What’s up?

[Jalapeñomel]

It’s quiet over here. I’ve been hiding away, because we opted out last month. I started cycling again on Friday, and I’ll have my follicles looked at on Wednesday morning. I think my next IUI will be over next weekend.

[grover]

I'm ready to do my first iui cycle for #2, but I can't with my school schedule this year (if I had kept first period plan I could have made monitoring appointments work.) Alas, I'm counting down til May/June and we're half-heartedly trying on our own.

[seeyalater52]

Jan 20, 2018 23:18:30 GMT -5 grover said:

I'm ready to do my first iui cycle for #2, but I can't with my school schedule this year (if I had kept first period plan I could have made monitoring appointments work.) Alas, I'm counting down til May/June and we're half-heartedly trying on our own.

I think we are looking at our next IUI around then too. I’m super frustrated about the wait but there isn’t anything I can do about it so I am just trying to chill out.

[seeyalater52]

Jalapeñomel I’m keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well for you. If not you’ll be one IUI closer to qualifying for additional treatments, right? Idk if it helps you at all but I like the feeling of knowing the next step and feeling like
what I’m doing is working toward it.

[MrsE]

This month was our first month TCC. We had terrible timing because DH wasn’t feeling well the day of and the day after my peak OPK, but I am still in the TWW. My cycles have been very consistent for the past few months and my period usually always comes on the morning of what would be CD28. That’s today so we’ll see.

[compassrose]

I had my d&c a week ago Friday, so I’m still recovering. I have my follow up with my useless OB on Tuesday and then my RE consult on the 29th. I’m waiting on the genetic testing from the d&c and overall hoping the next few months give us some answers/options.

[compassrose]

Jan 20, 2018 18:35:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

It’s quiet over here. I’ve been hiding away, because we opted out last month. I started cycling again on Friday, and I’ll have my follicles looked at on Wednesday morning. I think my next IUI will be over next weekend.

Good luck with your IUI! Let us know how your Weds appt goes!

[Jalapeñomel]

Jan 20, 2018 23:31:51 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Jalapeñomel I’m keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well for you. If not you’ll be one IUI closer to qualifying for additional treatments, right? Idk if it helps you at all but I like the feeling of knowing the next step and feeling like
what I’m doing is working toward it.

Yes this is so true, since we need 3. Were planning a trip to Ireland and Scotland in late June, so ideally I’d like to wait to get pregnant in late April early May (also ideal time for teaching).

However, I’m now thinking about the financials of it all, like can we really afford another child in daycare for three years? What about after school activities and having to buy another car?

It’s all so overwhelming, and it would’ve been so much easier had I just gotten knocked up without all the damn time to think.

I’m also having an existential crisis about turning 40 this year, which I thought would be NBD. Lol

[melsamoony]

compassrose so many hugs and thoughts for you right now.

Good luck Jalapeñomel

This cycle is cycle 2 post miscarriage and I am in the 2WW. This cycle has been easier than the last cycle emotionally but I am still a little bitter to be TTC again. I o'd when I usually do this cycle as opposed to a late o last cycle. Our timing was pretty good but my bigger fear overall now is not the getting pregnant but rather the staying pregnant.

Otherwise life is good.

[seeyalater52]

Jan 21, 2018 9:51:36 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Jan 20, 2018 23:31:51 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Jalapeñomel I’m keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well for you. If not you’ll be one IUI closer to qualifying for additional treatments, right? Idk if it helps you at all but I like the feeling of knowing the next step and feeling like
what I’m doing is working toward it.

Yes this is so true, since we need 3. Were planning a trip to Ireland and Scotland in late June, so ideally I’d like to wait to get pregnant in late April early May (also ideal time for teaching).

However, I’m now thinking about the financials of it all, like can we really afford another child in daycare for three years? What about after school activities and having to buy another car?

It’s all so overwhelming, and it would’ve been so much easier had I just gotten knocked up without all the damn time to think.

I’m also having an existential crisis about turning 40 this year, which I thought would be NBD. Lol

I know we are in really really different situations, but I can TOTALLY relate to the too much time to think thing. Part of this break is obviously the cost of treatments which for us is a huge expense, but part of it is my wife’s job situation and feeling like we can’t quite afford a kid in daycare and all the other expenses that go with it after some unexpected stuff happened this year. Everyone is like “oh you’ll figure it out.” But like, how? Overthinking is definitely my enemy, and the reality of doing interventions means it feels like I’m planning in a different way than I think it would feel if we just got knocked up, though obviously I have no idea what it would feel like to have sex knowing we could possibly get pregnant so maybe I’m underestimating it.

This is IUI #2 for you though so all that aside you’re getting closer to at least having the freedom to make the decision that is right for your family. <3

[seeyalater52]

melsamoony I’m sorry you’re back here again but glad things are back on track and you’re able to try again.

compassrose YAY for the RE! I hope they are much more helpful than your useless OB and that the genetic testing is helpful info for you to have.

[katespade]

I’ve been feeling like I don’t have much to add to discussions here, because I’m still not ovulating. I’m just sitting around pretending we’re TTC, while my body refuses to even give us a chance. My last TWW was in November, and in eight months I’ve only ovulated three times.

I have an appt with my doctor on 2/8, and hopefully we’ll talk about next steps.

[melsamoony]

katespade sorry for the lack of cooperation from your body. That sucks.

[compassrose]

I'm so sorry katespade . Clomid or Femara are really helpful for a lot of people in your shoes, getting your body ovulate. And it's cheap and really easy. My regular OB was able to give me a script for the lowest dose. I hope something like that will work for you.

Jalapeñomel , I liked your post in solidarity. I hear you and seeyalater52 on the overthinking everything. Like we really don't have an extra $20K for fertility treatments and we have three teenagers to get through college, so is it really a good idea to go ahead when it's not a good idea financially? But no one has kids for financial reasons...

[seeyalater52]

katespade I really hope your doctor has some suggestions for getting things on track with your ovulation. I can relate in some ways to your feeling that you are pretending to TTC but kind of aren’t.... if we can’t pony up the money we don’t get to try. So physically we aren’t really trying, but emotionally it feels like we are, plus the added frustration of not being in control of when we will be able to do somenthing that could give us even a chance of being successful. It is so hard. Hugs.

[MrsE]

Big hugs compassrose and katespade

Good luck Jalapeñomel and melsamoony

[Jalapeñomel]

katespade this is so frustrating. I hope you get some answers from the doc.

[pickel]

Jan 21, 2018 13:08:21 GMT -5 compassrose said:

I'm so sorry katespade . Clomid or Femara are really helpful for a lot of people in your shoes, getting your body ovulate. And it's cheap and really easy. My regular OB was able to give me a script for the lowest dose. I hope something like that will work for you.

I am in this boat too. I was prescribed a low dose of Femara from my OB, little side effects and it cost $8.