Friday flamefuls

[glynn]

I do the Depo shot and have been on and off of it several times. I do not have a period after the first couple of months. Love it!!

I have nothing I can think of, I am behaving.

I am not doing much work today and have tomorrow off. Not doing much is usually the end of my weeks anyway. It will pick-up when we get the 2 new girls. It will be a shit show around here. We have one that has been training for 6 months doing something similar to my job and she has pick-up nothing... The other will start next week but she will be in another department but I will have to pick-up the slack for both.

[Linie]

I've been super tired and emotional this week. Tomorrow I drive to France (Normandy) to see the BF who has a house exchange there. It's going to be a 7 hour drive, but I like driving.

I had planned to go to a jazz concert in Milan next week, but that plan has fallen through and I'm sad about that. The last week of September I'm in the USA for work (Toledo, OHIO). Not really looking forward to that, however.

All my girlfriends are travelling this week, all in Italy. I need a plan to move there...

I need to stop the whining and get my shit together!

[TR]

Sept 15, 2016 9:04:00 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

I have another! I would totally do some sort of permanent bc if I could stop having periods. I still get mine somewhat even with my mirena. I got all excited when someone told me essure stops your periods, but I looked it up and they were wrong.




ETA: I just looked on the planned parenthood website to see if there was some form of bc I haven't heard of before. They have "outercourse" listed. It's "sex play that keeps sperm out of the vagina". I think this is great to educate people, especially young adults that there are lots of ways to be sexual without dick in vagina, but lmao at the term 'outercourse'.

Take out your uterus.

[TR]

Sept 15, 2016 11:32:32 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Sept 15, 2016 11:28:58 GMT -5 TR said:

Take out your uterus.

Yeah and then I'd go into early menopause. I'll deal with it. maybe next time I replace my iud it will go back to no periods. 

I thought if you left the ovaries you're still good?

[dancelnow]

Sept 15, 2016 9:04:00 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

I have another! I would totally do some sort of permanent bc if I could stop having periods. I still get mine somewhat even with my mirena. I got all excited when someone told me essure stops your periods, but I looked it up and they were wrong.




ETA: I just looked on the planned parenthood website to see if there was some form of bc I haven't heard of before. They have "outercourse" listed. It's "sex play that keeps sperm out of the vagina". I think this is great to educate people, especially young adults that there are lots of ways to be sexual without dick in vagina, but lmao at the term 'outercourse'.

I'm here with you. In consults with a dr now. I've never been on hormonal BC and I'm tired of a period. I have no tubes so I don't need it for BC purposes. But 24 day cycles and ridiculously heavy bleeding one day are annoying for no payoff (continued desired fertility). My biggest concerns for side effects are weight gain and lack of sex drive though.

[bl]

I have Paragard and about 21 day cycles with 4-5 day periods, so some months I am on my period 10 out of the 30 days. BF doesn't love period sex, so it's only occasional during them. I have no desire to ever have children and really wish I could get rid of it.

[doglove]

Sept 15, 2016 13:28:56 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Sept 15, 2016 13:15:15 GMT -5 mp said:

@32flavors has your old flame told your exh?

Last time we spoke they had been playing phone tag.

Isn't this a bad idea if you are seeing multiple men? Why even tell him if you're not exclusive with the old ex?

[Deleted]

I met up with an old flame who I've come to terms with is really bad for me emotionally. It was a bad idea to meet up with him, but it made me realize how not good he is for me and helped get me over the hump in being over him. He texted me at like 1:45am one day and I was like "eh" not even going to respond. If you are only thinking of me while drunk after midnight, you are not a person I want in my life.

Also I've sort of started opening up more with my coupled friends about my real challenges with being single and allowed myself to be a bit vulnerable. I usually have a super tough exterior, but dammit it would be nice to have someone who is firmly in my corner and can make me one of their top priorities.

This weekend I spent the night at the place of guy I've been sort of seeing's house (not bad guy mentioned above). I woke up and totally had come down with the stomach flu and had to immediately throw up. I was so depleted from repeatedly throwing up that I couldn't even drive until I could keep some liquids down. I wanted to die! (physically and emotionally). But he was SO nice! He made me tea, and brought me water, and gave me gum. He didn't make me feel bad about being sick, and put on tv shows he thought I would enjoy until I was able to drive home. I have literally NEVER had anyone be that nice to me (well parental exceptions of course). And I was absolutely blown away that someone would be that kind. But I sort of realized it wasn't really out the realm of just being a nice, decent, kind person and that I clearly have never had a partner be that nice and kind. Basically it gave me a small glimps of the benefits of having a partner who is actually you know a partner, instead of being single. Being single I thought was always easier because my partners before just made me feel bad about anytime I wasn't perfect and positive.

[doglove]

Glad he was there for you @pdx18 .

My confession is I had what I guess is a one night fling thing at a conference I went to earlier this week. The situation was weird because of course there was a ton of alcohol involved and I was so sick the next day that I didn't get to see him that on the final day of the conference and when we parted we both assumed that would be the case. We never exchanged information, but I know where he works and will mostly likely see him again through work. I'm kind of at a loss as to whether or not to reach out to him. He seemed really sweet (definitely attraction between us) and genuine when we talked for a few hours beforehand and when I google stalked him after the fact, everything he told me about himself checks out.

[doglove]

That's exactly what I did today mp!

[sweetchix]

I'm wearing boots with my dress today.

[Deleted]

I ghosted someone. I mean, I called once to tell him we weren't working out and he didn't answer. I think we mutually feel it because I never got a call back and I don't feel like texting to open that line of communication. I feel pleasantly okay with this. Usually, I need closure. But this was just exhausting trying to date/make our schedules work. So it was too much for me. I guess I'm a lazy date-r. And I'm okay with that.

[Deleted]

Sept 15, 2016 16:48:32 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I ghosted someone. I mean, I called once to tell him we weren't working out and he didn't answer. I think we mutually feel it because I never got a call back and I don't feel like texting to open that line of communication. I feel pleasantly okay with this. Usually, I need closure. But this was just exhausting trying to date/make our schedules work. So it was too much for me. I guess I'm a lazy date-r. And I'm okay with that.

You're doing ghosting wrong! Ghosting is when you never say it's over and just don't talk to them ever again. You're totally in the clear!

[dancelnow]

I'm working out details of property settlement. I got a restricted stock award after the date of separation but arguably for work performed while we were together. I can't even exercise it until starting next year. I think I did mention it to STBXH once, but don't know if he remembers. And I don't feel I need to split it. Waiting on my lawyers advice though. I worked my ass off in this place for it while he coasted with average effort.

[1confused1]

Let's flame my xh:

He texted me that he is WILLING to pay me all the back child support he owes IF I let him have unsupervised visits and add an additional day to his weekends.

I laughed and laughed while ignoring this nonsense.  

[sweetchix]

Sept 15, 2016 18:15:42 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Let's flame my xh:

I laughed and laughed while ignoring this nonsense.  

WTF?!? That's not how it works. Ugh!

[doriswe]

Sept 15, 2016 18:15:42 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Let's flame my xh:

He texted me that he is WILLING to pay me all the back child support he owes IF I let him have unsupervised visits and add an additional day to his weekends.

I laughed and laughed while ignoring this nonsense.  

mwahahahaha!!!!

[pinkdutchtulips]

Sept 15, 2016 18:15:42 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Let's flame my xh:

He texted me that he is WILLING to pay me all the back child support he owes IF I let him have unsupervised visits and add an additional day to his weekends.

I laughed and laughed while ignoring this nonsense.  

the hell ?!?

this is why despite what plenty of people have told me "oh put down SOMETHING even if its $20/month" for child support. i adamantly refuse to do that. money will mean access and knowing him, he'd want to see her regardless of his sobriety.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I just wanted to say to the ladies that are looking for a method of birth control that stops periods, and are open to permanent BC, look into a tubal with an ablation. The tubal is the birth control, but pregnancy after an ablation alone is very rare. If pregnancy after an ablation does happen it can result in an ectopic pregnancy, so most doctors will require proof of a permanent method of BC. Normally an ablation is used for an unusually heavy or painful period, and since each doctor is different, I'm sure there are varying degrees of work necessary in convincing the Dr to do it.
I did mine 6 years ago, and it's been the best thing I've ever done for myself.

[Linie]

Sept 15, 2016 11:32:32 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Sept 15, 2016 11:28:58 GMT -5 TR said:

Take out your uterus.

Yeah and then I'd go into early menopause. I'll deal with it. maybe next time I replace my iud it will go back to no periods. 

The first time I had a Mirena, no periods, no swelling, nothing: it was heaven.

For three years, I'm on my second Mirena and sometimes I will have some spotting and I swell up for a day or so before. THAT WAS NOT IN THE AGREEMENT!

Overall, I'm very happy with it, but I don't get why my body reacts differently the second time around.

I don't think I'm ready for menopause...

[doglove]

Wtf 1confused1.

[dancelnow]

Sept 16, 2016 0:09:37 GMT -5 Mrs.Rad888 said:

I just wanted to say to the ladies that are looking for a method of birth control that stops periods, and are open to permanent BC, look into a tubal with an ablation. The tubal is the birth control, but pregnancy after an ablation alone is very rare. If pregnancy after an ablation does happen it can result in an ectopic pregnancy, so most doctors will require proof of a permanent method of BC. Normally an ablation is used for an unusually heavy or painful period, and since each doctor is different, I'm sure there are varying degrees of work necessary in convincing the Dr to do it.
I did mine 6 years ago, and it's been the best thing I've ever done for myself.

I'm going for an U/s and consult this morning. Don't know how to convince my dr though because at the first appt she didn't think my symptoms were that bad. It would be entirely elective I believe