This is my first poll, so forgive any glitches. Let's say you have a babysitter and come home to find several things in your house re-organized, including furniture that has been moved and things in drawers and cabinets re-arranged. Would it make you doubt the person's state of mind and your willingness to leave LO with her again? Or is it a bonus you're glad you didn't have to pay extra for?
Post by shell403b on Sept 16, 2012 12:29:36 GMT -5
I voted Compulsive & Questionable--what kind of drawers were organized? Silverware. No biggie. Underwear? Skeevy.
My mom organizes me house when she comes over (kitchen stuff, LR, etc., not personal bedroom stuff) and I've come to accept it. She's OCD and needs something to do. She's not over-the-top about it, and I actually do appreciate it (and feel a little bad that she's "cleaning" my house when she's supposed to be relaxing).
I voted Compulsive & Questionable--what kind of drawers were organized? Silverware. No biggie. Underwear? Skeevy.
My mom organizes me house when she comes over (kitchen stuff, LR, etc., not personal bedroom stuff) and I've come to accept it. She's OCD and needs something to do. She's not over-the-top about it, and I actually do appreciate it (and feel a little bad that she's "cleaning" my house when she's supposed to be relaxing).
Maybe this person has OCD?
Very possibly a case of OCD. It was all kitchen, living room and DD's stuff. Kitchen stuff included food in cabinets, though, like really intensely going through packages with just a few crumbs left and removing the box, etc. so that it all took up less space overall.
I would find it odd. It would drive me nuts bc I am already OCD when it comes to stuff around the house so if someone moved a bunch of stuff it would drive me crazy.
Post by vanillacourage on Sept 16, 2012 13:36:31 GMT -5
Totally overstepping, and indicative enough of a lack of judgement that they would not be watching my kid again. Did this happen while your DD was asleep?
Post by hopecounts on Sept 16, 2012 15:22:18 GMT -5
Overstepping absolutely. When I was babysitting I would fold laundry if it was out or load dishwasher, etc once the kids were down but I would never have gone into drawers/moved furniture that's just weird.
Totally overstepping, and indicative enough of a lack of judgement that they would not be watching my kid again. Did this happen while your DD was asleep?
This. A mom doing it is one thing, to a degree. But a babysitter you're paying to take care of your child? Um..... weird. The lack of judgement kind of astounds me.
That said, when I used to nanny, I would often reorganize the kid's playroom or dressers. Only when it needed to be done, and because I somewhat considered it 'my domain' and I definitely had a relationship with the family where it didn't feel as though I was over stepping. I never would have even thought of reorganizing a non-kid area
My mom does this and I like it actually, but a babysitter doing it would freak me out. It would be different if she just cleaned up the playroom or put a basket of kids clothes away or something.
Post by hannamaren on Sept 16, 2012 21:02:30 GMT -5
If she is my regular nanny that cooks for us/baby then okay. But just a random babysitter,weird. And kid stuff is fine. Kitchen stuff if she always cooks for us.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Sept 16, 2012 21:37:11 GMT -5
It's a little weird, but I could see DH doing it. If he needed to get a snack for the kid, he would probably end up turning all of the labels to face the right way or one of his other quirks. He's a little weird and compulsive, but I never felt like it interfered with his ability to take care of DD.
I can almost give the kitchen pantry a pass if you said "help yourself to anything in the kitchen" because then it's like she was supposed to go poke around to find herself something to eat.
Furniture moved??? Like rearranged the room? Or like a chair is shifted over a foot and could have been done to make room for a kid's game or something like that?
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Sept 17, 2012 8:33:16 GMT -5
A regular nanny reorganizing the KID's stuff, I'd maybe give a pass to. But I'd still be annoyed if it wasn't cleared with me first.
An occasional babysitter? Very weird, and going through someone else's pantry shows such a lack of judgment that I wouldn't have the person watch my child anymore.
If my mom or MIL did it (not that they would), I'd tell them I didn't appreciate it, but I wouldn't put it in the "weird" category.
Before DD was born, my mom used to come to visit and DH and I would both still be at work for a day or afternoon, so she'd be alone in our house. She used to clean, which was awesome. DH came home once and she had her head inside our oven, just happily scrubbing away. But even though I liked the cleaning, re-organizing is another category to me -- that should only be done by the people who live in the house!!!
Yeah definitely crazycakes. If that were my babysitter I would have a serious conversation about boundaries, or likely fire her altogether. I would be wicked pissed if someone went through my stuff. And the part about the pantry is doubley weird.
What was your kid doing while she was raiding your cupboards? It doesn't sound like a quick job. Was she ignoring your kid?
DD was sleeping.
But I still think the whole thing was weird. DH is in the "it was so helpful" category and thinks I am the one being crazy/territorial here. Even though he had no idea where to find the coffee this morning...