Post by covergirl82 on Mar 8, 2018 13:00:13 GMT -5
So I had MIL's dates wrong for her Disney World trip with SIL and SIL's family. MIL leaves tomorrow and comes back on the 14th, so I won't have an update until next week if her relationship with SIL has survived the trip.
(Although I'm not sad that MIL won't be at DS's basketball game this week. I'm so close to losing it and having a talk with her about not saying "miss it!" every time a player from the other team tries to make a basket.)
I don't even know where I left off last time; I have a lot though.
SFIL:
My SFIL is back/still in the hospital. He is septic or his guts are. I don't really have a good understanding of the situation and I hate pestering my MIL for updates. She is loosing her mind right now and there is nothing we can for her. It sucks.
Co-Worker:
Remember the co-worker I mentioned earlier with drama with her DH? I guess they decided to stick out (think he realized he can't afford to divorce her). I think it'll will last a most 2 more years. That is when the younger one goes to kindergarten and the childcare cost go way down. He still has anger issues and yesterday I heard him through the phone yelling at her and calling her stupid all because he couldn't understand what she was asking for. She can't see that he is abusive and not a good partner.
Friend news:
*TW* Not sure if I ever shared this here, but I have a friend who is due one day before me. She had rough news at his anatomy scan. Heart defect, brain looked off, and they started genetic testing. All of their test came back clear. Now all they are dealing with is a heart defect which is still terrifying but almost a relief after everything else.
Potty Training:
72 hours accident free!!!!
My baby/pregnancy:
everything is going smoothly and I am in the 2nd tri bliss of no more nausea and not huge yet. I probably have about 4 more weeks of this and then on to 3rd tri symptoms.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 8, 2018 16:05:45 GMT -5
This has been a much better week! DS's behavior has been insanely better. We're still dealing with some screaming and fit throwing, but after the conversation the other day about 123 Magic being magical, I've been using it 100% of the time and it's made a difference.
My brother is still pissing me off. Apparently he is the same level of wound up at home too because his wife agrees that he needs to calm down. Next Thursday is the deadline so the next week will probably require more patience than the last 8.
My baby is also going to be 1 tomorrow and it's making me more sad than I anticipated. Probably because she is most likely our last.
Post by librarychica on Mar 8, 2018 17:05:45 GMT -5
Work is still insane. Reading resumes and cover letters hurts my brain. Repairs to rentals are ongoing. Vacation in 9 days.
Thank god.
Someone is supposed to come buy my crib this weekend. Hold me.
Also way overdue TWERK, but agreeing to colead Girl Scouts was a poor decision on my part. Way too much commitment, more paperwork than the government. We will not be rejoining.
Our house didn't appraise for as much as our buyers wanted it to - but it appraised for more than I expected it to! They're getting a second appraisal, so hopefully, it comes out higher. Their financing is supposedly good either way, so I assume their interest rate would be better if the house appraises for more.
We should get the appraisal results on the house we're buying at the end of next week. We need it to appraise for no less than $150k under what we're paying for to keep our interest rate, so cross every body part you own for us, please. Comps in the area are pretty close to what we're paying, so I'm hopeful.
Ds schedule is almost finalized. He has the option of dual credits as a sophomore. I am thinking that is not the best idea that early. We will do some dual credit, college classes, Jr. Sr.yr., but I think it's a little much to ask a 15 year old to decide the rest of his life. Im 4Oish and still not clear. I don't see the point in having an associates by HS graduation if some of the credits don't transfer. I'm thinking only basics Eng.101, math, public speaking, a humanities course.
Talked to SIL about selling our dad's place...again. She said to warn her before I talk to my brother, because you have to tread lightly on this subject. I am about to tread like a buffalo. I'm the one who keeps up with the rent and maintenance and my patience with being a landlord is about done. She forgets we are siblings, I have about as much patience as he does.
Pulling DD out of aftercare has been A-MAY-ZING for her school day behavior. Perfect behavior chart this week after 4 days, which hasn’t happened since the chart started back in October. Not even when we were incentivizing her with Legos. I guess aftercare was even more balls than I thought.
We’re interviewing a high school senior this weekend to be our after school nanny. Hope she can do it. Options are short and DH has had some promising interviews this week. Gotta get this taken care of ASAP.
Post by librarychica on Mar 8, 2018 21:30:35 GMT -5
GS Update part 2: My kid is a bit of a butt in Girl Scouts. She clashes badly with the other leader (she is a nice woman but, idk, they do not get on and DD comes off as sulky and snarky since she saves her outright defiant moments for me), she hasn’t really made any friends and the meetings are at 6:45 so we don’t even leave until her bedtime.
Post by freezorburn on Mar 8, 2018 23:58:54 GMT -5
Guy at work has been leaving me alone. But I still have my guard up. I started talking to my therapist about it. The talk started to go in the direction of how I tend to be very accommodating, but when I'm overwhelmed, my awareness of my discomfort goes quickly from low to high, and I struggle to know how to deal with a situation. My brain wants to be confrontational when plain words would be effective. Lots of food for thought.
Quick update: KILLING IT on this trip! I'm so excited with how well it is going. We've had quite a few hiccups to contend with, but it's all happened behind the scenes and no one has been really impacted by it. They're all happy and having fun. Bosses are super happy with it all, which is what really matters. It is definitely a stressful part of my job, but so fun to see it all come together finally.
freezorburn, That's interesting. Does it feel like your okay okay okay and then one thing sets you off, or is it more like general discomfort all the time that you push away until it is too much? I have had to learn hard boundaries, because mine was the latter. I was ignoring my own discomfort until I couldn't anymore. I had to learn to say no to people and I don't let anyone touch me except for my immediate family and very few close friends.
erinshelley21, apply and see what happens. You would hate yourself if you didn't even try and the opportunity was lost. I know you agreed to help your brother through the summer, but this is your life too. Worse thing that can happen is that they say no.
erinshelley21 , apply and see what happens. You would hate yourself if you didn't even try and the opportunity was lost. I know you agreed to help your brother through the summer, but this is your life too. Worse thing that can happen is that they say no.
I know. The PT schedule would be so I could help my brother. My biggest hesitation is that it is a small town and we are just not quite ready for people to know I'm getting out. Applying would potentially start spreading that news and me working there would definitely start spreading that news.
I may hold off until after next week and talk to my brother about if he thinks me being available only 2 days a week to do meetings would work. Lord knows if he doesn't have 10 seconds to look at an invitation for a shower I am throwing for him and his wife, he certainly doesn't have the time to talk about this.
Post by judyblume14 on Mar 9, 2018 10:14:34 GMT -5
I would like an update on the poster (can't remember who!) who has a cousin who was basically in a love triangle, but not out to the rest of her family? It's been a while, so i need a quick recap, and an update.
I have five hours of back to back 30 minute meetings. Halfway through and I am covered with hives as I try to get things out the door while facilitating/attending calls. Something has got to give with work, y’all, I am drowning.
I would like an update on the poster (can't remember who!) who has a cousin who was basically in a love triangle, but not out to the rest of her family? It's been a while, so i need a quick recap, and an update.
That was oldbaylover1024. I hope I got the name and numbers right and that she sees this lol. We haven't seen her for a while.
2chatter - can you make a case for a temp/contractor / consultant by pointing out that you’ve saved salary $$ since you haven’t been able to fill the full time position??
I do wish that would help - I have open reqs and am interviewing. My last candidate took almost 4 months to get in the door. I want to hope this is financial services but wonder if it’s my firm specifically. UGH.
freezorburn , That's interesting. Does it feel like your okay okay okay and then one thing sets you off, or is it more like general discomfort all the time that you push away until it is too much? I have had to learn hard boundaries, because mine was the latter. I was ignoring my own discomfort until I couldn't anymore. I had to learn to say no to people and I don't let anyone touch me except for my immediate family and very few close friends.
Great question. I think it's more the former. I told my therapist, it's like being unaware that there's a mosquito in the room. I get terrible hives from mosquito bites, so I try to avoid getting bit. Of course if I'm unaware of a mosquito I'm fine. And then spotting it in my peripheral vision. Still fine, but now I'm aware. And then I may or may not be aware when it comes into my space or lands on my body and is about to bite me. It can come into my space many times before it registers as a real threat. Like when it buzzes in my ear, or I feel that pinch, I'm swatting at it. But otherwise it can get close without my realizing it, many times. Does that make sense?
I'm thinking I should review my physical boundaries with my therapist, because it tends to be very situational for me. While the situation at work is very uncomfortable for me, I'm fine with a hug as a greeting in a casual situation, and I do enjoy hugging and cuddling with my son. My FOO is not physically affectionate, but XILs are big on hugging, and I'm always fine hugging them. I miss having the physical and sexual relationship with another adult, but I'm not yet at a place in my recovery from divorce, where I feel like I can or want to put any effort into a relationship, much less finding someone to have a relationship with. And I'm not sure if I'm cut out for a casual relationship. I wonder about that a lot. SaveSave
2chatter, moving a the speed of a glacier? Totally financial services. But I used to have the opposite problem. I made a case to my manager that, in order to do what he needed me to do in the timeframe specified (5 year plan), I needed to hire 25 people in 24 months. At the time, I had 10 people on my team. I needed 11 within 6 months. He gave me one person for the year. My discretionary budget was meant for investing in marketing technology, usability research, and short-term expertise. Instead, I blew it on hiring long-term contractors. Because otherwise, we couldn't even stay afloat. I kept most of them on for more than 2 years before the company figured out that it was much cheaper to hire them as full-time employees. It took that long for the executives to realize that I was right about the department structure, and started pouring money into the department. By then, we were 3-5 years behind the competition.
I hate how finserv is so pennywise and pound foolish. Especially the big companies.