Week of Sept. 11

[thoseareradishes]

Sept 13, 2017 11:19:24 GMT -5 kellikans said:

Sept 13, 2017 9:59:23 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

I have been freaking out all morning because my boobs aren't as sore today as they previously were and this is basically my only pregnancy symptom. Argh.

I freaked out because of my sore boobs coming and going, too. I would find that they would be less sore in the morning, then as the day went on they would get more sore. The soreness still comes and goes. I've had very few symptoms this whole time besides the few bouts of nausea and being tired. Otherwise I feel completely normal.

My only symptoms were being tired and spotting from a SCH.  I never felt sick and had almost no food aversions.  Oh, and I got a rash on my face - it went away after a few days but I had it for both my chemical and for E.  

[thoseareradishes]

Sept 11, 2017 21:09:17 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

185 seems high, but a normal newborn's HR is 110-160. but early on (like first and second trimesters), HRs are higher than that. when I've cared for micropreemies (less than 28 weeks), their HRs were more like 150-190.

so I wouldn't sweat it either.

breathe. and I would stay away from Google.

E's heart rate was averaged around 180 for several weeks after she was born.  She was on caffeine though, so that may have affected it.  It slowly went down and was much lower (I can't remember exactly what - 110-130, I think?) by the time we brought her home.  Sometimes it would get as high as 200 when she was overheated (her isolette would heat up too much sometimes, poor peanut!).  

[cactuscookie]

Sept 12, 2017 23:01:52 GMT -5 dellabear said:

DS has been bitten twice at daycare so far and it's only been a week. The first one wasn't too bad but today the kid bit him hard enough to make him bleed, on the cheek right by his eye! They say they are going to keep this other kid away from all the other kids from now on. I know kids bite and there's not much else to be done except keep them apart but I'm still pretty unhappy about it. My poor baby.

Then DD was stung by a wasp at school so I got a call at work about that too. Not a great way to start the week, sigh.

Oh no! There was a biting epidemic at H's daycare for a while, which sucked, but it would have been even worse if it was when she was brand new. Unfortunately, while my kid has been bit a few times, she's mostly one of the biters.
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[kellikans]

Ultrasound went well today. Baby is measuring right on at 9w5d. Heart rate went down to 174. The ultrasound tech took a bit of time looking at different angles which was fun. And we got a few 3D images. Still looks like a blob, lol. Depending on my lab work results, I may get to graduate this week. My RE is also referring me to a high risk doctor who can do the cell free DNA testing and NT scan due to all of the issues I've had throughout the beginning of the pregnancy. Not sure if I really need to go that route since my OB is able to do everything in office.

[kellikans]

Am I crazy to buy a stroller right now? I found a smoking deal on a 2016 Uppababy Vista.

[konapoppy]

Sept 14, 2017 10:59:46 GMT -5 kellikans said:

Am I crazy to buy a stroller right now? I found a smoking deal on a 2016 Uppababy Vista.

Uppababy has really good resale value, so I would consider it. You already did PGS too which would reassure me

[pandora89]

Sept 14, 2017 10:59:46 GMT -5 kellikans said:

Am I crazy to buy a stroller right now? I found a smoking deal on a 2016 Uppababy Vista.

Go for it! I may not be the voice of reason but I have been slowly buying things. Anything I've bought I can easily resell but whatever lol.

This has been a busy few weeks for us. We sold our condo, bought our house, and found out I was pregnant all within a weeks time. I also had a company reach out to me for a position which I found out yesterday I got. I start 2 weeks Monday so I have to give my notice by Monday. I originally had an ultrasound booked for Monday but asked to change it to today as I didn't want to give notice and then ask for the afternoon off

Ultrasound went well! Measuring a day ahead at 6w6d, heartbeat of 138bpm. I was a space case after most of my symptoms had seemed to fade so yay.

[janegold]

Sept 14, 2017 10:59:46 GMT -5 kellikans said:

Am I crazy to buy a stroller right now? I found a smoking deal on a 2016 Uppababy Vista.

Do it!  Although if you are like me, you might be kind of bummed that the 2017 version has leather trim (which came out RIGHT after B was born, lol).  I'm definitely buying the leather trim add-ons when they are back in stock.

[janegold]

Sept 14, 2017 13:40:19 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

Sept 14, 2017 10:59:46 GMT -5 kellikans said:

Am I crazy to buy a stroller right now? I found a smoking deal on a 2016 Uppababy Vista.

Go for it! I may not be the voice of reason but I have been slowly buying things. Anything I've bought I can easily resell but whatever lol.

This has been a busy few weeks for us. We sold our condo, bought our house, and found out I was pregnant all within a weeks time. I also had a company reach out to me for a position which I found out yesterday I got. I start 2 weeks Monday so I have to give my notice by Monday. I originally had an ultrasound booked for Monday but asked to change it to today as I didn't want to give notice and then ask for the afternoon off

Ultrasound went well! Measuring a day ahead at 6w6d, heartbeat of 138bpm. I was a space case after most of my symptoms had seemed to fade so yay.

WOW, congratulations on everything!  Such an exciting time!

[kellikans]

Glad your ultrasound went well, pandora89! And congrats on everything else, too!

[dellabear]

Congrats pandora89!

[cherryvalance]

Yay for great scans, kellikans and pandora89!! So exciting!

[thoseareradishes]

kellikans, we bought a 2011 Uppababy from one of H's coworkers, and I love it. It is really heavy and takes up a lot of space in the car though. And there is no one handed unfolding like the car seat caddy. But I love being able to flip the seat around (I bought the infant insert so E can sit in it now) and it's so smooth - doesn't sound like it's going to fall apart on every bump like the caddy.

[thoseareradishes]

I feel like I'm really struggling right now. E doesn't nap well - consistently wakes about 30 minutes after I put her down, and is more dependent on her pacifier than I'd like (so I'm constantly putting it back in her mouth). I finally have her room set up so hopefully it being darker and quieter will help. I feel isolated because she hates the car seat and screams whenever we go anywhere, plus her napping is so crappy that she gets cranky if we stay out too long. I was supposed to take her to see friends tomorrow, but it feels like a huge hassle and I know she will just cry a lot so I don't want to go. I just feel sad a lot . I think I will need to call my doctor for an evaluation especailly if her napping doesn't improve soon because I think that is what is causing a lot of my struggle.

[loira]

thoseareradishes, I'm sorry. I had 2 friends in my walking group who had really fussy babies. They are great mums and their babes eventually outgrew it, but we could all see how hard it was on them. ((hugs)) I think it also wouldn't hurt to get an evaluation even if she starts napping better soon. You suffered a huge shock and trauma with having her born so little. A mental health checkup every few months couldn't hurt. I don't know how it works in the US though, or if that sort of thing is offered there.

[starryfish]

Sept 15, 2017 8:31:37 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I feel like I'm really struggling right now. E doesn't nap well - consistently wakes about 30 minutes after I put her down, and is more dependent on her pacifier than I'd like (so I'm constantly putting it back in her mouth). I finally have her room set up so hopefully it being darker and quieter will help. I feel isolated because she hates the car seat and screams whenever we go anywhere, plus her napping is so crappy that she gets cranky if we stay out too long. I was supposed to take her to see friends tomorrow, but it feels like a huge hassle and I know she will just cry a lot so I don't want to go. I just feel sad a lot . I think I will need to call my doctor for an evaluation especailly if her napping doesn't improve soon because I think that is what is causing a lot of my struggle.

Can you wear her? Will she sleep like that on you? I am sorry you are struggling with her sleep, that is no fun 

[starryfish]

Ohhhh and OMG yall.........S got her FIRST birthday party invitation from an older kid in her room! I almost cried over it!!!! I feel like she won't be a baby much anymore..... OMGGGGGGGGGGGGG.........it has begun lol

[thoseareradishes]

Thanks guys. So far it's going well with her napping in her room, so I'm hopeful that will alleviate some stress.

loira, I've been given a PPD/PPA questionnaire at a few appointments. I was given one at her preemie clinic appt on Tuesday, and I happened to see my score when the nurse brought it back in the room, and I had a 9, and I think at an 11 they refer you for help. So I definitely need to make sure I'm evaluating myself. H knows what is going on too.

[cherryvalance]

thoseareradishes, I'm so sorry. It's overwhelming when they won't sleep and all you need is a break to feel like yourself. You sound like you're self-aware and willing to reach out for help, so I hope things get better for you both really soon! You're an amazingly strong mom.

[cherryvalance]

We had our consult with the lactation consultant at the hospital. You guys, the one I met with today is amazing (they're all helpful, but she is especially). DS latched beautifully, but we learned we are overfeeding him and that's contributing to his general fussiness/discomfort. She also watched him after feeding and said it's pretty clear he has some reflux issues, so we'll be contacting the pedi this week to work on that before his 2 month appointment. I learned different holds, since I couldn't really do much after my c-section. He was able to nurse when we got home, also.

He's about 10.5 lbs! My little chunk is getting so big already.

[shoeless]

thoseareradishes (hugs). Is she sleeping well at night? Take care of yourself and you're not alone I recently cried when I couldn't get DD down for a nap cause I needed a break.

[cactuscookie]

Sept 15, 2017 8:31:37 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I feel like I'm really struggling right now. E doesn't nap well - consistently wakes about 30 minutes after I put her down, and is more dependent on her pacifier than I'd like (so I'm constantly putting it back in her mouth). I finally have her room set up so hopefully it being darker and quieter will help. I feel isolated because she hates the car seat and screams whenever we go anywhere, plus her napping is so crappy that she gets cranky if we stay out too long. I was supposed to take her to see friends tomorrow, but it feels like a huge hassle and I know she will just cry a lot so I don't want to go. I just feel sad a lot . I think I will need to call my doctor for an evaluation especailly if her napping doesn't improve soon because I think that is what is causing a lot of my struggle.

Ugh, I feel like you're describing H when she was new. Remind me, what is E's adjusted age? H was never a good napper, but it got worse after the 4-month sleep regression. That's when every nap was at most 30-35 minutes. We were all exhausted and frustrated. She's hated the car since the beginning. I remember reading a "do you have PPD" quiz and thinking yes!, and then I talked to DH about it, and he said that if I had it, he apparently did too, because he was just as tired and frustrated.

It's so hard. And at some point, you deserve a break. If there's an issue, I hope you find the help you need. If E is just one of those tough babies, I hope this passes quickly. Either way, vent all you want.

[thoseareradishes]

starryfish, she likes her carrier for walks or trips to the grocery store, but for whatever reason doesn't like it in the house.

shoeless, yes, thankfully, she does sleep well at night. Byproduct of the NICU I assume, since H and I haven't done anything special to encourage it.

cactuscookie, she will be 3 months adjusted on the 20th. I'm hoping the transition to napping in her room helps - she sleep much more yesterday. I felt more myself last night - it's amazing how much her sleeping affects me.

[loira]

thoseareradishes, you never know. She might just decide she hates it one day. This is what happened with A. We used to get up a couple of times a night just to pop it back in, but when she popped her first tooth, she spat out the soother and never took it again.