State of the Ute 11/20

[katespade]

1. Where are you in your journey?

2. Any testing this week?

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms?

4. What are your plans for this holiday week/weekend?

[seeyalater52]

1. TTC #1, cycle 3, cd2 - benched for December

2. I have to take a blood pregnancy test on Wednesday to officially finish this cycle. I want to cry thinking about it.

3. I’m so glad I’m off from work this week. I am a mess. Also my provider is now poised to add a second intolerable layer of bureaucratic bullshit to the mess my insurance company insists on. I’m just getting more and more pissed.

4. We are going to visit my side of the family in another part of the state. I’m really dreading it. I’m in no position to be around other people right now.

[katespade]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC #1 since May, Cycle 4, CD39, 2DPO.

2. Any testing this week?
Nope.

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms?
I went to a beginners Aerial Conditioning & Aerial Hoop workout class last night, and it was so much fun. I am so incredibly sore today, but I'll definitely be going back to try it again. It's so different from my regular workouts!

4. What are your plans for this holiday week/weekend?
H is working long shifts on Thanksgiving and Black Friday, so I have a quiet week/weekend planned. My mom and I are going to a Thursday morning yoga class together, and then we're just going to hang out all day at my house with the dogs. Our Thanksgiving plans are usually really hectic, so I'm looking forward to being able to relax and not worry about anything this year.

[katespade]

seeyalater52 - I'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time right now. Your insurance provider sounds absolutely awful! You said your wife is in the running for a new job, right? Any chance she may have access to a better insurance plan if she gets it?

[seeyalater52]

Nov 20, 2017 12:54:57 GMT -5 katespade said:

seeyalater52 - I'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time right now. Your insurance provider sounds absolutely awful! You said your wife is in the running for a new job, right? Any chance she may have access to a better insurance plan if she gets it?

If she gets it I am pretty sure her insurance won’t cover any fertility related treatments. Sadly. The headquarters is located out of state so they don’t have any mandate and from what I can see online it’s excluded from the policy.

I’m seriously about to lose it. I’m getting the answer that my providers hands are tied because the insurer will ask for documentation of the attempts if we do them at home. Even though the insurer is now saying they won’t require anything they don’t require for a straight couple. And I keep asking what documentation they typically ask people to provide and no one has an answer (spoiler alert: they don’t ask for anything except testing after the year period is up.) The stupid insurance company’s discriminatory rule is basically causing my provider to also play into the discrimination and I’m not sure there is an alternative because the other clinics we looked into all have similar procedures. There’s just no way around it. I’m so over it and over feeling this way.

[gigem]

1. ttc3 cycle4 CD 30, 15dp pos OPK and 12dp last EWCM

2. i can't convince myself to test. i'm not late so i don't see the point. ive ranted in a few threads already that i had a bit of acne and moodiness which is usu PMS for me. My first cycles post IUD were 30 and 32 days and then the next was 38 days so I don't consider 30 late and i hate bfn.... okay i'm sure everyone is so sick of me telling this story over and over the last 10 plus days haha.

3. is this okay to put here? if not pls tell me and i'll delete. my sister is flying on wednesday to meet the little boy she is adopting, she should be with him in a week!

4. it isn't a holiday where we are but a semi-friend wants to do a Thanksgiving dinner on Friday night but we are going have a crazy week at work and by Friday Ill be exhausted.. so I'm not super enthusiastic. She said just bring wine but I cannot show up to a big potluck with just wine so blergh. I guess if it were my best friends I'd be more willing...goodness I'm so grumpy sorry haha!

[tacom]

1. TTC 1, Cycle 3, 4dpo

2. Nope. We had meh timing this month due to travel; not feeling optimistic or in a rush to test.

3. I saw my GI today for my seasonal visit. He said he would call and get an HSG scheduled after 3 months of timed sex given my history of pelvic surgery. He was super reassuring, too, and explained that *if* I have scarring around my Fallopian tubes, it typically means it takes longer to conceive but it’s still very possible to conceive naturally. He also said crohn’s patients with scar tissue respond really well to IVF if it comes to that. Hoping it doesn’t but good to know it’s an option for us.

4. I work wed and Friday, so we are just doing a day trip Thursday to visit the in laws. We have to go to H’s aunt’s house, which I’m not happy about. I like smaller get togethers where my dogs are invited 😜

[tacom]

seeyalater52, I’m sorry. This bullshit is never ending.

I hope you can take some time for yourself this week. You guys have been through a lot recently

[gigem]

seeyalater52 thats such BS, it never seemes to stop being tough news for you. Hugs

[katespade]

Nov 20, 2017 13:53:34 GMT -5 tacom said:

2. Nope. We had meh timing this month due to travel; not feeling optimistic or in a rush to test.

I'm feeling the same way. I think I'm still in shock that I ovulated at all, too. We weren't prepared for it, so our timing wasn't great. I'm definitely happy that this cycle wasn't a complete bust, but I'm not holding my breath for anything to come of it.

[tacom]

katespade, hey cycle buddy 👋🏻

[compassrose]

gigem, how long is your luteal phase? If you are 12dp-EWCM, I'd test on Weds if AF hasn't arrived. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

[compassrose]

1. Too many cycles, 10 DPO
2. I might test sunday or monday if no AF or my temp stays up (I have a 15 day luteal phase on letrazole).
3. I am just glad to be home! I've traveled so much for work the last 4 weeks.
4. We are going to a Thanksgiving dinner at my moms' on Thursday and then having my dad and his wife and my lab up on Friday for round 2.

[jennistarr1]

honestly, I have no idea where i'm at...things are just freakin awful at work I can't even think straight and this should be my priority. I'll refer back to last month!

TTC#2 since July, Cycle 4, CD22
Not testing
All I want right now is some of my mama's stuffing...please ladies take the time to enjoy your mom's cooking while she's still here
We're doing dinner at my house and I've bought nothing but some boursin cheese

[katespade]

Also, I started temping after my +OPK and my temp has been trending up since then, so I'm going to stop temping again for the rest of my luteal phase. AF seems to show up between 13-14DPO, so I'm going to try and just sit back and wait to see what happens. If it hasn't shown up by 15DPO then I'll test at that point. Right now, I don't feel like I can emotionally handle the ups and downs of overthinking my temp every day during my 2WW.

[angelinmind]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC# 3 cycle 2 CD 20 (4dpo)

2. Any testing this week? pregnancy test on Sunday.

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms? trying to buy a car and I'm frustrated with the process.

4. What are your plans for this holiday week/weekend? Spending time with family, and celebrating the kids birthdays

[tacom]

Also can we talk about how much progesterone sucks? I cried real tears watching Grey’s anatomy yesterday and then again watching unexpected today. I am not a crier (outside of the TWW). I think I actually scared my dog today.

[seeyalater52]

Nov 20, 2017 18:52:49 GMT -5 tacom said:

Also can we talk about how much progesterone sucks? I cried real tears watching Grey’s anatomy yesterday and then again watching unexpected today. I am not a crier (outside of the TWW). I think I actually scared my dog today.

This Is Us killed me last week. I’m sure having extra progesterone absorbing directly into my vaginal walls (lol) didn’t help at all.

I just journaled for like an hour and cried and I kind of feel better I guess.

[tacom]

Nov 20, 2017 18:58:14 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 20, 2017 18:52:49 GMT -5 tacom said:

Also can we talk about how much progesterone sucks? I cried real tears watching Grey’s anatomy yesterday and then again watching unexpected today. I am not a crier (outside of the TWW). I think I actually scared my dog today.

This Is Us killed me last week. I’m sure having extra progesterone absorbing directly into my vaginal walls (lol) didn’t help at all.

I just journaled for like an hour and cried and I kind of feel better I guess.

Sometimes you just have to Get. It. Out.

I have a bunch of this is us saved up on my DVR. Weekly plan??

[seeyalater52]

Nov 20, 2017 19:06:30 GMT -5 tacom said:

Nov 20, 2017 18:58:14 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

This Is Us killed me last week. I’m sure having extra progesterone absorbing directly into my vaginal walls (lol) didn’t help at all.

I just journaled for like an hour and cried and I kind of feel better I guess.

Sometimes you just have to Get. It. Out.

I have a bunch of this is us saved up on my DVR. Weekly plan??

It’s sooooo good. And so sad. But warning there is a pregnancy storyline so if that’s going to kill you don’t do it.

[compassrose]

Nov 20, 2017 20:42:13 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 20, 2017 19:06:30 GMT -5 tacom said:

Sometimes you just have to Get. It. Out.

I have a bunch of this is us saved up on my DVR. Weekly plan??

It’s sooooo good. And so sad. But warning there is a pregnancy storyline so if that’s going to kill you don’t do it.

Thanks for the warning. I'll probably wait. 

And, yes, all hormones come with all the feelings. I wish they didn't.

[melsamoony]

seeyalater52 so many hugs.

1. TTC#2 I can never remember cycle number...4? 5dpo
2. No
3. I just feel out this cycle...no reason just the way I feel.
4. Going to my inlaws on Wednesday and staying til at least Saturday PM. They only live an hour away so we have flexibility about when we leave. I am excited to get some time with them but wish I also had the time to get things done around my house. Oh well this will be more fun.

[katespade]

I never got around to starting the Progesterone I was supposed to take this cycle. Now I'm trying to figure out if it's too late or if it would mess with my 2WW.

I have some severe anxiety issues and it makes taking meds/pills really difficult. I tend to have panic attacks when I start new ones, and I've been having a really tough time talking myself into starting it.

Ugh.

[seeyalater52]

Nov 20, 2017 21:52:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

I never got around to starting the Progesterone I was supposed to take this cycle. Now I'm trying to figure out if it's too late or if it would mess with my 2WW.

I have some severe anxiety issues and it makes taking meds/pills really difficult. I tend to have panic attacks when I start new ones, and I've been having a really tough time talking myself into starting it.

Ugh.

Were you supposed to take it for luteal phase support during the TWW? Or a different reason?

[katespade]

Nov 20, 2017 22:02:54 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 20, 2017 21:52:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

I never got around to starting the Progesterone I was supposed to take this cycle. Now I'm trying to figure out if it's too late or if it would mess with my 2WW.

I have some severe anxiety issues and it makes taking meds/pills really difficult. I tend to have panic attacks when I start new ones, and I've been having a really tough time talking myself into starting it.

Ugh.

Were you supposed to take it for luteal phase support during the TWW? Or a different reason?

I'm just supposed to take it to regulate my cycle length, since my anovulatory cycles are so ridiculously long and none of my cycles have been the same length (43, 65, 32, and now I ovulated on CD37 so I expect this one to be 51-ish).

[seeyalater52]

Nov 20, 2017 22:07:31 GMT -5 katespade said:

Nov 20, 2017 22:02:54 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Were you supposed to take it for luteal phase support during the TWW? Or a different reason?

I'm just supposed to take it to regulate my cycle length, since my anovulatory cycles are so ridiculously long and none of my cycles have been the same length (43, 65, 32, and now I ovulated on CD37 so I expect this one to be 51-ish).

When were you meant to start it? If it was supposed to be for the start of your cycle I probably wouldn’t start taking it now unless you call your doctor and get the ok. I’m sorry the meds are throwing you for a loop, I know its hard.

[katespade]

Nov 20, 2017 22:14:06 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 20, 2017 22:07:31 GMT -5 katespade said:

I'm just supposed to take it to regulate my cycle length, since my anovulatory cycles are so ridiculously long and none of my cycles have been the same length (43, 65, 32, and now I ovulated on CD37 so I expect this one to be 51-ish).

When were you meant to start it? If it was supposed to be for the start of your cycle I probably wouldn’t start taking it now unless you call your doctor and get the ok. I’m sorry the meds are throwing you for a loop, I know its hard.

I'm supposed to take it from CD16-25, but I kept putting it off. First, I said that I wanted to wait and see what my body would do naturally. Then I said that I didn't want AF to show up on my birthday. Then I said that I didn't want AF to get in the way of Thanksgiving plans. And now here I am. Ugh.

I hate that simple things are so freaking hard for me sometimes.

[seeyalater52]

katespade sending *hugs*. I get it.

[gigem]

compassrose hmmm well i am not temping but if i throw out my first cycle after iud removal i seem to ovulate around cd 17 and if my cycles are a bit longer than 30 days I guess then about 14 days but im not sure i have enough data yet to assume anything. Thx for the good thoughts ill c how i make it through today, im usually an evening af starter haha

[bcv513]

Sorry I've been mia lately. Hope it's okay if I jump back in.

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC#2 cycle 8 cd 5

2. Any testing this week? Nope

3. Non-BFP AWs/vents/randoms? H and I had an actual date last weekend and went to the movies. It was really nice to be alone together

4. What are your plans for this holiday week/weekend? We're lucky ( or not depending on how you look at it, lol) that my parents and my ILs live within 0.25 miles of each other. We will eat with ILs at noon and then again at 3:00 with my family.

tacom, I have crohn's too. Let me know if you have any questions about meds or anything.