Vent Our school district has just banned Valentines day because it is offensive. Yes the day about friends and red/pink hearts is offensive. They tried to say it also is too expensive and most of the families in the district can't afford it. Yes we go to a low income school but that doesn't stop the kids from wearing Nike, walking around with IPhones, and parents picking up in brand new cars. I'm really frustrated. First they couldn't celebrate Christmas (ok religious holiday), then this fall they couldn't do Halloween at our school but the school down the street did (same district), now Valentines. I feel like the are discriminating the majority to keep the squeaky wheel quiet.
Random: I passed out yesterday morning around 2am when I went to the bathroom. Crashed from the toilet into the sink and toilet paper holder. DH came running as I freaked by the loud noise and he woke me up. I feel okay but have some nasty bruises that are just all over the place. The worse is the bridge of my nose so wearing my glasses hurts. Tried getting info out of DH last night like what did I hit and where and he couldn't answer anything.
Weekend: Tax Update school all day Saturday, YUCK. Sunday is everything else and a riding lesson.
Vent: I'm sick. I was sick for the entire span of time between Thanskgiving and Christmas. Then I got better. Then we babysat my snotty, feverish niece last weekend and I caught whatever she had. I'm miserable and tired and just want to go home and crawl into bed. And I ran out of tissues at my desk.
Vent: DH is supposed to have a meeting tomorrow, so we made plans to visit my folks and some other relatives on Sunday for a belated Christmas celebration. Now his meeting might be moved to Sunday and he sees nothing wrong with bailing on me to attend, even though he has a conflict. I'm aggravated, since this visit involves a 2 hour each way drive, and he's the one who wanted to make it a day trip, not stay overnight on Saturday.
Post by traveltheworld on Jan 12, 2018 13:00:15 GMT -5
186momx, they banned Valentine's Day!!! WTH? I've never been a big fan of Valentine's Day, but still...that's just extreme.
My Friday random is super long - so my ILs came into a large inheritance. DIL's grandmother passed, and although the family knew she was a saver, they never knew just exactly how much she had saved. So my ILs, who are also savers and are financially very well off, are now in possession of a substantial "extra" sum. My MIL approached DH and I about setting up a trust for DH's older brother so that after they pass, DH and I will be trustees and ensure that BIL and SIL will manage their inheritance properly. Um...no...I refuse to be responsible for that. So after a long discussion, I convinced my MIL that the best thing to do is to give BIL part of that money now so that he can buy a house and start building equity himself. He is approaching 40 and still live like he is in his 20s. So my ILs are now going to "gift" a substantial sum to my BIL as a mortgage down payment. Which, frankly, makes me a bit jealous - even though it was my idea! Sigh.
186momx, If it's "too expensive" to buy the $2 box of paper cards, couldn't they just make it class activities to make cards? I don't know what the major expense of Valentine's Day is for kids in school...
186momx, that is scary about passing out! I did that once and freaked out DH. I ended up going to the ER as a precaution and I had an undiagnosed urinary tract infection.
So this past week has been hard for me. I mentioned before that an investor is interested in buying my company. We are currently owned by a large corporation. Large corporation doesn't want us because we are not that profitable. Investor is super excited about our product and we would fit in well with them. This is looking like a definite thing, so we are doing a web conference with them later this afternoon to understand their vision for us. There are so many unknowns about this investor, including how they will treat us, if we'll still have a flexible schedule, if their benefits are better, our salaries, etc. Then my boss dropped a bomb on us this past Monday saying he is leaving us for a different industry in a different state. He accepted the offer back in August and his new company allowed him to see this investment deal through. I am just in a state of shock. He was a great boss and he is the reason that we have a product to sell. Our CEO is talking about replacing him, but we are stuck until the deal goes through. I'm anxious about all the unknowns and the only way to get some answers is to hang out and see what happens. I really hope these investors are cool and that we can finally feel stable. My company has been rocky since mid 2016 and I'm hoping I don't have to go looking for another job soon.
twinmomma, If DH bails on you go Saturday and stay the night. At least with your parents you can get pampered while they spoil the grandkids for the night.
I totally agree that they could do a class project and make Valentines. I always buy the $ store Valentines and go basic so yes it can be as expensive or not depending on what you buy. I'm totally doing the WTH is the world coming to.
Plans - my brother is in town (military, hasn't been home in 6 months), so lots of family activities which is fun! My mom and brother over for dinner tonight, mom is taking care of dinner since they will all be at my house before I'll get home from work. Tomorrow we are taking the kids tobogganing, need to go grocery shopping after that. Sunday morning, family brunch, DH has floor hockey. Taking the kids to a Ninja course playground in the afternoon. Usual house chores will need to be fit in there.
Random - DD's birthday was Dec 27th. We still haven't booked anything for her friends party. DH didn't want to talk about it before Christmas and our vacation, but now it's getting late. I really don't actually want to plan anything, but she keeps bringing it up. I need to email her teacher for the class list as well. Mostly for kids names spelling, her class is very multicultural with some unique names.
And how could I forget to mention the rain/ice/snow storm heading this way (PA)? Last night, we got a ton of rain, so there is now a bunch of flooding. It is now 60 degrees and the rain will start again during the evening rush hour, when the temp will drop into the 30s. By tomorrow morning, we'll have up to 6 inches of snow on the ground.
So as much as I would like to get to the gym in the morning for my class, I have no idea what I'll be waking up to tomorrow...
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 12, 2018 13:49:39 GMT -5
twinmomma , I hope you feel better! That is miserable to be sick so much.
traveltheworld , this may seem petty, but are your ILs giving your and YH a similar amount? If not, it feels like your BIL and SIL are being rewarded for not being responsible.
Vent: My net pay went down $130 (about 7% decrease) with the tax changes. Apparently my salary must fall in the next tax bracket up now. DH's net pay went up $100, so my decrease was somewhat offset, but we're still now bringing home less than before. I'm hoping our tax return is better now that we'll be eligible for the child tax credit and we should exceed the standard deduction. ETA: Ok, my bad, my pay didn't go down. I was apparently comparing to my last check in December, which was higher because it was the 3rd in the month and my HSA wasn't deducted. (For whatever reason, my company has medical deductions taken out over 24 paychecks instead of 26.) So whew! No need to vent apparently!
I'm hoping for a low-key weekend. DH gets home sometime tomorrow morning. I'll have to do grocery shopping and cleaning at some point. Oh, and I have to get invitations done for DD's birthday party.
I am currently sitting at my office, one of the few people that made it in, doing random odd things that weren't necessary to do today.
I left my house at 6:30 in Dhs 4 wheel drive truck. I followed the salt truck in, but it's snowing pretty hard, so the drive hone should be interesting. I'm leaving at 2:30 and not getting out once I get home.
I'm sure the kids will want to sled tomorrow. We are supposed to do a game night at my aunt's, but Dh will probably try to use the weather to beg off.
I don’t know what is up with DH - he’s being pretty awesome. He’s usually head down out of town about work and this week he stayed here to handle the slab leak and is taking a half day off on Monday to be with the kids and I and isn’t flying out until Tuesday.
Vent: each of my children has been more social than the last. I have no idea how to invite the 18 kids DS really wants at his party because they aren’t all in his class so school invite delivery is out. And the party cap is 25 and at least half have siblings that are friends with one of my DDs. I think I can play off the teens but not the ten year olds. I’m a total rule follower but people don’t always rsvp so now I’m wondering what they do if 30 kids show up. I mean, do they make me send people home if siblings push us over the edge??
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 12, 2018 15:55:23 GMT -5
Vent: we are iced in. Schools were closed today, most weekend activities have been cancelled already and now the snow us coming down pretty hard. Should make for a long interesting weekend. But we don't have Monday off from school so I'll be able to resume normalcy.
Random: thinking about doing a rookie crossfit competition in April. Erinshelley from 6 months ago would be making fun of me.
Vent: we are going on a Valentine's weekend getaway for 2 nights with the group we go camping with. The hotel alone cost $500 because the only room available was a king suite. Thankfully I've got some extra money socked away and it will probably be a really fun weekend.
Vent: DH signed up for supplemental accident, cancer and hospital policies (THREE policies!) - it’s bizarre to me. We didn’t discuss, I just opened the mail to discover three new policies. He doesn’t get why I am like ummmm you changed your benefits??? We go through my benefits enrollment info together to make decisions because I carry all of our benefits but then he just...enrolled? Just weird.
twinmomma , I hope you feel better! That is miserable to be sick so much.
traveltheworld , this may seem petty, but are your ILs giving your and YH a similar amount? If not, it feels like your BIL and SIL are being rewarded for not being responsible.
Vent: My net pay went down $130 (about 7% decrease) with the tax changes. Apparently my salary must fall in the next tax bracket up now. DH's net pay went up $100, so my decrease was somewhat offset, but we're still now bringing home less than before. I'm hoping our tax return is better now that we'll be eligible for the child tax credit and we should exceed the standard deduction. ETA: Ok, my bad, my pay didn't go down. I was apparently comparing to my last check in December, which was higher because it was the 3rd in the month and my HSA wasn't deducted. (For whatever reason, my company has medical deductions taken out over 24 paychecks instead of 26.) So whew! No need to vent apparently!
I'm hoping for a low-key weekend. DH gets home sometime tomorrow morning. I'll have to do grocery shopping and cleaning at some point. Oh, and I have to get invitations done for DD's birthday party.
No, we are not getting a similar amount. BIL and SIL are totally being rewarded for their irresponsible behaviour, but that has always been the case. Our ILs have always bailed them out. It has taken DH almost his entire life to get over how his parents (heavily) plays favourites. But we've learned to just live with it now.
rere, glad you got home okay. Enjoy your snowed/iced in weekend!
2chatter, is it an AFLAC type of policy? I have accident with AFLAC and it does help for all freaky stuff that can happen. DD getting hurt at sports/school. Me throwing my back out doing laundry.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 12, 2018 17:26:53 GMT -5
2chatter better than the alternative. There is an accidental insurance for police and fireman that I didn't even know existed until DH's union rep told me when we are at the ER when DH broke his foot on the job. Someone would have shown up with like $750 just for the simple fact he broke a bone.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 12, 2018 17:30:32 GMT -5
Random/Celebration: I have been home all day and have managed to not mindlessly eat all day. This has never, ever happened. I'm sure it's mostly because there is hardly any bad food in the house, but I'm calling it a win
I just tried out my new gel nail polish set up. Worked great, until I realized I had no rubbing alcohol to clean off the final tacky residue. Used vodka instead. Because of course we have that....
I just tried out my new gel nail polish set up. Worked great, until I realized I had no rubbing alcohol to clean off the final tacky residue. Used vodka instead. Because of course we have that....
No shame. I hope some of that vodka also found it’s way into a glass..
Vent: second round IUI this morning. But because DH has been having such anxiety issues this month, his sperm count is way down. I’m not hopeful for this cycle.
Randoms: new mattress is nice! We have not slept well in it because DH’s panic attacks have him getting up (and waking me up) every couple hours all night but that ain’t the mattress’s fault!
Plans: errands, groceries, all the football. We might go family bowling on Monday. Date night Monday night at a restaurant with a big sour beer list. Yum.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 13, 2018 6:55:32 GMT -5
5k today (Saturday) with my sister and 13.1 tomorrow. I'm excited but it's cold. I hope it's not miserable.
My dad is planning on showing up to the 5k and my sister doesn't want him there. I don't know why she's so hostile about it. Hopefully it doesn't get too awkward.
Other than that...we still need to take down our Christmas tree. Our housekeeper offered to take the ornaments off so if it's up next week I may let her do that.
Heat is out again. We are now hearing our house with 8 space heaters. I feel like this is all my updates. Heat on heat off. It's the techs fault. He didn't know what he was doing and F-ed everything up. New parts and tech supposed to come today.
Weekend back for birthday party and two Christmases went ok. I had a big fight with my mom prior and she still doesn't seem to understand what I was saying but oh well. I tried. We are fine now except like I said she still seems oblivious.
A co-worker has been a huge problem for about a year. She can't let anything go. Anyway, she somehow inserted herself in one of my staff's job duties which involved working with the school district and a special needs student volunteering. She did a lot of over stepping big and highly inappropriate behavior that I am still straightening out months later. Then she listens on my phone calls and tells me she is offended. So I threw a big fit and demanded my boss move my office since we had shared an office.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 13, 2018 10:43:22 GMT -5
DS has a cold and bad cough, so DH kept him home yesterday. It was nice of DH to volunteer since we both had stuff going on at work. I think he mostly decided to keep DS home was because of a mix up where DS tried to explain to his teachers that he needed to change his boots because he had the dress up play area boots on instead of his own boots. But no one understood. So he started crying and they took that as he was upset about being sick. Apparently DH's school didn't get him a sub for his classroom, so they just had roving people teaching? WTF, I'd be pissed as a parent. And I'm sure DH is going to find a mess when he goes back on Tuesday, so I won't hear the end of that.
We've been working on an enforcement operation at work, and I have had to take charge because the resources and people promised for the op were not given to us. There was supposed to be a dedicated supervisor working with us which didn't happen. I hate having to run ops. The one yesterday took much longer than expected, although we did have some good results. I'm just frustrated that the follow up will fall on me too. I want to tell my 2nd line that I'm done, unless certain things happen, but I don't want to be THAT person.
186momx, our preschool doesn't allow Valentines Day celebrations. It's a YMCA, and we're in an affluent area and some kids are on scholarship, so I guess they don't want anyone to be left out or have to spend money on it. Last year, when both my kids were at that preschool, I was happy to not need to even think about one more thing. This year, though, DD is in kindergarten, and given the way they've done class parties so far, I think the other kids are going to go all out, and DS (17 months younger and still in preschool) is going to flip out when DD comes home with candy and little toys and everything.
So, long story short, I'm sending an evite to all the kids in DS's preschool class and inviting anyone who wants to, to meet at the playground in the main Y campus (not within the preschool) after school on Valentines Day to exchange valentines.