School here doesn’t start until after Labor Day . Dd told DS that he couldn’t live in our house, just her and I could. He cried. No idea what her plans for DH are, but he’s traveling and she’s three, so I think she forgot about him.
DS threw a glass of milk at DD at dinner last night. At breakfast today, he threw his cereal. He is 90% temper tantrums and screaming the last few days...
DD2 has been an absolute nightmare for the past several days. She annoys DD1 to the point where she explodes. So I’m constantly hearing DD1 screaming at the top of her lungs for DD2 to leave her alone.
Also, the second DD1 puts her hands on any toy, DD2 whines and stomps her feet until DD1 hands it over. Or I explode and throw the toy away. Threw out 3 toys just yesterday afternoon, in fact.
OMG, hugs...my son is developing new habits that makes me go crazy...like why are you screainh for me to fix your covers in middle of the night you are 5!!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 25, 2018 7:08:03 GMT -5
DD was absolutely exhausted coming off our vacation to the beach. At dinner after telling me what she wanted in her taco & I prepared it as requested, she pushed it away and ran off screaming and sobbing that she didn't like it.
She eventually came back to the table and engaged in a series of charades where she told me she wanted something off the taco and I took it off and she ran off sobbing...until she decided she'd go under the table instead of run into her room...and she found a DEAD ROACH and picked it up with her BARE HAND and calmly set it on the table. When DH saw it and freaked the hell out she ran off sobbing again...
DS very helpfully and casually observed "She's crying because of you guys. It's really somethin' else isn't it."
DD wakes up with her list of complaints and demands. When I pick her up from camp the same thing her list of complaints for the day. 3 more weeks until school although I am not sure school will solve the complaining issue.
She complained so much about her friend not playing with her at this camp that the last week I re enrolled her in the camp she was at before with DS. Screw this let her decide idea- let her be with her friend. Her friends are being jerks and I am pretty sure she is the biggest jerk of them all to her friends if she talks to them like she has been talking to me lately.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jul 25, 2018 7:44:00 GMT -5
Solidarity. Although DD has been hanging around with her friends for the most part but god forbid DS say anything to her. She responds in a snippy way or ignores him. I feel so bad for him. All of his neighborhood friends go to camp or classes and he’s too anxious to get involved in that so he’s alone until they come home and then he gets out. But he really looks up to his sister so I’m sure it hurts a little when she responds that way.
School starts in less than a month now. I’m excited to have a quiet house for most of the day but with DD going into HS I feel that things will get busier real quick and I’m not ready.
The kids are making me nuts with interrupting each other and then pouting depending on who I recognize first in conversations. Does this happen to you guys? Literally all three of them do this and it makes me totally insane.
Also DS told me if I was dead instead of the dog he could cuddle her AND not have to run errands after camp.
Kids dealing with the dog’s death - also really not fun.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 25, 2018 9:55:39 GMT -5
DS told me last night that I yell at him all the time and I'm a mean mommy that he wishes was nicer. I had just patted myself on the back earlier in the day for not losing my shit when he screamed and cried when I asked him to carry his sister's backpack since I was carrying her, my 2 drinks, her drink, and my purse. The entire neighborhood heard him I'm sure and I never once raised my voice. I did take away him getting to try one of my drinks. And I also let him stay at MIL's house until an HOUR PAST his bedtime.
DD is biting. Everyone for everything. To the point that DS won't even take things from her anymore, whether they are his or not.
Post by traveltheworld on Jul 25, 2018 10:44:48 GMT -5
2chatter, my kids fight over whose turn it is to talk all the time too. If I respond to DS first, DD would spend the whole time I'm talking to DS shouting "mommy, mommy, MOMMY!!!"; and vice versa. It drives me insane.
DS is being an obnoxious jerk. Yesterday I told him that I didn't want to see his face anymore because he has been rude to DD and I all day. which made him collapse on the floor and sob. Yup, not my proudest parenting moment.
Actually DD has been doing really great the last week or so. I think it was she had a blast at gym camp and then we had an awesome girls weekend. Now we are at Ad Club this week and she is back to being bratty or acting like a teenager. I would love to know what goes on all day at Ad Club that has her acting out so bad. Plus the language she is coming home with is really bad. I've started having her do gym conditioning for a couple of the words she has been saying way too much. Tuck and roll jumps have nipped the "damn it" in the bud. School doesn't start until after Labor Day here so we have lots of summer left. I'm just ready for a normal schedule again.
OMG you guys... I thought all of this was just us.
I literally cannot pass through a room without DD1 saying "Mommy". Sometimes I don't stop and just tell her I'll be right with her. Sometimes I stop, and she forgets why she called me. It's like some Pavlovian response - she sees me and must say my name.
DD2 cannot tolerate any attention paid to DD1. So if I'm talking to DD1, DD2 will say "Mommy mommy mommy momma momma mom mom" like Stewey on Family guy until I acknowledge her.
Yesterday they swam for 6 hours and collapsed. I took photos of them in bed, both sleeping perpendicular across their beds, bums in the air. Best photos ever.
I am thinking that it is partly me though as in everyone (but you guys) are on my last nerve today. Several co-workers. One has severe anxiety which I get and try to understand, but she basically changes every single topic that people talk about because she can't talk about anything bad. And then spends the rest of the time grilling me for childrearing advice. I need to do a better job of avoiding conversations with her- not in a mean way but in a every conversation goes nowhere way, so what is the point?
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jul 25, 2018 12:33:58 GMT -5
My kids tag team on talking too. It’s usually after I pick up DD from cross country camp or any kind of athletic activity and she’s got all the endorphins going and almost can’t stop herself from talking. Which I do love bc she’s a teenager and I want her to keep talking to me. But then DS gets in on the action. By the end of the drive my introversion has gone into full affect and I’m practically dragging myself in the house completely drained from all of the words thrown at me.
justcheckingin73 - yeeeees this. The oldest gets going and I NEED her to talk and the younger two get all attention seeking and desperate. One day after a golf lesson I told the kids I was remote starting the car and leaving the garage open and they weren’t allowed to come in until the car turned off. I needed a minute. Their task was to determine who got to speak to me, in what order, and what they wanted to say. The first person to scream “you made me forget!!” Was grounded. It worked. I will absolutely do this again.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jul 26, 2018 11:36:15 GMT -5
DH decided we should go over to his BFF's house last night to visit and that usually includes swimming. We didn't over there until 7 or home until after 8:30. After being up an for over an hour past his bedtime 2 nights in a row, DS was super pleasant this morning. He asked for his toy handcuffs that we bought and took away 3 weeks ago (like didn't even get to open them because he lost them on the drive home) and we told him this evening since I let him sleep in. He asked for them at least 20 more times. Then cried about it. Then cried about getting dressed. Then asked for the handcuffs.
School starts in 3 weeks. We both need it! It will force me to get him up and out of the house early because right now we don't HAVE too and I take a little too much advantage of it.
As much as my own children are on my nerves, holy crap I forgot how much I dislike other people's kids sometimes (and other parents).
I brought DD1 to a trampoline park today. There are certain areas where you need to wait in line. She was calmly waiting with another kid and two boys kept cutting in front of them as their mother looked on. DD1 started to get frustrated (which is usually accompanied by tears) because she was doing the right thing and was not being rewarded for it (if that makes sense). I said (rather loudly), "I know it can be frustrating when you're doing the right thing and other kids feel like they don't need to wait in line." Mom rolls her eyes and mumbled, "Oh I didn't know they were waiting..." I asked what she thought they were doing, standing on the trampoline and staring at her kids... she left in a huff... and came back 60 seconds later to allow her kids to resume cutting in line...
As much as my own children are on my nerves, holy crap I forgot how much I dislike other people's kids sometimes (and other parents).
I brought DD1 to a trampoline park today. There are certain areas where you need to wait in line. She was calmly waiting with another kid and two boys kept cutting in front of them as their mother looked on. DD1 started to get frustrated (which is usually accompanied by tears) because she was doing the right thing and was not being rewarded for it (if that makes sense). I said (rather loudly), "I know it can be frustrating when you're doing the right thing and other kids feel like they don't need to wait in line." Mom rolls her eyes and mumbled, "Oh I didn't know they were waiting..." I asked what she thought they were doing, standing on the trampoline and staring at her kids... she left in a huff... and came back 60 seconds later to allow her kids to resume cutting in line...
It was funny, this happened when we took DS to a local waterpark. He and DH were waiting in some giant water slide, and some kids who are bigger than him (he's 6) tried to cut. DS stuck out his arms, and like boxed them out from cutting in line, and told them they had to wait and to go to the end. DH was cracking up.
FFC- I will totally step in and correct a stranger’s kid for crap like that. And I will stare pointedly at the parent while I do it. I’m not into judgment of other parents up until it affects how my kids think they can act. And yeah, my kid isn’t going to be disadvantaged because you don’t think your kid needs to be civilized.
We were at Chick Fil A for lunch yesterday and I couldn’t get over the piercing shrieks in the dining room! Honestly, how hard is it to teach your kids not to scream for no reason?
Post by sandandsea on Jul 28, 2018 11:55:43 GMT -5
Ds2 has realized he is 2. He is throwing, screaming, waterworks, tantrum Ung like crazy lately. He goes from totally fine to meltdown on 0.2 seconds. And ds1 eggs him on and annoys him making it worse.
My kids don’t fight much when they are at home, but apparently they go to war at MIL’s house. Yesterday I made DD explain to her grandmother what Mommy does when they fight over a toy. Toy goes to timeout until the kids can come to me with their plan for sharing or taking turns or whatever. If I approve the plan, they get the toy back. If not, toy stays in timeout until the next day. DD was pissed when Grandma liked that idea and said she was implementing it.
My irritation is the kids’ inability to put their toys away. I’m so sick of picking up after them that today I told them any toy left out I must assume is garbage so I will throw it away. No more warnings. If there’s an abandoned toy out of place, into the trash it’s going. Hey, it’s a new way to whittle down the toy collection! By tomorrow we may have no need for a playroom.
mommyatty, I did something similar... I haven't thrown away yet for not picking up, but I will tell the kids that if I ask them to put it away, and it doesn't get put away, then I put it away... and I hide it. Back of my closet, in my office (kids are not allowed in there), in DH's office, wherever... if they don't ask for it back, after a while, it gets purged.
If they fight over the toy, especially a silly toy, I toss it when they're not looking.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 29, 2018 6:25:10 GMT -5
DD and DS fighting over a book:
DD: I need to see! DS: You don't need to see. You want to see.
He's such a twit lately.
By the way, that argument devolved into him running out of the room sobbing while I read to DD, who was sitting calmly. She was absolutely thrilled with the way the whole thing went down.