@ Randoms 4-9

[christy082]

So this afternoon C, who is 3, was trying my nerves. She was playing with this elephant toy ride on thing meant for babies learning to walk, and was having trouble keeping her shoes on because she was shoving her feet in them instead of opening the velcro straps.

I was doing dishes and hear "stupid damnit shoe" and she threw it across the kitchen. So I told her those weren't good words and we try hard not to use them, and take the shoes away because she needs a break if they are making her so upset.

So she gets another pair of shoes and does the same thing, shoving her foot inside instead of undoing the strap.

A fee minutes later she tells me she's going to "throw my pants off" . Why? "Because they are stupid damn". OMG.

Again I tell her about not nice words, try hard not to say them and how I already told her that. She does remember me saying that. 5 minutes ago.

Then she wouldn't take a potty break. 4.5 hours after her morning pee, I finally got her to go again, only because I refused to do anything with her until she did.

SUCH a long afternoon.

[bk1]

Sorry it was such a long afternoon. Your story reminded me of a story.


Earlier today I was trying to find a parking space for music class at the library. The last spot was taken by the car in front of me, so I said "dang it" since I now had to drive around the block to continue looking for a space. G starts saying "damnit" (which is also totally my fault). I tell her that is a grown up word and she isn't suppose to say it. So, she starts saying "When I'm a bigger girl I can say damnit". I tell her "Yes, when you are bigger you can, but you are not suppose to say it now." After like 4 cycles of the same thing she finally stopped saying it. 


C has been a drama queen lately. Ugh! She has really started throwing terrible tantrums anytime she doesn't get what she wants. I was so happy to put her to bed tonight. 


2 days solo parenting down, 11 to go.

[estrellita]

christy082 I totally feel you on the frustrating toddler but that story cracked me up, lol. Yours too bk1! I'm shocked E hasn't picked up on certain words yet, lol. He said crap once or twice but that's been it!

[estrellita]

So I mentioned last week that the pumping room at work has a pump, which I have parts for and it was so nice today to bring less stuff! However, I got quite a bit less pumping with it today. Ok, like an ounce less but when I barely keep up with A, it's a lot I'm hoping I'm just not used to the pump and that my body will adjust. I don't want to lug my pump around!

[awick14]

christy082- I’m sorry for your tough afternoon. But I’ll admit I think it’s so cute when little ones say words like that in the correct context. 😛

bk1- you can do it!

estrellita- I hope the pump there works for you soon.

The last week or so it seems like DD is trying so hard to talk. She will not stop making noises all the time. It’s so cute.

The university that is near us is doing a study on how adults talk to kids vs talking to other adults. I signed us up for it because I love reading medical/behavioral studies. It was neat to be involved, we were actually the very first individuals involved, so the student/professor felt so bad that there were a few small hiccups. But DD got a souvenir tee shirt, certificate, and a graduation photo (so so cute) I will post it on Instagram.

[bk1]

awick14 That is so cool! I was a psychology major in college with a heavy load of research involved. I'm sure they very much appreciated you taking the time to be part of the study!

[awick14]

Apr 9, 2018 21:54:42 GMT -5 bk1 said:

awick14 That is so cool! I was a psychology major in college with a heavy load of research involved. I'm sure they very much appreciated you taking the time to be part of the study!

They thanked us a lot for doing it, and acted like it was a huge inconvenience but I had fun. Dh was on board from the beginning to, which surprised me. All I had to do was be audio recorded while playing with DD. (They gave me 4 toys, a banana and 3 made up ones. I had to talk to her and try and teach her the names of the made up toys. Then dh came into the room and I had to try and teach him the same 3 toy names.)

The study is on how people talk to kids vs other adults. (Things like the pitch of our voice, the sentence structure, how you pronounce things etc.)

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) christy082. Three has been a very trying age. We have our good moments and then our really horrible moments. So much testing all.the.time and everything is NO!!!

bk1- G is adorable! I am pretty sure if C repeated a work he wasn’t supposed to he would just keep saying it to test me. I have learned that with him, no attention works better than any attention. Oh, and L has been a nightmare lately. So clingy and so many tantrums. And they both feed off each other which is SO much fun LOL. And he’ll melt and ugly cry if C tells him no (it’s so sad and frustrating at the same time).

We had a fun afternoon (morning was run and park)! We went for frozen yogurt and then I cleaned the water table and had the neighbors over to play! Both boys ate well and didn’t fight me on dinner so that was awesome!

I accidentally put L in C’s sleep sack at bedtime. Went to put C’s on after L was already in bed and asleep and realized. I had to wake him and change them out. Thankfully he was ok and went right back to sleep. I won’t ever do that again!

[christy082]

Apr 9, 2018 21:20:37 GMT -5 estrellita said:

christy082 I totally feel you on the frustrating toddler but that story cracked me up, lol. Yours too bk1! I'm shocked E hasn't picked up on certain words yet, lol. He said crap once or twice but that's been it!

Oh, it's hilarious to me now. Not then though, lol!

[amaranth]

Niether kid has repeated a curse word yet (miraculous, their uncle's speak colorfully...) But they sure are here bossy. On Sunday M asked for pizza and my husband said it was all gone. He looked my husband dead in the eye and said "buy it." It the most deathly serious tone. I just lost it laughing.


S is all out of sorts. She is barely sleeping. At first it was like whining and tossing and turning all night for several weeks. I assumed teeth. Then the past two nights she won't nap or go to bed and screams for hours and hours and nothing will comfort her. Ibuprofen didn't help. Last night alone she lost about 5 hours of sleep screaming before she konked out. I don't know what's going on She fine when awake, and eating normal.

[luv2rn4fun]

So many ((Hugs)) amaranth. S recently turned 2? That was a HORRIBLE sleep regression for C (like pretty much the worst and it lasted a long time). I clearly remember naps being a huge issue but maybe night sleep was too (this all pretty much hit close to when L was born so it’s all a fog). Also, C is such a dictator...we joke that it’s his world and we just live in it 😂. His latest is telling L NO very sternly and then L ugly cries. He also tells me no for pretty much anything he doesn’t want to do and tells me what we are going to do instead (I will stay here while you go run!).

C has been refusing to nap the past couple months. In the last week he has napped 3 days! He is such a happier little guy in the afternoon with his nap! Makes it much more manageable...and L doesn’t cry as much because C is being nicer to him.

[bk1]

awick14 Such an interesting study! I would have loved to do something like that. The main areas of research I was involved in were body image (how you see yourself vs. How you perceive others) and video games and violence (does playing violent video games effect how you perceive and react to real life violence).

amaranth ugh poor girl! And poor mama! That sounds so hard.

luv2rn4fun G consistently talks about what she can do when she is a bigger girl. Like today we went by the pharmacy to get my BC and G starts saying "when I'm a bigger girl I can take pills." Lol. Maybe not the best example, but just shows she says it several times a day about tons of subjects. She really is pretty delightful overall. Sometimes rotten to her sister, but...ya know... how it is and all.

[luv2rn4fun]

Such a busy morning! Went to Target, got gas at Costco, took the boys to the regional park to run and play (and totally dropped their shoes from the stroller when loading it in the garage so they didn’t have shoes...thankfully the ground wasn’t hot enough yet so they still got to play), went grocery shopping, home for lunch/play/nap. Dinner is prepped...need to grill when they wake up. Called the insurance company to work on my reimbursement for my ultrasound two months ago.

[amaranth]

I didn't even know there was a two year sleep regression. M still hadn't slept through the night at two so I had no reason to know.

Guess I better research this beast. Man, what a bummer.

[krystee]

E's first day of daycare was today. I sobbed like a baby when I dropped him off and couldn't figure out why I cried so hard for him and not for J. Then I remembered I made H do dropoff with Jack. Should have done that this time too!

He did great and smiled when I picked him up, so I am feeling much better. But holy moly, the nights after work are so much more hectic with two (plus two dogs) than with one. When J was a baby, he went to bed at 7, we prepped for the morning, and then we had three hours to ourselves. Now we will put the baby to bed, play with J, bathe him, try desperately to get him to sleep for half an hour, prep, and then have maybe an hour to ourselves if we're very lucky. I need to figure out how to get him to fall asleep before 9 pm, and I think the sad answer is dropping naps.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) krystee. I hope you guys can find your new normal soon and that you get a little more free time. Maybe you guys can tag team J and prep for the next day (switch off days so you both get time with him...whoever is on J duty deals solely with him until he’s asleep while the other does clean up and prep work)? We don’t get a ton of downtime in the evening either but that’s because we are in bed by 8:30/9 (L stills wakes up MOTN most nights and DH is up at 5:40 for work).

[estrellita]

krystee our nights have been crazy too! We don't get home until almost 6 so I pump while H gets E dinner and feeds A. We try to squeeze dinner in too while E is still eating (he takes forever) or playing. We start getting him ready for bed at 7:30. If it's bath night, then we have even less time. After they're in bed, we have to wash and prep bottles for the next day. Not to mention dishes, laundry, anything else that needs to be done that doesn't get done. We'll usually try to watch a show during my last pump of the day. I'm so exhausted by the time I go to bed that I fall asleep almost right away. Last night H must have gotten up with A around midnight but I don't even remember hearing her cry. Hopefully as the babies get older it will get easier because then they can be doing the same things and be more self sufficient. But right now, it's so tiring!

[Blue Moon]

krystee, ((hugs)) the night routine with two little ones is very tough. I really miss having any time to myself. luv2rn4fun had a good idea to trade off prep/time with J. After the baby is in bed, one parents takes care of clean up/prep for the next day and the other takes care of playtime/bedtime for the toddler. Right now, I wind up doing both and I'm getting annoyed at H. To be fair, H is responsible for bathing and putting the baby to bed, but then at 6:30 he is completely done while I still have a million things to do. He will do what I ask, but I'm frustrated that I even have to ask.



G had his tube surgery last week and he is doing well! It's helped his night time sleep thankfully. I hear him wake up and fuss/cry a little but he can get himself back to sleep pretty quickly so that's been a pleasant surprise. His naps at daycare are a disaster, and our evenings at home have been almost unbearable because he's so exhausted and cranky. It's frustrating because at home, he's finally settled into a very nice routine of 2 90 mins naps, give or take a little, and he is such a different baby on those days. I have a countdown and there's only 47 more daycare days left until summer



B has become very bossy lately and I'm not a fan. I'm also tired of her eating habits. She refuses to eat anything for dinner other than a certain kind of chicken nuggets. She will eat the sides I give her that are relatively healthy, ie fruit or plain frozen veggies or pepper slices, but she won't even eat other typical kid food like mac n cheese, grilled cheese, burgers, etc. When I ask her to try something she says, "Maybe when I go to kindergarten." 

[luv2rn4fun]

Blue Moon- ((Hugs)). I would definitely sit down with your DH and discuss other things he can be responsible for. DH will sometimes sit and watch tv after I take the last boy up for bedtime (I do dinner, bath, and bed for both boys...he might help put clothes on C and entertains whatever kid is going to bed last while I put the first to bed). Many nights I come down and dishes still need to be done and the playroom isn’t picked up. I try to ask him to do what I want done before I head upstairs with the first kid. It’s super annoying when he doesn’t do things though and I shouldn’t have to ask.

I am so glad G is doing better (minus daycare naps and being overtired during the week)!! I totally laughed at B’s comment of “maybe when I go to daycare”! Too funny but not so much as the parent trying to get her to eat!

[estrellita]

Blue Moon glad the surgery went well! Also, E is pretty bossy and it's not fun. A 3 year old does not run this house! Lol

[luv2rn4fun]

Apr 11, 2018 9:40:54 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Blue Moon glad the surgery went well! Also, E is pretty bossy and it's not fun. A 3 year old does not run this house! Lol

If you ask C, it’s his and L’s house LOL 🤣

[luv2rn4fun]

C had his trike a thon at preschool today and did great!! He has had his balance bike since turning 2 (bday gift from my parents). He was interested and the not for awhile (and never really learned to do more than walk). I finally got him to ride it one day and he walked into a cactus 🙁 and was so scared to ride again (same with his scooter). Just recently he has ridden his bike but literally for 3 houses down and back and then done and not really doing more than his usual walking.

Today, he “rode” his bike the entire 45 minutes! I am so proud of him! He was having fun and smiling! Even a mom volunteer came up to me and said he is the cutest thing ever and she loves his determination and perseverance! So much fun!

L and I stayed to watch and then went for a 5 mile run! Came back to pickup C and then home for lunch and naps. I am exhausted...it was 75 degrees in my run and I had given C my water since I forgot his at home.

[estrellita]

Apr 11, 2018 16:14:59 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Apr 11, 2018 9:40:54 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Blue Moon glad the surgery went well! Also, E is pretty bossy and it's not fun. A 3 year old does not run this house! Lol

If you ask C, it’s his and L’s house LOL 🤣

I've told E he's not the boss.. "yeah I am!" Sigh. Lol.

[luv2rn4fun]

Apr 11, 2018 16:47:35 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Apr 11, 2018 16:14:59 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

If you ask C, it’s his and L’s house LOL 🤣

I've told E he's not the boss.. "yeah I am!" Sigh. Lol.

Same here...”no, I am the boss”! Gotta love the age of 3. Now I know what my OB meant when she said “just wait til you have a toddler”! C was really great til L was born and now he has moments of awesomeness and moments of being a 3 year old. I hear 4 is better...

ETA: one of his classmates is really having a hard time. C struggles with DH and I but he’s really good at school. This kid...not so much.

[ewall]

Kid funny:
DS: Do you wear jammies or do you sleep naked?
DH: I sleep naked.
DS: Well, hope you don't poop in your bed!

(We are working toward DS not needing an overnight diaper for poop...)

[bk1]

C woke up with 101-102 fever today. So ready to be done with sickness. I spent the day bleaching toys and cuddling a sick girl.

[awick14]

krystee- I hope the nights get better.

Blue Moon- I am glad the surgery went well.

When we were in our hometown for the weekend my ils had a water leak so dh helped his dad take apart the bathroom. (Took everything out except the vanity as the leak was from the shower or toilet.) Anyways we have decided to travel the 4 hrs each way this weekend, well 4 days, to help him fix the rest. (It’s all apart still.)

My BIL and SIL will not help do this, and until it’s done my ILS are using the basement bathroom. (Not good for them to go up and down stairs so much)

As much as I like going there I am still exhausted from the last trip and I need a break. I could stay home but then it would be me and my daughter all weekend, and that isn’t a break either.

[luv2rn4fun]

Huge ((Hugs)) bk1. I hope C feels better soon.

awick14- I hope this weekend goes ok and you get some rest.

We had a great time at Disneyland (minus C throwing a massive tantrum while waiting for our first ride...it was so bad I almost just said forget it...thankfully the ride changed his attitude and the rest of the day went well)! Both boys napped on the way home (L napped before we left too) but it wasn’t long enough so it was a rough few hours before bedtime. Complete with L throwing up and refusing to eat so I am hoping he is ok and it was just a fluke (not likely because his has had diarrhea as well for a couple days).

[bk1]

luv2rn4fun how is L doing?

C's fever is lower today and she woke up in a much better mood. I'm feeling very trapped in my house and I can't wait until the girls are both healthy so we can go do fun things. I'm considering a Starbucks run later just to get out.. even if I have to stay in the car.

[luv2rn4fun]

Apr 13, 2018 8:23:09 GMT -5 bk1 said:

luv2rn4fun how is L doing?

C's fever is lower today and she woke up in a much better mood. I'm feeling very trapped in my house and I can't wait until the girls are both healthy so we can go do fun things. I'm considering a Starbucks run later just to get out.. even if I have to stay in the car.

He was up at 4:30 and didn’t sleep much after that (he was also up at 2:30). He seems pretty normal...which is a mix of happy and cranky. He has to be tired. His nose is a little runny when crying so I am not sure what is going on...no more vomit or diarrhea so far (but he hasn’t pooped today either).