Friday randoms

[glitzyglow]

doglove, that's so awkward and confusing on his part. If he asked would you see him again or are you over it?

[doglove]

I think so glitzyglow. He goes days without any communication and he lives an hour away, I just don't think this is the kind of dating/relationship I went for myself. I want to feel special and to have someone let me know when they are thinking about me. I just don't think he knows what he's doing - who knows. I'll have to tell him this week. He said he'd talk to me next week so we could plan "another fun date." ugh.

[Deleted]

doglove, I would just rip off the bandaid at this point. What's stopping you from contacting him? Just reach out and say, "Thanks for the game date, but I think that's the last one for us. Enjoy your trip and good luck!"

[stephreloaded]

doglove, I feel very uncomfortable about what you have shared. Just the exit part would just leave me wondering if this is about an exit, how will he react to other stuff that are of his control.

I also don't like cheap people and this is coming from someone who is sort of frugal.

[doglove]

Jun 27, 2016 16:25:04 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

doglove , I feel very uncomfortable about what you have shared. Just the exit part would just leave me wondering if this is about an exit, how will he react to other stuff that are of his control.

I also don't like cheap people and this is coming from someone who is sort of frugal.

Right - I was thinking the same thing. I appreciate being frugal and careful with your money, but the emphasis on it on all our dates has been a head scratcher for me. Especially when we have had very cheap dates that he's only paid his portion for thus far. 


@bigtowlittletoe, it's now four days later and still no word from him, when/if(?) he does reappear I will just tell him I don't feel a connection and wish him luck on his search. 

[stephreloaded]

I had a fight with my brother a few weeks ago. I was using a different approach with him and I was just kind of over the whole thing because the fight is not new so I would just listen and ignore. This time, he was way out of line and I couldn't hold my tongue any longer. I told him that his wife was a slut, crazy homewrecker (which is true) and then blocked him so he couldn't text me. We haven´t spoken since. I was going to stop by my mom´s today and I saw his car so I just left and came home.

[jenstar]

doglove, from what you posted he sounds a bit like someone with Aspergers. He might have a few conversation topics that he feels comfortable with so he defaults to those without realizing that you've btdt.. The rigidity and lack of communication, not reading your cues etc..

All that to say, don't take it personally, and of course you should do what is best for you. I think I would have a really hard time dating someone like that too. x

[doglove]

Jun 27, 2016 22:58:25 GMT -5 jenstar said:

doglove , from what you posted he sounds a bit like someone with Aspergers. He might have a few conversation topics that he feels comfortable with so he defaults to those without realizing that you've btdt.. The rigidity and lack of communication, not reading your cues etc..

All that to say, don't take it personally, and of course you should do what is best for you. I think I would have a really hard time dating someone like that too. x

Oh yeah I definitely am not taking it personally, but I guess I can understand why he made it to 42 without being married or having any significant long term relationships. Probably why he's paid $$ for someone to find him dates? I wonder if I'll have to talk to her again once I break it off with him.

[jenstar]

Jun 28, 2016 7:15:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jun 27, 2016 22:58:25 GMT -5 jenstar said:

doglove , from what you posted he sounds a bit like someone with Aspergers. He might have a few conversation topics that he feels comfortable with so he defaults to those without realizing that you've btdt.. The rigidity and lack of communication, not reading your cues etc..

All that to say, don't take it personally, and of course you should do what is best for you. I think I would have a really hard time dating someone like that too. x

Oh yeah I definitely am not taking it personally, but I guess I can understand why he made it to 42 without being married or having any significant long term relationships. Probably why he's paid $$ for someone to find him dates? I wonder if I'll have to talk to her again once I break it off with him.

Makes a lot of sense!

How did you meet him? Matchmaker??

[doglove]

Jun 29, 2016 6:55:31 GMT -5 jenstar said:

Jun 28, 2016 7:15:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Oh yeah I definitely am not taking it personally, but I guess I can understand why he made it to 42 without being married or having any significant long term relationships. Probably why he's paid $$ for someone to find him dates? I wonder if I'll have to talk to her again once I break it off with him.

Makes a lot of sense!

How did you meet him? Matchmaker??

He paid for an eh+ subscription (which is essentially a matchmaker service) and she matched my eharmony profile to his.