Post by supertrooper1 on Feb 22, 2018 10:44:06 GMT -5
I got picked up as a SME for a new computer program in March. It will only be 3 days plus 2 travel days, but I'm excited.
Do you all remember my fake doctor's note coworker? She faked the note, was put on modified duty for months, on the verge of being terminated and then got one day without pay. She left in October for a new location and I never thought I would see her again. Well...she was picked up to go to this same SME workshop that I was picked for. She didn't even know how to use the old system, so how is she a SME? I've been using the old system for 10 years and know it inside and out and am considered the go-to person at my location.
supertrooper1, thats exciting. I wonder if her new department is trying to make her useful.
Potty Training is going ish:
My kid has an accident about twice a day. Both at home. Once first thing in the morning. I think he is waking up because he is peeing himself. Then he has another one between getting home from school and bed time. He REFUSES to pee. I will put him on the potty and he will sit and not go. Less than 10 min later he will have an accident on the floor. He hates our potty, but won't go on the little one either. They tell me he goes at school, but I am not sure he actually peeing. He is pooped trained though. So that is good.
SFIL:
He is back in the hospital and septic. He will be there for at least a week, but the doctors said that they caught it early and while it is dangerous, it could be much worse. His lungs are clear though. I am hoping that after this he might be healthy for awhile.
The recruiter I talked to last week wants to set up a phone interview. It appears they'd be able to meet my salary request. But... I don't really want to make a move. And not while I have so much else going on. Would you take the call? Back out beforehand? I only have so many competitor companies locally that I can go to if/when I really need to make a move, so I want to do my best not to leave a bad impression.
DD has recently started wetting the bed, so that's fun. Also, DS pees through his diapers 75% of the time and gets pissed when we take his jammies off first thing in the morning. I'm talking full on 10-15 minute tantrums. So yeah, we've been starting most mornings off with at least a little extra urine in our lives. It is... not fun.
They still haven't scheduled DD's MRI. I don't want to be the crazy lady bugging them, since I've already emailed them earlier this month about scheduling (...and got the response "it's all good. It will get scheduled." literally. That's what the surgeon said word for word.) But we're less than 2 weeks out from the milestone they wanted to schedule around, and if I need to take time off work, I need to submit the request... I don't think they realize that I've got so many balls that I'm juggling right now that if I can't keep everything coordinated, it will all come crashing down around us at any minute.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 22, 2018 11:34:47 GMT -5
supertrooper1, maybe they are trying to get rid of her for a week.
I dropped DS off at the new potential school for his visitation/evaluation day. He went in very confident and energetic until he actually saw the class - ya'll, I didn't really fully appreciate the fact that DS is in a class of 3-6 year olds and, although he is the size of a 3 or 4 year old, he blends in just fine b/c of the mixed ages. But in this class they all towered over him by a full foot. He was so scared when they kind of surrounded him to welcome him.
But LUCKILY a little girl is there from his Karate class. He was so relieved to see her and she was very excited to see him! This is going to be good, I think!!
I'm picking him up today at 3:20 and we're going to get ice cream while he tells me the 411 on what happened. I. Can't. Wait.
I had dinner and drinks this week with a work friend who dropped the bomb that he’s leaving the company in short order. I’m sad for me but so happy for him. He has all the same issues I do... toxic work environment where intelligence and loyalty aren’t valued, knowledge that we aren’t going anywhere in our careers. And the kicker... we have 20-25 years more to work. The thought of being here another two decades literally made my stomach turn. So I’m going to start looking for a new job.
The wrinkle is that I’m not going to look for a law job anymore. I’m going to go for an environmental/planning job. I think I have a good shot at landing somewhere good. He’s only been looking three weeks and already has multiple opportunities with gigantic, prestigious companies. So if anyone knows of someone who is looking for a permitting and sustainability lead, let me know. I’m excited and terrified.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 22, 2018 12:07:32 GMT -5
k3am, I would call them back (don't do a phone interview) and let them know that after further consideration, you are not interested in relocating at this time due to family (or whatever reason you want to throw out there).
mommyatty, good luck on your career path change! That sounds exciting.
supertrooper1, I'm astounded that the fake-doctor's-note person is not only still there, but considered an SME...that is crazy! You'll have to give us another update after the training.
DH has been traveling this week, but will be hope tonight. DD has been a handful, it is very sweet that she wants to put band aids on me, but at 9:30pm she just needs to stay in bed. She has been overdramatic this week, and I think its because she needs to sleep.
FWP - the PR folks at my university had scheduled an interview with me. I did not know that they were bringing a photographer. I am wearing jeans and a long sleeved t-shirt (and no makeup)....oh well, guess I look like a real live professor.
k3am, I would call them back (don't do a phone interview) and let them know that after further consideration, you are not interested in relocating at this time due to family (or whatever reason you want to throw out there).
mommyatty, good luck on your career path change! That sounds exciting.
supertrooper1, I'm astounded that the fake-doctor's-note person is not only still there, but considered an SME...that is crazy! You'll have to give us another update after the training.
Here’s the funny part. It’s not a career path change. I’m a lawyer and handle litigation. But 70% of my time involves running environmental audit, construction permitting, and sustainability for a Fortune 200 sized company. I’m just looking outside for a position like what I’m doing now. So why does it seem so very scary???
On the money issue I think therapy is still a good idea, but I think I have resigned myself that we won't get ahead until or even start getting ahead until we are done with medical appointments.
I am stopping both therapies at the latest the end of May because I don't think it's worthwhile to pull him out of swimming with its strength and sensory benefits to go to OT. He does have his 2 year heart appointment in June. We have to pay for summer camps. So I guess we won't start make by a dent until August when they are back in school. And hopefully no more doctor appointments.
The only thing I see left to work on is the eye tracking issue. I took a couple of the visual therapy quizzes and he only scored like 3 out of 30 questions so I don't see paying out of pocket more thousands of dollars (not covered by insurance). And his reading is good. So hopefully we can just work on it in OT.
But after researching visual therapy now I am confused if I should take him to a pediatric opthamologist since they really seemed to not endorse them and say they just do surgery. So I am not really sure where to go from here with a minor eye tracking issue. Just regular optomistrist and OT? I just don't know what causes it? Muscular? Neurological? And w Ave never been to neurology either. We've been dancing around neurology but he hasn't fit the criteria to go so I haven't pursued it. As I put in other posts the strength thing seems to be related to him being double jointed.
k3am, I would call them back (don't do a phone interview) and let them know that after further consideration, you are not interested in relocating at this time due to family (or whatever reason you want to throw out there).
mommyatty, good luck on your career path change! That sounds exciting.
supertrooper1, I'm astounded that the fake-doctor's-note person is not only still there, but considered an SME...that is crazy! You'll have to give us another update after the training.
Here’s the funny part. It’s not a career path change. I’m a lawyer and handle litigation. But 70% of my time involves running environmental audit, construction permitting, and sustainability for a Fortune 200 sized company. I’m just looking outside for a position like what I’m doing now. So why does it seem so very scary???
My H used to be a Leed Certified Engineer back in the days before his MBA. Sounds somewhat similar. He used to go to the permitting office a ton. Not that that was fun but whatever. Not scary at all - do it!!!
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 22, 2018 13:29:40 GMT -5
Sales season is almost over!!!!! I have 3 more meetings left then I get my life back. At the point I will start to really decide what my next move is. There are 3 options in front of me. 1. Continue selling P&C - this sounds scary because it would just be a lot of work and sales and I just don't know if that's the right move. 2. WFH as a processor for new agency - I guess this is still a possibility. At first when we merged it sounded like it wasn't but they picked up another agent with a lot of business so we will see. This is my preference. 3. Find something completely different - job market is kind of scarce in town and neighboring towns so this is a long shot. We don't want to move towns either as free childcare is where we are now. I like saving that $10k per year.
During the down time between sales and busy summer season, I'm going to apply for jobs and also take as many CE classes as I can to beef up my p&c knowledge. Those classes usually motivate me and I have to renew my license anyways. My brother keeps trying to convince me to keep doing what we've been doing the last couple months and we've had some success, but he has no idea the amount of restraint it has taken me to do this. Working with him is becoming difficult again. And I hate that.
I prefer option 2 and then option 3. I've spent the last 4 years taking pay cut after pay cut, which isnt fair to my family. DH and I have plans and dreams that I want to see come to life and option 1 would make them more difficult. We never imagined DH being the breadwinner since firefighters don't make much money, but he has been by 10k every year and where we live that's a lot of money. It's time for me to take some of the pressure off.
mommyatty, good luck with the career change. I’m sure it seems so scary because you’ve been doing the lawyer thing for so long.
I have a sad update on my FIL. He’s been battling cancer for a few months now (it’s some type of lymphoma but details are hard to come by with DH’s family). Went through chemo, had a PET scan and it showed more spots. Went through more aggressive chemo and was scheduled to have another PET scan. Instead, he developed pneumonia and has been in the hospital. I’m guessing they ran the PET scan while he was in the hospital and noted his spleen is enlarged and taking over his stomach. They told him there is nothing more they can do. They are giving him weeks, maybe a couple of months. He’s a veteran and When he was first diagnosed, he was going to the VA hospital but more recently has been going to a bigger hospital in the city near them. I feel like something should/could have been done sooner if he just went to the bigger hospital from the start, but I guess you never know. Maybe this would have been the outcome anyway. It’s so sad and I feel awful for DH and his sister and their stepmom.
ilovelucyvv, justcheckingin73, it's frustrating because I would make a move for the right position. I just don't know how to find out if that's what it is without engaging further. Now is not the perfect time to do it, but there's never a perfect time.
k3am- can you take the interview but clarify with the recruiter what you would be willing to move for? I always do that in terms of “I don’t want to waste anyone’s time but I’m intrigued enough to talk.”
k3am - if it’s possible you would move to this company for this position, continue.
If it’s not explain to them in an EEOC friendly way that you can’t do it right now. Something like you are heading up a big project.
DD is home for day three in a row. Barometric migraine. We see the neuro tomorrow. Math teacher still hasn’t had her make up her midterm but I am guessing as she literally has a 100 in that class, it’s no longer showing as an incomplete. But she has track tryouts next week and I am overall worried. I hate that her health affects her life. The coaches have to field the athletes that will bring home wins - we are in a large and Uber competitive district. I just want the neuro to fix this. I told DD to research Spring Break weather before starting a 30 hour volunteer project that she is spearheading and isn’t required. I really just want her to be able to surge ahead in life and not be held back by health issues. Ugh.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 22, 2018 16:07:03 GMT -5
I have an update on my aunt who has cancer: My parents went to visit her yesterday, and she said that after 2 chemo treatments, the cancer is not spreading, and has even decreased in some areas. Yay! She is also feeling well, except for nausea on days 2-5 after chemo and general tiredness.
Post by supertrooper1 on Feb 22, 2018 16:25:21 GMT -5
justcheckingin73, She just IM'd me and sent her flight info, as if she wants me to take the same flight as her. I fly out of our regional airport and would connect at the airport she's flying out of. So I gave her the excuse that I might not be able to get the flight connections to work. I think she thinks she knows more than she does. I trained her, but she had no interest in learning and didn't pick much up from me.
justcheckingin73, She just IM'd me and sent her flight info, as if she wants me to take the same flight as her. I fly out of our regional airport and would connect at the airport she's flying out of. So I gave her the excuse that I might not be able to get the flight connections to work. I think she thinks she knows more than she does. I trained her, but she had no interest in learning and didn't pick much up from me.
When I worked for the federal government I had a coworker I HATED. She told our admin to always book us seats together. I offered to bribe our travel people to always put me as far away from her or on different flights if possible. They hated her too, so they did it without the bribe, lol!
Confession? I ask a colleague for Flight info then act super bummed we can’t be on the same flights. I ask because I don’t want to hang out with anyone from work in an airport at 6am.
DS went to PT today and did fantastic. I told her I wanted an exit date and she said she wants to work a little more but it was up to me, so we agreed on March 22, so we can do more and have an exit date. Yay!
1. A crazy, scathing review of my old department came out on Glassdoor this week. Names the CMO and says terrible (but true) things about him. So now my friends and I are all trying desperately to figure out who wrote it.
2. Things with DH are OK. They could be better, but honestly, we are both so freaking tired all the time. We haven't been out on a date in 6 weeks. We are going out this weekend, so hoping we can reconnect.
3. I think I'm going to stop the Zoloft. I'm still acting crazy with my PMDD, except now I'm also pretty depressed around this time of the month, I'm totally sluggish, and I'm eating a ton, which means I've put on weight in the last month. I'm on an extremely low dose, but had a lot of side effects (nausea, insomnia, sluggishness, weight gain, headaches, etc.). Totally not worth it.
Post by traveltheworld on Feb 22, 2018 21:00:37 GMT -5
SOS - my ILs (who live only 2.5 hours away) wanted to come visit. I love my ILs, but I told DH that right now is probably not the best time since we just got back from vacation 2 days ago, I'm swamped at work, haven't even unpacked, the house is a mess, and I really don't want to have to entertain after 12/14/16 hours of work. It would be just as easy for them to come visit next week.
Of course DH didn't mention it to them. I could have talked to them, but was too busy and forgot, so now they are here.
Other random update: I took DD to a walk-in clinic last night because she had this weird streak at the top of her head. Turns out it's solar dermatitis, no big deal. BUT, we had to check her weight and height while we were at the clinic and she's 10th percentile on both!!! This is the tallest/heaviest she has ever been! Wohooo!
Confession? I ask a colleague for Flight info then act super bummed we can’t be on the same flights. I ask because I don’t want to hang out with anyone from work in an airport at 6am.
I used to do this. Or, if we were on the same flight, I'd hide out at another gate until the last possible second before boarding.
My update: root canals suck. Even more so when the dentist keeps saying "Wow, your mouth is so small, this is almost impossible" the entire time. And apparently my teeny tiny mouth means I have to go back for a second procedure in a couple weeks. They couldn't fix it all at once.
This is a cautionary tale folks. I hadn't been to the dentist in 10 years. I've now been 3 times in one week and have 2 more appointments on the books.
justcheckingin73 After the VA experience with my late father, I would tell anyone to run from the VA health system. It was the most incompetent, bureaucratic, inefficient set up I have ever seen. Ds has been intrigued by the military thanks to his uncles, but I have actively discouraged it. It is criminal how that system treats vets who put their life on the line for their country, and I don't want my child anywhere near it.
I remain super stressed to the point of not being efficient at work. I have too many projects to even ASSESS, much less COMPLETE. I feel like I am drowning. My boss asked what I can offload but everything is related, and unfortunately, my experience with offloading has been it creates more work for me to re-do subpar work. I am making a short list of things I care less about - but if you guys have any tips - hook me up.