What's happening in your life? AW/vent/whatever!

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My new job really strives to show appreciation and it really is nice to feel valued.  Yesterday I got a recognition certificate along with a gift card because we were very short staffed on Thursday and I handled it well.  I thought it was really cool that they did that.  

At my old position (there 10 years), I could stay late and bust my ass for weeks on end and never got so much as a thanks.  I knew it sucked at times, but I was so used to it being obnoxiously bad and having shit management and zero morale that it seemed normal.  It was not normal. It's too bad, there were some great coworkers that I had there that I really loved working with.   

J and I are heading to back to NYC in a few weeks for a weekend.  We're flying up and driving my mom's car back.  She's giving us the car because she has a car down south already. Since she plans to sell her house in NYC and is not there anymore and it's silly to have it there useless; plus J's car is on it's last leg so this will serve us for a while.   While we're there we're going to a baseball game and going to fill up on all the favorite foods that we desperately miss.  We'll just be there a few days and don't really plan to see anyone and we don't even feel guilty about that.  

[sweetchix]

Just got back from camping since Wednesday evening. It went by so fast. We had planned to spend all day today at the water park but both DDs were ready to leave by 2. They didn't even want to go on any rides. They said they were all parked out. I started unpacking and realized that I'm pretty parked out and exhausted too. Thank goodness tomorrow is Sunday (I kept thinking it was Monday).

My birthday is this Tuesday and I'm a bit bummed that nobody planned anything for me. Or did they??? Anyway, is it lame to plan some kind of bday party for yourself?

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Aug 27, 2016 14:49:18 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

My birthday is this Tuesday and I'm a bit bummed that nobody planned anything for me. Or did they??? Anyway, is it lame to plan some kind of bday party for yourself?

No not at all. Birthdays aren't my thing and I never do anything for mine, but no one can complain about an excuse to party! My boyfriend has a yearly house party for his with lots of food and alcohol and everyone seems to love it and look forward to it each year. I don't think it's lame at all to plan a party!

[cuddlyevil]

I start my new job on the 12th! Told work this week and was surprised by the response. Not sure if there will be a goodbye party or not, but maybe?

Been out on a couple dates. We may be mutually losing interest. Going to see him tomorrow and we'll see.

[borinquen57]

I look back at the last few weeks and I can't believe the shitstorm I'm going through right now. I know the future will be better, brighter, and happier but I wish things wouldn't be at such a low, stressful point right now.

[sweetchix]

Aug 27, 2016 18:47:56 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

I look back at the last few weeks

I don't recall your back story, but wanted to send you (((hugs))).

[borinquen57]

Aug 27, 2016 18:57:02 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Aug 27, 2016 18:47:56 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

I look back at the last few weeks

I don't recall your back story, but wanted to send you (((hugs))).

Thank you so much! We had a DV incident and I'm moving on from there; I DD'd the post.

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Aug 27, 2016 21:04:50 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

Aug 27, 2016 18:57:02 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I don't recall your back story, but wanted to send you (((hugs))).

Thank you so much!

Big hugs.  It'll get better. 

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sweetchix, nothing wrong with planning an outing or something for your own bday.  I'm at the point where mine are sort of blah and I don't do anything to help that, so..yeah.  Do what makes you happy!  

[flatlan]

I am proud of myself for not getting sucked into xh's latest legal drama. I made it clear that I will not engage and I don't feel sorry for him.
I also just got my new passport in the mail after changing my last name. Now I can book my trip to south Africa! !!!

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Life's been good! I finally tried hiking for the first time at the beginning of this summer, loved it, and have been doing a new hike almost every weekend since. I'm also excited that my women's soccer league started back up this weekend. As much as I've been enjoying the warm weather, I am SO ready for Fall.

Ooo, also getting my first tattoo in the next week or two. I'm excited but also a little nervous. Feel free to show off any tattoos y'all have and tell me how quick and painless they were

[sweetchix]

Aug 27, 2016 15:16:08 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Aug 27, 2016 14:49:18 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

My birthday is this Tuesday and I'm a bit bummed that nobody planned anything for me. Or did they??? Anyway, is it lame to plan some kind of bday party for yourself?

No not at all. Birthdays aren't my thing and I never do anything for mine, but no one can complain about an excuse to party! My boyfriend has a yearly house party for his with lots of food and alcohol and everyone seems to love it and look forward to it each year. I don't think it's lame at all to plan a party!

Aug 27, 2016 23:15:02 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

sweetchix, nothing wrong with planning an outing or something for your own bday.  I'm at the point where mine are sort of blah and I don't do anything to help that, so..yeah.  Do what makes you happy!  

Perfect! I texted a bunch of my friends and invited them all out for dinner and then back to my house for drinks and games for this weekend. Should be fun

And, date #2 with J is Friday. His bday was yesterday so we'll have a belated bday celebration for both of us

[verycontrary247]

I feel like a lot has been going on. It's a little overwhelming.

Fall semester started last Monday. I'm taking 2 online classes plus Pilates twice a week.

My old roommate moved out a few weeks back and my new roommate moved in today.

My schedule at work changed and I'm having a hard time adjusting. I got invited to go to New Mexico for a super huge work-sponsored event in October.

This weekend a friend of mine is flying me out to San Francisco for a ComicCon, which is awesome because I've never been there plus I'm excited about our costumes.

[spedrunner]

Oh so much is happening and I dont know how I feel about it!

I am starting a NEW job which I am thrilled about and at the same time NERVOUS, scared, overwhelmed, anxious

I am moving back home

AND 

The other night I went out with my mom and aunt to dinner.  There was a very handsome guy there with big blue eyes that caught my eye.....I came home and had a message from him on an internet dating site I am on!! 
"Hey were you at ABC last night? by chance?"

we've gone back and forth BUT he is not throwing out anything about getting together, etc...and I do not know whether I should say something or just let it go! Ha! 

[abcdefu]

I have a major vent from yesterday. I went to visit my mom to hang out by the pool. Unfortunately, my dad was present. I guess they still kinda like each other or whatever! (They are married but I always secretly wish my dad would just go somewhere or something!)

In any event, he starts splashing water everywhere like he's 5 or something. My mom asked him to stop bc I had my iPad out. He just continues(he was drunk SHOCKER!) so I moved. Then he says I have to get my exercise. I gained 10lbs and I'm catching up to Abcdefu! Dude wtf?!? You're like the biggest asshole! I didn't say anything and kept reading and thinking "I had 4 surgeries in 3 years; what's your excuse?!"

Then he says to me, "your bike is still here ( the one I purchased in 2011), we could go for a dad/daughter bike ride" 1. Fuck off! Please don't remind me that we share dna! I try to forget that every time I see you! 2. I cannot fucking ride a bike! One would think you would know that since you always weasel your way into the hospital or rehab when I specifically ask you not to come, so every one thinks your dad of the fucking year! Ugh!

He continued to tell my mom that I can ride a bike. There's nothing really wrong with me. I JUST HAD ANKLE SURGERY ONE MONTH AGO! Never mind all my balance and back issues! At that point, I went home and sat in my house and looked into fed govt jobs which were on the West Coast! Soooo tempting! I could have been relaxing by a pool, but douche mcGouche has to ruin every aspect of my life. I seriously hate him!

My AW is that I handled the above situation without giving him the attention and / or rise out of me, he was trying so desperately to get! I think it's time for me to look into returning to counseling weekly or at least biweekly. I see a psychiatrist, but besides here, I need an outlet for shit like this.

The second part of my AW is that I downloaded the twenty -twenty diet (I love Dr. Phil, don't judge! ) I am still reading it, but it already has me evaluating the relationships I have with people and if they are beneficial to me to continue. It is definitely eye-opening.

Ahhhhh I feel so much better getting that vent out!

[jenstar]

I'm sorry about your dad abcdefu, he sounds like a mega douche good on you for handling it so well! x

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Guy I'm seeing flew 30+ hours home this weekend and came straight from the airport to my doorstep at 2am Sunday. He slept in, joined us for breakfast, and hung out a little while. He even brought DD, who he had never met, a souvenir. Called later to ask if he could come stay the night again, so he showed up at 9:30 last night and left this morning. Then he invited me to his place tonight. Good thing he wants to keep this casual, right? We are going to have a chat about degrees of exclusivity tonight, so we'll see how that goes.

My BFF is coming this weekend and I am SO EXCITED to spend time with her. I adore her little face and we always have the best laughs.

[sweetchix]

@bigtowlittletoe, do you want to be exclusive with him? I have a bad GBCN memory, but from your posts lately you guys were keeping things casual but it sounds like he now wants more? What do you want?

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Aug 29, 2016 9:26:48 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

@bigtowlittletoe , do you want to be exclusive with him? I have a bad GBCN memory, but from your posts lately you guys were keeping things casual but it sounds like he now wants more? What do you want?

Well, I am a bit torn.  He's only going to be here until November, which means the end is inevitable.  I have no hesitation moving forward in either direction, but I want a clear understanding because I don't want my feelings unintentionally hurt if I assume X and encounter Y.  Right now, his actions are contradicting his previous desire to "let things happen and see where it goes."  

We started the convo by email while he was gone, both agreeing it is a unique situation and warranted further, in-person discussion.  I did say we could just be friends and he shut that down immediately, stating that I was a priority in his life.  So tonight's the night for that talk.  The last two days were blowing off steam due to absence.  Not much talking happened.  

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I'm in LA and hanging out with my friend and her baby. I've been totally anti kid my entire life. But omg her baby is so amazing and I love him so much! I still totally don't want my own, but my heart has totally melted. He fell asleep on me last night and I about died.

[stephreloaded]

I can't believe people in my country. The government is trying to introduce in schools manuals that are against discrimination of LGBT population and are trying to focus more in gender identity as opposed to the sex you were born in. People are all up in arms saying that the government is trying to make their children gay.

Yesterday, a singer who happens to be gay died and people are going crazy over this and how he was the greatest thing. I cant help but laugh at the hypocrisy of it all.

[gozf]

I'm getting a new car tonight! As long as the test drive goes well! Yay!!!

[1confused1]

I posted on ML randoms yesterday, I had to call the police yesterday on xh because he was sitting out in front of my house. I really thought we were past all of this. And I forget how a stressful/emotional day messes with me the next day. Ugh.

[Queen Mamadala]

Aug 28, 2016 23:38:16 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

I feel like a lot has been going on. It's a little overwhelming.

Fall semester started last Monday. I'm taking 2 online classes plus Pilates twice a week.

My old roommate moved out a few weeks back and my new roommate moved in today.

My schedule at work changed and I'm having a hard time adjusting. I got invited to go to New Mexico for a super huge work-sponsored event in October.

This weekend a friend of mine is flying me out to San Francisco for a ComicCon, which is awesome because I've never been there plus I'm excited about our costumes.

I'm jealous. I hope we can go next year. I LOVE DragonCon. It's held during Labor Day weekend in Atlanta. I'd love to go again, but it'd unlikely. But I'm in CA with a lot of other fun cons.

I start an MFA writing program next week. I'm excited and nervous. Other than that, big kids are back in school and I'm really looking forward to the fall and holidays. 

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Aug 29, 2016 13:46:26 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

. Ugh.

I'm sorry he's such a stupid asshole.

[1confused1]

@blueyes623, thanks. Just when I think things are calming down, this shit happens.

[bg]

I finally got a job offer. The pay is terrible but everything else about it is good. I'm going to see if I can generate some other offers from it but I think I'll be accepting it. Eeeeeek!

[letsgetweird]

I had 3 dates with this guy. 3rd date he comes over. We had quick mediocre sex and I never hear from him again.

Blehhh

[pinkdutchtulips]

Everywhere I look, I'm seeing REALLY tall guys w REALLY short girls ... as a tall girl it's frustrating. Ahem you're 5'4", 6'0 should be plenty tall for you so the 6'0" girl can date the 6'4"+ guy so she can feel short !

[pinkdutchtulips]

Aug 29, 2016 13:46:26 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I posted on ML randoms yesterday, I had to call the police yesterday on xh because he was sitting out in front of my house. I really thought we were past all of this. And I forget how a stressful/emotional day messes with me the next day. Ugh.

hugs ... stuff like this makes me want to renew my RO even though he hasn't done anything in 2+ years