TWERKS and Randoms

[mustardseed2007]

Starting it. I have long ones. 

[waverly]

Still alive. Camping is over headed to the lake house. The worst is packing up camp.

I can’t believe its already Thursday. Don’t want to go back to work on Monday.

Still spotting but no cramps so still thinking it’s the medicine (high dose steroid) which kind of stinks but I have two doctor appointments Aug 16 and Aug 23 to keep working in it. I hope I get some answers because I am doubting the diagnosis, but regardless treatment is similar.

[rere]

In my suicide training for 2 days. Nit really a mood lifter.

Ds has fallen off the growth charts. He is 5ft at 15. He grew 3 inches in the last 2 years. Doc said it should be 4 -6. We did another bone scan. Dh and I are fighting about what to do. He is adamant that he was a late bloomer and he will be fine. Plus he cites the money. So you will pay 10s of thousands for a truck, but not 1000 for a test for your kid. Reminds me of his dad who told Dh to try to push his teeth in with his fingers instead of paying for braces. Hopefully the scan show's he has the bones of a 13,14 year old and he's just slow.

Had a great day at the pool with my two and the cousins yesterday.

[mustardseed2007]

So TWERK with DS: I got his school class schedule and after showing his current tutor the times that he can be pulled for tutoring...we are officially having to switch tutors based on her lack of availability. I'm so sad. I have leads on 3 other tutors, 2 of which already go to his new school and one of which the school is trying to help me set up, so hopefully one of them pans out.

TWERK on the walkway: 1st guy's written quote was 4K for pavers (1K what he had told us for pavers) and 2K for concrete. 2nd guy was 3K for pavers, and 1600 for concrete. I think we have a winner except.... our downstairs tub is backing up a lot. I have called a plumber and now I'm afraid I have a giant plumbing bill in my near future.

ETA: aaaand struck out with Tutor #1. Waiting to hear from Tutor #2 and #3....

[186momx]

rere, my brother went into freshman year at 4'9" and 90lbs he graduated at 6'1' and 120lbs and now at 31 years old he is almost 6'3" and about 140lbs. He grew so much between 15-17 that most of the time he walked around like an old man because every joint in his body hurt. So late bloomers do happen. What size shoe does your DS wear? My brother had size 12 shoe by 15 and was only 5'.

SOS-DH and his therapist think that I sleep to much and that is why I don't want to do anything and I need to sleep less. I've gone to bed around 9 and get up at 6:30 and have had this schedule since college. I'm not a night owl at all but can stay up late when I need to. I got really pissed last night and told him everyone needs different amounts of sleep and it isn't his or his therapist business when I go to bed or get up. I like my sleep and I need my sleep to be a nice human.

I'm replacing my water heater this weekend. My old one is from 1992 so it is due.

[mustardseed2007]

Oh rere 's post reminded me about our other twerk...

DS was denied our application for Growth hormones by our insurance, and...there's a lot of reasons but I've decided to move to a new endocrinologist. This one is in a big hospital system that is really hard to deal with and I'm over it.

In a related note, DD was asked to do exome sequencing by her geneticist because she has markers for a condition that she clearly doesn't have (for one thing, the condition makes you grow big and she's not on the growth chart, plus some other physical signs that she also doesn't have). I haven't scheduled the test yet, months after they told me they want to do it, and I think it's because I don't want to do the test. I don't see benefit for her and I think they are just trying to understand genetics more through testing her. She's not a guinea pig.

[mae0111]

DH started his own business last August/Sept. He’s been incredibly successful and as of the end of July, he has billed more than we brought in combined when we were both working FT. I’m so proud of him... and a tiny bit jealous of his success. I know that there’s no way he could have done this if I wasn’t at home FT. He needs to travel a lot, and the demands on my time were increasing quickly at my old job - lots of talk about sending me to APAC for weeks on end - DNW.

I’m starting up my own thing, but I made a decision to grossly undercharge in order to work with small businesses. And my schedule will have to revolve around the kids since DH’s travel is so unpredictable. I’m thinking that small businesses will be slightly more understanding if my rates are low.

I’m feeling a little.... deficient, I guess? I hate not pulling my weight financially. Even after a year, I’m still not used to it. DH NEVER makes me feel that way - it’s all me. And I hate that I feel this way. But I do.

[mustardseed2007]

186momx, Your DH's therapist? She's not your therapist. She doesn't know anything about you. He needs a new therapist.

[rere]

Aug 2, 2018 11:31:36 GMT -5 186momx said:

rere, my brother went into freshman year at 4'9" and 90lbs he graduated at 6'1' and 120lbs and now at 31 years old he is almost 6'3" and about 140lbs. He grew so much between 15-17 that most of the time he walked around like an old man because every joint in his body hurt. So late bloomers do happen. What size shoe does your DS wear? My brother had size 12 shoe by 15 and was only 5'.

SOS-DH and his therapist think that I sleep to much and that is why I don't want to do anything and I need to sleep less. I've gone to bed around 9 and get up at 6:30 and have had this schedule since college. I'm not a night owl at all but can stay up late when I need to. I got really pissed last night and told him everyone needs different amounts of sleep and it isn't his or his therapist business when I go to bed or get up. I like my sleep and I need my sleep to be a nice human.

I'm replacing my water heater this weekend. My old one is from 1992 so it is due.

That makes me feel better. He doesn't have a large foot, but my dad was 6 ft 5, and only wore a size 9 1/2. I think that's why he was clumsy.

[rere]

Aug 2, 2018 11:31:36 GMT -5 186momx said:

rere, my brother went into freshman year at 4'9" and 90lbs he graduated at 6'1' and 120lbs and now at 31 years old he is almost 6'3" and about 140lbs. He grew so much between 15-17 that most of the time he walked around like an old man because every joint in his body hurt. So late bloomers do happen. What size shoe does your DS wear? My brother had size 12 shoe by 15 and was only 5'.

SOS-DH and his therapist think that I sleep to much and that is why I don't want to do anything and I need to sleep less. I've gone to bed around 9 and get up at 6:30 and have had this schedule since college. I'm not a night owl at all but can stay up late when I need to. I got really pissed last night and told him everyone needs different amounts of sleep and it isn't his or his therapist business when I go to bed or get up. I like my sleep and I need my sleep to be a nice human.

I'm replacing my water heater this weekend. My old one is from 1992 so it is due.

That makes me feel better. He doesn't have a large foot, but my dad was 6 ft 5, and only wore a size 9 1/2. I think that's why he was clumsy.

[traveltheworld]

As some of you may recall, I had asked for advice about whether/how to approach a cousin who is cheating on his wife who just had a baby. Update: DH talked to him last night. DH took the approach of "hey, just so you know, this girl is telling everyone, so regardless of whether it's true, you should deal with it." Cousin was surprised, didn't deny it, but also didn't want to discuss it further. So we'll leave it at that.

[186momx]

Oh I know and all of us WPs know my DH's therapist isn't good or right for him but he thinks highly of her. Why shouldn't he she says what he wants to hear and doesn't push the hard stuff. I need to try and talk to him about not seeing her as often as I don't see where she is helping him or us as a family so unless he can tell me how it is helping him there needs to be a change.


Also no new updates on what is going on with FIL. I don't think DH or his brother can agree on what their dad needs and no more issues have come up so everything is being left alone at this point. As far as I know DH hasn't had any contact with his dad in 3 weeks. Whole thing drives me crazy.

[HeartofCheese]

Finally settled the divorce. The X is moving out 8.15. I've started seeing a hot cardiologist. Life is definitely getting better.

[mustardseed2007]

HeartofCheese,

This all sounds reeeeeeeeeeeeally good!!!!

[covergirl82]

HeartofCheese , awesome news - both the XH move-out date and dating a hot cardiologist!

[justcheckingin73]

That is so exciting HeartofCheese! You certainly deserve some fun after all you’ve been through.

mae0111 - not the same situation but I felt very similar when I was unemployed - hell I feel like that now! DH made partner at his CPA firm and I feel like all I’ve done is maintained my current status for years. I think you’re getting the best of both worlds - you were a working parent, then you stayed at home and now you’ve got a hybrid solution. It will keep you marketable as your kids get older and then you’ll have carte blanche when it comes to your career! At least that’s the hope

[twinmomma]

HeartofCheese, So happy for you!

[justcheckingin73]

A random: I recently made several online purchases - cat food, running shoes, shirt & sports bras and some makeup. Of course they are all being delivered today when DH is working from home!

[shakinros]

HeartofCheese that is amazing! I’m so glad things are looking up!

[sdlaura]

rere, my DH was the same height at that age. He ended up at 5’7”/5’8” on a good day, so not tall but a fine height. His parents struggled over whether to intervene too and decided not to.

I expect to find myself in your shoes eventually - my two boys are both short. Baby DS2 is only 10th percentile for height. They don’t have much of a shot with me barely 5’3”. Of course my daughter is now almost six and has always been super tall - go figure.

[shakinros]

After another couple days of meltdown and mental health chaos last week, DH agreed to do some intake phone calls for inpatient treatment. His therapist hooked him up with a placement specialist who discovered not one place that will take our insurance. Zip. Zero.

Now the specialist works for a particular behavioral health network and did not contact the two clinics within an hour of our home so I think there’s still hope. But in the meantime, DH lost his appetite for going away and now says he won’t do it. Still somewhat open to an intensive outpatient program, which he was going to discuss with his therapist this morning.

He says what he really needs is structure in his days and I couldn’t agree more. We’ve had that exact conversation at least 100 times since he got laid off in February so I’m unclear on what’s going to change to make this time the time that he succeeds in creating structure for himself.

For myself, I am working on not trying to control this process, or how he spends his days. It is challenging. I had not realized how much I was trying to control (cause he’s struggling and needs help! And I’m so smart and helpful!) until I consciously tried to stop giving input on everything. He’s gotta own his own life (see paragraph above).

In other news, DD is turning 6 in just a couple weeks. Pretty good response to her birthday invites which is a nice surprise. My kid is... not for everyone so it definitely could’ve gone the other way. Prob helps that we didn’t invite her whole class. Thanks, summer birthday!

[mae0111]

HeartofCheese - I’ve been thinking of you - congratulations!!

[xctsclrx]

Aug 2, 2018 13:29:16 GMT -5 HeartofCheese said:

Finally settled the divorce. The X is moving out 8.15. I've started seeing a hot cardiologist. Life is definitely getting better.

Awesome!!!

[xctsclrx]

DD and I have settled into a good BF rytham. I don't have to supplement at all during the day and DH gives her a bottle of formula for her late night meal.

I am happy about that, but now I have to go to drill this weekend and hopefully can pump enough to cover what she needs. I am stressing about that.

Going back to work at the end of this month so this weekend should be a good test run.

[rere]

Call from the doctor. The bone scan shows age 13, which is great news. It means he's 2 years delayed, so he will hopefully grow, just late. If they showed 15, there would be a problem and not much time to make a decision.

[rere]

sdlaura I would be thrilled with 5ft 8. I am 5ft 9, so if we were eye level, I'd be good. Dh is 5ft 11, close to 6ft, so not extremely tall.

[mustardseed2007]

rere, just based on what our endocrinologists have told us, you're on kind of a tight timeline. If you want to start the process, I would start it now.

I don't want to concern you it's just that the older the kid is, the less time they have to grow and the less responsive they are. I've heard 14 is the age after which you can't treat, although I've also heard other places that for boys that it's age 16 and there are medications they can give him that can extend his growth period. However, the longer period of time that they can receive treatment, the better chance you have of seeing some results.

[mae0111]

DD1's frenemy sent her a letter this week. She asked DD1 when they could have a play date, and ended with "I love you." DD1 has been doing so much better since she's been away from that school and the kids in it, save a few really cute kids that have been here a bit this summer. We debated about giving her the letter, and finally decided to let her make the decision about how to handle it (with some guidance).

Yesterday, DD1 crafted a very well thought out response that basically stated that she didn't want to see Frenemy. The gist was,"Thank you for your letter, but we need more time apart. I hope you are having a nice summer." She's asked me to mail it... but I don't know if I should. Is it better to just fade away? There is very little risk of them running into each other since they don't do the same activities until spring.

[mommyatty]

mae0111, I wouldn’t mail it. And if ever asked, I would lie my butt off about it getting lost in the mail. MOTY candidate, right here!

[mustardseed2007]

mommyatty, I would do the same. I think the letter is more for her. I don't think anything will be gained by actually giving it to Frenemy. But I'm super passive aggressive about stuff like this, obvs.