How much time with kids after introductions

[dancelnow]

BF and I have just introduced kids. Well, introduced outside of the daycare they went to together since they were babies. They don't know we are anything more than friends and that it wasn't a play date just for their sales. They hit it off really well and now beg for when they can see each other again. We are struggling with how much together time to have. We don't want to go too fast too soon, but he and I are very serious. Last night was awesome making pizzas, kids playing, dancing in the kitchen while they were outside playing. It's so hard not to want to do that every night now.

Anyone else have insight on how you handled it?

[LoveBug]

I think everyone handles it differently, and it varies based on the ages of the children involved. My BF and I wanted until we were together almost 11 months. Looking back it seems like forever, but it didn't at the time. My DD never met any SOs before and his LOs met one GF of his prior. We were very much aligned on not getting our kids involved early on.

Just prior to them meeting, we each shared pics and some silly videos of each other, so they would at least get a feel for who they were meeting. It went so well. They begged to see each other again. It's been almost two years for us, and one year since the kids have known each other. We have done some long weekend trips with all of us.

As for you, it's tempting to make it all an every day occurrence, but I would still ensure both sides feel like they get to see their respective parent enough without the SO/kids present. Even when we want to do stuff together, we still ensure our respective kids have their solos time with each of us, and not make us an insta-family.

[heywhat]

First - I am glad the introduction went so well

I'd ease into it. BF doesn't have kids, but we eased into him meeting my son. You don't want to buck everyone's routines and sense of normalcy. I'd wait at least another week before having another event.

[glynn]

You do what feels right for your family. I would not rush it though.