Whelp...date update...

[onetruething]

This is awesome!!! My last best first date was 100 years ago and now I am squealing hearing about yours!!! Enjoy!!!

[pumpkin]

I'm so happy for you!

[litebright]

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I can't even tell you how happy I am for you! Like, I'm actually a little teary. (God, I'm a sap.) 

You're awesome all by yourself, and you know that. But I am glad that someone has crossed your path who is special to you and seems to appreciate, and fit with, your particular kind of awesome. I look forward to seeing cheesy couple-pics on FB.

[gizmo]

*high five*

[vicky]

Jun 12, 2016 16:43:24 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Jun 12, 2016 16:38:28 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

I'm also old and am side-eyeing the shit out of this comment. Perhaps you didn't mean it the way it came out?

I took it as a curiosity question, but if it's a judgment, whatever. I'm 35. I'm old enough now to know that plenty of people have sex on their first date. Most people I know.

I'm super confident that this relationship has very little to do with sex and a whole lot to do with a very good meshing of personalities. The wisdom of being old and having been through that gives me that confidence.

Congrats! I'm so happy for you.


Not that it matters to me, you or should it matter to anyone else - I fuck on the first date

[winecat]

Jun 12, 2016 17:24:32 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Jun 12, 2016 17:16:16 GMT -5 winecat said:

He's not sending you pictures of engagement rings or wedding dresses. You're officially dating, not putting deposits down. I think lots of people "know" and it's great that he said what's on his mind. Have fun!

I almost texted you to see if you wanted to get breakfast and then I remembered. Lol

Yeah, no wedding talk yet. Haha. I guess I just don't know what the harm is in being "official" when you actually like someone. It's not like it prevents either one of us from getting out of it if we decide it isn't for us.

I will say, based on what I know of him and what my friend (his friend) tells me, he is not a player and not someone who was even looking for a relationship. If anything, I think both of us were/are perfectly content being single for the rest of our lives.

Ha! We went to the place you and I usually go to and it was his first time there and he loved it!

You should have told me so I could have casually stopped by for breakfast at the bar. Would have totally looked legit.

[intentionalsnarkshark]

Jun 12, 2016 18:35:43 GMT -5 vicky said:

Congrats! I'm so happy for you.


Not that it matters to me, you or should it matter to anyone else - I fuck on the first date

[sassycat]

Congrats, It is nice when you meld with someone first without the sex!

[walterismydog]

Jun 12, 2016 18:09:03 GMT -5 litebright said:

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I can't even tell you how happy I am for you! Like, I'm actually a little teary. (God, I'm a sap.) 

You're awesome all by yourself, and you know that. But I am glad that someone has crossed your path who is special to you and seems to appreciate, and fit with, your particular kind of awesome. I look forward to seeing cheesy couple-pics on FB.

Awwwwwww!!! Friend, I love you!! Thank you so much for the wonderful and thoughtful words. It means a lot.

He's not on fb, but I'm sure there will be pictures!! Haha. It's pretty random how it all just worked out. I'm not sure how to process it yet.

[FastHands]

This is so damn adorable. Very happy for you!!

[isabel]

Jun 12, 2016 16:50:45 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Jun 12, 2016 16:49:07 GMT -5 jezebel said:

Yaaaaay! I'm so happy for you!

Does he know you're moving soon?

He knows that it's a possibility. But what I haven't said to anyone other than my mom is that I may not move after all. My trip to SD changed a lot of my perspective. This was all before him, so it's not like I'm making that decision based on him.

This is... not even remotely the same, but I was planning on moving home after my freshman year of college. When I met H, I decided to stay. Best decision ever. Anyway, my point is that sometimes that's a leap worth taking. Texas will still be there if things don't work out.

Super excited for you! Yay!

[Deleted]

Nobody deserves it more than you. And unless you're giving up a once in a lifetime job or educational opportunity by not moving, if he changes the balance in favor of staying- so what? You don't have to move to make a point, you already know you're independent.

H and I almost got married one month after meeting. I'm glad we didn't - I wouldn't have wanted to miss our real wedding, and my father certainly wouldn't have paid for a do over had I eloped after 4 weeks - but we would have still ended up in the same place if we had. Sometimes there's nothing wrong with moving fast.

[walterismydog]

Jun 13, 2016 0:16:38 GMT -5 elle said:

Nobody deserves it more than you. And unless you're giving up a once in a lifetime job or educational opportunity by not moving, if he changes the balance in favor of staying- so what? You don't have to move to make a point, you already know you're independent.

H and I almost got married one month after meeting. I'm glad we didn't - I wouldn't have wanted to miss our real wedding, and my father certainly wouldn't have paid for a do over had I eloped after 4 weeks - but we would have still ended up in the same place if we had. Sometimes there's nothing wrong with moving fast.

Re: the first paragraph - in some ways, I would likely be giving up more by moving due to a difficult and low-paying job market down there. And when I told my mom about having second thoughts a few weeks ago, the main thing she kept repeating is that she thinks I would be "so bored" down there.

I still don't know what will happen and I may end up there - or anywhere else - but for now I've got a few months to simmer on it and see where life points me. New love interest doesn't hurt things!

I love your story of the almost one month in marriage - adorable. Thank you for the kind words.

[Vally]

Aw this is really sweet ! I can relate a lot to what you described and how nice it was to find someone and things just *worked*
I was also considering a move but not 100% sure about it. Then I met my BF in September of last year and staying just made much more sense then.

Best of luck to you