I find it hard to believe a lot of you wouldn’t find it obnoxious if your cousin and his wife announced her pregnancy, to your family, on your wedding day, which you already had to move because they were getting married. Come on. It’s just inappropriate and tacky.
I can honestly say that I would have been thrilled for one of my cousins to announce a pregnancy at my wedding. I get along well with all of them, know that they wouldn't do it to try to upstage me, and hated being the center of attention anyway. I actually would have welcomed the relief!
I get that not everybody is like me, but I'm not going to default assume everyone would be angry/hurt either.
Look I am already the most beautiful person in the room on the day of my wedding. Ain’t nobody going to take my thunder. I am the one in the pretty princess dress. That is all I need. People can make all sorts of announcements about their life choices as I glide around lol.
Post by One Girl In All The World on Oct 15, 2018 10:00:12 GMT -5
I don’t think they rolled into the reception with a banner and and a gender reveal cake. Like others said, it was probably getting obvious and with the tour immediately following, it just worked out to tell some key people over the course of the festivities. That would not have bothered me.
My cousin announced her pregnancy at my wedding. I understand....she lives 3 hours away and she had everyone together. I was, however, pissed -- not at her or at being upstaged or whatever. When they told the family my dad went and grabbed me off the dance floor and insisted we take a family photo *right then* to commemorate the moment. My college girlfriends and I had a certain song that was "ours" that I had requested be played and I missed the whole thing. I was pretty pissed at him for being a douche and the situation, but I wasn't angry at my cousin.
Look I am already the most beautiful person in the room on the day of my wedding. Ain’t nobody going to take my thunder. I am the one in the pretty princess dress. That is all I need. People can make all sorts of announcements about their life choices as I glide around lol.
As I glide around in my emerald and diamond tiara.
I find it hard to believe a lot of you wouldn’t find it obnoxious if your cousin and his wife announced her pregnancy, to your family, on your wedding day, which you already had to move because they were getting married. Come on. It’s just inappropriate and tacky.
At every wedding I've ever been to, it's completely normal for close family and friends to gather in small groups after the ceremony to chit chat about their own stuff that has nothing to do with the bride and groom. If someone wanted to share the news with their parents or siblings at that point, and the parents/siblings could be relied upon to be discrete and not immediately start blabbing to everyone else at the reception, then I don't see what the big deal is or how anyone else would even know.
Like I said, the one thing that I could see as being thunder stealing is if a sibling did this to another sibling on his/her wedding day and shared the news with their joint parents. But that's not what happened here. I doubt Andrew and Fergie spared a passing thought for what Meghan and Harry were talking to Charles about at the reception, kwim?
My family called my shit right out when I declined a beer at a family wedding, so maybe the Duchess drinks like me and there was no hiding it. lol
We told my in-laws about two seconds after the test turned + with DD because we were on our way to a vacation with them the next day and had planned much drunken beachy revelry. To suddenly omit the drunken part of that would've definitely given it away, lol.
My family called my shit right out when I declined a beer at a family wedding, so maybe the Duchess drinks like me and there was no hiding it. lol
The number of people who figured out I was pregnant by 8 weeks because I wasn't drinking made me wonder whether I needed to re-evaluate my entire lifestyle. LOL.
Also it’s highly possible they just confirmed it to a small group of people not even the entire family. Like Charles, the Queen, Phillip and W/K. I mean I could have told my family, including grandparents, something at my cousin’s wedding and no one else would know.
Or it was obvious and they confirmed to the larger group but I doubt they made a spectacle of it since the media didn’t report anything like that. Probably very few guests even knew it happened.
I find it hard to believe a lot of you wouldn’t find it obnoxious if your cousin and his wife announced her pregnancy, to your family, on your wedding day, which you already had to move because they were getting married. Come on. It’s just inappropriate and tacky.
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Oct 15, 2018 11:15:16 GMT -5
I say this with the disclaimer that I only have 4 cousins and only 2 were at my wedding.
I would've been mad if one of them had taken the microphone from the DJ and made a pregnancy announcement on the dance floor in the middle of the reception, but I sincerely doubt this is what happened here.
It’s really interesting that these people can’t just live. Are H&M supposed to not try to get pregnant bc they don’t want to upstage the cousin? How long after would be ok to announce? Should M go into hiding and come out with a baby? I just don’t think you can win these things. And how do we know any of these reports are correct? “Told family”. Which family members?
You couldn’t pay me to deal with this level of nonsense.
I don't even think I'm going to post guesses for the sex and names this time around, because I'm always completely wrong, lol.
I would guess Meghan and Harry probably have more leeway with name choices than Kate and William did - and if the kid doesn't wind up getting the HRH Prince/ss title then I imagine there will be even more leeway in choosing his/her name.
Godparents are also fun to guess. After all this "thunder stealing" talk, it'd be hilarious if Eugenie winds up being a godmother.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Oct 15, 2018 11:20:31 GMT -5
You know, one thing I have always admired about this batch of royals is that at the end of the day they truly are a family. Wills and Harry seem to be quite close, the SILs seem to get along, etc. They're a family. With one hell of a matriarch.
They straight up had to tell the Queen before they left on this tour. Full stop. The Queen is NOT going to find out about this on the internet, no ma'am.
For those who think this is so horrible, when in all fanciful fuck should they have told the Queen? After the baby was born? Hell, I could tell on Friday she was pregnant and I'm a million miles away.
I don't even think I'm going to post guesses for the sex and names this time around, because I'm always completely wrong, lol.
I would guess Meghan and Harry probably have more leeway with name choices than Kate and William did - and if the kid doesn't wind up getting the HRH Prince/ss title then I imagine there will be even more leeway in choosing his/her name.
Godparents are also fun to guess. After all this "thunder stealing" talk, it'd be hilarious if Eugenie winds up being a godmother.
Honestly, I think she will be- it seems like she and Harry are pretty close, and they totally owe her after postponing her wedding
My family called my shit right out when I declined a beer at a family wedding, so maybe the Duchess drinks like me and there was no hiding it. lol
The number of people who figured out I was pregnant by 8 weeks because I wasn't drinking made me wonder whether I needed to re-evaluate my entire lifestyle. LOL.
I was just lucky my entire family knows my drink of choice is a vodka tonic with lime. The bartender was very happy to keep me in tonic water after I tipped him.
That said, I did announce the day after my cousin’s wedding. It was easiest since all our family was gathered. The bride knew and 100% approved.
I find it hard to believe a lot of you wouldn’t find it obnoxious if your cousin and his wife announced her pregnancy, to your family, on your wedding day, which you already had to move because they were getting married. Come on. It’s just inappropriate and tacky.
DH's cousin told the family at my wedding reception that she was pregnant. I was thrilled and there was hugging and happiness because we're family and we can be happy for all the good news.
My family called my shit right out when I declined a beer at a family wedding, so maybe the Duchess drinks like me and there was no hiding it. lol
We told my in-laws about two seconds after the test turned + with DD because we were on our way to a vacation with them the next day and had planned much drunken beachy revelry. To suddenly omit the drunken part of that would've definitely given it away, lol.
My MIL asked me point-blank if I was 'on the nest' because I ordered a non-alcoholic drink at our family function. I was barely 4 weeks pregnant and had just found out myself a week prior. She said I was 'walking differently'. So... yeah, people notice things.
I give no grief to H&M for announcing when they did.
My mom was going through chemo for stage 3 colon cancer and during my wedding everyone was very concerned about her health. Was that shitty of her or what?
My mom was going through chemo for stage 3 colon cancer and during my wedding everyone was very concerned about her health. Was that shitty of her or what?
My dad found out he had prostate cancer about 3m before my wedding. He had the surgery or whatever, and prostate cancer is not as deadly as many others but it was a huge topic of conversation.
Should have told him to get out his checkbook and shut his piehole I guess.
AND HOW COULD I FORGET THE BIGGEST THUNDER STEALER OF ALL TIME.
The weekend I got engaged, my brother found out he was being deployed to Afghanistan. My engagement was almost 1.5 years long. Guess who got back literally FOUR DAYS before my wedding? Guess who couldn't leave base (and even then got an early release) until the day of my rehearsal dinner? Guess who was the most anticipated person at my wedding?
Spoiler: Not me. Everyone was glad my brother made it home safely, INCLUDING ME. It wouldn't have been the same without him there, and I was just so happy he could be there - even when he was getting my husband sloppy drunk - no one can turn down a drink with a just returned soldier. And then 11 years later, when he was back from another tour in Afghanistan, after suffering a hit from an RPG, I spent my anniversary celebrating him being back and spending 4 hours in the car with my kids to make sure I could be there to welcome him home.
It's pretty normal for your family members' lives to go on around you despite a wedding. It is basically the most normal thing ever.
You know, one thing I have always admired about this batch of royals is that at the end of the day they truly are a family. Wills and Harry seem to be quite close, the SILs seem to get along, etc. They're a family. With one hell of a matriarch.
They straight up had to tell the Queen before they left on this tour. Full stop. The Queen is NOT going to find out about this on the internet, no ma'am.
For those who think this is so horrible, when in all fanciful fuck should they have told the Queen? After the baby was born? Hell, I could tell on Friday she was pregnant and I'm a million miles away.
They really do seem to get along. I think there is some rivalry among the older generation (okay just Andrew and Charles....or really just Andrew), but the "younger" generation (aka the ones closer in age to me, lol) seem to be pretty close. There's always a comment attached to many stories about how close William is to Zara, or how close Harry and B&E are, or how Zara and Harry get along well - it seems that they all just really get along and like each other. I think part of that is because being a royal has to be weirdly isolating in some ways (who knows what it is like to grow up as the grandchild of Queen Elizabeth II? This small group) and also because they do spend a lot of time together overall between Christmas at Sandringham, family holidays and get togethers (that are publicized), etc. You see how Autumn and Kate interacted at that polo match in the spring and it was clear they are friends. Or you can tell that Savannah and George spend a lot of time together etc. The only really bad rumor I have heard is that there was some bad blood between Eugenie/Beatrice and Kate but that seems to have gone away (at least the gossip has.) and Eugenie's husband and Pippa are friends? or Eugenie's husband and Pippa's husband? something like that. There's some overlap there (Eugenie went to pippa's wedding last year.)
Anyway - in addition to that - I don't think they view things the way the rest of us do, things like a wedding. Maybe because most of us here are Americans, or maybe because they are the royals, or whatever. I mean William didnt even attend Peter's wedding to Autumn. So I really don't think Eugenie cared about this announcement besides to say "I'm so happy for you!"
It’s really interesting that these people can’t just live. Are H&M supposed to not try to get pregnant bc they don’t want to upstage the cousin? How long after would be ok to announce? Should M go into hiding and come out with a baby? I just don’t think you can win these things. And how do we know any of these reports are correct? “Told family”. Which family members?
You couldn’t pay me to deal with this level of nonsense.
This is the other thing about this whole "she stole Eugenie's thunder" thing. There was no way for Meghan to announce that would not have drawn criticism, whenever she got pregnant.
Post by penguingrrl on Oct 15, 2018 12:17:01 GMT -5
No matter what Meghan does or when, someone will criticize. The Queen just got back from her summer residence, and H and M we’re in their way out for this tour. It may be that this weekend was the only time they could tell, especially if it was getting pretty obvious just looking at her. For all we know they were going to wait until Sunday, told Eugenie and she said to tell grandma now!
I wonder if they’ll go the Edward and Sophie route and decline the titles. Since Beatrice and Eugenie aren’t working royals the precedent is there for Harry and Meghan’s kids to not be as well - especially when you factor in that there are already three Cambridge children - you could actually see how a good argument could be made for B and E to be working royals - the queen has for children who are all working and since Charles only has the 2 if you included B and E it would still be the same number in that generation. But since they are slimming down the monarchy it definitely doesn’t make sense for H and M’s kids to be working royals.
Edward and Sophie didn't decline titles. He is Earl of Wessex and will be elevated to Duke of Edinburgh on his father's death. For now his son James uses his subsidiary tile Viscount Servern. In this situation, his sister would be styled "Lady".
I wonder if they’ll go the Edward and Sophie route and decline the titles. Since Beatrice and Eugenie aren’t working royals the precedent is there for Harry and Meghan’s kids to not be as well - especially when you factor in that there are already three Cambridge children - you could actually see how a good argument could be made for B and E to be working royals - the queen has for children who are all working and since Charles only has the 2 if you included B and E it would still be the same number in that generation. But since they are slimming down the monarchy it definitely doesn’t make sense for H and M’s kids to be working royals.
Edward and Sophie didn't decline titles. He is Earl of Wessex and will be elevated to Duke of Edinburgh on his father's death. For now his son James uses his subsidiary tile Viscount Servern. In this situation, his sister would be styled "Lady".
But they aren’t prince and princess - even though they are children of a son of the monarch. They declined that title.
Am I the only one thinking it's pretty significant that there will be a multiracial individual who will be in the line of succession? Granted, they will be way down on the list and the probability of H &M's child being king/queen one day is low, I still think that this is noteworthy.
Am I the only one thinking it's pretty significant that there will be a multiracial individual who will be in the line of succession? Granted, they will be way down on the list and the probability of H &M's child being king/queen one day is low, I still think that this is noteworthy.