Would like some dating advice please

[Linie]

I don't even text with my BF every day and we only see each other in the weekend!

There is really nothing wrong with sending a "good morning! Hope you have a good day" message as a women. If you do it 10 times with no reply, then you get the point, but it's not like that, isn't it?

If you like him, send him a direct message. Men wonder about this as well.

[doglove]

Jan 25, 2017 16:39:35 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I fucking hate texting, and this is why. There is way too much left up to interpretation. I think this is why I fail OLD - people just want to sit and text all day - I don't know you, stop talking to me all day long.

x1000000000000000000000000000000. 

[kicks]

Jan 26, 2017 8:02:02 GMT -5 Linie said:

I don't even text with my BF every day and we only see each other in the weekend!

There is really nothing wrong with sending a "good morning! Hope you have a good day" message as a women. If you do it 10 times with no reply, then you get the point, but it's not like that, isn't it?

If you like him, send him a direct message. Men wonder about this as well.

Agree with this.
I'm not a big texter and preferred not to really do it when I was dating other than to set up when we were going to hang out next.
I would just ask him if he wants to hang out again. If he doesn't respond or dances around the question, then I think the answer is pretty clear.
I don't like the dancing around a million texts thing.

[nextbigthing]

I never sent the text. He never reached out either (since Sunday). Think that's pretty clear.

But, I do have a real date with another guy who pursued me and planned a real dinner date tonight so we will see how it goes.

[doglove]

Good luck nextbigthing!

[nextbigthing]

Jan 27, 2017 8:52:06 GMT -5 doglove said:

Good luck nextbigthing!

Thanks, we went out last night and it was a totally different experience. He was a grown-up, he was very polite, we had a great time. He also asked me out again, and texted me last night after I got home. I feel like he is definitely pursuing me more, we will see if I hear from him today. Thank you for all of the advice, I'm still learning and I really appreciate it

[doglove]

That's such positive news!

[nextbigthing]

Jan 27, 2017 9:11:25 GMT -5 doglove said:

That's such positive news!

He's been texting me this morning!

I also have another date with a different guy next week, all of this is a learning experience so I'm just trying to go with it. It's so different dating in your late thirties versus being a college kid which was the last time I really dated

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jan 27, 2017 11:09:57 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Jan 27, 2017 9:11:25 GMT -5 doglove said:

That's such positive news!

He's been texting me this morning!

I also have another date with a different guy next week, all of this is a learning experience so I'm just trying to go with it. It's so different dating in your late thirties versus being a college kid which was the last time I really dated

I like dating more now in my early 40's than I did when I was in my 20's. The pressure for marriage and kids is off the table and we can just enjoy ourselves

[nextbigthing]

Jan 27, 2017 12:16:02 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

Jan 27, 2017 11:09:57 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

He's been texting me this morning!

I also have another date with a different guy next week, all of this is a learning experience so I'm just trying to go with it. It's so different dating in your late thirties versus being a college kid which was the last time I really dated

I like dating more now in my early 40's than I did when I was in my 20's. The pressure for marriage and kids is off the table and we can just enjoy ourselves

pinkdutchtulips

I know you're situation is somewhat like mine with custody etc

Have you had any luck dating someone never married/no kids?

I had this guy that kept messaging me, he's 2 years younger never married no kids. I kept almost trying to let it fade but he keeps coming back. Then, on Friday he was in the Uber on the way to the airport for a work trip and called me (we'd never talked before). He sounded so nice and so charming that I think I'm nuts to not at least meet him, and I was impressed he called). He's also texted me twice with pictures from his trip (he's in South America).

[pinkdutchtulips]

Jan 29, 2017 18:56:03 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Jan 27, 2017 12:16:02 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

I like dating more now in my early 40's than I did when I was in my 20's. The pressure for marriage and kids is off the table and we can just enjoy ourselves

pinkdutchtulips

I know you're situation is somewhat like mine with custody etc

Have you had any luck dating someone never married/no kids?

I had this guy that kept messaging me, he's 2 years younger never married no kids. I kept almost trying to let it fade but he keeps coming back. Then, on Friday he was in the Uber on the way to the airport for a work trip and called me (we'd never talked before). He sounded so nice and so charming that I think I'm nuts to not at least meet him, and I was impressed he called). He's also texted me twice with pictures from his trip (he's in South America).

i've dated 2 guys that were roughly the same age as me (33 and 40) that were never married, no kids. guy #1 was nothing more than a bridge between xh and the rest of my dating life. his never married, no kids status had no bearing on me whatsoever and he was fine working around dd. guy #2 worked quite a bit overseas and would text me DAILY! from Europe. his never married, no kids status didn't bother me and my previously married, have kids status didn't matter much to him bc it's pretty rare 40something women who have NOT been married and DON'T have kids.  At my age (42) it's pretty rare to find a guy who hasn't been married, doesn't have kids.  i don't shy away from guys who haven't been married, no kids.

i'm seeing 2 guys casually both are divorced, both have kids but my full custody status holds them back from anything more serious w/ me. i have full custody which means a spontaneous date is entirely out of the question. in fact this weekend, i made plans with one of them to come over late Friday night (think Bruce Springsteen's Glory Days - the lines about him stopping by at a divorced female friend's house for a few drinks after the kids went to bed) and while dd was asleep when he got there, she woke up bc of a nightmare (she still has them at 7 bc of anxiety thx to her dad) and killed the mood altogether. its going to create a wedge, no reliable kid free time. this is what no one tells you about full custody (unless you have lots of family handy for last minute stuff) and how it impacts dating again. i want to date, i want to meet people but its HARD to do when i have zero to little me time to do that.