Let's talk about what I chode I once married

[Deleted]

Lame.

Do we all have morons as Ex's? I think we do. I know I do.

[charminglife]

Ugh, that is so shitty. I grew up in a blended family so I know things can be hard but this woman sounds like an oblivious moron or intentionally cruel. That was smart of you to open the box and protect her from that kind of hurt.

[Deleted]

I don't think they are deliberately cruel but I do think it's a matter of valuing appearances over the actual relationship. I know he's very much about how things look more than how things actually are. So putting together an album of his very happy family and mailing it to his kid is his way or her way of including her.

Although, obviously, there's no inclusion here at all.

[laurenpetro]

May 18, 2012 7:13:46 GMT -5 @reeve said:

Lame.

Do we all have morons as Ex's? I think we do. I know I do.

wait, what? you have an ex-wife? i had no idea.

[osulori]

I seriously want to go kick this douche's ass on Pinky's behalf. What an ass.

[eclaires]

Ugh, I will shank him for you. What a freaking douche. Poor Pinky.

My sperm donor was a big fan of things like this - I'm so glad he's out of my life now. My stepdad adopted me when I was 10 and he's my dad.

[secretlyevil]

He is a complete and utter loser, unfortunately for pinky. As much as you want to protect her from the shithead he is, you won't be able to. Eventually she will be old enough to decide what relationship, if any, she will want with him. I truly hope for her sake that she realizes how truly toxic he is for her.

[pixy0stix]

Poor Pinky. I'm glad you gave it to her though.

My mom kept a whole bunch of shit my bio-dad sent me when I was little away from me in a box. She gave it to me last year. The thing is, I grew up thinking that once he left, he left. That there were no cards or letters or anything. I was ridiculously hurt, and when he sent me a letter (via one of my high school teachers who was his friend), I told him to kiss off and die. Because I thought I'd received nothing from him ever. Now he's dead, and I can't make even tentative peace with that demon from my past.

[mexicali]

Ugh, I can't believe they would do this. A whole album of his "new" life, what a smack to the face.

I am sure pinky won't see it that way now. I just want to smack them in the face.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2012 9:42:52 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Poor Pinky. I'm glad you gave it to her though.

My mom kept a whole bunch of shit my bio-dad sent me when I was little away from me in a box. She gave it to me last year. The thing is, I grew up thinking that once he left, he left. That there were no cards or letters or anything. I was ridiculously hurt, and when he sent me a letter (via one of my high school teachers who was his friend), I told him to kiss off and die. Because I thought I'd received nothing from him ever. Now he's dead, and I can't make even tentative peace with that demon from my past.

Yeah, I'm totally switzerland on the outside, despite my rants here. When he sends her things she gets them with no commentary or fuss from me. She says, awwww, isn't she cuuuuute and I say, yup, your baby sister is very cute. She says, awww, look at this outfit and I say, awww that's sweet.

Even if I want to burn that shit lolol.

It's not up to me to tell her what a douchebag her father is. It is up to me to try to lessen the impact by keeping her expectations of him reasonable and to reduce the fanfare to keep her disappointment down.

So far, so good. She just thinks this is the way things are supposed to me. The thing is, neither of us can change him so she needs to be able to either take him or screw him on his terms.

[Deleted]

Good call on opening the package before she saw it. What a couple of douchebags.

[UMaineTeach]

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May 18, 2012 9:16:44 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

May 18, 2012 7:13:46 GMT -5 @reeve said:

Lame.

Do we all have morons as Ex's? I think we do. I know I do.

wait, what? you have an ex-wife? i had no idea.

Yeah, I was married to a Japanese woman for about 8 months. It was a disaster - we both had ideas of what the other person would be like, and it took that long to find out that we really weren't as the other expected.

The best that can be said of it was that it was a great learning experience lol.

She wasn't a bad person tho, we were just bad together. I was actually thinking of ex partners in general. I have had some really crazy ones, because I tended to just give anything a try (I never had a "type"). I dont think any relationship lasted more than a year until I met my wife - 7 years and counting, and rarely a bad day

[laurenpetro]

May 18, 2012 10:26:39 GMT -5 @reeve said:

May 18, 2012 9:16:44 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

wait, what? you have an ex-wife? i had no idea.

Yeah, I was married to a Japanese woman for about 8 months. It was a disaster - we both had ideas of what the other person would be like, and it took that long to find out that we really weren't as the other expected.

The best that can be said of it was that it was a great learning experience lol.

She wasn't a bad person tho, we were just bad together. I was actually thinking of ex partners in general. I have had some really crazy ones, because I tended to just give anything a try (I never had a "type"). I dont think any relationship lasted more than a year until I met my wife - 7 years and counting, and rarely a bad day

you just keep getting cuter and cuter.

[meshaliuknits]

May 17, 2012 19:46:41 GMT -5 IIOY said:

This post honestly breaks my heart for Pinky.

This right here. I kinda wanna be pinky's stepmama to make up for it. But without having to divorce H and marry a chode. Shit, maybe I'll just knit your kids something and send it to them.

[charminglife]

May 18, 2012 9:54:31 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

It's not up to me to tell her what a douchebag her father is. It is up to me to try to lessen the impact by keeping her expectations of him reasonable and to reduce the fanfare to keep her disappointment down.

This might be the best thing I've ever read around co-parenting/dealing with an absent parent.

[cinnamoncox]

May 18, 2012 9:42:52 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Poor Pinky. I'm glad you gave it to her though.

My mom kept a whole bunch of shit my bio-dad sent me when I was little away from me in a box. She gave it to me last year. The thing is, I grew up thinking that once he left, he left. That there were no cards or letters or anything. I was ridiculously hurt, and when he sent me a letter (via one of my high school teachers who was his friend), I told him to kiss off and die. Because I thought I'd received nothing from him ever. Now he's dead, and I can't make even tentative peace with that demon from my past.

Whoa. That's horrible.
I hope you are able to make peace with is someday.