@Randoms 3/19

[luv2rn4fun]

Anyone else have kids that don’t sleep when sick? Just me!?!

L only took a 45 min nap today and C still hasn’t slept. I am regretting my decision not to go rob disneyland (they are acting mostly normal but are snotty and C is coughing so I didn’t think it was a smart idea, even if only for a few hours).

We did go for a 6.5 mile run so at least I got some exercise in today!

[estrellita]

My kids just don't sleep in general. Lol.

I don't know why I torture myself trying to nurse A. I keep thinking just maybe I'll be one of those success stories of babies that start/go back to BFing at an older age. We try and every time she just screams like I'm ripping her arm off or something. I try to stay calm because obviously I don't want to force it, but after a bit I end up getting frustrated and upset. Why do I keep doing this to myself??? Logically it's better for everyone to just accept I'm going to EP but for some reason I can't just give myself permission to stop. I was talking to H about it and said that if she did start nursing, I'd probably end up panicking about whether or not she was eating enough. I need to just allow myself to be ok with it. Sorry for being a broken record about this.. I know all moms know feeding a baby is a surprisingly emotional topic! Why is it such a big deal?!

[luv2rn4fun]

estrellita- L is a horrible sleeper too but usually I can count on him to nap well for me. C doesn’t nap most days (but will entertain himself with no toys for 2 hours in his crib).

Sorry for all the BFing frustration. I think it’s totaly normal. You have tried so hard and have had some success getting A to nurse so it’s only natural to hope that she might decide to do it exclusively. I do know that the more I push a feeding the more L resists. He has been fighting it a little lately and luckily I have a few options to try that have worked in the past. Just remember that fed is best...easier said than done though. You are doing an amazing job! I hope it gets easier for you soon.

[krystee]

I am getting sad about my maternity leave being 3/4 over. I love spending time with my little guy and I have been doing so much at home. I've organized closets, kept the house cleaner than usual...even cooked a bunch of new recipes! Life is going to be so crazy when I'm back at work.

[bk1]

estrellita It's a crazy emotional topic. I'm sorry for the constant stress about it.

luv2rn4fun I hope your boys are doing better!



We are driving down to see BFF and her kids today. I'm excited to see her, but exhausted at the idea of going. I was planning on leaving early so C could nap on the way home - then BFF asked if I would watch her 3.5 yr old son while she took her daughter to her 2 month check up. I of course said yes. So now we won't be getting home until sometime closer to dinner/bedtime. Ugh. It makes me dread the trip but I also am glad I can help out even for just an afternoon. Basically I stayed up way too late reading and now I'm expecting a shit show at bedtime tonight. 

[luv2rn4fun]

bk1- thanks! They both slept ok last night after a rough bedtime. I hope today goes much better than you anticipate! You are a great friend for helping your friend out! Taking two kids to appointments is so hard...C has gone to all of L’s appointments and I am so glad that I was able to schedule his 18 month appointment for when C is in preschool...maybe I will actually get all my questions answered LOL

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Mar 19, 2018 21:10:56 GMT -5 estrellita said:

My kids just don't sleep in general. Lol.

I only have one but SAME!

On the nursing front, I'm the opposite. I keep trying to force EP when C prefers to nurse. I should appreciate what BFing time we have left but at this age I just want to be done... but not done done so I want to pump. I think we all have a picture of what the experience was going to be like and while we logically can let go, there's still a part of us holding onto that original imagined experience and feeling like we fail if we don't attain it. 

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C's birthday party is Saturday and it's just piling onto my already stressed mind. We did end up picking a theme just because I picked a random Paperless Post evite and it had Cookie Monster on it. I'll post pics of the cupcake creations my Mom makes after the party. Yes, we did end up delegating dessert to my Mom.

[estrellita]

How do you guys get your kids to calm down for bed time? E is just insane. He gets outside time at daycare when the weather is good enough, and spends plenty of time running around and playing there. He fights bedtime almost every night. We finally get him to start getting ready for bed and he just messes around the whole time and takes forever. After potty and brushing teeth we'll go in his room to change and do stories but he's jumping, spinning, etc all over the place. He sits next to me on the bed for stories but one page in and he's rolling around, looking at a different book, talking, etc. I know, all totally normal for a 3 year old. I'm not concerned necessarily, just frustrated that he probably doesn't fall asleep until like 9pm every night because he's just so hyper all the time. Anything else we can be doing? I ask him to put listening ears on and sit quietly but that usually lasts 2 seconds. I have a feeling this weekend in the hotel with 2 kids is going to be hell. Lol.

[pooh8402]

estrellita, I take away books. E gets 3 books most nights. When he is not listening, I start counting. When I get to 3, one book goes away. Last night was pretty bad, he was acting like you describe. He had all 3 books taken away for not listening. Yes, he cried, but oh well. Not listening to mama has consequences.

[estrellita]

Mar 20, 2018 15:05:12 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

estrellita, I take away books. E gets 3 books most nights. When he is not listening, I start counting. When I get to 3, one book goes away. Last night was pretty bad, he was acting like you describe. He had all 3 books taken away for not listening. Yes, he cried, but oh well. Not listening to mama has consequences.

We do this exactly, lol. He gets 4 stories (2 from me and 2 from H) and those are usually the first to go. Then we start taking away other things like stuffed animals, extra pillows (he has a Chase pillow and a Twins pillow, we don't ever take his regular pillow or blankets) and the tent over his bed that he got from my parents. It only sort of motivates him. When we take something away he ends up distracted by being upset and still not doing whatever we asked. Ugh.

[pooh8402]

Mar 20, 2018 15:13:51 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Mar 20, 2018 15:05:12 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

estrellita, I take away books. E gets 3 books most nights. When he is not listening, I start counting. When I get to 3, one book goes away. Last night was pretty bad, he was acting like you describe. He had all 3 books taken away for not listening. Yes, he cried, but oh well. Not listening to mama has consequences.

We do this exactly, lol. He gets 4 stories (2 from me and 2 from H) and those are usually the first to go. Then we start taking away other things like stuffed animals, extra pillows (he has a Chase pillow and a Twins pillow, we don't ever take his regular pillow or blankets) and the tent over his bed that he got from my parents. It only sort of motivates him. When we take something away he ends up distracted by being upset and still not doing whatever we asked. Ugh.

Damn. I guess you have to find his currency? The books have worked really well for us.

[estrellita]

Mar 20, 2018 15:15:20 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Mar 20, 2018 15:13:51 GMT -5 estrellita said:

We do this exactly, lol. He gets 4 stories (2 from me and 2 from H) and those are usually the first to go. Then we start taking away other things like stuffed animals, extra pillows (he has a Chase pillow and a Twins pillow, we don't ever take his regular pillow or blankets) and the tent over his bed that he got from my parents. It only sort of motivates him. When we take something away he ends up distracted by being upset and still not doing whatever we asked. Ugh.

Damn. I guess you have to find his currency? The books have worked really well for us.

I swear it changes because some nights threatening to take the tent works, and some nights he doesn't want it at all. Same with the books. I think the most consistent is TV time but that's harder to take away since it's not an immediate consequence at night. We'd have to take it away the next day and I'm not sure he's old enough yet for that to really be effective. We've usually done that if something happened during the day or on the way home.

[luv2rn4fun]

estrellita- C is really bad for DH (who really only puts on his PJs after bath...I do bath, brush teeth, and bedtime). He will mostly sharpen up for me but it’s always a battle even on his good nights. Once we are upstairs, we brush teeth and then he gets books. If he was out of the ordinary bad for DH then I take books away (but still do prayers and sing songs, although it’s usually shorter if he is in trouble).

We had a mostly good day today despite the boys both being sick (back to doing nebulizer treatments for L). Went for a run at the regional park, errands at Walmart and Costco, my dad came by for a quick visit at nap time (he needed to drop off some stuff for me to work on for his business), worked on a picture project while the boys napped and a little once they were awake (and again after bedtime), finished the work for my dad, got some chores done, and am now relaxing before going to bed soon! C is still coughing a ton (and L’s breathing sounds like it’s about to get worse) so I have a feeling I might be keeping him home tomorrow...I doubt he contagious and he would probably love to go but I would hate sending him with how much he’s coughing).

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun it's not even that he's "bad", he's just so full of energy and riled up for some reason. Which of course leads to not listening and other problems but I just want him to calm down! Even if one of us lays in there for a bit he still yells for us multiple times needing stuff. I just want him to lay down and go to sleep within a reasonable amount of time! I'm not sure if he's still napping at DC but I'll have to ask as I'm sure that can affect it.

[melsamoony]

I guess I have a slightly different style. I do take things away/do time out during the day but I really try to preserve bedtime routine even when needing to instill consequences. What works for my DS is if I take away his bedtime story that I allow him to earn it back by making good choices.

For example if I get to 3 when brushing his teeth because he is fighting it I tell him no story but if he makes good choices that he can earn it back. I am very specific about what he needs to do to earn his story back. I tell him he needs to stop the behavior and go sit quietly in bed and if he does that he can have a story.

For my DS at bedtime if I fully disrupt his routine by taking away his story bedtime just falls apart completely as he just melts down.

Our newest bedtime problem is a fear of the dark. We have had to start having DS sleep with his light on.

[krystee]

estrellita what if you build in "crazy time" to the routine and if he brushes his teeth and gets in PJs nicely, he gets to run around his room 10 times before stories? We did that tonight and he relaxed really nicely afterward.

[estrellita]

Mar 21, 2018 22:30:19 GMT -5 krystee said:

estrellita what if you build in "crazy time" to the routine and if he brushes his teeth and gets in PJs nicely, he gets to run around his room 10 times before stories? We did that tonight and he relaxed really nicely afterward.

Hmm that's a good idea! Unless it ends up riling him up more, lol. Worth a shot!

[luv2rn4fun]

Poor L is having the hardest time napping this week 🙁. His cold is worse today so I decided to try a two nap day. He slept maybe 40 min this morning and hasn’t slept much at all this afternoon despite being up there for over an hour. He keeps laying down and then waking up either coughing or screaming.

C is also up there coughing like crazy and not napping.

My throat is scratchy and I have a little cough and minor body aches today as well so looks like I am trying to catch their cold, which isn’t surprising.

At least it’s a cold, wet day so not like we are missing much. Just want them to feel better soon and am always anxious about L when he’s sick because of his asthma (we have been doing breathing treatments since Tuesday).

[bk1]

G started throwing up. Poor girl. I want my girl feeling better and now I'm on high alert to see if C gets sick. I'm selfishly sad that I had to cancel pedicures with BFF tomorrow.

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun bk1 Oh no, hope everyone feels better soon!

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) bk1. Praying G feels better and C and everyone else stays healthy. Sorry you had to cancel your plans with your BFF 🙁

[awick14]

((estrellita))

luv2rn4fun- bk1- I hope your little a feel better soon.

[estrellita]

This kid. E is sleeping in the toddler bed in the bedroom with us for the first time at my parents. I'm pretty sure he didn't fall asleep until like midnight. He kept messing around, then wanted to cuddle with us, then kept going back and forth between his bed and our bed. When he finally stayed in his bed, he kept flailing and rolling around until he finally passed out. He just can NOT stop moving, even when he's exhausted! I wish I had even a tiny ounce of his energy!

[luv2rn4fun]

estrellita- I am just going to pretend that I didn’t read that LOL. We have a week long vacation in June and I imagine C being a complete nightmare sleeper (well, both kids actually).

Last night was horrible. C took a good 3 hours to fall asleep because he was coughing so much. L was up a good 3 times before I finally went to bed around 9:30 and then who knows how many times since then. I got maybe a 3 hour stretch of sleep before he started waking every hour. And when he would wake up I would start coughing, take forever to fall asleep, and then he was up again. I had a fever at bedtime and was wheezing a little over night from my cough so I really was hoping for a much better night for everyone. Looks like I will be dragging the boys to the doctor today.

[estrellita]

Well E was.. interesting last night. Finally got him to sleep at like midnight again after lots of fighting. He wanted a snack, kept going back and forth between beds, wanted the tablet (which was taken away because he kicked H), etc. Finally passed out in our bed holding my hand. I'm happy it's a king size! A slept through all of this and is still sleeping! Yay! She's started to fuss a couple times but H gave her the paci back and that was it! Now I'm up earlier than I want to be to pump and luckily haven't woke everyone else up yet!

[bk1]

estrellita Souds like it is going pretty good. Loved the videos on fb. I kept thinking G would love that water slide too.

G still has a fever but thankfully the vomiting stopped the first night. DH is working again so just another lazy day for me and the girls.

[luv2rn4fun]

bk1- glad the vomiting stopped. Hope G feels better soon!

estrellita- sounds and looks like you guys are having a great time!

C is acting pretty normal during the day but is really struggling with his cough at night. The past two nights have taken 3 hours to get him to sleep. When I went in last night I was close to taking him to the ER because it seemed like he just couldn’t breathe well with the cough. I held him/rocked him, elevated his mattress, gave him his water in his crib, and he finally went to sleep.

L did a little better last night but yesterday was a huge mess. Bedtime was rough too.

I am sick and my fever only stays away if I take Ibuprofen. Woke up at 2:15 with a 101 fever. Didn’t get a ton of sleep last night again and will be solo today since DH has a golf tournament.

[ewall]

Oh man luv2rn4fun. Thinking of you guys and hope everyone starts to improve today.

[bk1]

luv2rn4fun sending all the get well vibes your way. Big hugs