Randoms - week of Oct 24

[threejs]

Oct 26, 2016 7:59:01 GMT -5 raangoli said:

I'm so sorry orangeblossom , I hope your friend does follow through and leave. I know it is so hard, but she is worth it.

Happy birthday threejs !

I have had a rough few weeks and I am close to my breaking point. I cried yesterday while wrestling BB who would not eat because she has fluid built up in her ears and it's probably painful for her. Then she cried. I felt awful. Then later in the day she ate a bit of paper towel that I left within her arms reach so I felt even worse. As if that was not enough, since she's on an antibiotic, her BM was a scary color and it freaked me out. So I talked to the nurses at the pedi's office twice within like 30 minutes.

I am still very sad about having lost my job and leaving the company. Then my dad was in the ICU and it wasn't looking good this past weekend. He's fine now though and maybe home in the next day or two.

I need a break but there isn't one in sight.

I only liked for the bday wishes.  I'm so sorry you're having a rough go.  Sending good thoughts your way.  Hang in there!

[threejs]

Oct 25, 2016 19:51:04 GMT -5 andwhat said:

Oct 25, 2016 11:38:40 GMT -5 threejs said:

Hey guys!! Things have been so crazy busy at work for me that I feel like I haven't had a chance to post here in ages. I'm still busy, but today I don't care because it's my birthday. lol. I would have preferred to take the day off, but I already need to be off at Friday for my room parent/PTA duties at DD's school, so here I am.

Happy birthday.

I think H and I are going to go to the open house.

Yay!!!  I'm going to be on one of the parent panels.  Now I'll be all nervous!  

[threejs]

Oct 26, 2016 11:22:54 GMT -5 kicks said:

This is petty, but it's bugging me...

I barely post pics/selfies of myself on fb/Instagram. I posted one this weekend.

My (gay, white male) friend from med school texted me and said "Girl! I saw your pic, your eye is bloodshot! what is your job doing to you?!?"

Umm, that's kinda rude right? There is a spot in my eye that's red, but I don't think it's a big deal. I don't really care what he thinks about my appearance, but who says that? I think my tolerance for friends is becoming very low. He also previously made a suspicious comment when being in my black neighborhood that I had to shut him down about, so maybe this is just tipping me over the edge to say "bye Felicia"

I didn't respond to his comment.

I think everyone has lost their minds.  I wouldn't respond to this either. 

[kicks]

Oct 26, 2016 11:33:34 GMT -5 threejs said:

Oct 26, 2016 11:22:54 GMT -5 kicks said:

This is petty, but it's bugging me...

I barely post pics/selfies of myself on fb/Instagram. I posted one this weekend.

My (gay, white male) friend from med school texted me and said "Girl! I saw your pic, your eye is bloodshot! what is your job doing to you?!?"

Umm, that's kinda rude right? There is a spot in my eye that's red, but I don't think it's a big deal. I don't really care what he thinks about my appearance, but who says that? I think my tolerance for friends is becoming very low. He also previously made a suspicious comment when being in my black neighborhood that I had to shut him down about, so maybe this is just tipping me over the edge to say "bye Felicia"

I didn't respond to his comment.

I think everyone has lost their minds.  I wouldn't respond to this either. 

Ok LOL this made me laugh.

That is the only explanation. People have gone mad. Maybe things will calm down after this damn election, but I won't hold my breath.

[calle28]

kicks - Very rude!

Do not comment on someone's appearance in a negative way! How is that not common sense?

Sorry he was a jerk. I wouldn't respond either

[borinquen57]

Oct 25, 2016 14:02:49 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

I'm so sad for a friend. They were hospitalized due to DV at the hands of her sorry husband. Not to mention all of the property damage he did in fist of rage.

I was literally speechless. I wish I could give her a big hug right now.

I'm so sorry, huge hugs to your friend.  It's such a hard place to be and I hope she can gather the strength to move on.

[thejackpot]

Oct 25, 2016 14:02:49 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

I'm so sad for a friend. They were hospitalized due to DV at the hands of her sorry husband. Not to mention all of the property damage he did in fist of rage.

I was literally speechless. I wish I could give her a big hug right now.

Oh that is so awful. ((Hugs))) it's so hard to watch people we love in pain. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I hope she gets the support she needs.

[orangeblossom]

raangoli. Hugs. I hope things get better soon.

[borinquen57]

Hugs, raangoli!  That all sounds draining.  I hope things get better soon.  (heart)

[raangoli]

Thanks all. BB is on the mend so there is that.

[thejackpot]

I did a fun night with my girl on Monday. It was plant a terrarium at a local restaurant. I had such a fun time. Apparently I also have a green thumb 😲

[sfy]

Hugs, raangoli. I'm so sorry things have been so rough. I am really glad to hear our little BB is doing better, though.

[05heel]

Oct 26, 2016 11:22:54 GMT -5 kicks said:

This is petty, but it's bugging me...

I barely post pics/selfies of myself on fb/Instagram. I posted one this weekend.

My (gay, white male) friend from med school texted me and said "Girl! I saw your pic, your eye is bloodshot! what is your job doing to you?!?"

Umm, that's kinda rude right? There is a spot in my eye that's red, but I don't think it's a big deal. I don't really care what he thinks about my appearance, but who says that? I think my tolerance for friends is becoming very low. He also previously made a suspicious comment when being in my black neighborhood that I had to shut him down about, so maybe this is just tipping me over the edge to say "bye Felicia"

I didn't respond to his comment.

I've had some interesting conversations about gay, white men and now they interact with black women. Let's just say that I'm not surprised by your friends comments and over familiarity.

[calle28]

Oct 26, 2016 13:16:36 GMT -5 1234FIF! said:

The more this election creeps along, the more I am aware of how I really do see everything through a lens of race/racism. As people talk about sexism and that various issues/situations they have encountered I see those and, if they have happened to me, realize that at the time it happened and even beyond then, I attributed it to me being not a woman but a BLACK woman. I doubt I will ever be able to just see sexism without that layer of racism over it. Anyway, just thoughts. 

This reminds me of an episode on Scrubs where Turk (black male) and Elliot (white female) were arguing over who has it worse - blacks or woman when a black woman walked by and they both realized she had it the worst.

I love that show.

[kicks]

Oct 26, 2016 16:25:31 GMT -5 05heel said:

Oct 26, 2016 11:22:54 GMT -5 kicks said:

This is petty, but it's bugging me...

I barely post pics/selfies of myself on fb/Instagram. I posted one this weekend.

My (gay, white male) friend from med school texted me and said "Girl! I saw your pic, your eye is bloodshot! what is your job doing to you?!?"

Umm, that's kinda rude right? There is a spot in my eye that's red, but I don't think it's a big deal. I don't really care what he thinks about my appearance, but who says that? I think my tolerance for friends is becoming very low. He also previously made a suspicious comment when being in my black neighborhood that I had to shut him down about, so maybe this is just tipping me over the edge to say "bye Felicia"

I didn't respond to his comment.

I've had some interesting conversations about gay, white men and now they interact with black women. Let's just say that I'm not surprised by your friends comments and over familiarity.

Please tell me more...

[andwhat]

Oct 26, 2016 18:29:24 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Oct 26, 2016 13:16:36 GMT -5 1234FIF! said:

The more this election creeps along, the more I am aware of how I really do see everything through a lens of race/racism. As people talk about sexism and that various issues/situations they have encountered I see those and, if they have happened to me, realize that at the time it happened and even beyond then, I attributed it to me being not a woman but a BLACK woman. I doubt I will ever be able to just see sexism without that layer of racism over it. Anyway, just thoughts. 

This reminds me of an episode on Scrubs where Turk (black male) and Elliot (white female) were arguing over who has it worse - blacks or woman when a black woman walked by and they both realized she had it the worst.

I love that show.

Love this show. I wonder if it is on Netflix because I would definitely watch it again.

[andwhat]

Oct 26, 2016 19:22:26 GMT -5 socratic said:

My coworker black female islander saw.a.picture of my sister and asks if we have the same mama and daddy

Then proceeds to say because she is ao slim and perfect and modern.

I almost choked her.

You should see how far my head rolled. It may be stuck forever. Fuck her.

[05heel]

Oct 26, 2016 18:31:48 GMT -5 kicks said:

Oct 26, 2016 16:25:31 GMT -5 05heel said:

I've had some interesting conversations about gay, white men and now they interact with black women. Let's just say that I'm not surprised by your friends comments and over familiarity.

Please tell me more...

this is an interesting perspective on appropriation. time.com/2969951/dear-white-gays-stop-stealing-black-female-culture/

Then there's the standard misogyny and racism that goes along with being a white male. I don't know if the misogyny is worse necessarily, but it's definitely different than the misogyny from straight men.

[skwcm80]

socratic my jaw is on the floor. I swear people need to think more before they speak.

[meshaliuknits]

Oct 26, 2016 20:11:13 GMT -5 socratic said:

Oct 26, 2016 19:36:35 GMT -5 andwhat said:

You should see how far my head rolled. It may be stuck forever. Fuck her.

You would have def been pissed when she asked me if my sister is smarter than me since she went to university and is in reinsurance 😂

You should have choked her. Totally justified.

[sfy]

Oct 26, 2016 20:04:48 GMT -5 05heel said:

Oct 26, 2016 18:31:48 GMT -5 kicks said:

Please tell me more...

this is an interesting perspective on appropriation. time.com/2969951/dear-white-gays-stop-stealing-black-female-culture/

Then there's the standard misogyny and racism that goes along with being a white male. I don't know if the misogyny is worse necessarily, but it's definitely different than the misogyny from straight men.

This could also be called the Andy Cohen syndrome. There is definitely some weird admiration/disdain/imitation/belittling happening with some white gay men and black women.

[05heel]

Oct 26, 2016 21:45:11 GMT -5 sfy said:

Oct 26, 2016 20:04:48 GMT -5 05heel said:

this is an interesting perspective on appropriation. time.com/2969951/dear-white-gays-stop-stealing-black-female-culture/

Then there's the standard misogyny and racism that goes along with being a white male. I don't know if the misogyny is worse necessarily, but it's definitely different than the misogyny from straight men.

This could also be called the Andy Cohen syndrome. There is definitely some weird admiration/disdain/imitation/belittling happening with some white gay men and black women.

yeah, I'm really not here for it. I'm not interested in being anyone's mascot.

[calle28]

Oct 26, 2016 19:35:28 GMT -5 andwhat said:

Oct 26, 2016 18:29:24 GMT -5 calle28 said:

This reminds me of an episode on Scrubs where Turk (black male) and Elliot (white female) were arguing over who has it worse - blacks or woman when a black woman walked by and they both realized she had it the worst.

I love that show.

Love this show. I wonder if it is on Netflix because I would definitely watch it again.

It is!!

[kicks]

I just had an informal meeting/lunch with my advisor. She said all the attendings said I was doing well and my thought process is good, yay. She said I should work on being more vocal because my ideas are usually correct.

Sometimes I feel like a fraud because there is always sooooo much to learn. But I'm feeling good, I guess I am a real doctor!

[meshaliuknits]

I got my flu shot yesterday. Today I took the band aid off and it took a chunk of skin with it. I literally tore some of the black off me. It hurts much worse than the shot. *cries*

[rootbeerfloat]

Hugs, raangoli. I'm glad BB is feeling better, but I hope things look up for you, too, soon.

[sfy]

Excuse the language, but this is nothing compared to the internal dialogue I have been having for a few minutes. My manager can fuck up a wet dream. I was legitimately having a good day, getting kudos and shit, and then here she comes, with her Debbie Downer ass putting caveats on my win. UGH. Also, I want to unload all of this on my DH, but he is on the longest call in the history of the world.

[meshaliuknits]

Oct 27, 2016 14:06:36 GMT -5 sfy said:

Excuse the language, but this is nothing compared to the internal dialogue I have been having for a few minutes. My manager can fuck up a wet dream. I was legitimately having a good day, getting kudos and shit, and then here she comes, with her Debbie Downer ass putting caveats on my win. UGH. Also, I want to unload all of this on my DH, but he is on the longest call in the history of the world.

My new goal for the week is to use this in conversation.

I'm sorry your manager sucks, though.

[thejackpot]

Oct 27, 2016 14:06:36 GMT -5 sfy said:

Excuse the language, but this is nothing compared to the internal dialogue I have been having for a few minutes. My manager can fuck up a wet dream. I was legitimately having a good day, getting kudos and shit, and then here she comes, with her Debbie Downer ass putting caveats on my win. UGH. Also, I want to unload all of this on my DH, but he is on the longest call in the history of the world.

Stinks that your manager is the pits! Rewind to the kudos and forget her!

[lovelyshoes]

freedom I feel the same exact way. I've been looking at pictures of Paris and daydreaming of being there Alone! I need a freaking break and after yelling at my kid this morning I'm so so done with this week and things in general. Ugh

I hope you can do something by/for yourself.