I'm tired of hand wringing as it relates to Racist Uncle Joe Bob and Aunt Imogene. And that extra cool person who does my hair, but I don't think is racist.
Basically, I'm tired of people giving safe harbor to bigots and getting pissed when people tell you that shit won't change if you don't take the 1st step and call folks on it.
It matters not if my black ass calls you racist; it does matter when white folks call each other on it.
There are no easy ways to tell folks they are bigots.
Stop trying to shortcut this shit. If you wanna be a got.dayum.ally - THEN DO THE FUCKING WORK.
Also the easy acceptance of the apology by many in that thread pisses me off. Would everyone be falling all over themselves to accept her apology if she had said "That's why you have cancer, bitch"?
This is obviously a trigger for me that I need to step away from.
I told all the Philly people to watch sbp, and LOOK WHAT HAPPENED!
Ok, so that's not a grievance, oh well.
What happened?
If.another.motherfucker.posts a what should I do about xyz racist in my home, in my life, watching my kids, I swear fo' god I will virtually smack them.
Multiple things, but what caused her to flounce was arguing with Kirkette and other WOC about personal WOC experiences, and telling them to calm down.
Multiple things, but what caused her to flounce was arguing with Kirkette and other WOC about personal WOC experiences, and telling them to calm down.
Oh yeah, I knew about that. Were people from Philly defending her?
It was before she did that, but yeah. I got a lot of the "she's nice in person." LOL! It was after her trying to butt into the intersectional feminism thread and then coming back, and after her limousine liberal defense on why her kids aren't in public school, but before her final meltdown.
Post by Dig Ophelia on Dec 21, 2016 16:35:21 GMT -5
I don't remember who Julie is. Did she leave while I wasn't here? Who knows. Don't remember.
Speaking of; I've only been back since the election and I'm already sick of this place -- no offense. lol But all of this simple-as-fuck racist crap is giving me rage-induced facial wrinkles.
I told all the Philly people to watch sbp, and LOOK WHAT HAPPENED!
Ok, so that's not a grievance, oh well.
What happened?
If.another.motherfucker.posts a what should I do about xyz racist in my home, in my life, watching my kids, I swear fo' god I will virtually smack them.
ML door guy?! Why did she need to crowd source that and why didn't she light-up her DH about not being confrontational without being told to do so?!
Also the easy acceptance of the apology by many in that thread pisses me off. Would everyone be falling all over themselves to accept her apology if she had said "That's why you have cancer, bitch"?
This is obviously a trigger for me that I need to step away from.
Yes? probably.
People tend to have just as many feels about cancer as they do about IF, no? They're very different feels, but everybody has an auntie/mama/grandad/friend etc they lost to cancer so I'm sure it'd have pissed off a whole lotta people. But cancer doesn't have that secret shame component for the sufferers. At least not nearly to the same extent - it's socially acceptable to talk about your cancer diagnosis at the office as long as you leave out all the uncomfortable details, but people look at you damn funny if you talk about your multiple early losses or how much money you've had to spend on IVF in even vague terms. So...maybe more likely to be forgiven by actual cancer victims, but also more likely to have pissed off more people from the jump. Feels like a wash to me. But that's all pointless speculation.
I'm sorry you were hurt.
My grievance is petty - I don't like the jabs on appearance being thrown into otherwise richly deserved draggings. Which feels very deck chairs on the titanic, but still, it bothers me. Throws me off my stride as I catch up on these giant shitshow threads (often after the fact) and am all, "yeah! right on! yeah! YEAH! oh...I mean, I like her hair though."
Oh yeah, I knew about that. Were people from Philly defending her?
It was before she did that, but yeah. I got a lot of the "she's nice in person." LOL! It was after her trying to butt into the intersectional feminism thread and then coming back, and after her limousine liberal defense on why her kids aren't in public school, but before her final meltdown.
I was trying to remember if I was in on this convo, but I've never met her in person, so likely not? Besides she'd been on my shitlist for a long ass time after a particularly foot in mouth thread on helping children deal with death.
Also the easy acceptance of the apology by many in that thread pisses me off. Would everyone be falling all over themselves to accept her apology if she had said "That's why you have cancer, bitch"?
This is obviously a trigger for me that I need to step away from.
Yes? probably.
People tend to have just as many feels about cancer as they do about IF, no? They're very different feels, but everybody has an auntie/mama/grandad/friend etc they lost to cancer so I'm sure it'd have pissed off a whole lotta people. But cancer doesn't have that secret shame component for the sufferers. At least not nearly to the same extent - it's socially acceptable to talk about your cancer diagnosis at the office as long as you leave out all the uncomfortable details, but people look at you damn funny if you talk about your multiple early losses or how much money you've had to spend on IVF in even vague terms. So...maybe more likely to be forgiven by actual cancer victims, but also more likely to have pissed off more people from the jump. Feels like a wash to me. But that's all pointless speculation.
This was more my point. People aren't as angry about this statement re: IF as they would be PISSED if it was about cancer because unfortunately so many IFers have to suffer alone in silence. Because it's taboo to discuss. I make more sense in my head.
I never witnessed SBP's foot in mouth threads. I just felt her wrath during my own.
I don't have any grievances with anything here that is worth calling out. Issues I have are with individuals and they dislike me back (or first actually) so even-Stephens I guess.
Thanks to those who have helped me learn while I chomped on my own leather.
Also, I have stopped giving fashion advice to people I know won't take it. I'm tired of folks looking like something the cat drug in, wearing 5 sizes too big clothes, won't wear the right cut for their body and hideous ass shoes.
So, basically, I don't touch your desperate pleas for help because I'm not giving it to people who ain't gone take it. Done. I don't work retail anymore, so I don't have to help you because it ain't my job. Y'all and these ugly shoes right here can KOKO.
Also, I have stopped giving fashion advice to people I know won't take it. I'm tired of folks looking like something the cat drug in, wearing 5 sizes too big clothes, won't wear the right cut for their body and hideous ass shoes.
So, basically, I don't touch your desperate pleas for help because I'm not giving it to people who ain't gone take it. Done. I don't work retail anymore, so I don't have to help you because it ain't my job. Y'all and these ugly shoes right here can KOKO.
NitaX's reminded me that I am salty about my foot. The cortisone injection worked for about 4 months, but my plantar fasciitis is back. Conservative treatment didn't work. My orthopedist said maybe it'll go away on its own. (Seems totally plausible after a year, dude. :eye roll:) He won't do a repeat cortisone injection. His only real recommendation is a $400 biologic injection that insurance won't cover that has a 50 percent chance of success. I suspect that I will ultimately need surgery, but I won't be able to have that done until late 2017.
So in the meantime, there are only about 2 pairs of shoes I can wear and even those hurt some. My foot is THE WORST. Fuck you, foot.
I stepped away from here prior to the election and have been scarce since then because there was a level of hysteria here that was bordering on ridiculous IMO. I have always thought this group a smart bunch of really informed women so all the arm flailing and wall slides seemed silly to me.
I've read too many threads based on total ivory-tower helplessness and sobbing. I don't know how to be nice about it. It's ridiculous.
I was just about to quote 1234FIF! and say that maybe the arm flailing and wall slides are about privilege, because no other president has seemed like such a direct affront to (white) women before.
Your reply affirms that thought.
So 1234FIF!! touche. (I don't know how to insert the accent).
NitaX 's reminded me that I am salty about my foot. The cortisone injection worked for about 4 months, but my plantar fasciitis is back. Conservative treatment didn't work. My orthopedist said maybe it'll go away on its own. (Seems totally plausible after a year, dude. :eye roll:) He won't do a repeat cortisone injection. His only real recommendation is a $400 biologic injection that insurance won't cover that has a 50 percent chance of success. I suspect that I will ultimately need surgery, but I won't be able to have that done until late 2017.
So in the meantime, there are only about 2 pairs of shoes I can wear and even those hurt some. My foot is THE WORST. Fuck you, foot.
NitaX 's reminded me that I am salty about my foot. The cortisone injection worked for about 4 months, but my plantar fasciitis is back. Conservative treatment didn't work. My orthopedist said maybe it'll go away on its own. (Seems totally plausible after a year, dude. :eye roll:) He won't do a repeat cortisone injection. His only real recommendation is a $400 biologic injection that insurance won't cover that has a 50 percent chance of success. I suspect that I will ultimately need surgery, but I won't be able to have that done until late 2017.
So in the meantime, there are only about 2 pairs of shoes I can wear and even those hurt some. My foot is THE WORST. Fuck you, foot.
Vionic soles and you wear them every single minute. I swear. Cured my PF while simultaneously adding 25 lbs of baby.
I go back and read that original post-election grief thread for giggles. Some of you should have gone into show business.
*snort*
I was upset, but good gawd, I really hope people can go back and evaluate their reactions later because most of that (if true and not internet dramatics) was not good.
NitaX 's reminded me that I am salty about my foot. The cortisone injection worked for about 4 months, but my plantar fasciitis is back. Conservative treatment didn't work. My orthopedist said maybe it'll go away on its own. (Seems totally plausible after a year, dude. :eye roll:) He won't do a repeat cortisone injection. His only real recommendation is a $400 biologic injection that insurance won't cover that has a 50 percent chance of success. I suspect that I will ultimately need surgery, but I won't be able to have that done until late 2017.
So in the meantime, there are only about 2 pairs of shoes I can wear and even those hurt some. My foot is THE WORST. Fuck you, foot.
Have you gone to a physical therapist?
Yeah. I did that for three months before ever seeing the orthopedist and then did it for three more months. It reduced but didn't eliminate my pain. I haven't gone back since the injection wore off because I've spent an ungodly amount of time and money at PT this year.
I go back and read that original post-election grief thread for giggles. Some of you should have gone into show business.
I should do this.
Remember the satire article about the woman who ran over her Trump-voting husband. That thread had one of the funniest responses ever! Someone said (sorry I can't remember who), that the wife "should have stabbed him with her damn, useless unity safety pin," or something like that. 😂