Post by oldbaylover1024 on Apr 30, 2018 13:59:39 GMT -5
traveltheworld - Sorry about the cruddy weather, but it sounds like you're making the best of it! Enjoy!
xctsclrx - We purchased DD (almost 5) a balance bike and it made a world of difference. She's fine on a bike with training wheels and you can see how she tries to 'fix' her balance naturally. I think the transition to non-training wheels will be smooth for her (FX). Plus, I know in our area, you can find balance bikes cheap on consignment.
xctsclrx, DD1 was about that age when we taught her. Instead of a balance bike, we just took the pedals off of her actual bike and she rode it like a balance bike. Once she "got it", we put them back on and she started to pedal.
DD2 has been resistant. She can technically ride w/o training wheels, but she won't.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 30, 2018 14:56:42 GMT -5
Celebration: We had a loooooooong weekend. We did Race for the Cure and it was a lot of fun spending some time away with friends.
Not celebration: We had a loooooooong weekend. I did not get nearly enough done around the house on Sunday due to church and a baby shower for my SIL. I didn't want to go because I could have used the 3.5 hours to feel better about the state of my house. But, when I mentioned maybe not going to my mom she was kind of judgmental about it. Mind you, I've spent like $800 on this kid, just threw her a shower myself 2 weeks ago, and was gone Friday afternoon until Saturday evening. My kids, DH and I were all so tired and irritable with each other yesterday that it was just really frustrating.
oldbaylover1024, Welcome back it was Hell Season for me too. I'm glad we just have 3 times as many extensions to due but the overall office pace has quieted down. Now if the clients will stop calling saying are my taxes done yet I will be happy girl.
Post by honeydew1894 on Apr 30, 2018 15:32:57 GMT -5
Celebration: I am glad to be done with a really stressful month! I had a huge project due (finished on Th.), had to give a lecture last night (done!), and the stress of losing the dog. That limbo stage was hard, and now we can start trying to move on. I am hoping to have some more fun this month! I have a few fun things booked, and DH and I have date night on Saturday!
Non-Celebration: state math assessments tomorrow. Somehow I was left off the proctoring list, but I will probably go anyway to help out.
As for bikes, DD got a balance bike from her uncle for her second birthday. She liked it okish but not a ton. Then she found the little training wheels bike we got a former foster placement that was in the shed and greatly preferred it because she could go faster. She learned to pedal and steer on it. When she was 4 I started pushing the balance bike, which she fought because she preferred the other one, so I started taking the balance bike to a park that had just a slight inclined paved trail, which was perfect for learning, and she learned to balance in about 3 visits, so we got her a new bike without trainers at that time. So she learned pedaling and steering and then learned balance but on two different bikes.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Apr 30, 2018 16:23:12 GMT -5
We have parent teacher conferences tomorrow for both kids. We are supposed to receive progress reports ahead of the conference and we received DD's this morning but have yet to receive DS'.
I'm very annoyed. Especially because his last two progress reports had no comments on them, and I find montessori progress reports really hard to understand with zero comments. Which I told her. And she was like "oh really? I wrote some, I don't know why they didn't go though."
Um...well I still don't have them? No response.
I'll probably get this one late tonight or tomorrow at 10am or something. This is getting silly. His teacher sucks at paperwork.
Celebrations- I was dreading today because the computers were down, and I had a problem person. I ended up overthinking the problem person, and when I re-read his email I realized it was just basically a huge sob story and thank you. So I was able to just send him a nice short e-mail and a clarifying question. I thought everyone would be sitting around but my manager had it under control and was able to find them things to do, so that was nice.
Non-Celebrations- I did not sleep well last night at all. I have a yeast infection that won't go away. Any advice would be great. I called the gyno and the diflucan isn't working. I went to the urgent care and more diflucan which isn't working. So I don't know what to do... I need to go back to the gyno I guess, but I am still trying other things to see if I can clear it up on my own, and have another dose of diflucan left, but I am not sure if it matters because none of the other ones worked. I will be on diflucan pill #6 at this point. It is confirmed by the doctor as a yeast infection, so it's not that I am treating the wrong thing. I must be ones of those people I was reading about that have the gene that can't fight off fungal infections very well, and it appears I have also built up a resistance to the medications.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 30, 2018 19:41:42 GMT -5
waverly are you eating yogurt already? This is what the LC's suggested to me when I had to go on antibiotics a few weeks after both kids were born due to cysts on my tailbone. With DS I got a yeast infection that presented as thrush so when I dealt with the same issue with DD I ate yogurt to prevent. They also suggested probiotic pills.
So when should I start teaching my 3.5 year old how to bike? I was going to have Santa bring him one for xmas this year. He will be a new 4. To early or too late?
We got DS1 a balance bike for his 3rd birthday in October. He wanted nothing to do with it and then winter came.
Just this past weekend he (3.5) started showing real interest in it and being willing to try it for more than 10 seconds. We practiced a couple times this weekend, but he hasn’t caught on yet.
xctsclrx, DD would still ride her strider if she could. She has gotten way to tall though. She really wants a scooter and I told her no. Not until she could ride a bike because I could see her choosing the easier scooter over a bike.
DH thinks we should get DD roller blades? Opinions? Also we checked out the ice rink and it was the last day they were open until next November. Indoor rink and they only run the winter months. DD didn't care for it because it was too cold, LOL.
I bought the scooter! Now she refuses to ride her bike and so still has training wheels. I don’t care much as she still gets exercise and is practicing balance and doing little tricks, but it totally probably would have happened.
Post by librarychica on Apr 30, 2018 21:26:42 GMT -5
Welcome back @oldbay1024.
Celebration: we had a great date night Friday and I’m almost caught up on my work.
Not celebration: We found new and exciting damage our now rental won’t be ready for at least two more weeks. So ready to have it listed. Y’all are probably ready to not hear me bitch about it. The whole world wants this house to belong to someone else!
I have a late Monday non-celebration. We had DSs 1st Communion rehearsal last night and DH didn’t show. I texted him to ask if he forgot or if he just chose not to come and he gave me some lame excuse about getting home late and traffic being bad. Which is total crap. His work is no more than 20 minutes with traffic and he can certainly plan for it. I was and am pissed off and still haven’t talked to him. I’m so fed up with always being the responsible one. He can pretty much do whatever the f he wants because I’m here to make sure what HAS to get done, gets done. The dumb thing is that we just had DDs Confirmation rehearsal which he went to and we didn’t even have a role in that. For DS’s ceremony, we are the ones walking up with him.
xctsclrx ,we got DD a balance bike at 3. She loved it and it rode it all the time. When she was 4.5 she asked for a “big girl bike” with pedals and no training wheels. I was skeptical that she would be able to do it but she had it down in 10 minutes. On the other hand, DS has shown zero interest in the balance bike so he will probably still have training wheels on his bike at 10.
oldbaylover1024 , Welcome back it was Hell Season for me too. I'm glad we just have 3 times as many extensions to due but the overall office pace has quieted down. Now if the clients will stop calling saying are my taxes done yet I will be happy girl.
OMG this season was so bad! Granted, I have an almost-5YO who is very aware of Mommy being gone 70+ hours a week, and a 1-YO who needs, well, all the things LOL
We only extended about 10% of our clients this year! And about 6% of them had to be extended because of lingering extended partnerships. I was very proud of those numbers. We haven't had a year like this in about 3 years. It was awesome.
I mean, I'm exhausted and still catching up on sleep, but I feel good about the extensions. FX the K-1s come soon... I'd love to get these returns out this summer v. a rush in October.
And yes, everyone. My DS turned 1 in February! IDK if you recall, but he spent some time in the NICU and we were fearful of lifelong issues. The amazing news is there aren't any. He's surpassed all of his doctor's goals and is a normal, healthy, VERY busy little boy
Also, callmekd , how are your February '17 twins?! I'm active on our BMB at the other place.
waverly, yogurt (kefir is even better - more probiotics) and probiotic pills. I would also suggest adding a teaspoon of raw, organic (I like Bragg's) apple cider vinegar to 8-10 oz of water, and drink that once or twice a day. You could also add a little honey and lemon to mask the vinegar flavor. (I usually just drink the ACV in water and just drink it fast.)
oldbaylover1024 - my twins are great! DD2 is walking and she's hilarious and smart. DS1 is super goofy and sweet and crawls really fast. they had their 15 month check-ups yesterday.
Vent / one of my team has (new, sudden) mental health issues and has to be treated with kid gloves and less work. I think that is causing me mental health issues. I don’t have time to do all the work for an entire team. But that’s the current situation.
I’m pretty much over it. Dreaming of downsizing to a smaller house and quitting my job with a big middle finger. Which will never happen. But I am at a breaking point.
Has anyone ever managed anyone with mental health problems who doesn’t take short term disability? So they’re still in the office but they’re not really really in the office. Help.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 1, 2018 13:09:02 GMT -5
2chatter - Sort of. A coworker was going through a tough time and couldn't afford to take time off work (no STD offered here). I basically met with her on Monday mornings around 10 (enough time for her to get to work, settle in, and get her mind prepared for the day). We would go over her tasks for the day and the next day. We shared tasks in Outlook, which helped with accountability and non-confrontational check-ins (instead of me approaching her face-to-face, I emailed her - she became overwhelmed if I physically approached her and asked her about stuff, so email reminders worked for us). At the end of the day I'd email her about the next day's tasks.
We had the same 10 a.m. meetings on Wednesdays and Fridays. Honestly, it was exhausting for me, but it helped keep her on task and I didn't have to take on all her work. She completed a lot of it without me, but needed the structure and gentle accountability.
And... that sounds like a beat down. This person isn’t open to that either - they consider it condescending and don’t want to be treated like they aren’t capable. I am allowed to send them deadlines or prioritize tasks if asked.
To make this worse, I am not allowed to go to HR. My manager went to HR but I am not in that loop. I asked for resources or support and got nothing.
I pretty much want to tell everyone that they have put me in an impossible no-win situation. But I tried that with my boss and got nowhere.
2chatter, Wait... this is a person you are managing? And you're "not allowed" to follow up on deadlines and make sure tasks are completed? That sounds like total BS on someone's part. I don't think an employee should get to dictate that behavior from their manager and if your manager is telling you that's the rule, then I'd be pushing back hard.
2chatter, If you can't manage your own employee then get rid of them. You may not be able to fire them, but you should be able to show that their "mental illness" can not be accommodated in your department and they will have to work elsewhere. How can a company tell you that you can't reach out to HR for help? That is what HR is for.
Also, if they can't work full time then they have to drop down to STD or part time or long term disability. It is not like you get to be paid to work 40 but you are only work 10. That is not how life works.
If that is the deal that your management made with this employee then I would be pushing back that they can go to a different department, because you need people who can work.