week of 9/10

[cactuscookie]

Sept 13, 2018 7:14:08 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm , that is a good point; it is easy for me to say "consider yourself lucky!" but I think I would worry about it as well if S was not walking independently or whatever the milestone was that we were talking about. For both you and King26 though I would not be worried--they are still well in the range of normal and are SO CLOSE to walking. If they showed no signs in walking with furniture, hands, toys, etc then I would be worried. But they ARE walking, they are just being safe and cautious.

S on the other hand climbed up onto the couch last night and was jumping and spinning around and he OBVIOUSLY fell off and slammed his head wicked hard on the floor. The kid is the opposite of cautious and it shows when he gets reckless. Poor bugger.

**note, he is fine. We checked him for signs of head injury and concussion (oddly enough my dad was in the ER this weekend with a concussion and S and I were there with him so I had just spoken to the doctor about signs to look out for) and he is his happy little self this morning.

Uuuggggh, H did this when she was 16-17 months old. It was my fault, because she was on the couch with me, and I thought SURELY by now she's smart enough not to walk off the edge, but no, there she went, running away off the side and falling face first on the tile. It was over a year ago and I sort of literally don't think DH has ever forgiven me. (She was also fine; she cried for a couple minutes and got over it.)

[shauni27]

cactuscookie, I think H feels guilty because he was with him when it happened. He was like, "I was just going to stop him from doing it and then he fell!" I had to reiterate that in no way do I blame him--I am the one who encouraged S to climb and play around! Kids fall, it happens.

[loira]

Sept 12, 2018 17:11:49 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

More fun with this questionnaire:

"After your child watches you draw a line from the top of the paper to the bottom, ask her to make a line like yours. Does your child copy you by drawing a single line in a vertical direction?"

My child: "No, don't draw lines! Draw letters!"

This is going well.

Who devised these questions? A would for sure not do this either.

So, I tried to outsmart her last night and it worked pretty well! As you know, we've been struggling with bedtimes. She gets super silly, refuses to put on her PJs (does the whole limp noodle thing), runs away, flails around etc. It was starting to get really negative, and I usually had to keep taking stories away or whatever. But the other night I said something to my H that kind of pinged in my brain: "we're not setting her up for success". So last night I tried to predict some of her more bonkers ideas, and instead made them part of what I was asking her to do. Like "can you run to the couch, and run back and put your clothes in the laundry hamper? Choose your PJs and then we can dance around before you put them on." It worked! (For now). She was the most cooperative she's been in a long time. Mama 1, A 0!

[cactuscookie]

Sept 13, 2018 9:38:19 GMT -5 loira said:

So, I tried to outsmart her last night and it worked pretty well! As you know, we've been struggling with bedtimes. She gets super silly, refuses to put on her PJs (does the whole limp noodle thing), runs away, flails around etc. It was starting to get really negative, and I usually had to keep taking stories away or whatever. But the other night I said something to my H that kind of pinged in my brain: "we're not setting her up for success". So last night I tried to predict some of her more bonkers ideas, and instead made them part of what I was asking her to do. Like "can you run to the couch, and run back and put your clothes in the laundry hamper? Choose your PJs and then we can dance around before you put them on." It worked! (For now). She was the most cooperative she's been in a long time. Mama 1, A 0!

We are totally raising the same kid! DH and I had a talk last night about H's bedtime routine. She basically does everything you describe A doing. It's worked out that most of the bedtime routine has fallen to me, and I can handle some shenanigans but not at every single damn step, so DH offered to take over some of it. So yay, no more fighting with H about brushing her teeth. "No, scrub. Like, back and forth. Yeah, there you go! No, no, keep scrubbing, don't just suck on the toothbrush. Okay, my turn. Open your mouth. No, open it. Just open your mouth. No, put your tongue in, I'm not brushing that yet and it's in my way. Tongue in. In. Okay, we did one side, now we need to do the other. Open your mouth. No, tongue in. Okay! Now we're ready for the tongue." After similar discussions over getting in the bath, getting out of the bath, putting pajamas on, combing hair...

[starryfish]

anyone else's toddler SCREAM BLOODY murder when you brush their teeth for them? Like I am NOT brushing hard or anything, but my DH has to hold her down to do it. She is perfectly fine if she gets to do it but obviously a 21mo cannot do a good job by themselves. sigh..

[Mushe]

starryfish, it’s so common! DS went through a phase where you’d think we were ripping his fingernails out, when we were brushing his teeth. A bunch of moms in my BMB said the same. Luckily, it passed, but it was stressful! Hang in there.

[thoseareradishes]

starryfish, E is hot and cold with brushing. Before her surgery she hated it, so I stopped for a while after surgery because she didn't need any more trauma. Then she seemed to like it for a couple of weeks, then started fighting again. Now she lays on a pillow in the living room and I brush, and she's okay with that. So I guess try switching it up?

[thoseareradishes]

I have to take E in for routine blood work tomorrow and I'm dreading it; I need to stop thinking about it because it's making me really upset. She's going to flip out and she's so strong it's hard for me to hold her still. I really really REALLY hope the phlebotomist is good and quick.

[EllieT]

Alfie used to hate brushing his teeth. Then a a month or two ago I bought him a small step stool for the bathroom to stand on when washing his hands and one night when fighting him about the teeth I figured we could try with him standing on the step stool by the sink. He was busy washing his hands and didn’t mind me brushing. Next day we went straight for the sink and he wasn’t even playing with the water but still let me brush. Now brushing is no problem at all.

(I’m sure this won’t last forever and there will be periods again when he will fight us but for now it’s super easy)

[scm1011]

Sept 13, 2018 18:09:30 GMT -5 Mushe said:

starryfish , it’s so common! DS went through a phase where you’d think we were ripping his fingernails out, when we were brushing his teeth. A bunch of moms in my BMB said the same. Luckily, it passed, but it was stressful! Hang in there.

Yup, same here! It used to take both of us to get Cal's teeth brushed, but for the last month or so a switch flipped and be runs to the bathroom when I say "time to brush teeth!". I sing silly songs while I brush them and then he has his turn. Hopefully it passes for you soon! 

[scm1011]

My FET is today! I'm excited and nervous. I feel so fortunate that our first transfer worked last time and I feel like there is no way I'll be that lucky again. Or that it wouldn't be fair somehow. So many weird emotions.

[EllieT]

Sept 14, 2018 7:39:34 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

My FET is today! I'm excited and nervous. I feel so fortunate that our first transfer worked last time and I feel like there is no way I'll be that lucky again. Or that it wouldn't be fair somehow. So many weird emotions.

Good luck withthe transfer!

[Mushe]

Yay, scm1011! I’m glad transfer went well. All good thoughts for you and your embaby!

thoseareradishes, I hope the blood work is quick! I hate hate hate those draws. I cried when DS got some at about 18mo. 😥

[starryfish]

scm1011, thinking of you today! GL!!!!!!!!!

[shauni27]

Sept 14, 2018 7:39:34 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

My FET is today! I'm excited and nervous. I feel so fortunate that our first transfer worked last time and I feel like there is no way I'll be that lucky again. Or that it wouldn't be fair somehow. So many weird emotions.

Thinking such good and fertile thoughts for you, friend!!

[janegold]

YAY, good luck scm1011!!!

[janegold]

Sept 13, 2018 16:11:30 GMT -5 starryfish said:

anyone else's toddler SCREAM BLOODY murder when you brush their teeth for them? Like I am NOT brushing hard or anything, but my DH has to hold her down to do it. She is perfectly fine if she gets to do it but obviously a 21mo cannot do a good job by themselves. sigh..

Absolutely.  He acts like I am torturing him.  He asks to do it every single day by himself - he likes his watermelon toothpaste - but I have to literally pin him down screaming to take my turn at brushing them.  They brush every day at school too, and his teachers have told me that he doesn't give them any trouble, but I have seen pictures of him also brushing his own teeth at school, so I wonder if they are actually brushing or just letting him brush by himself.

I really hope that switch-flip is coming for us soon, too.

[thoseareradishes]

Well blood work was a bust. I was holding her as tight as I could but she was still fighting too hard and they couldn't get it. So now we have to go to the hospital next week and try. I talked to a really nice lady on the phone and explained I needed the best of the best to do this blood draw, that my kid isn't a special snowflake but she is a super hard stick, and she was so nice and told me who to see. I started crying on the phone. I felt stupid but I hate seeing E go through this.

[kellikans]

Good luck scm1011!