TWERKS- AKA Thursday updates

[waverly]

Not much new here.  I got ear plugs for DS's ear since he got swimmers ear from camp this year.  DD's asthma cough has gone away, so lets hope it stays away until the next virus anyway because the pharmacy won't give me any more medicine right now because they say it is too soon.  Have you heard of having asthma medicine on hand just in case, pharmacy?  I mean its not like its a narcotic or something.  I guess people that sell prescription drugs on the black market have ruined it for normal people who would like to have a back up on things like birth control or asthma meds- like normal stuff.  

Going to the dentist today for what could be a cracked filling/ pain.  I lead an exciting life.

DH is struggling with his long commute, but does not want to move closer because he likes our house and our school and doesn't like the neighborhoods by his job.  He is also struggling with the beauracrazy (misspelling, but I am keeping it) at the place.  They are so incompetent, that it is taking them 2 weeks to make an offer to someone he wants to hire and then claim they heard about it yesterday- nope its been 2 weeks. 

I tried a trial run to get in remotely today before the dentist, and that failed.  Need to get the password from my boss. I have now decided to live with the new school routine for maybe a month before changing anything schedule wise. I wanted to originally change it right away, but its just a time of too many transitions.  

[akafred]

New commute is amazing. Monday and yesterday we got home at 5:25, she went out to play in the yard with the dog (dog on tie out) while I cooked dinner and emptied the dishwasher. Then we ate and went to the neighborhood pool and swam for 45-60 minutes and still had time to do our normal bedtime routine (except for the bath...that's what swimming is for). Tuesday we had to go to the old neighborhood for an adoption meeting and didn't get there until 6:15 despite her camp not being as far out of the way as school. I'm thinking tonight we'll do a bath so I don't get arrested lol and just watch tv.

Not having a fence still sucks. I walk the dog at 5:30 and that cuts my morning me time, and after DD goes to bed I take the dog out and let her run around on the retractable leash for an hour. She runs circles. If I put her on the tie out she gets tangled up and just stands around. I would walk her but can't leave DD alone.

DD had adjusted great to the move. She just needs some friends.

We are fully closed on old house. Nothing more outstanding. Now I have to deal with the insurance company to settle after my accident. And get involved more with my dad's Altzheimers care. Sigh.

[2chatter]

We leave for vaca tomorrow at 3 and literally every minute until then is jammed with tasks or work or stuff. I'm trying not to have a panic attack. I'm not knocking the things I need to knock out at work. I did go to the gym but it didn't totally help. If I can get through the next 28 hours it will be worth it.

[frozenpeas]

Earlier this week, the neighbor returned all $50 he owed H. Then he returned 2 days later to borrow back $30.

I'm clearly obsessed with this. I may just begin each of my posts going forward with our neighbor's current outstanding debt.

[2chatter]

frozenpeas - it's crazy! And I totally picture your neighbor as Ray Liotta. No idea why. Just thought I would let you know!

[judyblume14]

akafred, do you guys plan on getting a fence once you're all settled in?

Not too much to update on in my world. Potty training this weekend. Which is sure to be a nightmare because DD1 has been a crab lately.

Oh, and I ordered the Jillian Michael's Shred DVD a few weeks ago. Update - still in packaging.

[judyblume14]

Jul 13, 2017 10:44:42 GMT -5 frozenpeas said:

Earlier this week, the neighbor returned all $50 he owed H. Then he returned 2 days later to borrow back $30.

I'm clearly obsessed with this. I may just begin each of my posts going forward with our neighbor's current outstanding debt.

So, your H gave him the $30??

[k3am]

For once, I have no new updates.

Work is work, we don't have DS's appointment until next week (akafred will have to wait anxiously for 7 more days!), and we have 55 days of DD looking like DD.

[traveltheworld]

Not much of an update from me - still no house. DH has seemingly adjusted to his WFH situation and is a lot less stressed about it, so that has been nice.

And I'm just putting it here because I know I shouldn't talk to anyone IRL about this - but I've mentioned before that a friend of our's that's going through a separation/divorce where the wife has pretty much abandoned their 2 young daughters. Well, the wife is now asking the husband for more money. He is already paying 100% of the mortgage, nanny, household expenses, etc. and has the girls full time; but apparently, the wife's own parents are so disgusted with her bevahiour that they no longer want her to live with them, so now the wife is asking the husband to give her money so she can rent a nice apartment so that "the girls can come visit" and blames him for the fact that her relationship with her parents has deteriorated to this point. She is a professional and makes a good income, and judging by her Facebook/Instagram accounts, she has no shortage of money to spend on trips, parties, and new purses/clothes. YET the husband still thinks that if he just concedes to her demands and "work on the relationship", she'll come back to the family. He is now on the edge of liquidating some of the assets from his family trust (which would have been protected from the divorce) to pay her. I've never seen someone so blinded by love.

[frozenpeas]

Jul 13, 2017 10:47:19 GMT -5 2chatter said:

frozenpeas - it's crazy! And I totally picture your neighbor as Ray Liotta. No idea why. Just thought I would let you know!

Omg, 2chatter, that's perfect! There actually is a resemblance, to be honest, if you picture him thinner & grayer (at least vs how I remember him).

But I'm sure it's the implication of shady business that makes you picture him, and I'm with you there, all the way.

[frozenpeas]

judyblume14--You bet he did.

[ilovelucyvv]

traveltheworld, that is truly cringe worthy.

[Covergirl82]

Wow, traveltheworld. That wife is something else. I am sad that the husband is so blind, as you said, that he can't see who she really is. Hopefully logic kicks in before he liquidates the family trust to give her more money.

[frozenpeas]

traveltheworld, do you think anyone close to him is telling him how foolish his actions seem? It sounds like he needs an intervention, although I guess I question whether it would make a difference.

I would just have a hard time staying quiet, but I realize saying something could do more harm than good if we weren't really close friends.

[rere]

My Dh is taking some pity on me and is painting and moving my cabinet today, I hope.

I had to take DS to football this morning, so I got to work a half hour early. I planned on drinking my coffee , eating breakfast, and reading the paper in the comfort of my office. Of course for some reason, 2 coworkers were here and proceeded to talk to me. Why are you here at the crack of doom and why are you speaking to a clearly uncaffinated and unfed person?

[traveltheworld]

Jul 13, 2017 11:15:16 GMT -5 Covergirl82 said:

Wow, traveltheworld . That wife is something else. I am sad that the husband is so blind, as you said, that he can't see who she really is. Hopefully logic kicks in before he liquidates the family trust to give her more money.

Yup.  You know it's bad when your own mother sits down with your estranged husband to try and convince HIM to not concede to your ridiculous demands.  We are now trying to convince our friend that he needs to protect his assets for the sake of his daughters.  Hopefully that'll sink in more than anything else we've said so far.  

[traveltheworld]

Jul 13, 2017 11:20:05 GMT -5 frozenpeas said:

traveltheworld , do you think anyone close to him is telling him how foolish his actions seem? It sounds like he needs an intervention, although I guess I question whether it would make a difference.

I would just have a hard time staying quiet, but I realize saying something could do more harm than good if we weren't really close friends.

We've all been telling him, although up until a few weeks ago, we have tried really hard not to take sides and give the wife the benefit of the doubt.  We are extremely close.  DH has known him for 3 decades.  He was a groomsman at our wedding and our kids grew up like cousins.  He keeps asking us not to take sides and be supportive of his wife as she doesn't have many friends (hmm...wonder why?) and "is struggling too".  Our position has always been - we don't pass judgment on her for anything that happened between the two of them since you can never really know what happens between two people in a marriage, but we are judging her hard solely based on her actions as a mother.  There is no excuse of abandoning your children.  It has only been recent that the financial stuff has come to light - I think he was intentionally not telling us that for fear that we'd be judging her harder, which we are.  

His whole family are lawyers, so he has access to all the legal help he needs if he so choose, but again, he just seems completely blinded by her.  We've been seeing some troubling behaviour from the girls though, so we are encouraging him to put them into counseling and hopefully through that, he'd come to realize how much damage his wife is doing to their daughters.  He is an absolutely amazing father, so hopefully that'll force him into some rationality. 

[akafred]

Jul 13, 2017 10:47:37 GMT -5 judyblume14 said:

akafred, do you guys plan on getting a fence once you're all settled in?

Goodness yes! All the fence companies are backed up right now so it will be a few weeks. The HOA already approved the "plan" (very poor line drawing lol) so whenever they have the availability, it will go in. Actually we ordered a survey first. Our yard backs up to HOA land because there is a walking trail there so no one is really clear exactly where our property line is. Hopefully pretty far because our yard is not so big. Anyway, short term problem but the dog is driving me nuts!

[2chatter]

traveltheworld - DH tried to throw money at his exw being a horrible parent. It meant she was a horrible parent spending his money. Zero other difference. If there are any fathers rights or divorce support groups near, hearing a real person say that might resonate too. Doing the right thing is great, but in divorce there's a definite line across which there are diminishing returns.

- from a woman who let her exh live with her for a year to try to help him and keep him connected to the kids.

[sweetptater]

Jul 13, 2017 10:39:15 GMT -5 akafred said:

New commute is amazing. Monday and yesterday we got home at 5:25, she went out to play in the yard with the dog (dog on tie out) while I cooked dinner and emptied the dishwasher. Then we ate and went to the neighborhood pool and swam for 45-60 minutes and still had time to do our normal bedtime routine (except for the bath...that's what swimming is for). Tuesday we had to go to the old neighborhood for an adoption meeting and didn't get there until 6:15 despite her camp not being as far out of the way as school. I'm thinking tonight we'll do a bath so I don't get arrested lol and just watch tv.

Amen. 

[erinshelley21]

traveltheworld that is so heartbreaking. Is there a chance that he had an affair or something and he feels guilty and that's why he's considering giving her money? If he didn't then I hope he comes to his senses.

[erinshelley21]

I THINK we have decided to stay in our house and make it into what we want: master bedroom addition, bigger front porch, redo kitchen, mudroom cabinets, combine old bedroom and living room, barn, and pond. If my brother and I sell the agency we'll be able to go gangbusters on all that and knock it out. If we don't sell then we can at least do the master bedroom and front porch. Possibly the barn. DH went to a retirement planning presentation for his union and it was pretty eye opening for him. Thank God. I was starting a secret mission to decorate out house so that he wouldn't want to move since I kind of stopped when we first started talking about moving a couple years ago.

An update to my open letter: all bills that were due were paid and so were my brother and me. Our business has $400. We will have a check in the mail Monday or Tuesday so I'm surprisingly ok with the fact that we have four hundred fucking dollars.

[mommyatty]

DH felt pretty good about his job interview. I'm trying really hard to see this as positive. The job wouldn't start until October, so that's good. It will at least get us through the start of school before things are wacky.

[mellym]

traveltheworld, wow I have no words. He's lucky to have friends like you that are trying to open his eyes.

We've had two new neighbors move in on our street in the past month. There is one more move happening next month. We live on a cul de sac so all of our yards are connected and we were counting the number of kids we'll have in this small area next month and came up with 23. And they're all 8 and under. There's still one more house for sale next to us too. Great for the kids to have friends but I'm bracing myself for the chaos to come. It's already hard enough keeping our kids in our yard - no, two year old, you can't just run off to the neighbor's house without telling us. We parents have decided we'll just take turns bringing each other adult beverages.

[callmekd]

I've survived another week of life with 3 kids. DH has been in D.C. For work so my mom stayed with us. Thank god. She cooked, cleaned, did laundry and ran DD1 to a play date. DD1 also broke out in hives twice this week. Baby boy rolled over during his nap at daycare and baby girl is so mad that she can't crawl. I am barely keeping my head above water. Actually I'm pretty sure I'm drowning

[twinmomma]

The video shoot went amazingly well! Everyone around the office was generally happy, excited, engaged, and didn't hate me shoving a camera crew in their face! I'm so excited to see the final product! And so, to reward myself, I will skip my training walk and go home to drink a celebratory beer. Whatevs. I walked almost 7,000 steps just around my office today doing this project.

[judyblume14]

Our hot water heater broke last Thursday.
I had to raise hell with out home warranty company to get someone to come out on Friday.
On Friday, the contractor they sent diagnosed the problem - the ignitor was broken (duh. We told them that when we called).

Today is Thursday. I don't know who is picking their nose, but the part was JUST ordered (six full days after deciding that we needed it). The part is scheduled for delivery to the contractor on 7/19, TWELVE days after the heater broke. And THEN they'll schedule to come install.

COME ON. I don't mean to sound all first-world-y, but hot water is a pretty basic need here in the land of the free.

Also, w're potty training this weekend. I need hot water to clean up accidents!

[erinshelley21]

judyblume14 your lack of hot water is worse than my lack of dishwasher until Monday. That's ridiculous they took so long to order it

[judyblume14]

Jul 13, 2017 16:14:49 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

judyblume14 your lack of hot water is worse than my lack of dishwasher until Monday. That's ridiculous they took so long to order it

Once it's installed and in working order, i'm going to write a nasty review of the plumbing company and the home warranty company. I'm seething.

But also, I'd be almost as mad if I didn't have my dishwasher. At least I can shower at MIL's, or swim class.  Hand washing dishes when you're used to a dishwasher is annoying.

[erinshelley21]

Jul 13, 2017 16:18:19 GMT -5 judyblume14 said:

Jul 13, 2017 16:14:49 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

judyblume14 your lack of hot water is worse than my lack of dishwasher until Monday. That's ridiculous they took so long to order it

Once it's installed and in working order, i'm going to write a nasty review of the plumbing company and the home warranty company. I'm seething.

But also, I'd be almost as mad if I didn't have my dishwasher. At least I can shower at MIL's, or swim class.  Hand washing dishes when you're used to a dishwasher is annoying.

When DH told me we wouldn't have it until Monday I said "wtf it's 2017"

Technically it works I guess. It just doesn't dry.