I might want a say in the color choice - like a light pink, great. Bright bubblegum pink? Not so much. But past that - I'm team DD. It's a bathroom. Your guests aren't going to care.
I might want a say in the color choice - like a light pink, great. Bright bubblegum pink? Not so much. But past that - I'm team DD. It's a bathroom. Your guests aren't going to care.
Agree. I just need a place to pee, man.
If it's generally clean/sanitary, and your bathroom is stocked with TP, facial tissues, and hand soap, I don't care if your towels have cartoon characters on them/are some godawful shade of something.
*And bonus points with me -- if you have hand lotion (because most hand soaps dry my hands out too much).
When you say only one bathroom before, I assume that means there is no 1/2 bath in the main part of the house. "Guests'" doesn't just refer to house guests, it's basically anyone who would ever be in your house, right? If that's the case, I wouldn't just let DD get free reign. I would probably pick the paint color but let her pick some kid towels, soap, etc. When you are entertaining adults, I would put the adult towels and grown up decor back out.
If you're talking about a bathroom that is tucked out of the way by the bedrooms and only overnight guests see it when they stay once a year, then yes, I would let her pick what she wants.
For real? I'm supposed to tuck away all signs of children and bring out the "adult towels and decor" when I have guests over? Fuck that noise and pretense. A clean bathroom, stocked TP, hand soap, and a clean hand towel is perfectly sufficient...do you really have friends that will get offended because it's child-themed?
We have 3 bathrooms. One is a dedicated guest bathroom, but it's still a bit childish, as in it's a surfing theme. We have a (small) surfboard mounted to the wall, along with some shells we've collected from various beaches and a coconut bra. The walls are an orange paint color that some people would consider loud. All that said, everyone who uses that bathroom comments about how cheery it is and makes them feel like they're at the beach.
I think since your daughter will be using this bathroom WAY more than guests will, she should definitely be able to decorate it how she wants.
When you say only one bathroom before, I assume that means there is no 1/2 bath in the main part of the house. "Guests'" doesn't just refer to house guests, it's basically anyone who would ever be in your house, right? If that's the case, I wouldn't just let DD get free reign. I would probably pick the paint color but let her pick some kid towels, soap, etc. When you are entertaining adults, I would put the adult towels and grown up decor back out.
If you're talking about a bathroom that is tucked out of the way by the bedrooms and only overnight guests see it when they stay once a year, then yes, I would let her pick what she wants.
For real? I'm supposed to tuck away all signs of children and bring out the "adult towels and decor" when I have guests over? Fuck that noise and pretense. A clean bathroom, stocked TP, hand soap, and a clean hand towel is perfectly sufficient...do you really have friends that will get offended because it's child-themed?
We have people over at least every other weekend. 80% of the time it is friends who wouldn't care so they get the everyday stuff. 20% of the time we are hosting DH's work associates or a fundraising event of some sort or something similar. For those times I absolutely pull out the fancy towels and soap. That's why I'm saying the wall color and permanent items, such as a shower curtain, need to be a compromise. Obviously those won't get changed out. It's not that difficult to change out the countertop items to dress things up for an adult occasion.
Team DD, within reason. Pick a neutralish color you both like, and let her pick accessories and linens. Guests can pee in a pink bathroom just as well as any other.
For real? I'm supposed to tuck away all signs of children and bring out the "adult towels and decor" when I have guests over? Fuck that noise and pretense. A clean bathroom, stocked TP, hand soap, and a clean hand towel is perfectly sufficient...do you really have friends that will get offended because it's child-themed?
We have people over at least every other weekend. Â 80% of the time it is friends who wouldn't care so they get the everyday stuff. Â 20% of the time we are hosting DH's work associates or a fundraising event of some sort or something similar. Â For those times I absolutely pull out the fancy towels and soap. Â That's why I'm saying the wall color and permanent items, such as a shower curtain, need to be a compromise. Â Obviously those won't get changed out. Â It's not that difficult to change out the countertop items to dress things up for an adult occasion.
If DH's work associates are judging that your CHILD's bathroom is *gasp* decorated for a child, then those 20% really need a life. It's not as if there's a potty training carry-around plastic thing out. I particularly don't care what the bathroom looks like at a friend's house, just as long as it isn't an outhouse or making me crap in a bucket. smh. Adult towels and stuff, wtf? Who has time for that?
Huh. Guess I'm an uptight asshole, but I pay the mortgage so I'm perfectly comfortable exercising my dominion over the common areas. My kids' bathroom is also the hall bath for the downstairs common areas. I use it when I'm down there. So it's how I want it to be.
Their rooms are filled with kid stuff. That's enough kid decorated space for freeloaders.
I give not even half a rat's ass what other people's bathrooms look like, so long as they're clean.
You guys can work together on this project by doing a Pinterest board. Collect ideas and let them sink in. I am pretty sure it will work for both of you: she'll get the bathroom she likes and you'll still get a classy guest bath.
I know this comes up often, but for the life of me I can't remember the backstory on this one. Was bluesky the one who was, um, sensitive, about being tall?
No the racist who wanted to know if all Asians owned nice cars. And there's other stuff but my mind isn't working just now.
We have people over at least every other weekend. 80% of the time it is friends who wouldn't care so they get the everyday stuff. 20% of the time we are hosting DH's work associates or a fundraising event of some sort or something similar. For those times I absolutely pull out the fancy towels and soap. That's why I'm saying the wall color and permanent items, such as a shower curtain, need to be a compromise. Obviously those won't get changed out. It's not that difficult to change out the countertop items to dress things up for an adult occasion.
If DH's work associates are judging that your CHILD's bathroom is *gasp* decorated for a child, then those 20% really need a life. It's not as if there's a potty training carry-around plastic thing out. I particularly don't care what the bathroom looks like at a friend's house, just as long as it isn't an outhouse or making me crap in a bucket. smh. Adult towels and stuff, wtf? Who has time for that?
Apparently I do.
I still stand by the fact that this IS NOT a child's bathroom. It is a shared bathroom. My kids have their own bathroom and it is not gussied up when people come over. If adults wander up the stairs looking for a bathroom, they get what they get with the kids' items out. But if they use the bathroom in the entertaining part of our home, then yes, I like it to look presentable and match the level of the event we are hosting.
I'm a little surprised that this is turning into "a thing." Obviously the OP is not totally on board with her DD's idea or she wouldn't feel the need to post about it. I don't think there is anything wrong with the adult in the house deciding how to decorate a room that IS NOT dedicated child space. I think it's reasonable for the OP to tell her child, "this is shared space so compromise is in order. Let me teach you how that works in this case..."
The bathroom is hers far more than it belongs to guests. Let her decorate it.
But, then I'm of the opinion that my house doesn't need to be set up in such a way that I can entertain 24-7. I need to live in it more than I need to entertain.
Compromise and plan it together. Let her put some fun things in there, some fun hand towels, soap dispenser. Pick a wall color, shower curtains together so that you both get something you can agree on. Your daughter will use it every day, your guests will use it occasionally. Let your daughter have some fun with it.
For real? I'm supposed to tuck away all signs of children and bring out the "adult towels and decor" when I have guests over? Fuck that noise and pretense. A clean bathroom, stocked TP, hand soap, and a clean hand towel is perfectly sufficient...do you really have friends that will get offended because it's child-themed?
We have people over at least every other weekend. 80% of the time it is friends who wouldn't care so they get the everyday stuff. 20% of the time we are hosting DH's work associates or a fundraising event of some sort or something similar. For those times I absolutely pull out the fancy towels and soap. That's why I'm saying the wall color and permanent items, such as a shower curtain, need to be a compromise. Obviously those won't get changed out. It's not that difficult to change out the countertop items to dress things up for an adult occasion.
If DH's work associates are judging that your CHILD's bathroom is *gasp* decorated for a child, then those 20% really need a life. It's not as if there's a potty training carry-around plastic thing out. I particularly don't care what the bathroom looks like at a friend's house, just as long as it isn't an outhouse or making me crap in a bucket. smh. Adult towels and stuff, wtf? Who has time for that?
Apparently I do.
I still stand by the fact that this IS NOT a child's bathroom. It is a shared bathroom. My kids have their own bathroom and it is not gussied up when people come over. If adults wander up the stairs looking for a bathroom, they get what they get with the kids' items out. But if they use the bathroom in the entertaining part of our home, then yes, I like it to look presentable and match the level of the event we are hosting.
I'm a little surprised that this is turning into "a thing." Obviously the OP is not totally on board with her DD's idea or she wouldn't feel the need to post about it. I don't think there is anything wrong with the adult in the house deciding how to decorate a room that IS NOT dedicated child space. I think it's reasonable for the OP to tell her child, "this is shared space so compromise is in order. Let me teach you how that works in this case..."
But a child uses it.
In fact, it appears, that out of the two bathrooms in the entire house, it's the only bathroom the child uses.
Maybe the kid should just grab her garish pink towel and Hello Kitty soap-on-a-rope, and go on down to the Texaco and use their bathroom.
I thought she was run off the boards when that happened? How'd she manage to slink right back in?
She ignores these and then will post a decor question next week and no one will remember, as she is not a frequent poster. She's had a few screen names if I recall, and each one ended up having her booted for a racist remark.
I thought she was run off the boards when that happened? How'd she manage to slink right back in?
She ignores these and then will post a decor question next week and no one will remember, as she is not a frequent poster. She's had a few screen names if I recall, and each one ended up having her booted for a racist remark.
Ah. Very true. This is what I get for not paying close attention to who the OP is, sometimes, before I post a reply.