of me wants to wait another year if they're not pregnant by next year. Is that crazy?

No its not crazy, but you shouldn't feel like you have to plan your life around theirs. As someone who is having fertility issues and had friends pass us by on the baby wagon, it sucks but I'm happy for them.

Its nice of you to tiptoe on the subject though with them. Some people are more open about it than others, and unless your close with them, I'd wait and let them bring it up if they feel like talking about it. I'm sure they are getting the "when are you having kids" questions from other people.

[amaristella]

Sept 4, 2012 15:49:42 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Confession: BIL is 30 and SIL is turning 34 in December. They started trying to have a baby in December. I never bring it up because I'm worried they're having fertility problems. In the next year, I'll probably want to start trying. If I get pregnant before SIL, I'm going to feel astronomically guilty. Part of me wants to wait another year if they're not pregnant by next year. Is that crazy?

I don't think you're crazy for feeling that way, but I don't think you should wait on their behalf either.

Kudos to you for being sensitive to the trouble they could be having. That you're already thinking of it now tells me that you're capable of treating the situation appropriately in the future if it does arise. :Y: :Y:

[G22]

My confession is I'm ready to move somewhere else already. I'm not sure why either. Its not bad here. We still have at 3 years left here though. I just feel like I don't have any good friends and that feeling sucks. I think maybe that's why I'm ready for a change.

[NomadicMama]

Sept 4, 2012 15:49:42 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Confession: BIL is 30 and SIL is turning 34 in December. They started trying to have a baby in December. I never bring it up because I'm worried they're having fertility problems. In the next year, I'll probably want to start trying. If I get pregnant before SIL, I'm going to feel astronomically guilty. Part of me wants to wait another year if they're not pregnant by next year. Is that crazy?

Coming from a former infertile--it's sweet that you care. I wouldn't put your plans on hold, but, when you do get pregnant, you might want to send them a "heads up"' email before telling your DH's side of the family. Personally, I greatly appreciated the warning. And, doing so by email allows them to respond as they are able. I sent a couple "OMG, soooo excited for you" responses while typing through tears. It's what I wanted to feel for them but was feeling sad for myself. Email allowed me to feel and process both emotions but only acknowledge one emotion (joy) in my response.




Confession--LO and I are going on a Strong Bonds retreat this weekend. A friend is taking Smudge from Thursday until Sunday. The thought of no dog for 72 hours makes me giddy. I am so tired of walking him and having him still pee in the house. I know it's because he wants/needs more attention, but get in line. I'm hoping that three days apart will allow me to give more when we come home. I just have to make it until early October--then my folks will be here and I'll have help.

Another confession: A friend is deployed for the first time. He posted over the weekend that he's now been in country for a month and has "earned" his combat patch. He posted stats and it included that his deployment was 17% completed. I ran "our numbers". We were at 22%--my DH had been gone more than twice as long as my friend. And I'm feeling a little bit bitter. Okay, more than a little. I'm jealous that his assignment is only 6 months. <sigh>

[audette]

I'm feeling the urge to beat my head against the wall dealing with Tricare and EFMP screening crap.

Today the clinic on base called to reschedule my ideally-timed appointment (for me - it's a time when I can go see my PA and not take time off work) to an hour later.

But then, when the person on the line heard it was for EFMP stuff, she started talking that I needed to bring forms and other things, and none of it matched what the EFMP folks on base had told me I needed to do.

Of course, what the EFMP folks on base told me I needed did not computer with the initial tricare rep I made the appointment with, so goodness only knows what that appointment is labelled as for what I am going in for.


And, what the heck is up with Tricare or the base clinic not being able to process a request for a "general annual physical exam". That's all the EFMP clinic wants me to get. And yet, no one seems to know what this elusive type of appointment/exam is...


I'll admit I kinda went off on the woman re-booking my appointment today. I don't feel all that guilty about it, either. It really shouldn't be too much to expect that the base clinic would know what is needed for the overseas screening folks, or that I might object to having my appointment time changed without even saying "will this new time work for you". Instead, she simply said "we're moving you to this time".

It's already frustrating enough that the soonest they could get me in to my PCM is over three weeks out from my request, particularly for something that is, in theory, kinda time-sensitive.


Head-desk...

All of this is ever-so-wonderfully helped in it's confusion by the fact that there are no orders yet, but they want us to work on the screening stuff now.

[NomadicMama]

audette, I've been there. And it SUCKS. And it will continue to suck. I'm sorry. It will (eventually) get better! But prepare for more suckage. Better to be over prepared.

[audette]

Sept 4, 2012 16:45:50 GMT -5 NomadicMama said:

audette, I've been there. And it SUCKS. And it will continue to suck. I'm sorry. It will (eventually) get better! But prepare for more suckage. Better to be over prepared.

Thanks. Blargh. It might help if I had been able to keep my original appointment, and then I'd be done this part already. (had to re-book it because of extending our trip to check in on MIL's health).

Are there other stages of the process I should expect to particularly suck? We have no kids or pets, so I think that helps simplify a few things...


And, I can't wait until we get to the "let's get you a visa" part. I'm hearing rumours of them needing my (non-US) passport for 6-8 weeks. That won't be happening. So I might have to sit on someone until they realize how dumb that is. (I need that passport to visit my family before we move overseas for 2-3 years, along with needing it for a selection of work trips scheduled for me in the next little while... I don't have 6-8 weeks where I don't need my passport...)

I'm willing to do certain things (like pay out of pocket) for faster visa processing. Hopefully that is all it takes.

[kpol]

I got an "Obama is a Muslim and hates America" type of e-mail last week and am still mad about it. Normally I would just delete it and move on but this was sent by an anonymous person which is what I think is making me mad. I e-mailed them back a not so nice e-mail with a snopes link but if you want to send me that crap, own up to it at least!

[pennylane]

Sept 4, 2012 18:39:49 GMT -5 kpol said:

I got an "Obama is a Muslim and hates America" type of e-mail last week and am still mad about it. Normally I would just delete it and move on but this was sent by an anonymous person which is what I think is making me mad. I e-mailed them back a not so nice e-mail with a snopes link but if you want to send me that crap, own up to it at least!

I've been getting emails like that from random family members (from both parties), which usually end up in me venting to my H about the stupidity. I have tried responding with snopes links in the past, but I know these people don't actually read them. :@

[prettyinpink]

We went to Simon's follow up today. His belly still looks bad so its antibiotics for another 14 days plus a week of a new anti-histamine. I'm simi pissed about the anit-histamine because 14 pills is $22. I just wish the benadryl had been enough. And more baths for my poor baby. But at least everyone at the vet's office loves him and he loves all of them. When he got out of the car he was so excited to run for the door! It was so cute.

[nsl]

Sept 4, 2012 16:10:16 GMT -5 NomadicMama said:

Another confession: A friend is deployed for the first time. He posted over the weekend that he's now been in country for a month and has "earned" his combat patch. He posted stats and it included that his deployment was 17% completed. I ran "our numbers". We were at 22%--my DH had been gone more than twice as long as my friend. And I'm feeling a little bit bitter. Okay, more than a little. I'm jealous that his assignment is only 6 months. <sigh>

One of H's coworkers deployed at the same time he did two years ago. He got to come home after three months, but the way he and his wife carried on over Facebook and in person about how hard the separation was you'd have thought he'd been gone for over a year. Meanwhile, H missed the birth of our second child (and I got to do it alone) because he drew the 12-month slot. The same guy is now deployed again, AGAIN for less than half a full-length tour, and they're at it with the dramatics again.

No lie, I kind of want to punch both of them in the face.

[erin2903]

Sept 4, 2012 15:21:00 GMT -5 twoplustwo said:

DS started day care two weeks ago and now has foot hand and mouth disease. Everyone keeps telling me it is all the daycare's fault and I need to switch him. The only other daycare around is an extra $35 a week so the husband says no. And right now we are on a waitlist for on post daycare.

I am just irrationally annoyed that everyone is telling me their opinion, and the husband won't listen to it because he thinks they are being dramatic.

I have worked at the fanciest (very expensive and had wait lists a mile long) of "preschool/daycares" and those kids still got hfm. We took every sanitizing precaution possible. Seriously, I would gladly send my own baby to this school and gross illnesses like that still occurred. If you want to spend the extra money then go ahead. But I promise you that it won't mean your child will not catch any of the nastiness that goes around. Any environment where kids are in close quarters day after day mean that illness is going to happen.

If it makes you feel any better my son got HFM and I am at stay at home mom. I have no idea where he picked it up, probably the mall play area that we like to visit. Anyway, point is a more expensive day care does not equal a healthy baby.

[twoslicehilly]

DD has a gift from her Bday ( that some one else gave her) still up in her closet she's never seen since she isn't old enough for it yet. I'm considering saving it for Christmas since she'll love it.

[twoplustwo]

Sept 4, 2012 23:28:24 GMT -5 erin2903 said:

Sept 4, 2012 15:21:00 GMT -5 twoplustwo said:

DS started day care two weeks ago and now has foot hand and mouth disease. Everyone keeps telling me it is all the daycare's fault and I need to switch him. The only other daycare around is an extra $35 a week so the husband says no. And right now we are on a waitlist for on post daycare.

I am just irrationally annoyed that everyone is telling me their opinion, and the husband won't listen to it because he thinks they are being dramatic.

I have worked at the fanciest (very expensive and had wait lists a mile long) of "preschool/daycares" and those kids still got hfm. We took every sanitizing precaution possible. Seriously, I would gladly send my own baby to this school and gross illnesses like that still occurred. If you want to spend the extra money then go ahead. But I promise you that it won't mean your child will not catch any of the nastiness that goes around. Any environment where kids are in close quarters day after day mean that illness is going to happen.

If it makes you feel any better my son got HFM and I am at stay at home mom. I have no idea where he picked it up, probably the mall play area that we like to visit. Anyway, point is a more expensive day care does not equal a healthy baby.

Thanks Erin!
At least I can tell them it can happen anywhere. And they most likely are being dramatic, but I feel guilty he is so sick and I can't fix it.