Week of 3/19

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, just last week S started refusing bottles a bit and only wanting real food. Especially for people other than me and H. But he seems to be getting back to it now. Also, I am SO excited for you about the changes you have coming up! What an amazing opportunity for your family.

[oneslybookworm]

Mar 22, 2018 7:59:37 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm , just last week S started refusing bottles a bit and only wanting real food. Especially for people other than me and H. But he seems to be getting back to it now. Also, I am SO excited for you about the changes you have coming up! What an amazing opportunity for your family.

Thanks, we're super excited as well!!  J really loves staying home with him, so it's perfect.  I get jealous every now and then, but overall I know my personality is better suited as a working mom.  

[loira]

oneslybookworm, excited for you guys as well! My H would love to be a SAHD and it's an option we're considering, especially if he finds it difficult to get a job up here.

[oneslybookworm]

Mar 22, 2018 18:36:15 GMT -5 spearmintleaf said:

oneslybookworm having a SAHD is THE DREAM. I'm so jealous!!! DH makes all the money around here, so we can't, but he would be better suited to it than I am. Well maybe. He loves to cook and be with the baby, but he relies too heavily on TV for my liking.

Luckily, DH and I make comparable salaries, so either of us could have taken a leave. He’s better suited to it than I am, and I won’t lie, coming home to a clean house with laundry done and dinner started is a dream!! No wonder men are so keen to keep women low in the workplace, they have a cushy ass life!!

Now...if only I made 100 pennies to the dollar...hmmm.

[thoseareradishes]

So E hates getting her teeth brushed. She tolerated it at first, but now she screams and flails around. I know she didn't like the toothpaste so I stopped using it but she is still so pissed. Her gums might be sore, she's still drooling like crazy and sticking her thumb in her mouth like she does when she's teething. Any ideas to make it more pleasant?

She also thinks it is great fun to flip over when I'm changing her diaper. I change her on the floor, so she's not going to get hurt, but OMG IT IS SO ANNOYING. I try to be all, whatevs, I won't let you do that, blah blah, but inside I am SO IRRITATED!

[Chrysanthemum]

Mar 22, 2018 20:51:32 GMT -5 spearmintleaf said:

Mar 22, 2018 19:23:34 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

So E hates getting her teeth brushed. She tolerated it at first, but now she screams and flails around. I know she didn't like the toothpaste so I stopped using it but she is still so pissed. Her gums might be sore, she's still drooling like crazy and sticking her thumb in her mouth like she does when she's teething. Any ideas to make it more pleasant?

She also thinks it is great fun to flip over when I'm changing her diaper. I change her on the floor, so she's not going to get hurt, but OMG IT IS SO ANNOYING. I try to be all, whatevs, I won't let you do that, blah blah, but inside I am SO IRRITATED!

I do my best to make tooth brushing fun. Sometimes I let her brush my teeth, sometimes we make monster faces, sometimes I let her watch a song on YouTube. Most of the time none of that works and it's a battle anyway. I've decided hygiene is my hill to die on (I have two teenagers who are fucking dirt balls) so I physically overpower her and brush them for her if she refuses. She stops crying the second we're done and goes back to being happy and sweet with me, so I don't seem to be traumatizing her! I wish I had better advice, but at least I can commiserate.

I’m so glad this came up, C does NOT let us brush his teeth.  I’m all about making him, but how do I force his mouth open??

[Mushe]

Mar 22, 2018 19:23:34 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

So E hates getting her teeth brushed. She tolerated it at first, but now she screams and flails around. I know she didn't like the toothpaste so I stopped using it but she is still so pissed. Her gums might be sore, she's still drooling like crazy and sticking her thumb in her mouth like she does when she's teething. Any ideas to make it more pleasant?

She also thinks it is great fun to flip over when I'm changing her diaper. I change her on the floor, so she's not going to get hurt, but OMG IT IS SO ANNOYING. I try to be all, whatevs, I won't let you do that, blah blah, but inside I am SO IRRITATED!

OMG, it’s really annoying. We went through phases where I had to hold DS’s arms down with my legs, to brush his teeth. After a very sweet hygienist planted the seed, he’s still, years later, excited when I pretend to find colored sugar buggies on his teeth that we need to eradicate.

I hope she passes through this phase quickly!

[Mushe]

If you took baby aspirin during pregnancy, when did you stop? I don’t want to ask my OB, because he only acquiesced to my taking it, but didn’t order it.

[mpc]

Mushe, Last time I took it the entire pregnancy. I assume I will again this time but haven't asked.

[scm1011]

OMG, the teeth brushing battles! We have them, too. 90% of the time I have to force it while he cries and flails about, which means his teeth don't get as thorough a cleaning as I'd like. Luckily they brush teeth after lunch at daycare, and apparently he tolerates it then (peer pressure!). I'm glad to know he gets at least one solid brushing a day even if I lose the bedtime battle.

[scm1011]

I got a job offer yesterday for a job I REALLY wanted. My current job situation is terrible, so I'm thrilled!! I got the written offer and while I'd take it as is, I countered with a higher base salary and have a call this afternoon to discuss. It makes me so nervous to push back, but logically I know they won't pull the offer from me and maybe I'll get a bump. Thankfully a good friend, MM-er, and former employee of the company has given me insider insight and coaching (thanks, RockNVoll!). I can't wait to seal the deal and give my notice.

I am a little nervous about the change and loss of flexibility (I pretty much come and go as I please at my current job, and have the flexibility to WFH whenever). DS will be in daycare longer, which makes me feel really guilty (his day will go from 7-4 to 7-5:30ish), but its a great step for my career, our household income, and my overall happiness.

[shauni27]

I am not going to lie, reading about the toothbrush battles made me LOL this morning. It is funny to see that this is so universal and that you all basically strong arm your kids. I do this to S to get him to take medicine or frida his nose.

scm1011 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[grover]

My baby is 1! Holy hell did this year fly by extremely fast (and it's amazing since TTTC felt like time dragged on). She had two heel pricks today (they couldn't get enough blood from the first one), and two shots. She finally went down for her morning nap much later than normal. Her family party is tomorrow with my side, then her friends (really my friends who happen to have babies lol) playdate is on Sunday.

[loira]

Mushe, I was originally told to take it through first tri. But then I asked my midwife in the UK if it was safe to continue taking (it was a bit of a security thing for me) and she said yes. Then my OB in Canada told me fine, but stop taking it at 36 weeks because it might affect bleeding during labour/c-section. Lol, I feel like the UN of TTTC with all this international advice.

grover, are blood tests at 1 common in the US?

I have the weird kid who likes brushing her teeth. She has a turn first, then I scrub them afterwards. Although lately she hasn't been too keen on me scrubbing the top ones, so maybe those molars are coming in? She also likes taking medicine...

[grover]

loira, our pediatrician's group does the heel prick to test for iron. Not sure if it's common throughout the US or not. I know in my mom's group some had it done at 9 months, others at 12 months.

[kellikans]

Leo gets to come home today! He's been doing really well with feeding and gaining weight, so they're releasing him.

[pandora89]

So happy the NICU stay was so short kellikans!

[shauni27]

kellikans that is incredible!! I am so pleased!

[King26]

kellikans yay for coming home!

oneslybookworm my husband is a SAHD who never wanted to be one but has ended up really enjoying it. I had a very hard time with it at first but now it just works for us. Plus, DH brings J and a coffee to me at work a few times a week and even though I only see them for 5 minutes it's awesome for me and DH says it's a nice break for the 2 of them too. Plus I get texts and photos all day long while I'm at work. Then when I get home DH either works at home or goes out and does what he needs to outside if the home.

My brother and sil are coming on sunday. I'm looking forward to it but it's hard on sil seeing J because they lost a baby due the same week. I think she's getting better about it though since we've talked about our struggles and that I get it, it's hard , and if she doesn't want to hold him she doesn't have too. (Even though everyone else in the family thinks she should)

[turboteal]

Congrats on the offer scm1011! And way to negotiate!

Yay kellikans! So glad he's coming home so quick! How has your recovery been?

[kellikans]

turboteal, it's been going okay. I'm still sore a week later, especially with getting up and down a lot. I'm still taking motrin around the clock, but haven't had any percocet since the hospital. Taking it one day at a time.

[Mushe]

kellikans, that’s amazing news! So glad Leo is doing so well. Cs are rough, especially stairs!

[dellabear]

Mar 23, 2018 12:25:56 GMT -5 loira said:

I have the weird kid who likes brushing her teeth. She has a turn first, then I scrub them afterwards. Although lately she hasn't been too keen on me scrubbing the top ones, so maybe those molars are coming in? She also likes taking medicine...

Ha, mine too, on both accounts. Maybe Canadian baby toothpaste (and Tylenol?) just taste better.

i haven't had a lot of time lately but I've been checking in quickly to follow along when I can. Congrats kellikans , glad to hear your little guy is doing well.

[scm1011]

Oh @daylily , I'm sorry I COMPLETELY understand wanting time with just your nuclear family before grandparents or others invade. Are they flying in, or is there some flexibility? Here's hoping you go into active labor ASAP. Hugs, friend.

[scm1011]

So excited for you, kellikans! WTG baby Leo!

[Mushe]

Ugh, @daylily, I’m so sorry you’re still waiting! That sounds so frustrating. Good thoughts for you. I remember waiting for DS, and absolutely NONE of the old wives’ tales had any impact. It was miserable.

[shauni27]

@daylily I am so sorry that you have a stubborn baby in there! I hope hope hope you can have some time to yourselves first--any way you can talk to your parents and offer them a hotel for a night so you guys can have your own space for at least 24 hours?

[cactuscookie]

Ugh, @daylily, that's so frustrating. C'mon baby, let's get moving!