Monday vents, celebrations

[rere]

Celebrate : Great weekend. Wine night was fun. Dd and I had a great girls day and made a good dent in my shopping. Ds came home in one piece from his trip.

Vent: Super busy few days. Meetings, conf calls, classes. I will work about 12 tomorrow, so Dh is on his own, even if that affects his hunting. Hello, paying job > deer season.

Celebrate : Because of super busy days, and the restrictions they have placed on hours, I am strolling out of here at 10:30 AM Thursday for a long weekend.

[greenmonkey1]

Celebrate - I have a date set for my proposal defense. I still have to make the presentation (and give it!), but at least I have a date.

Vent: Insurance is stressing me out. The change in our local market by the one major system is jamming us up. It's not the end of the world, but I like being able to choose doctors from both systems rather than being restricted. We are fairly healthy so I will pick the network that includes the boys' pediatrician and DS2's ophthalmologist. I will give up my doctors if I have to and start new to keep the pediatrician.
Thankfully DS2 was just cleared by the ENT and the audiologist because they are in a different system as the opthalmologist and I do not have to want to start over finding new doctors when we have a history with the one.

[HeartofCheese]

Celebrate: dinner and escape room were a blast. So were the 2 beers I had.

Not a blast: the hangover from said TWO beers(!) and the 4 shrimp I got for an extra $7.

Celebrate: STBXH knows I know about his affair and I feel 1000x better.

Not a celebration: He's still a yeller. This morning he yelled about He-Man b/c DD was saying it was scary and I was saying he should turn it off. On a side note: He-Man is about the most elementary name I've ever heard. Cavemen must have thought it up. And She-Woman is the obvious counterpart there, not She-Ra.

Deep thoughts by Rainbow Pie.

[katrine05]

Home with a sick DD today. She woke up in the night coughing and crying with a 102 fever. Everyone was up at 430 DS is already napping at 730.

I really don't have much to do today since all the laundry and cleaning got done this weekend. I do need to make a grocery store run but we'll see how the kids are doing. If not I'll wait until DH gets home.

[supertrooper1]

Vent: I had a flat tire this morning. Luckily we have an extra vehicle so I was only a few minutes late to work. DH said he couldn't get it to hold air, so I'll be dealing with that after work.

Celebration: 4 more days of work and then I'm off for a 4 day weekend. Date night on Friday and we're going to a concert.

[campermom]

Vent: DS1 and I are both home with a stomach virus.

Celebration: Now that the vomiting has subsided, it's actually quite nice to be here right now. No toddler to take care of, work is not too hard to reschedule today, and we already watched The Witches. Next up is Greys Anatomy (for me) and ramen noodles.

I might take a jet bath later and apply a face mask.

[judyblume14]

Celebration - I'm at work! Hooray for a break!

Vent - H was out of town. It was supposed to be a nice girls weekend with DDs. Instead it was a disaster and I feel like absolutely awful.

[twinmomma]

Vent: It's show week, so DH's stressed attitude was back in full force this weekend. But not according to him, obviously. I'm going to try to take the high road tonight, even though he was pretty nasty to me yesterday.

Celebration: I'm decorating a Christmas tree at work today! I'm excited to balance spreadsheets and stressful projects with a little bit of fun this afternoon. I need it!

[mommyatty]

Celebration: I’m not traveling this week!!! Cartwheels, happy dances, etc. I have a good food plan for the week too for the first time in almost three months.

Vent: DD is home sick. She has a fever and last night complained of a sudden bad headache.

Another vent: I need to get my anxiety under control. When DD complained of the headache, I immediately jumped to “she has meningitis and is going to die. Oh my god, how are we ever going to recover from her loss? We will fall apart. She’s so perfect.” It’s a mfing HEADACHE. She probably has a sinus infection. But I still checked in her 5 times in the night to ensure she was breathing and not seizing.

[mustardseed2007]

Vent: Soccer was absolutely awful. They had a kid who was incredible. I mean, he played like a teenager and out played ALL our kids and even their own kids. But that's fine, except since he was scoring a ton, he also scored a bunch of goals on my kid who had played great goalie the previous week...and the ref suggested we take "the prek kid" out of goalie b/c he was "too small" to be effective. } The ref did have him kick off multiple times after to, I think, boost his spirits. I just wish the ref would have had the sense not to talk about his size in a limiting way, though.

Celebration: DS' bestie had a birthday party Saturday evening. Another little boy that they are also very close with attended the party as well and they were like the 3 Musketeers. It was so great, we even let all of them stay after the party to continue playing. Loved it.

Celebration: I did my 13.1 mile run as part of a 70.3 triathlon relay this weekend. It was F'n hard b/c my part started at noon and it was 90 degrees. On the other hand it didn't feel like much compared to the people that did the whole thing. Cool experience.

[covergirl82]

Vent: DD got strep. (I'm sure she got it from when she put the toy trumpet in her mouth at DH's cousin's house, after they had all had strep the week before. I only knew because she threw up (in her bed, in the middle of the night, and then trailed it down the stairs to come tell me, rather than just calling for me (we have a monitor right outside the kids' bedrooms because they are upstairs and we are on the main floor)). DH's aunt had said one of the cousin's kids threw up at the onset of strep. DD only complained of a sore throat after she threw up, but no fever. So I got to clean up vomit and do laundry in the middle of the night, which is so fun.

Celebration: My dad was able to come down today to stay with DD since she couldn't go to school as she hadn't been on antibiotics for 24 hours. I am so thankful to have parents who are close enough and available to come help out with emergency child care.

Celebration:  DS had a great basketball game on Saturday.  He scored one 2-point shot, and his team had 12 points total.  He is playing up (in 2nd grade, but in a 3rd grade league), and he is excited to finally be playing games where they keep score.  Because he's competitive like that.

[erinshelley21]

Celebration: DH's 4 days off starts today. I was so busy with children and stuff this weekend that I didn't realize it until he said something about being home to help with DD in MOTN the next few nights.

Vent: I'm expecting the backlash from the convo with Asshole to be today. He still hasn't gotten back to us about which severance he wants and I need to know since he'll want paid on his usual date and I need a contract drawn up. He made 2 shitty comments last week about my work habits lately - 1. He told my brother he can tell I've already checked out and 2. I'm pretty sure he passive aggressively made a comment about how we should still be here even if there isn't anything going on. I'm only pretty sure because I was only half listening.

There are so many reasons why it irritates me, but the big points are: The phone rings 1-2 times per DAY right now because our clients are in the fields, I own the place and pay someone a very handsome amount to be present during normal business hours so if I want to spend a day with my baby during the off-season then I can if I so choose, and finally, it is 2017. You do not HAVE to physically be in your office to be productive.

[mommyatty]

erinshelley21- I hate that guy so much on your behalf. I want to flip him the bird every time you post about him. Solidarity, sister!

[erinshelley21]

mommyatty, I'm sure my stress level and level of general annoyance will lower significantly when I am done dealing with him. Most of his issue is that he is in his early 60s so he is very set in his ways but also very close minded about most things.

But yet he has no probably coming in at 9:30, taking lunch from 12-1:30 and leaving at 4 on the dot.

Oh, and I wrote 2 new policies last week. All while being "checked out" from here.

[k3am]

erinshelley21, you've put up with the man for years longer than I would have. I hope he knows that.

[2chatter]

This weekend was awesome. DD said her favorite thing about Chicago was cousins, and I love that. She wore her uniform home on the plane and we got to the field from the airport right on time for warm ups and her team won the championship with a total shutout. Then she had a teammate over, then a team party then handbells and finally bed.

The downside is - we have no food. Literally nothing I would consider for breakfast. I think DH knew I would be a train wreck today between work and kids so he isn’t leaving until after lunch - and he went and got me oatmeal because we have no food.

Celebration: evening Soccer practices are over!!! Tournaments are starting and I love those. So excited.

[sdlaura]

Vent - DD started kindergarten this year and her teacher was pregnant and due at Thanksgiving. Not ideal, but teachers are allowed to have babies, and she was really organized and had everything planned out. Then she got preeclampsia and had to go out two months early in late Sept. There was one sub for a month, then they just had a two week fall break (way too long!), and now the new long term sub was supposed to start today, according to the one communication we got from the principal. But we all show up at drop off today and find out she's not starting till later this week. Everyone had talked to their kids about how their new teacher would be there after fall break.

Anyway, we've had only one communication from the principal through all of this turnover. Things happen, but when he found out she wasn't starting today like he told us, he should have sent out a note. Parents are super pissed. Even the more laid back ones. I almost feel bad for the guy because I think he's probably got 20+ angry voicemails this morning. I'm just glad that DD is really adaptable and fine with whatever. I'd be a lot more concerned if it was DS1 in the class, because he gets really attached to his teachers and this would be really tough on him.

Celebration - we had family photos yesterday and they weren't a complete disaster with all three kids. Fingers crossed we got a few good shots.

[186momx]

erinshelley21, Asshole needs to shut it. He doesn't know what you are doing all day out of the office. You could be running to all the clients bringing coffee and smooshing. I get slow season and it is so boring sitting in the office with the phone not ringing and no one walking in. If I was paying someone then I wouldn't be sitting at the office killing time on TCF or reading a book just incase someone needs me.

DH has a cold and is being miserable but still wants to go out and about. My weekend of staying home and cleaning didn't really happen and I feel less rested with my extra hour of sleep.

My dishwasher is slowing dying. I went to look yesterday and was sticker shocked. I see my clients by $200-300 dishwashers for their rentals and I was so surprised by the $600-1200 price range. Looks like that will be my black Friday shopping purchase.

[rere]

Additional vent. Dh is taking off last minute for..... Deer hunting. He never does this, which is good but, he wouldn't do it to make Ds football game, or to hang out with us on fall break. He does it to sit his ass up a tree, alone. Maybe because I'm mom, but I hoard most of my days to spend with the kids and family. This seems selfish to me. He gets plenty of "me" time since half of his days off are during the week when we are gone.

[2chatter]

rere - this also hacks me off with DH. He hasn’t taken a single vaca or sick day to handle kid stuff this year. He misses kid stuff allllll the time. It makes me super hostile when he takes a random day because he feels like it. I may or may not say “Must be nice!”

[traveltheworld]

We had a good weekend, but too busy. DS has too many activities, but he won't drop any. I may have to put my foot down in January. DH and I sent the kids to sleep over at my moms and made a nice dinner at home. I drank too much wine though and fell asleep at 8:30.

[erinshelley21]

186momx, I saw recently that some stores are doing black friday deals already. Lowes maybe? I didn't want to wait but luckily found a good deal.

[erinshelley21]

The convo was had. It started to get heated, but its over. Of course he wants to reverse the order of the payment amounts. He was supposed to get normal pay Nov and Dec, then 3 larger checks the next 3 months. I can't tell if he wants to reverse it for an actual good reason or just to mess with me since he can't just take what he is given ever. He said "sometimes you run out of money in March so I want more on the front end." I corrected him and said "no, YOU ran out of commission in March since you required a draw against you commission each month, which is not the same as me running out of money." He also got kind of shitty about me wanting him to sign a non-compete and said "your dad wouldn't do this" and I said "well if he were here I'd be in a lot better shape than I am now so let's just appreciate that I might FINALLY know what I'm doing on my way out of here."

[rere]

erinshelley21 I must have missed why you have had that asshole around this entire time and haven't had the satisfaction of showing him the door.

[erinshelley21]

Nov 6, 2017 14:55:54 GMT -5 rere said:

erinshelley21 I must have missed why you have had that asshole around this entire time and haven't had the satisfaction of showing him the door.

At first he asked us for a job then when the guy that worked for my dad left, we ended up needing him more than we originally thought. He was supposed to be more of a mentor and bring business over from his former job  and help grow the agency. I haven't gotten rid of him because he would absolutely, 100% go around and bad mouth me, which is not great in a small town, and because it was nice to have someone else here with my brother while I was out having babies two different times. So, I've put up with him. Even more so the last year or so because I knew the end was in sight. He was done after this last year whether he chose to be or not.

[judyblume14]

HeartofCheese, i don't know where to put this, but I feel like you were looking for a rainbow dress for your DD? this jsut popped up on my FB

www.zulily.com/p/turquoise-rainbow-three-quarter-sleeve-dress-toddler-girls-263615-50889500.html?tid=googpla_50889507_zcvp2_US&gclid=Cj0KCQiArYDQBRDoARIsAMR8s_RAmLjDQMcNmNmMaWBV9aEtC9D5yOocDDCnAoYEOZOjO2UB4cbJAtsaAtpQEALw_wcB

[waverly]

Vent- I had to work Sat and got the privilege of kicking 2 people out of the building that day. They actually left without a fight which surprised me.

Celebration- I lounged around until 1 or 2 on Sunday, and then finally told H that we should get out. He completed the financial worksheets that I asked him for a while ago. We went out to a brewery, and the kids behaved- watched the football game and played mini shuffle board. I was like finally we can do an adult activity that the kids are entertained as well. DS has gotten really into football games. He wants to watch Sat college, Sun NFL and Mon and Thurs NFL. I usually say no to week day games since they start late. He also likes to watch soccer games. He is only 7 so the interest in watching sports is funny to me since he seems young for it. But who am I to judge?

Vent- I posted this elsewhere but just got a 1200 quote for car repairs. Boo

[freezorburn]

Celebration: while my lungs are still clearing out, I felt well enough to resume Pilates today.

Vent: why oh why won't my house clean itself?

[covergirl82]

waverly, our DSs would get along great! My DS loves football. He actually cried and was upset because we had to leave before the end of a football game that he apparently was really into.

[akafred]

I'm so behind on WP board, sorry. Have been super stressed lately. Mental load.

Vent: This last week DD has rebounded hard off the Prozac. Like so mad it makes my head spin and my eyes big out, then she cries because she doesn't know why she is yelling at me and loves me. But of course it's not just at home so her teachers are really annoyed. Have to have a conference :/. I texted pedi on Thursday but have not heard a peep yet.

Celebration: I have really been laying on the exercise, and it is helping some. Char was able to handle a play date with a former classmate who can make her pretty volatile on a good day. And he did great too! So hooray!