luv2rn4fun, estrellita, That's what I don't get. Besides them needing the time, we need them! I don't know how people recover from c-sections alone and then head back to work at 6-8 weeks!
Yeah, it’s really horrible. I know I am lucky that my c sections were both fairly easy recoveries so from that point I was mostly ok (I started running at 3.5 weeks with DS1 and 6 weeks with DS2...and was able to fully care for DS1 and DS2 within 1 week PP). But the exhaustion and then having to go to work and be functional is where I wouldn’t be able to manage as well (or maybe I would!?! It’s not like being home with two kids is a breeze either). The hardest part for me is when I am sick and at home with the boys. I get so frustrated that I don’t get any sick days because we have no help and DH can’t take time off. It wasn’t ideal that DH couldn’t take the time off (and honestly the WFH week was worse because I expected his help or DS1 was worse because DH was home but working and couldn’t play or help) but it also helped me get into a routine very fast and adjusted to our new normal.
I am freaking out about H's time of too. He gets this week and that's it, and half of it has been taking care of J when I'm in the hospital, so we'll have like three days to adjust as a family at home before I am by myself. Thank goodness J can go to daycare.
I really wish he worked for my company. Dads get three weeks paid parental leave plus we have generous PTO, so most dads take a full month off paid. So nice.
I am freaking out about H's time of too. He gets this week and that's it, and half of it has been taking care of J when I'm in the hospital, so we'll have like three days to adjust as a family at home before I am by myself. Thank goodness J can go to daycare.
I really wish he worked for my company. Dads get three weeks paid parental leave plus we have generous PTO, so most dads take a full month off paid. So nice.
((Hugs)) krystee. Will your DH be able to do daycare drop off and pick up? Do you guys have help locally (I think at least your parents are local?)? Say yes to all help! Hopefully your DH can have a little flexibility in the beginning too...leave early if he has to etc.
Prayers it goes smoother than you anticipate. We had a similar situation where DH was home caring for C and didn’t have a lot of time off. C also didn’t have daycare to go to. It all still worked out. It wasn’t easy but everyone survived and eventually adjusted (I will say that it has taken C months to adjust...the first 6 months were rough and then it has gotten a little worse now that L is mobile and into his toys). Definitely a lot longer than I ever imagined it would take.
Post by estrellita on Jan 16, 2018 13:42:54 GMT -5
@opal totally agree! I couldn't imagine being back at work already (A is 6.5 weeks). I'm physically fine and luckily have been for a while but the exhaustion.. ugh. How do they expect people to focus on their jobs?
krystee H spent most of his time off with me in the hospital and if he had only taken a week, he would have been home a full day with us before going back to work. It sucks and honestly makes me angry. My work has 8 weeks I think for dads/non birthing parent and much better benefits and I wish so much he could have found a job at my work. Problem is the only departments I'd feel comfortable with the job security are mine and customer service. I don't think we can work in the same department and customer service entry level would mean nights and weekends. Anyways, I hope things go well for you, I can imagine your recovery is going to be more difficult this time. I hope baby is good and lets you get as much rest as possible!
krystee, you will be ok! My H only took one week off with G and I had a repeat csection. He was born on a Monday, we went home on a Wednesday, and H was back at work the following Monday at only 7 days old. H took B to daycare and picked her up for another two weeks so I was only ever home alone with G for the first few weeks. It was tough but we managed.
MrsMB- I’m glad (edit: I didn’t even finish my sentence!) I’m glad you’re okay, and the daycare thing wouldn’t be weird to me too!
estrellita- you are doing amazing! I could never have pumped as long as you have. If I had a shorter mat leave I would have stopped pumping/breastfeeding sooner. I’ve been pumping since nov and I’m done.
Dd is starting to get an attitude. If she wants something or if you take something away from her her starts crying until she gets it back. We are currently trying to redirect each time but it doesn’t always work. Any ideas?
estrellita- you are doing amazing! I could never have pumped as long as you have. If I had a shorter mat leave I would have stopped pumping/breastfeeding sooner. I’ve been pumping since nov and I’m done.
Dd is starting to get an attitude. If she wants something or if you take something away from her her starts crying until she gets it back. We are currently trying to redirect each time but it doesn’t always work. Any ideas?
Redirect and put said item out of sight if you can. L has mega attitude and massive tantrums (and the loudest shreaking cry I have ever heard). Also, preventative type stuff...if there’s something you don’t want her to have then make sure she can’t get to it. Make her a “safe” place where she can literally play with anything she wants and you don’t have to say “no”. But really, it’s just a tough age until they can talk more and understand. I wouldn’t necessarily get in the habit of letting her have things back though...that will be a harder habit to break.
The baby goes three hours between his MOTN feedings and H and I swapped out at 3 am, so I slept 10:45-1, 1:45-3, and 3:30-6:30. Oh man, I wish he could stay home from work forever.
luv2rn4fun- thanx, currently she melts down if she’s in the bath and we want to use a wash cloth to wash her, but she wants to play with it. Things like that. Usually stuff that she can have but we don’t want her to have in the moment.
Our living room is her “safe place” for the most part. (Aside from the dogs bed, which we are teaching her is a no area, as it’s the dogs safe space)
She was so cooperative before.... lol
And she slept through the night last night!!!!! 7:15-6:10! Then I fed her and she slept until 8. (Which made us all late for the day. Lol)
Post by estrellita on Jan 17, 2018 16:42:57 GMT -5
LC appointment went well today. We did a weighted feed again and she agreed that A seems to be latching better but it's still a work in progress. I talked to her about just trying to nurse a couple times a day and she said that would be fine. She also suggested trying a nipple shield again as a test to see if that helps at all since it'll be more like a bottle. So I'm going to mostly pump but keep trying to nurse here and there. I just wish it were easier but it is what it is I guess. She also gave me some suggestions for supplements to help with my milk supply. I'm going to order one of the blends, I hadn't heard of the company but they have really good reviews and each blend is specialized for different situations. Hopefully it'll help me keep up with her intake!
awick14 I thought 12-17 months was challenging because they have such big personalities and preferences, but little vocabularies. It's a fun age, but not a super easy one for sure!
Did anyone here have a LO with a blocked tear duct that needed a doctor to resolve it? We thought we may not need it, but it's still there. Pedi said she'd give us a referral to an eye specialist at the year mark.
Super long night here. L screamed for 3+ hours at bedtime and then woke up 2 more times after I finally got him to sleep. Both boys are going to be exhausted and I already am. I was supposed to go to Bunco tonight but I am going to cancel. Even if L went to bed easily I still don’t want to miss out on sleep tonight.
I am planning to run today so hopefully I can push myself to do it. I am ending the run at starbucks so hopefully that’s incentive to go. My dad might join as well so that will be nice. I have run two days already this week and plan to do the 3rd today and 4th over the weekend...I haven’t run this much in a long time and it mostly feels good (running with C is fun, L tends to be fussy so it is what it is).
grover : C's appears to have resolved but they did mention to us that they wait 1-2 years now to fix it. I had surgery at our LOs age (~9m)to fix mine and my Mom said it was so hard handing her baby off to total strangers. Hopefully hers resolves itself!
awick14 : C is also a wash cloth fan. I'm guessing an extra wash cloth doesn't help? We grab one for her if she's in that kind of mood.
estrellita : I'm glad the appointment went well. I freaking hated using a nipple shield! It definitely helped C latch for the time we needed it though and hopefully it does the same for you but with less struggle. After our conversation, I actually switched to pumping mostly (so 3 days of it) and I can totally see how this could get frustrating every day. Even just making sure I have a clean pump & storage bottle & drinking bottle (because C is difficult and likes exactly one brand) for the next session is tiring and I SAH. I'm still mentally fist pumping that she'll take a bottle though because FREEDOM.
Post by estrellita on Jan 18, 2018 12:41:54 GMT -5
@opal We used the shield before and stopped using it when she started latching without it. I just tried it again this morning and I'm not sure it helped. I wish I was confident enough that I could keep up with her intake with pumping. With nursing plus pumping, I seemed to be ahead and even started putting some in the freezer, but now with just pumping I'm worried we're going to be dipping into the formula again. Which is fine I guess but I don't want to if I don't have to. We've been doing so well!
Post by estrellita on Jan 18, 2018 17:19:55 GMT -5
H got approved for another week unpaid! So not next week but the week after he's taking off. I'm so happy for both of us to be able to get a little more sleep. I'm hoping she will start spacing out her nighttime feedings soon so we can both start feeling more rested!
Post by luv2rn4fun on Jan 18, 2018 17:54:38 GMT -5
Went for a run (3.75 miles) and finished at Starbucks! Walked the rest of the way home. I set a goal of 12 miles for this week and have already reached it, which is good since it’s supposed to be “cold” this weekend and I am not sure I will want to take C for a run.
C’s preschool was able to start a new class! He will start 1/31! I am so excited because I know he needs this but also feeling a little sad that he is growing up so fast. But I am hoping it helps with discipline...he is hitting and being mean to everyone way too much (especially L). So much so that I am worried he might get kicked out...but hopefully he will do better there than at home...
L has started doing this new horrible cry and it’s so annoying...and loud. Anyone else deal with bad separation anxiety? I didn’t have these problems with C so it’s all new territory.
We threw in the towel a few weeks ago when he showed zero interest and decided to revisit it in late February when we know what we're doing with two kids. Yesterday, daycare tells us he peed on the potty three times and had only one wet diaper all day. Today, his diaper stayed dry the entire day, and he peed on the potty four times and at home tonight.
He just sort of seems to be using the potty now, and that was that. We literally did nothing.
I don't quite know what to do since we were not expecting this, and I am not really in the physical shape to be bending down and cleaning up accidents at the moment. But I guess we're going with it! I'm thinking we'll try a pull-up tomorrow and underwear on Saturday and see how it goes!
suzv our daycare's policy is if they are throwing or playing with their food, the food is removed. It's not really a punishment, more an enforcement of routine and keeping mayhem from starting at the table. I would hope that if he was showing signs of hunger later that they would offer a quick snack. Our classroom at that age always had goldfish and cheerios on hand when kids got restless.
suzv our daycare's policy is if they are throwing or playing with their food, the food is removed. It's not really a punishment, more an enforcement of routine and keeping mayhem from starting at the table. I would hope that if he was showing signs of hunger later that they would offer a quick snack. Our classroom at that age always had goldfish and cheerios on hand when kids got restless.
suzv- I would agree with this. L is very much in a throwing food phase (has been for months). I am trying very hard to stop meal time when he does this in hopes that it stops. Our pediatrician has said at his last two appointments that if he’s throwing food that it’s a sign that he is done and wants to move on to playing again. But yeah, if she thought he was hungry then I would expect her to offer a snack.
krystee Congrats on no work potty training. That's amazing! S has been similar. She still has some accidents, but makes it most of the time, even out in public. Meanwhile M is going on age four and still can't seem to get his act together... *sigh* I think using pullups for several days even while you heal is more than reasonable. You have a lot to worry about right now as it is.
suzv I remove food from my kids if they throw it. It seems like the only way they will learn? I'm sure if he was hunger crying later they would have fed him. I hope! Curious to hear what your daycare says.
So lately M takes "rest" time while S naps. It's great and I can take a little break too...but it is SO hard to choose between a nap and sewing/cleaning/tv. I want to do both every day. lol.
@opal- she had 3 wash cloths in her hand but still wanted the one dh had. Ugh!
Yay krystee, I hope he continues to use the potty.
suzv- I would be annoyed that they didn’t let you know the policy on what happens when kids throw food. She should have mentioned it instead of just repeating “he’s hungry.”
We also take away food if DD is throwing it. She tends to throw it at the dog or drop it by the dog if she doesn’t want to eat. (Of course the dog lays beside her high chair when she is eating lol)
DDs in this fun stage where if you tell her no she just looks at you and shakes her head “no” and does whatever she was doing anyways. 😳
Post by estrellita on Jan 20, 2018 15:34:57 GMT -5
We just picked up supplies today for E's birthday party! I can't believe he will be 3 in a month! We're doing Paw Patrol and his party is going to be at a gymnastics place. I have this irrational fear though that no kids will show up and he's going to be sad.. I really hope everyone can make it!
We just picked up supplies today for E's birthday party! I can't believe he will be 3 in a month! We're doing Paw Patrol and his party is going to be at a gymnastics place. I have this irrational fear though that no kids will show up and he's going to be sad.. I really hope everyone can make it!
That's awesome! C's 3 year party is in a month and we're doing Paw Patrol theme at an indoor playground, lol. Great minds
We just picked up supplies today for E's birthday party! I can't believe he will be 3 in a month! We're doing Paw Patrol and his party is going to be at a gymnastics place. I have this irrational fear though that no kids will show up and he's going to be sad.. I really hope everyone can make it!
That's awesome! C's 3 year party is in a month and we're doing Paw Patrol theme at an indoor playground, lol. Great minds
Funny thing is we took E to pick a theme today and it was almost Jake and the Neverland Pirates which is totally random because he's only seen that show a couple times. We started grabbing stuff (which was all on sale!) and he decided he didn't want that anymore. Of course after starting to grab Paw Patrol stuff he wasn't wanting that either but I think he just wanted to go around trying on all the hats in the aisle, lol. Also, our second choice for the party was a Rainbow play systems place that does parties! I would have liked to do an indoor playground but there aren't any that close. I was having a hard time finding places close and not super expensive!