mustardseed2007 , I don’t think you’d mentioned before that your sister had the same thing. It’s nice to have someone know what I’m talking about. One of the more annoying things about this is that no one has heard of it at all. As a result, I’m purposely vague when I mention to people that I’m having health issues, because I don’t want to have to explain the whole drawn out story. But I’m finding that kind of isolating.
For what it's worth, my sister is cancer free now.
She had it when she was in her early twenties during a second pregnancy. Her outcome was odd in that she had some recurrence later in life after it was initially taken care of. I don't want to worry you with that part because it's extremely rare. I'm sure they've told you many times that it's very fast growing but also very responsive to treatment. The normal outcome is that it goes away and does not come back. I hope that happens for you really soon.
She really was not in treatment all that long compared to other kinds of cancer. But she had to go often, which took the wind out of her really badly for a while. I'm sorry you're having to go through that.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 17, 2018 14:26:39 GMT -5
saraml13, feel free to word vomit here any time you need to vent about what you're going through. I'm sorry you're going through this and you shouldn't feel alone!
TWERK: I have an interview Monday!! It's with the company in town. My mom mentioned me applying to the HR director when she was meeting with her. My desired salary was higher than the position I applied for pays, but they have an opening with a salary more in line with what I requested, so the director sent my resume to that hiring manager yesterday afternoon and I got a call at 9am this morning. The fact that it happened quickly gives me some confidence. My hope now is that they like me enough to work with a PT schedule for 2 months as I transition out.
IDDIOT: My brother has calmed down enough that I don't want to hit him. We haven't talked about the past or what if's in a couple of weeks and my mom has noticed an improvement too. Thank god, because his baby is due in about 3 weeks and he needed to get his shit straight. I told him that during our last conversation so maybe I finally got somewhere.
IDDIOT 2: Does anyone have any experience with a custom modular home? This is the latest grand idea from DH on our housing situation and I'm trying to research before I form a real opinion.
waverly , with that kind of pain, you should call your gyno today. Maybe they can see you before the weekend. I hope you're able to get some medication that provides healing!
I think he would do a phone consult since I already saw him. I think the tailbone is muscle related like stretching helps, but I am not sure. But the other part isn't I think. Since it is beyond the scope of the gyno now, I am wondering if I should also loop in my GP. I want to find someone local, so maybe this is a good excuse to do so. But I want to call gyno first maybe.
mustardseed2007 , I don’t think you’d mentioned before that your sister had the same thing. It’s nice to have someone know what I’m talking about. One of the more annoying things about this is that no one has heard of it at all. As a result, I’m purposely vague when I mention to people that I’m having health issues, because I don’t want to have to explain the whole drawn out story. But I’m finding that kind of isolating.
I found this true of my high risk pregnancy. There is a now a closed FB support group and later on there was a baby center group, but back when I had it- it was like I was a freak of nature. Everyone went around saying oh I can't imagine, which was not helpful.
Post by librarychica on May 17, 2018 19:02:00 GMT -5
saraml13, I’m sorry youfeel isolated. You talk here as much as you need! I hope your treatment keeps working and you don’t need to start the more aggressive version.
My DDOT is that I just discovered what sort of shopping problem my MIL has. I’m setting up for our garage sale this weekend and I’ve got 27 pairs of shoes that are in good enough shape to sell. I’ve never bought a pair of shoes and I’ve thrown away the ones DD destroyed at Daycare.
DDOT: my BFF is “mostly” vegan/vegetarian. Last time she was over, I ordered pizzas - Hawaiian for the carnivores, and a basil tomato (word is escaping me!) for her. She ate the Hawaiian.
That being said, we’re planning burgers and hot dogs for DS’s party. Do I need to make her something separate since clearly, it’s not a conviction she’s holding fast to???
DDOT: my BFF is “mostly” vegan/vegetarian. Last time she was over, I ordered pizzas - Hawaiian for the carnivores, and a basil tomato (word is escaping me!) for her. She ate the Hawaiian.
That being said, we’re planning burgers and hot dogs for DS’s party. Do I need to make her something separate since clearly, it’s not a conviction she’s holding fast to???
You ate my pizza. No spouts for you. Throw together a pasta salad and call it done?
DDOT: my BFF is “mostly” vegan/vegetarian. Last time she was over, I ordered pizzas - Hawaiian for the carnivores, and a basil tomato (word is escaping me!) for her. She ate the Hawaiian.
That being said, we’re planning burgers and hot dogs for DS’s party. Do I need to make her something separate since clearly, it’s not a conviction she’s holding fast to???
Can you just grab a package of veggie burgers? In you’re already doing burgers and dogs, this is no extra work...
I think I’m annoyed because last time I specifically asked if she’d eat something with meat and she said NO I DONT EAT MEAT and I ordered a special pizza for her ($30!) and she didn’t eat one slice AND ate the meat pizza, so I have no desire to spend even $8 on a special veggie option. 🤷🏻♀️
I think I’m annoyed because last time I specifically asked if she’d eat something with meat and she said NO I DONT EAT MEAT and I ordered a special pizza for her ($30!) and she didn’t eat one slice AND ate the meat pizza, so I have no desire to spend even $8 on a special veggie option. 🤷🏻♀️
Then heck no. Let her bring her own food or eat a toasted bun.
Mini vent: I referred someone who's a really good candidate for an open position here. Then I remembered, I can't get the referral bonus because I'm a manager. Womp Womp.
And why is it that the East Coast starts everything early and the West Coast starts everything late? It’s like everyone purposely sets their schedules to avoid a time everyone can be available conveniently. If I ran the world, I would make East Coasters start no earlier than 9 and West Coasters start no later than 9. My East Coast law firms all get to work at 7 or 8, which is 4-5 am on West Coast time, and want to end their day by 5, which is 2 pm West Coast time. Conversely, my West Coast lawyers stroll in around 9:30, which is 12:30 East Coast time, and Work until 6 or 7, which is 9 or 10 pm East Coast time. So everyone want to set all of their meetings during my lunch time. I’m getting very tired of starting every call with “Well, I’m trying to eat lunch as we are talking, so if I’m slow to respond, I’m trying to unmute my line.” I’m the effing CLIENT!
DDOT - as DH pays no attention to numbers or budget and his paychecks include his reimbursements, he will be taking a 20K paycut if he accepts this offer as is. He was already going to counter because of the matching. But it took the background check to raise a “salary discrepancy” He reported 20K less. UGH
DDOT - as DH pays no attention to numbers or budget and his paychecks include his reimbursements, he will be taking a 20K paycut if he accepts this offer as is. He was already going to counter because of the matching. But it took the background check to raise a “salary discrepancy” He reported 20K less. UGH
Isn't it illegal for them to require him to list salary information?
ETA: I see this is just in California and a few other states...
Sigh, I am on my way to Europe for work, and DH is being a rockstar taking care of the kids. And he just texted me that his grandma had a stroke last night and now is unable to talk. She hasn't been doing super well (didn't know any of us last weekend when we saw her, but she was very fond of my kids), but I wish that I was there to help. His grandfather died earlier this year, and after being married for 70 years (they are/were in their 90's), we didn't think that she would last terribly long without him. It's still sad and hard though. DH is taking the kids for a visit later today which is good.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 20, 2018 11:36:34 GMT -5
I'm guessing they probably want his salary info to make sure he's not lying that he makes tons of money when he really doesn't right? So if he under reported, they probably won't care, especially if it's reimbursements for expenses rather than straight pay.
Actually with the reimbursements it's not like he makes that money, it's just a wash. And with less travel he should have a lot less expenses anyway. Unless the new company won't reimburse him for his out of pocket.
His salary was higher than he reported by 20K, not including reimbursement for expenses. They just add his reimbursement to his salary so he never paid attention to what he was making. So it would be a 20K cut. We also had the talk about - you can’t eat out for breakfast, lunch and dinner here - you don’t get reimbursed for that here. He says he’s down but .... this will be a struggle. So all this means we will need to have a real budget - and he’s pretty good at that when we do it, but it takes time and planning.
I think he will take it. But he’s hesitating, so I don’t know. Which is probably one of the most confusing, frustrating things ever.
His salary was higher than he reported by 20K, not including reimbursement for expenses. They just add his reimbursement to his salary so he never paid attention to what he was making. So it would be a 20K cut. We also had the talk about - you can’t eat out for breakfast, lunch and dinner here - you don’t get reimbursed for that here. He says he’s down but .... this will be a struggle. So all this means we will need to have a real budget - and he’s pretty good at that when we do it, but it takes time and planning.
I think he will take it. But he’s hesitating, so I don’t know. Which is probably one of the most confusing, frustrating things ever.
Just keep in mind it's a 2 year issue, max. All he has to do is make it 2 years and then he is free and clear of his noncompete and he will not look like a job-hopper if he moves on.
He’s hesitating to take this because it’s in town. That’s the part that’s killing me. He isn’t sure he can handle being here and having to have a schedule. Which makes me predictably frustrated.