I'm irritated with my H. I am making him sleep in the guest room bc DD2 is a loud sleeper and I sleep more soundly when I don't worry about every noise she makes keeping him up. He is back at work and I'm nursing so I am handling all night wake ups.
But he can't seem to get his ass moving in the mornings. We need DD1 to be back on her normal schedule, which means to school by 730-745. So H needs to get up at his normal time- like 6-615. Not terribly early considering he went to bed at 10 and slept thru the night.
But he can't seem to do it. And it's throwing DD1 off and making her a nightmare to deal with. I'm not quite sure how to approach cause I don't want to piss him off, and I'm sure he is tired bc evenings are hectic....but dude. Come on. We both believe routine is important and he can't seem to stick to it. Ugh
I'm sorry, cinderbella. We had a lot of similar stuff happen when my grandmother died, and it tore the family apart. My dad has 6 living siblings, and I think it's likely that he will go his whole life without speaking to at least 2 of them, if not 3-4. My family was always really close, and that feeling was such a big part of what I considered central to who I was, if that makes any sense. It's been utterly shattered by this BS, and coming to terms has been really hard, even over a year later.
I haven't been able to get myself back into a running schedule after vacation. I have a 7 mile race at the end of July. I was going to wake up this AM but Leo got a bloody nose at 4 am and then I just fell back asleep in his bed with him.
Once I get back in the habit of waking up it isn't hard. But I have tried and failed three days in a row now lol.
I'm sorry, cinderbella . We had a lot of similar stuff happen when my grandmother died, and it tore the family apart. My dad has 6 living siblings, and I think it's likely that he will go his whole life without speaking to at least 2 of them, if not 3-4. My family was always really close, and that feeling was such a big part of what I considered central to who I was, if that makes any sense. It's been utterly shattered by this BS, and coming to terms has been really hard, even over a year later.
Thank you. I'm sorry you've gone through a similar experience - it's sucks.
The relationship between the nine kids has been tumultuous at best over the past 20-25ish years. I love my cousins (I'm the second oldest - but my one cousin and I are only two weeks apart) and really hate to lose those relationships but at this point, I'm not sure they will continue if the aunts/uncles keep this up. It's basically 8 vs. 1 and my mom is the 1 - we weren't allowed to go to my Grandma's 80th birthday last month and I'm sure there are many more events coming up that we won't even know about.
My cousins swear they have no clue what's going on - but they've obviously been told their parent's side of the story and what a horrible person my mom is. I'd love to be able to get together with them and their kids and keep that door of my life open - but I just don't know and it's making me really sad.
Tomorrow we head to Chicago to see my cousin and her family! I'm so excited. I also got a shower invite for my other cousin whose wedding we won't be able to attend while we're in Ireland, so I'm flying into Traverse City to attend that next month. Yay! Family!
An odd thing I realized yesterday is that I couldn't do nearly the amount of seeing my family if we had kids. Like I think I'm closer to my immediate and extended family because we have the flexibility to make these travel plans. It was just kind of an odd realization. I feel lucky we can travel as much as we do.
I'm sorry cinderbella Something similar happened when my grandparents moved in with one of my aunts. My aunt gave my grandfather's wedding ring to her son, his grandson. WTF? You don't think that should have been given to one of my uncles?
That's small in light of what happened with my grandmother's will when she passed. It's shocking how greedy some people can be.
I'm irritated with my H. I am making him sleep in the guest room bc DD2 is a loud sleeper and I sleep more soundly when I don't worry about every noise she makes keeping him up. He is back at work and I'm nursing so I am handling all night wake ups.
But he can't seem to get his ass moving in the mornings. We need DD1 to be back on her normal schedule, which means to school by 730-745. So H needs to get up at his normal time- like 6-615. Not terribly early considering he went to bed at 10 and slept thru the night.
But he can't seem to do it. And it's throwing DD1 off and making her a nightmare to deal with. I'm not quite sure how to approach cause I don't want to piss him off, and I'm sure he is tired bc evenings are hectic....but dude. Come on. We both believe routine is important and he can't seem to stick to it. Ugh
Are you and the baby still "sleeping" (I put that in quotes because I don't know how much you're actually sleeping) when he needs to be up and getting DD1 ready? Is the issue him actually waking up and getting out of bed? Or dawdling once he's up? Letting DD1 distract him?
I had a bad dream two night ago that my mom and I got in a huge fight and a week later she died of cancer.
My mom had a complete hysterectomy/oopherectomy the Friday before Memorial Day. She got her pathology report back yesterday and was told they found cancer in her right ovary. The gynecologist that did her surgery doesn't seem too concerned because the pathology report said the cancer was confined to the ovary, but he's sending her to an oncologist as a follow-up to make sure everything is ok.
I feel like shit about it because she has been on my poo list lately and now with that news after the dream, I'm starting to worry (irrationally) about something worse.
Tomorrow we head to Chicago to see my cousin and her family! I'm so excited. I also got a shower invite for my other cousin whose wedding we won't be able to attend while we're in Ireland, so I'm flying into Traverse City to attend that next month. Yay! Family!
An odd thing I realized yesterday is that I couldn't do nearly the amount of seeing my family if we had kids. Like I think I'm closer to my immediate and extended family because we have the flexibility to make these travel plans. It was just kind of an odd realization. I feel lucky we can travel as much as we do.
This is something I've thought about as I've realized/decided that kids won't be in our future. I'm looking forward to being able to maintain relationships with friends and family who live far away. I'm glad you're having that experience!
I'm irritated with my H. I am making him sleep in the guest room bc DD2 is a loud sleeper and I sleep more soundly when I don't worry about every noise she makes keeping him up. He is back at work and I'm nursing so I am handling all night wake ups.
But he can't seem to get his ass moving in the mornings. We need DD1 to be back on her normal schedule, which means to school by 730-745. So H needs to get up at his normal time- like 6-615. Not terribly early considering he went to bed at 10 and slept thru the night.
But he can't seem to do it. And it's throwing DD1 off and making her a nightmare to deal with. I'm not quite sure how to approach cause I don't want to piss him off, and I'm sure he is tired bc evenings are hectic....but dude. Come on. We both believe routine is important and he can't seem to stick to it. Ugh
Are you and the baby still "sleeping" (I put that in quotes because I don't know how much you're actually sleeping) when he needs to be up and getting DD1 ready? Is the issue him actually waking up and getting out of bed? Or dawdling once he's up? Letting DD1 distract him?
Yeah we are still out. Lately she has been waking about 5am to eat, so she is back down about 530, and then I'm out too. I think most of the issue is him actually getting out of bed.
I would get up with them....but DD2 is starting to be more alert and I'm getting less rest during the day. This morning for ex, she slept till 830- when they left the house, I got up, fed her again and she's been awake since. It's 10am here. So if I were to get up and get them out the door I would potentially lose out on about 3 hours of sleep between 530-830 and not be able to get that back. :/
Elsa, air horn. I'm (kinda) kidding. I'm sorry, that's so crappy to have extra stress on your plate. I'd say just be honest. "I know we're both tired, but we need to figure out a way to make sure you're up on time. DD1 will be so much easier to live with if her schedule is consistent, so we all win. Do you need an extra alarm? Maybe a lamp on a timer so the lights go on?"
Are you and the baby still "sleeping" (I put that in quotes because I don't know how much you're actually sleeping) when he needs to be up and getting DD1 ready? Is the issue him actually waking up and getting out of bed? Or dawdling once he's up? Letting DD1 distract him?
Yeah we are still out. Lately she has been waking about 5am to eat, so she is back down about 530, and then I'm out too. I think most of the issue is him actually getting out of bed.
I would get up with them....but DD2 is starting to be more alert and I'm getting less rest during the day. This morning for ex, she slept till 830- when they left the house, I got up, fed her again and she's been awake since. It's 10am here. So if I were to get up and get them out the door I would potentially lose out on about 3 hours of sleep between 530-830 and not be able to get that back. :/
Oh I don't think you need to get up with him, he's not a child. I would get a new alarm. Something he has to get up to turn off. Or one of those light ones that starts getting lighter and lighter and plays fucking birds chirping or something. And maybe an alarm on his phone titled "YOU ARE A GROWN ASS FUCKING MAN GET THE FUCK UP AND HELP WITH YOUR FAMILY".
Tomorrow we head to Chicago to see my cousin and her family! I'm so excited. I also got a shower invite for my other cousin whose wedding we won't be able to attend while we're in Ireland, so I'm flying into Traverse City to attend that next month. Yay! Family!
An odd thing I realized yesterday is that I couldn't do nearly the amount of seeing my family if we had kids. Like I think I'm closer to my immediate and extended family because we have the flexibility to make these travel plans. It was just kind of an odd realization. I feel lucky we can travel as much as we do.
This is something I've thought about as I've realized/decided that kids won't be in our future. I'm looking forward to being able to maintain relationships with friends and family who live far away. I'm glad you're having that experience!
I feel like it's especially important because we live away from everyone. Growing up we had an aunt and uncle with 3 kids that lived on the other side of the country. We saw them maybe every 3 years? Which, obviously getting on a plane multiple times per year with your kids is just not feasible for most people, but as a result I don't feel that close to those cousins. Also, H and I travel separately quite a bit because it's more cost and time efficient when it comes to our sides of the family. Like I booked my ticket to this shower without consulting him, because it's not like he needs to take care of the kids when I'm gone. LOL.
I'm sorry, cinderbella . We had a lot of similar stuff happen when my grandmother died, and it tore the family apart. My dad has 6 living siblings, and I think it's likely that he will go his whole life without speaking to at least 2 of them, if not 3-4. My family was always really close, and that feeling was such a big part of what I considered central to who I was, if that makes any sense. It's been utterly shattered by this BS, and coming to terms has been really hard, even over a year later.
Thank you. I'm sorry you've gone through a similar experience - it's sucks.
The relationship between the nine kids has been tumultuous at best over the past 20-25ish years. I love my cousins (I'm the second oldest - but my one cousin and I are only two weeks apart) and really hate to lose those relationships but at this point, I'm not sure they will continue if the aunts/uncles keep this up. It's basically 8 vs. 1 and my mom is the 1 - we weren't allowed to go to my Grandma's 80th birthday last month and I'm sure there are many more events coming up that we won't even know about.
My cousins swear they have no clue what's going on - but they've obviously been told their parent's side of the story and what a horrible person my mom is. I'd love to be able to get together with them and their kids and keep that door of my life open - but I just don't know and it's making me really sad.
There's no reason to do anything now, especially while tensions are high. You can feel things out when you're ready, and tell them that you hope you can keep those bonds even though things are strained between your parents. It's sometimes awkward, but not impossible by any means. I actually have maintained a relationship with one of the aunts my dad no longer speaks to. I think my dad lumped her in with some crappy behavior that I don't think she's really guilty of, and he's not quick to change how he feels once his mind is made up. I hope they resolve things eventually though I know better to get in the middle of it, but I'm my own person and will encourage the relationship with my aunt and her son. It's doable. Things may never be the same with your family, and that alone sucks. A lot. But all is likely not lost. *hug*
Post by amandakisser on Jun 29, 2016 10:36:06 GMT -5
I'm trying to get some random odds and ends done at home before I go back to work next week. I already deep cleaned the girls' bathroom, and I'm about to convert DD1's crib to a toddler bed. This was a spur-of-the-moment decision so I'm not sure how it'll go. Her sleep is shit, always has been, so I'm not really worried about it getting any worse, but I didn't tell her I was doing this so I'm not sure how she will take it.
It will either be the miracle sleep cure we have been searching for (LOL to THAT) or hell on earth.
Not disjointed at all. I'm really sorry your relatives are acting like this. That's beyond awful. I hope you and your mom get the mementos you want. (((hugs)))
Rough night last night. Ilya got stung by a wasp. I figured out Theo is allergic to lychee after he ate one and his face was covered in hives. Then my dog had a bad seizure. She has epilepsy. Usually she just curls up into a ball while seizing, but this time all four legs were splayed out on the floor and I was so scared she was going to pull her muscles or break a leg. Everything turned out ok, she's just really tired today. Poor girl.
Today's my birthday! I woke up early to go get a crown on the tooth I had a root canal on last week. Apparently this is the most painful process of the root canal shenanigans. My gums are sore already and I still have an hour to go. Or at least I hope I only have an hour.
My husband surprised me with a neat laptop for an early birthday present on Monday. My old one was 7.5 years old and on its last leg, but it still worked most of the time and it's hard for me to spend money on myself. It was a sweet gift and I love the resolution on the new monitor and how fast it is!
My family's coming over tonight for a BBQ and some cake. I was hoping to sneak a beach trip in after this, but I may not be in the mood.
I just want to scream and cry. I've been working on losing weight since February. It was going well at first, then May was a bit of a shit show with everyone's birthday, our anniversary, etc, but I got back on track June 1st. I thought I was doing well this month to make up for my crap eating last month, but I've gained back 7 of the 22 lbs I lost. I know it's "only" 7 lbs, but I just feel so defeated. I'm so bloated, I look 6 months pregnant, my face looks huge and fat, and I want to cry. I'm starting to feel like losing weight will never happen for me.
I just want to scream and cry. I've been working on losing weight since February. It was going well at first, then May was a bit of a shit show with everyone's birthday, our anniversary, etc, but I got back on track June 1st. I thought I was doing well this month to make up for my crap eating last month, but I've gained back 7 of the 22 lbs I lost. I know it's "only" 7 lbs, but I just feel so defeated. I'm so bloated, I look 6 months pregnant, my face looks huge and fat, and I want to cry. I'm starting to feel like losing weight will never happen for me.
I so know this feeling. I try to remember this (and sometimes it actually helps, lol):
I just want to scream and cry. I've been working on losing weight since February. It was going well at first, then May was a bit of a shit show with everyone's birthday, our anniversary, etc, but I got back on track June 1st. I thought I was doing well this month to make up for my crap eating last month, but I've gained back 7 of the 22 lbs I lost. I know it's "only" 7 lbs, but I just feel so defeated. I'm so bloated, I look 6 months pregnant, my face looks huge and fat, and I want to cry. I'm starting to feel like losing weight will never happen for me.
I so know this feeling. I try to remember this (and sometimes it actually helps, lol):
Thanks, this actually does help. I knew it wasn't going to be easy. My metabolism is shot thanks to years of fucked up dieting. I just have to keep working on it. I'm going to save this picture, lol.
The pup has an ear infection and I had to go into work - long commute. I did the stuff in the lab I had to do, grabbed the stuff I need to review for a meeting tomorrow, and then rushed home to get the pup to her appointment.
We are going to the keys for the holiday and I'm nowhere near packed. We should just cancel as we have a bunch of house things that need to be done.