Week of May 29

[oneslybookworm]

May 31, 2017 11:24:10 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm !!!!!! I am devastated. I held out hope that things would still work out, I am so sorry to hear this update. I hope you guys sue her (as does the other couple), not that it will result in a baby, but perhaps you can get back the money you have already spent. That is beyond fucked up, and totally illegal.

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[shauni27]

May 31, 2017 12:09:36 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

May 31, 2017 11:24:10 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm !!!!!! I am devastated. I held out hope that things would still work out, I am so sorry to hear this update. I hope you guys sue her (as does the other couple), not that it will result in a baby, but perhaps you can get back the money you have already spent. That is beyond fucked up, and totally illegal.

We're not going to bother suing...it would just cost us more money and it's likely the money she already got is long since spent. If we can prove she was taking money from all three of us at once, that could be a case of fraud, and you can contact the FBI to file a case, but...let's be real, they have more important things to handle.

How awful, I am SO sorry.  Will the agency give you any money back? It seems like they should have a system that checks against all other US agencies to see that the EM is not in their system as well. 

[cactuscookie]

oneslybookworm, WTF?! How could someone be so heartless?

It really puts the 'why don't you just adopt?' advice to infertiles in perspective, doesn't it...

[oneslybookworm]

May 31, 2017 13:18:35 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

oneslybookworm , WTF?! How could someone be so heartless?

It really puts the 'why don't you just adopt?' advice to infertiles in perspective, doesn't it...

No joke...I might throat punch someone who says that to me ever again. Because adoption is SO FREAKING EASY.

That's ok...I did have someone tell me today that maybe this was God's way of trying to reach my DH. Because my DH isn't religious, so clearly this is God saying "no baby for you" until he goes to church. So yeah, today has been awesome.

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, punch that person. fuck, I am SO mad for you. And sad for you. I want to come and just make everything better.

[knx9211]

oneslybookworm, Please send me that person's address. I will go against my travel ban to punch them square in the fucking face.

[loira]

May 31, 2017 13:23:29 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

May 31, 2017 13:18:35 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

oneslybookworm , WTF?! How could someone be so heartless?

It really puts the 'why don't you just adopt?' advice to infertiles in perspective, doesn't it...

No joke...I might throat punch someone who says that to me ever again. Because adoption is SO FREAKING EASY.

That's ok...I did have someone tell me today that maybe this was God's way of trying to reach my DH. Because my DH isn't religious, so clearly this is God saying "no baby for you" until he goes to church. So yeah, today has been awesome.

What the fuck? I don't know who these people are who think they can say shit like this. Nobody gets denied a baby for not being religious, for fuck's sake! I wish I had been there so I could have punched this person for you.

I'm so sorry, Onesly. That EM was incredibly cruel to do that to you guys (and the other couples). You are such a good person, and I understand if you don't want to hate her, but I will totally step up and hate her for you. I'm vindictive and I love a good grudge.

[nmosrob]

Holy fucking shit. I am so furious for you. And what in the ever loving fuck with the church comment, who says that?!? Gah, I dont't think I would have been able to hold my cool.

I'm so sorry.

[awick14]

oneslybookworm -WTF! I'm so so sorry. I can't even imagine going through that.

I'm sorry that person had the nerve to bring religion into this. (I would punch them too) Anyone who makes a stupid comment to you guys right now deserves to be punched.

I am very sorry for all the stupid comments that do come your way.

If you need anything and I mean anything please let us know. We are all "here" for you. Or we could be there (in EM city) if you need.

[oneslybookworm]

You guys are the absolute BEST in the world...legit. I love you all dearly (though I've not met most of you). I appreciate all of you so damn much...you have no idea.

Yeah, it sucks, but it is what it is. I'm holding tight to my baby being out there, somewhere, and it'll happen. In the meantime, we'll wait and continue working on other things. My first triathlon is on the 10th, and i'm taking today off from training (who are we kidding, i took off all last week, oh well, fuck it)...but that will help keep my mind off things, I think.

Ugh...why can't I love working out like some people???

[konapoppy]

Omg oneslybookworm I am livid for you. That is madness. Ugh why do people suck so much?!

[cherryvalance]

What in the actual fuck?!?! oneslybookworm, I hate EM for you. What a completely heartless bitch. And WTF to that idiot with the church comment? Omg, what a complete twatwaffle. I can't even say half of the awful things I'm thinking about these people. I'm so, so sorry. You and your H are amazingly strong people.

[rachelgreen]

oneslybookworm - I am so, so, so sorry. I had been keeping hope that it would work out but this just fucking sucks. I hate her and wish that there was a way that this could never happen. You have my number if you ever need to chat or vent or whatever. Seriously. Any time. And if there's anything I can do, please let me know.

[Chrysanthemum]

I am so sorry to hear this awful update oneslybookworm. She's a horrible person and I hope that someday she feels the appropriate amount of guilt for doing this to you. So heartless.

[dellabear]

Oh my God oneslybookworm, I am sitting here with my mouth hanging open. I just can't even fathom that someone would do something like that. I'm so sorry! I would definitely report it to the police or FBI if there's any way that she could be charged with fraud. She deserves to pay for her crime. What a despicable person.

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, I am glad you have a tri coming up to use as a distraction! That is a fun way to distract yourself Report back with how it goes!

[oneslybookworm]

Jun 1, 2017 7:14:01 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm , I am glad you have a tri coming up to use as a distraction! That is a fun way to distract yourself Report back with how it goes!

ugh, I have no idea what the hell I was thinking signing up for this damn tri. I blew out my knee hiking at RMNP on Sunday, so I haven't been able to do much. Plus, I'm pretty much too depressed to do anything other than sit on the couch. It'll be interesting, that's for sure.

[shauni27]

Huge hugs, oneslybookworm. So much love coming your way.

[mpc]

I've been thinking about you oneslybookworm. My parent's first adoption placement fell through, but their second brought my brother to our family. I hope the same for you. <3

[mpc]

I had my 6 week post partum appointment this week. I forgot to ask, and she didn't mention it, but I should be fine for sex/swimming/exercising/etc now right? I don't think she even looked at my scar. She did see me at ~10 days out and checked it then, so maybe that was enough. It was so warm in the exam room, all I could think abut was it being over so I could go cool off somewhere.

I am quitting caffeine (again) so I'm enjoying the withdrawal headaches this week. Once that's past I'm going to try to figure out how to "diet" while breastfeeding. Which means not really dieting, of course, but I need some kind of structure and rules to keep me from going nuts. H and I did have sex after my appt this week and I started crying in the middle of it because I hate my body so much right now.

[discogranny]

oneslybookworm - I just wanted to offer a big eff you to the EM and a bunch of hope and good ju-ju that your baby is here soon. Big hugs to you.

[Chrysanthemum]

oneslybookworm, Other than your knee, how was the rest of your trip to Colorado?

[oneslybookworm]

Jun 1, 2017 22:47:16 GMT -5 Chrysanthemum said:

oneslybookworm, Other than your knee, how was the rest of your trip to Colorado?

Colorado was AMAZING!!! Absolutely gorgeous state. I pretty much ate myself stupid and hiked in the mountains the entire time. I would literally move there in a hot second.

[loira]

Jun 2, 2017 5:36:39 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Jun 1, 2017 22:47:16 GMT -5 Chrysanthemum said:

oneslybookworm , Other than your knee, how was the rest of your trip to Colorado?

Colorado was AMAZING!!! Absolutely gorgeous state. I pretty much ate myself stupid and hiked in the mountains the entire time. I would literally move there in a hot second.

As someone who grew up in the rockies, I would urge you to test out winter before making any big moves. But if you like skiing you'll be okay.

[oneslybookworm]

Jun 2, 2017 9:47:21 GMT -5 loira said:

Jun 2, 2017 5:36:39 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Colorado was AMAZING!!! Absolutely gorgeous state. I pretty much ate myself stupid and hiked in the mountains the entire time. I would literally move there in a hot second.

As someone who grew up in the rockies, I would urge you to test out winter before making any big moves. But if you like skiing you'll be okay.

Hate skiing (downhill), but love cross country skiing. But DH loves it. I'm more of a "drink red wine on the couch" kind of girl.

[knx9211]

Jun 2, 2017 10:04:34 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Jun 2, 2017 9:47:21 GMT -5 loira said:

As someone who grew up in the rockies, I would urge you to test out winter before making any big moves. But if you like skiing you'll be okay.

Hate skiing (downhill), but love cross country skiing. But DH loves it. I'm more of a "drink red wine on the couch" kind of girl.

To bring a little levity into an otherwise horrible week, as a kid I went cross country skiing.  Once.  I managed to fall face first in such a way that my ski came up behind me and hit me in the back of the head.  It's almost impressive how uncoordinated I am.

[thoseareradishes]

Jun 2, 2017 5:36:39 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Jun 1, 2017 22:47:16 GMT -5 Chrysanthemum said:

oneslybookworm , Other than your knee, how was the rest of your trip to Colorado?

Colorado was AMAZING!!! Absolutely gorgeous state. I pretty much ate myself stupid and hiked in the mountains the entire time. I would literally move there in a hot second.

I visited the mountains in Colorado a couple of years ago in the summer, and it was fantastic.  The flowers were to die for.  I couldn't really breath (I live at sea level), but it didn't stop me from trying to bike and hike.  I can't wait to go back again when E is a little older.

I'm glad you had a good time

[thoseareradishes]

I was nursing E last night, and she cracks me up. She gets so excited, and if she doesn't latch right away, it's like 5-10 minutes of her flipping her shit trying to get latched, waving her head back and forth, grunting, totally missing my nipple because she's got her head turned the wrong way, then wailing loudly. So I sit her up, tell her she needs to calm down, and she looks at me with this goofy look on her face, like, yes Mommy, I'll calm down, let me try again. Oh, and the scratching at my chest with her claws, oww. She did transfer some though finally, so we did have some success!

[Chrysanthemum]

Ah, loira, winter in Denver proper is NOTHING. I'm not advocating full-on mountain living, but city-life near the Rockies is pretty good.

thoseareradishes, That post makes me so, so happy for you. Isn't amazing to look back a year and think about how we finally have babies in our arms?!

[awick14]

thoseareradishes- I am so glad she is transferring when she is nursing. DD used to get all excited before nursing and then flip out when she could latch as well. It's funny watching them to things that you think should be so easy but it's not that easy for them. Hopefully she will have the nursing thing down soon. It didn't take long for DD to latch without any assistance, and I hope E gets there soon.