Hi - please read - another forum implosion

[akafred]

So...long story, but after The Bump imploded, people went to a new site called Then Comes Family. Which is currently imploding. Most of the people were Nest/Bump people. This may be a landing place for some of them. Is that ok? Nobody wants to go where we aren't welcome.

Some of the people already invaded ScaryMommy's forums. The reaction is mixed.

[akafred]

EllieArroway

[akafred]

y4m

[EllieArroway]

Come on over! Let me know if you need me to make a new board

[freezorburn]

@akafredand I are in the same Special Needs board I posted about in Help.

Thanks!

[NandaB]

May 20, 2017 11:15:06 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

@akafredand I are in the same Special Needs board I posted about in Help.

Thanks!

The SN board should definitely come here! I always forget about you guys! We already have a board here and everything

[akafred]

Would you mind a Working Parents board? NandaB? IDK for sure if they will land here but it would be nice to have the spot...

[estrellita]

I didn't see this posted on other board so just curious if you mean this particular board or GBCN as a whole?

[akafred]

May 20, 2017 12:35:22 GMT -5 estrellita said:

I didn't see this posted on other board so just curious if you mean this particular board or GBCN as a whole?

GBCN as a whole. Probably settle into the subboards that already exist and/or possibly new ones if they are created. I know SN is already dead so presumably it's ok to go there but don't want to be inconsiderate.

[akafred]

P.S. I didn't see the Help board. This seemed neutral enough and active enough.

[estrellita]

May 20, 2017 13:01:41 GMT -5 akafred said:

May 20, 2017 12:35:22 GMT -5 estrellita said:

I didn't see this posted on other board so just curious if you mean this particular board or GBCN as a whole?

GBCN as a whole. Probably settle into the subboards that already exist and/or possibly new ones if they are created. I know SN is already dead so presumably it's ok to go there but don't want to be inconsiderate.

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying We are fine with new people here on WC if someone wants to post here but I wasn't sure about a whole forum full of people, haha.

[freezorburn]

May 20, 2017 13:07:10 GMT -5 estrellita said:

May 20, 2017 13:01:41 GMT -5 akafred said:

GBCN as a whole. Probably settle into the subboards that already exist and/or possibly new ones if they are created. I know SN is already dead so presumably it's ok to go there but don't want to be inconsiderate.

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying We are fine with new people here on WC if someone wants to post here but I wasn't sure about a whole forum full of people, haha.

The other sub-board that I'm active in, that's looking for a new home is Cloth Diapering. But a lot of us are outgrowing that topic and continue to hang out there because we have a an active culture of off-topic threads. I think a lot of the things we tend to talk about might fit in here at the Water Cooler, but not sure if it would feel weird for a bunch of us to come in here at once? Or maybe we should ask for our own board? I would guess there are about a couple dozen active posters in that group. Not sure if our lurkers would follow us.SaveSave

[estrellita]

May 20, 2017 13:29:02 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

May 20, 2017 13:07:10 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying We are fine with new people here on WC if someone wants to post here but I wasn't sure about a whole forum full of people, haha.

The other sub-board that I'm active in, that's looking for a new home is Cloth Diapering. But a lot of us are outgrowing that topic and continue to hang out there because we have a an active culture of off-topic threads. I think a lot of the things we tend to talk about might fit in here at the Water Cooler, but not sure if it would feel weird for a bunch of us to come in here at once? Or maybe we should ask for our own board? I would guess there are about a couple dozen active posters in that group. Not sure if our lurkers would follow us.SaveSave

We only have maybe 20 regular active posters on this board I think? And we don't usually have a lot of kid related posts here (assuming everyone has kids from your board). MMM might be a good place for kid related posts, that board as well as ML have a lot more active posters! Not trying to push anyone away, just trying to find the best fit

[freezorburn]

May 20, 2017 13:46:38 GMT -5 estrellita said:

May 20, 2017 13:29:02 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

The other sub-board that I'm active in, that's looking for a new home is Cloth Diapering. But a lot of us are outgrowing that topic and continue to hang out there because we have a an active culture of off-topic threads. I think a lot of the things we tend to talk about might fit in here at the Water Cooler, but not sure if it would feel weird for a bunch of us to come in here at once? Or maybe we should ask for our own board? I would guess there are about a couple dozen active posters in that group. Not sure if our lurkers would follow us.SaveSave

We only have maybe 20 regular active posters on this board I think? And we don't usually have a lot of kid related posts here (assuming everyone has kids from your board). MMM might be a good place for kid related posts, that board as well as ML have a lot more active posters! Not trying to push anyone away, just trying to find the best fit

I get your drift

What does MMM stand for?

Probably not ML, I'm divorced and I know a few of our regs are blended families so we tend to take those topics elsewhere. I know I'll be checking out Starting Over and Trouble in Paradise

[amaranth]

May 20, 2017 13:29:02 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

May 20, 2017 13:07:10 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Gotcha, thanks for clarifying We are fine with new people here on WC if someone wants to post here but I wasn't sure about a whole forum full of people, haha.

The other sub-board that I'm active in, that's looking for a new home is Cloth Diapering. But a lot of us are outgrowing that topic and continue to hang out there because we have a an active culture of off-topic threads. I think a lot of the things we tend to talk about might fit in here at the Water Cooler, but not sure if it would feel weird for a bunch of us to come in here at once? Or maybe we should ask for our own board? I would guess there are about a couple dozen active posters in that group. Not sure if our lurkers would follow us.SaveSave

We would be fine with new posters looking for a community to casually hang out and talk about life, but we do try to stay away from too many kid centered topics because there are several regulars here at various stages of infertility or who have made a decision not to have children. We also don't get too political and really work hard to stay drama free. We like this to be a welcoming place for all, and we're a pretty close knit group. I agree that MMM may be a better place for kid talk if people come over maybe you could do an I tro post where all the new posters could just tell a little about themselves

[estrellita]

May 20, 2017 13:51:22 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

May 20, 2017 13:46:38 GMT -5 estrellita said:

We only have maybe 20 regular active posters on this board I think? And we don't usually have a lot of kid related posts here (assuming everyone has kids from your board). MMM might be a good place for kid related posts, that board as well as ML have a lot more active posters! Not trying to push anyone away, just trying to find the best fit

I get your drift

What does MMM stand for?

Probably not ML, I'm divorced and I know a few of our regs are blended families so we tend to take those topics elsewhere. I know I'll be checking out Starting Over and Trouble in Paradise

MMM stands for "Money Matters Moms", it is a spin off from the Money Matters board to keep kid related posts separate. I know there are people that post on ML that aren't married (divorced, never married, etc) so it's not specific to married people. There are lots of fairly active boards here, I'm sure everyone can find a spot! If it's here, that's totally cool too!

[freezorburn]

May 20, 2017 13:55:46 GMT -5 estrellita said:

May 20, 2017 13:51:22 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

I get your drift

What does MMM stand for?

Probably not ML, I'm divorced and I know a few of our regs are blended families so we tend to take those topics elsewhere. I know I'll be checking out Starting Over and Trouble in Paradise

MMM stands for "Money Matters Moms", it is a spin off from the Money Matters board to keep kid related posts separate. I know there are people that post on ML that aren't married (divorced, never married, etc) so it's not specific to married people. There are lots of fairly active boards here, I'm sure everyone can find a spot! If it's here, that's totally cool too!

Ah, okay thanks!

[akafred]

Sorry, I thought this board was kind of a catch all, not a close knit group. Sorry.

TCF has or had a large IF community also. We def don@t want to step on toes. WP obviously are parents and there are parenting related posts, but also work related, family life, and just life.

[amaranth]

May 20, 2017 14:27:40 GMT -5 akafred said:

Sorry, I thought this board was kind of a catch all, not a close knit group. Sorry.

TCF has or had a large IF community also. We def don@t want to step on toes. WP obviously are parents and there are parenting related posts, but also work related, family life, and just life.

Makes sense Most of us are parents too. We just try to not obsess over our kids in every post out of respect for others. They still come up, of course. We have about a 50/50 mix of stay at home moms and working moms here, so that keeps the posts diverse in that respect. We aren't super busy compared to the other boards. It's mostly chit chat with random other topics on occasion. 

[grover]

May 20, 2017 13:51:22 GMT -5 freezorburn said:

May 20, 2017 13:46:38 GMT -5 estrellita said:

We only have maybe 20 regular active posters on this board I think? And we don't usually have a lot of kid related posts here (assuming everyone has kids from your board). MMM might be a good place for kid related posts, that board as well as ML have a lot more active posters! Not trying to push anyone away, just trying to find the best fit

I get your drift

What does MMM stand for?

Probably not ML, I'm divorced and I know a few of our regs are blended families so we tend to take those topics elsewhere. I know I'll be checking out Starting Over and Trouble in Paradise

ML is more of a board similar to what Parenting was on TCF. Most posts don't actually relate to married life.

[pooh8402]

Fwiw, our TTTC will fit nicely with your IF group. It's small, but we've always welcomed new blood. Many posters here in WC had/have IF as well, which is a big part of the reason we try to be respectful when talking about kids.

[y4m]

Just saw this second post. If you're already a community used to each other, maybe we should make you your own sub board for now (under communities?) then you're of course welcome to post anywhere.

[estrellita]

May 20, 2017 14:27:40 GMT -5 akafred said:

Sorry, I thought this board was kind of a catch all, not a close knit group. Sorry.

TCF has or had a large IF community also. We def don@t want to step on toes. WP obviously are parents and there are parenting related posts, but also work related, family life, and just life.

No worries! We definitely welcome random life related posts over here and wouldn't mind a few new people, as long as they are understanding about the kid posts! We do occasionally post about kids but try not to overdo it, same with politics - it's usually avoided here. I go to MMM or CE&P for those topics So while people are regulars on certain boards, it's rare someone exclusively posts on just one board.

[akafred]

estrellita, it was like that over there too, with most people visiting several boards. Which is why I am lobbying to come here (if we are welcome) so we don't fracture into a bunch of individual ProBoards.

[NandaB]

Wait, your meant take over the SN board with totally nonSN related posted and posts?

I thought you were specifically speaking of SN board posters from tcf
I would prefer you just ask for your own board.

[NandaB]

Wait, your meant take over the SN board with totally nonSN related posted and posts?

I thought you were specifically speaking of SN board posters from tcf
I would prefer you just ask for your own board.

[akafred]

May 20, 2017 16:45:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Wait, your meant take over the SN board with totally nonSN related posted and posts?

I thought you were specifically speaking of SN board posters from tcf
I would prefer you just ask for your own board.

No, no, sorry for the confusion.

Me, personally, I typically visited 3 boards and sometimes Parenting (which is going to SM): Adoption, Special Needs, and Working Parents. The Special Needs board would go to your Special Needs board and talk about Special Needs stuff. The Adoption board and Working Parents boards would go to new boards if you made them. This is somewhat hypothetical at this point because it's not 100% decided anywhere that they are going anywhere, or where to go if they do. It's just that a few of us suggest coming here and nestling into appropriate pre-existing boards or new boards because then everyone who visits multiple boards on TCF would not have to go to a bunch of different places to keep up with friends. Personally I think GBCN is appealing because 1) there are some crossover members already, 2) you've been around for a long time already and with limited drama, not overmodding, etc, 3) you are already set up with mods and admins for support, and 4) it would all or mostly be in one spot.

That is if we are welcome. The whole point of coming here, though, is it wouldn't (hopefully) be a huge invasion/takeover/disruption. I am not comfortable with how SM went down. So I'm just trying to check in and test the water. If it would be a problem, then we don't want that.

[freezorburn]

^wss. It's helpful to hear about the culture of this place. It sounds like our SN board would be a good fit with your existing one.

The cloth diaper board is a pretty close knit group, so I'm leaning towards it having its own place to land here, if indeed people decide they want to move. We just have to decide if we still want to be cloth diapers since our subject matter has broadened somewhat.

[y4m]

Ok I created two new boards for you guys - Adoption and Working Parents. Made akafred and freezorburn mods of both. You will find them listed under Communities, which is what we have typically done when another separate community wants to come join us.

Have at it!

I see a bunch of new registrations, so I'll clear the ones I have now. We're a bit slower at that on weekends, so please be patient

Welcome!

[y4m]

Adoption: pandce.proboards.com/board/80/adoption
Working Parents: pandce.proboards.com/board/81/working-parents