The weekend was up and down. On Friday we went to a birthday party and one of the moms wanted to give me her phone number so that was nice. Saturday was water aerobics, haircuts and then DS was in the local parade. The parade honestly was tiring especially at the end because everyone packed into this tiny building. It was just too crowded and no chairs.
DH was being a jerk Sat night but apologized Sun. Sun I had to work and I am off today but still feeling overwhelmed by my to do list. DD has a cold and since I am off I decided to keep her home to rest which puts another kink in my plans for the day. I was planning to shampoo carpets but DH is on phone calls all day and planning to go shopping but DD is still sleeping. I also have taxes stuff to do and some work stuff.
This is both a vent and a celebration: It’s Spring Break. I am working half days. (Ie I worked a couple hours on Sunday, and will work when I have a spare minute on top of 5 hour days; I may be resentful).
Today we are birthday shopping for DH and getting ice cream with my mom. This evening the kids have gymnastics, are going home with friends for a sleepover, I am getting my hair done, and DD and I are going to a 9PM movie. Omg that is so late. Tomorrow is my only full work day - the kids are in a gymnastics camp with the sleepover friends.
Post by supertrooper1 on Mar 12, 2018 8:42:24 GMT -5
I had a great weekend. Friday was DS's 5th birthday. I was off and did fun stuff with him during the day. We went to Red Robin for his birthday so they could sing to him and he loved it. They told him to hold his sundae high as they sang and he stood tall and proud.
Saturday was DS's roller skating party. It went amazingly well. Only one kid showed up that hadn't RSVP'd but it was the kid with the walker that I was hoping would come. It was his first birthday party and he was excited, as was his mom. He didn't skate, but was able to get out there in his shoes and had fun being a part of everything. DS had a blast. Sunday I had to work but we had the grandparents over for DS's birthday in the evening. DH's grandparents came, so that was nice that they could make it. DH's grandpa will be 98 next week and his grandma is 96.
I leave for my first work trip in 8 years next Monday. It's a busy week with errands, getting ready to leave, a dentist appointment, doctor's appointment, and OT. I need the break from my work location. I came in today to find that the midnight shift left something for me that could have been done at midnight without holding up a truck driver for 6 hours. Just incompetent coworkers.
I'm home! So glad to be back and ready to get settled back into the office. Although it feels like I could use a week off to recover. Now I get to spend today getting a new phone (since mine got caught in a rainstorm and didn't make it out alive on our last day) and getting a root canal. What a life I lead!
Vent/Celebrate. We spent the weekend in a larger metro area about 2 hours away for a friend's son's birthday. We took the kids to Top Golf, Dave and Busters, hotel with indoor pool. We had a great time and I am surprisingly better at golf than I thought. However, we had no downtime and I am tired.
Definite vent. Power went out at 11:00 last night due to an unexpected snow storm. We heard nothing about snow until about 6 hours before the 100% chance of snow storm warning. Kids are out of school, I came in late to work. I had to take them to moms because they couldn't stay home in the dark freezing house, and I don't trust them with a fire place.
First volleyball practice may be tonight, maybe. Depends on the roads.
Post by covergirl82 on Mar 12, 2018 9:18:23 GMT -5
My weekend was up and down.
Ups:
1. DS had a basketball game first thing on Saturday. He made a buzzer-beater shot, but it didn't go in. If it had, the game would have been tied. DH and I told him we were super proud of him for at least attempting the shot in a high-pressure situation. (A lot of parents were counting down the seconds.) He had a fever Thursday evening through Friday evening, but it was gone by Saturday, so he got to play in his basketball game.
2. On a separate note, I finally got most of the cleaning done that I had on my list. Also, DH took the kids to see the monster truck show Saturday night, so I had 3.5 glorious hours to myself.
3. On Friday we sent the payment to pay off DH's truck!! (He got his bonus payment last Thursday.) We also (finally) started a true emergency fund, which now has enough to get us through 1 month if neither of us has a job, or 2-3 months if one of us loses their job. The plan will be to continue to add to it (maybe $50/mo to start), at least until we get up to enough to get us through 6 months if one of us loses their job. We will also be paying off the tires for DH's truck and the furniture we bought last year, and then increasing the payments to my car so we can get that loan paid off next year.
Downs:
1. We attempted to go out to dinner last evening, and DD fainted just after we got to the restaurant. (Thankfully I was holding on to her, so she didn't hit the floor.) We rushed her to the closest urgent care (which was literally 1 minute away from the restaurant) only to be told they had over an hour wait, and would we like to get checked in at another urgent care (20 minutes away)? They wouldn't even have someone come out to look at a child who had passed out. So we went on to the other urgent care. I dropped DH and DD off, and took DS to Subway for a quick dinner. DH told me when we got there later that he was not super impressed with the service. These urgent cares are run by my employer, so I told him if it happens again, he should throw out that his wife works in HR. Anyway, DD was fine by the time the NP came in to see her, and the NP thought it was fainting due to dehydration. (And I tell her EVERYDAY to drink all her water in her water bottle at school. Does she? No.) I told DH that if we have to spend money one more time for medical costs because our kids won't freaking drink water, I'm going to lose my mind. (DS spent 2 days in the hospital last year due to a migraine (although we didn't know that's what it was at first) triggered by exhaustion and dehydration (we had just gotten back from WDW.)
2. Also, it snowed like crazy this morning, and of course it started right at the beginning of rush hour.
The time change and I are not friends. The kids were okay yesterday, but getting them out the door this morning was great. I was flying solo all weekend because DH was out of town for work, and I'm tired. Ds was pretty good, DD was a typical 3 year old. But at least the groceries that I ordered were only sort of wrong, instead of really wrong like they sometimes seem to be (no idea why this store can't figure it out). And DH comes home tonight. I also cleaned out my closet, which desperately needed it.
We went to the mountains this weekend... I snowboarded for the first time since hurting myself last year.. the first two runs sucked because I was so paranoid about getting hurt, but I eventually came around. I'm still nowhere near as brave as I used to be and it shows. We ended up stopping a little early because it was just so stinking crowded, but
We took DD and her bestie ice skating... and DD love, love, loved it. She already has me looking up rinks locally because she wants to go again. Talk about expensive hobbies. (Buuuuuuuuuuut I had been planning on putting her in ski lessons this weekend and didn't so I saved about $400+?)
Post by justcheckingin73 on Mar 12, 2018 10:29:02 GMT -5
covergirl82 - I passed out once when I was a teenager, hitting my head on the way down on a doorknob and my mom didn’t even attempt to take me to the doctor. I think back on that and wonder what she was thinking?! They instead speculated that my iron was low but what if I had some undiagnosed heart condition or something more serious? If it were my child, I would react the same way you did - why aren’t you seeing my child?? ETA: glad she’s OK!
As I mentioned in TWERKS, FIL passed away last week and the services were this weekend. Out of such an emotional and tough weekend, there was laughter and joy of seeing people we don’t normally see and everyone coming together for the family. And so much food! They are from a really small town so everyone puts their grief in food. We brought home a literal garbage bag full of chips!
Saturday evening, DD and I had to drive back since she had a mass and confirmation retreat on Sunday. We got home about 11:30 pm. Sunday turned out to be really nice for me. When DD was at the retreat, I did some grocery shopping, got my car washed, took care of dishes, unpacked, started laundry and went for a 4 mile run. DH drove separately with DS and got home close to 9 so it was a late night for all.
Today is DD’s 14th birthday so she opened gifts this morning and then we’ll do something small for dinner since DH will be working. We’ll do something better this weekend. Speaking of - I’m already looking forward to this weekend! Hoping this is a fast week.
Weekend was up and down. Saturday was DD's last gymnastics class of this session. She moved up levels, and still mastered all the skills in the short session. She can't move up to the next one until she turns 6 (December) so we're skipping the next one and she'll do swimming and skating. Saturday night my mom came over to babysit and we went to my girlfriends for her birthday party. We didn't stay very late but it was still lots of fun. Sunday morning DH had floor hockey, DD usually goes with him but she didn't want to go. So instead of having quiet time while DS napped, I had to entertain her. We played outside in the afternoon and then I was super grumpy trying to get everyone fed for dinner and get ready for the week ahead. DH mentioned going out to grab something to eat but, small town problems, there really isn't much in town, closest places are 20 + minutes away. Such a waste of money and gas to go grab something so I grumpily made dinner.
DH kept asking what was wrong and it sounded so stupid when I was saying "I'm tired of feeding everyone, and deciding what to feed everyone" So he asked what he could do to help... that's the thing, it's the mental load of always making the decisions and delegating. It's not the physical aspect of doing something that exhausts me, it's the mental part of things. Try explaining mental load to a man, he just didn't get it.
Post by sandandsea on Mar 12, 2018 10:38:45 GMT -5
I got the flu so I was home from work Friday and sick all weekend. I got tamiflu on Friday and am staying home today too. So far I’m the only victim and I’m hoping it stays that way. So that was basically my whole weekend. Dh had to work some so I laid on the couch and let the boys have unlimited screen time. Ds1 was incredibly sweet trying to help me feel better this weekend.
katrine05,Exactly. DH texts me when it is his night to cook. What do I want? I want you to figure it out, like I do every night I cook. I did some research on a vacation spot. He acts like he wants me to give a PowerPoint presentation on these things, has a million questions, and wonders why I can't answer them all after an hour of research. I finally got mad and said look it up yourself, I'm done. I'm tired of doing all of the mental planning for everything.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 12, 2018 11:28:53 GMT -5
Asshole strikes again. He told a larger client that I'm out after this year and tried to get them to transfer. And this client told a large referral source, which we were going to do in a couple weeks. I haven't talked to my brother yet. He's an anxious mess enough as it is so I'm hoping he manages to keep it together. He was actually meeting with the client asshole called at the same exact time I found out from our referral source. I'm not calling the asshole out yet, but the gloves are coming off if he calls my 2 biggest and he will get an earful.
DH now has the family plague. He’s the last to fall victim. I’m feeling pretty self-satisfied because he was supportive last week while I was sick but didn’t seem to really grasp just how bad I felt. Now he does.
Saturday was beautiful here weather wise so I took the kids to the park and produce stand to let DH rest. It was so fun and several people stopped to tell me how adorable my kids are at the produce stand. (DS was stopping to sniff every fruit they had, which was really funny.)
Sunday was cold and gray. DS refused to get dressed, so we had a mellow day. I went to Target by myself. And I’m now calling that a “mommy cruise” because it’s so awesome. I got Easter Bunny stuff taken care of. Yay! Plus I had time to repurpose a dress of mine that fit weirdly into a super-cute long twirly skirt for DD.
A funny thing: We have this room that is not attached to our house. You have to go out through our back door and cross a covered breezeway to get to it. It was originally built to be an office for a home-based business. There is a big built-in desk and bookshelves. I put a table in there and it’s being used as a combined storage room/sewing room. DD this week started referring to it as a “thread shed.” Lol! I thought for a five year old, that was very creative.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 12, 2018 13:51:57 GMT -5
I can't get ahold of my brother. I'm trying not to worry, but his wife, my mom and I are all worried about him right now with how stressed he is. His phone is going straight to voicemail.
I can't get ahold of my brother. I'm trying not to worry, but his wife, my mom and I are all worried about him right now with how stressed he is. His phone is going straight to voicemail.
Asshole strikes again. He told a larger client that I'm out after this year and tried to get them to transfer. And this client told a large referral source, which we were going to do in a couple weeks. I haven't talked to my brother yet. He's an anxious mess enough as it is so I'm hoping he manages to keep it together. He was actually meeting with the client asshole called at the same exact time I found out from our referral source. I'm not calling the asshole out yet, but the gloves are coming off if he calls my 2 biggest and he will get an earful.
This is why I'd start applying to the jobs you previously mentioned. People are going to find out anyways. Honestly, I think the best path forward for the business is getting ahead of asshole. Since it sounds like you're such an instrumental part in retaining the client relationships, you should get in front of them - especially the larger ones - and let them know the transition plan and why they want to stay with your brother. Unless there's something in your agreement that prohibits it, I would not be relying on him, clients, or referral sources to keep things hushed.
Asshole strikes again. He told a larger client that I'm out after this year and tried to get them to transfer. And this client told a large referral source, which we were going to do in a couple weeks. I haven't talked to my brother yet. He's an anxious mess enough as it is so I'm hoping he manages to keep it together. He was actually meeting with the client asshole called at the same exact time I found out from our referral source. I'm not calling the asshole out yet, but the gloves are coming off if he calls my 2 biggest and he will get an earful.
This is why I'd start applying to the jobs you previously mentioned. People are going to find out anyways. Honestly, I think the best path forward for the business is getting ahead of asshole. Since it sounds like you're such an instrumental part in retaining the client relationships, you should get in front of them - especially the larger ones - and let them know the transition plan and why they want to stay with your brother. Unless there's something in your agreement that prohibits it, I would not be relying on him, clients, or referral sources to keep things hushed.
I agree. I have to help through the summer season and spring isn't a good time to schedule extra meetings with farmers. They are busy planting and just don't have time.
erinshelley21, can you call the major clients and leave a voicemail. Something like hey I know you are super busy but wanted to tell you that we have merged with XYZ and once things settle down in 6-8 weeks we will be calling to set up a meet to give you all the details. Questions call us. Rumor mills are crazy ugly.
I also hope your brother is okay and just out of cell range.
Weekend went okay. Company was cool and took good care of me. I got free dinner, dishes done, and forced R&R time. Plus they brought and installed a used sit/stand for my office desk. J works as an installer for a big office furniture place (think bank remodel stuff) so it is one that he had taken out and is too old to resell as used so he brought it to me for a b-day present. I'm already in love with it.
Saturday gymnastic meet was pretty cool and I had actually started to relax by the end. Plus DD decided to show off/practice some gym skills over the weekend which hasn't happened for a while.
Time change actually isn't bothering me too much. I think it is because I'm already exhausted so the hour really hasn't affected me. Now DD wasn't happy going to bed while it was light out and told me to wake her in the morning this morning at 7:05.
justcheckingin73, thinking of you and your DH. Does he have to go right back to work?
I survived DH's guy's trip away from home. DD1 had her first soccer game on Saturday at 8am and I'm proud that I got all three kids there by myself ahead of schedule. My MIL was there talking my ear off about their project - they're using BIL's money to buy a house and flipping it and it's not going well. They're over 3 months behind schedule, at break even point and now her nephew that is doing the building part isn't speaking to her. I was annoyed because I was trying to watch the game, keep DD2 entertained and an eye on DD3, so didn't care for all the unloading. They've learned so much though so she wants to buy another house to flip and she will be the project manager this time or drunk BIL could do it...because that will end up so much better! She thinks it will help to straighten him out. I tried not to laugh in her face. So she wants me to come look at the house and help her pick out fixtures and stage it. Hell no. I had to tell her that I can't handle picking out stuff for my own basement finishing right now because I just can't decide on one more thing. There is no mental capacity left here.
My parents took DD1 and 2 for a sleepover on Saturday and it was heaven to have the house to myself. I had the baby but she's the easiest right now!
Celebrations: I PR'd my 5k. Up until this year I've been a 27-30 minute runner on a good day. I did 26:0x at the Turkey trot and was hoping for 25:59 on this run.
I got 24:2x! I'm really happy.
Also my parents are in the midst of a business deal for their company they have owned since before I was born. I'm so happy that retirement is close for them.
<snip> justcheckingin73 , thinking of you and your DH. Does he have to go right back to work?
He went back today. He was with his dad for over a week when he was dying and I don’t think he did any work when he was there. I’m glad he was able to do that even though it was completely awful for him to witness. I’m not sure if he was ready to go back but I think keeping busy will help him.
I love that portrayal. DH does more mental load than a lot of guys so I am lucky there. But he does sometimes forget half the chore like does dishes but doesn't wipe the counter. At least I don't have to say do the dishes I guess.
But the emotional load is what I have been pushing back on with both a co-worker and DH - setting boundaries that I am not a therapist.
campermom, that is exactly what I go through all.the.time!!!
My mental load is so overload right now that things are slipping and falling apart because I just can't handle 1 more thing.
DH is trying to make a water feature with our rain chine. But he wants my opinion and called just a few minutes ago after texting me pictures to see what I thought. I just kept going okay, does it fit, how much, I don't know as I really don't give a shit right now and wanted to scream it can wait, but I kept my cool and was like can't we talk about this tonight after dog class. So I hurt his feelings as he was trying to talk and I didn't as all I wanted to do was finish the tax return I was working on.