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[mikehoncho]

Am I the only one not super excited about the lurkers on TB? I know most of you are done over there but..still.. yeah I'm not suuuuper excited to get to know 239271498273 people all over again. Not saying noonenewshouldeverjoincauseI'llkillthem but.. I don't really want to deal with getting to know a dozen new posters. I think it's weird they thought this was a perfect time to intro and I think it's weird that there are SO MANY. Creeps me out, really. How many lurkers did/does April2012 have?!

[erniebufflo]

Yeah, I mentioned it in another thread. I like new people, clearly I like you and am glad you showed up, but so many at once is overwhelming. I don't find myself recognizing like half the SNs over there. And I'm really not in the mood to make THAT MANY new friends all at once.

[kdrake8]

No, I understand. I am still over there but as I'm looking at the posts... I'm not seeing girls that I spent over a year making connections with... And I wanna follow up with all of the babies. I feel like I'm invested in everyone now. Idk if I have the heart to start over.

[kdrake8]

Sept 19, 2012 17:12:06 GMT -5 kdrake8 said:

No, I understand. I am still over there but as I'm looking at the posts... I'm not seeing girls that I spent over a year making connections with... And I wanna follow up with all of the babies. I feel like I'm invested in everyone now. Idk if I have the heart to start over.

To clarify, I mean start over getting to know a whole board full of new people

[thedahliharpa]

It doesn't bother me but I got my knocks by being on the AP board before any other boards. At that time we were a freakish fishbowl and the post views on everything were super high. So I always felt "watched".
As far as all the newbs I'm taking a "hey whatever,cool, if they want to talk to me they can but I'm not gonna break the ice" stance.
Basically I'm doing my same deal and if I happen to click with someone new so be it. If not,*shrug*.

[mikehoncho]

Sept 19, 2012 17:11:43 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Yeah, I mentioned it in another thread. I like new people, clearly I like you and am glad you showed up, but so many at once is overwhelming. I don't find myself recognizing like half the SNs over there. And I'm really not in the mood to make THAT MANY new friends all at once.

This! If it were a couple at a time..awesome! But jeeze there have been SO many intros the past couple of days.

[erniebufflo]

Sept 19, 2012 17:13:21 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

The only problem with saying that you don't like that many new people and you'd rather be over here (or the private boards) is that you are lending yourself to the "exclusive" stage...if you don't want to be around a TON of new people, and you only want to stay with familiar people, that's kind of what happens...
(I'm not saying "you" in reference to anyone in particular, just fartin')

I can see that point. It's a tough situation. I like the new folks who have popped up here too, and the last thing I want is for them to be all "oh, ok, I'll leave if you want." But yeah, the person with the 7 month old? Sorry the February board is less fun, but that's pushing it, unless you had a preemie. And no one is saying that we should kick off all the newbs on TB, but, I think it's OK to say you don't recognize a lot of folks and the place feels different, and to be ambivalent about that.

[christidee]

Playing devil's advocate, I remember when you were new, honcho. I think we should at least give them a chance...well the April mamas.

[mikehoncho]

Sept 19, 2012 17:13:21 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

The only problem with saying that you don't like that many new people and you'd rather be over here (or the private boards) is that you are lending yourself to the "exclusive" stage...if you don't want to be around a TON of new people, and you only want to stay with familiar people, that's kind of what happens...
(I'm not saying "you" in reference to anyone in particular, just fartin')

I totally understand this. I guess I just wish everyone would stay in one place (duh). Like I said in the other post, I'm not against new people its just hard having that many at once.

[mikehoncho]

Sept 19, 2012 17:17:01 GMT -5 christidee said:

Playing devil's advocate, I remember when you were new, honcho. I think we should at least give them a chance...well the April mamas.

I'm not saying that no one new should join. I'm just saying it's overwhelming having that many intros and new people. It's easier to get to know people when there is 1-2 intros a day vs. 8 or 9. Obviously everyone was new at some point, so that would be stupid logic.

[christidee]

Sept 19, 2012 17:19:23 GMT -5 mikehoncho said:

Sept 19, 2012 17:17:01 GMT -5 christidee said:

Playing devil's advocate, I remember when you were new, honcho. I think we should at least give them a chance...well the April mamas.

I'm not saying that no one new should join. I'm just saying it's overwhelming having that many intros and new people. It's easier to get to know people when there is 1-2 intros a day vs. 8 or 9. Obviously everyone was new at some point, so that would be stupid logic.

I do agree with that. It will be hard to remember all of the new people. I know I will get them mixed up.

[Deleted]

I really have to pee. But it is interesting with all the newbies... it will be more interesting to see if they last.

[jenni54542]

May I offer some "newbie" perspective?

I'm an April mom, have been the entire time. I was due April 27th and had my little guy on April 17th. I am generally a very shy person. I have moved a lot IRL and have always had trouble meeting new people and making friends.

I stumbled on the April 2012 BMB shortly before my due date. As I have lurked, I really began to like the April mommas. You always seemed like such an awesome and cohesive bunch (but weren't afraid to disagree with each other which was great). I kept meaning to jump in and just kept putting it off because of that whole "shy" thing. Then it came to the point where it seemed like it would just be ridiculous to join in because I had waited too long.

When the whole thing with the trolls went down, it made me really sad. I checked in frequently with TB throughout the day and really felt like something was going to be missing from my daily life now. I finally kicked myself in the butt to make myself post and lend my "support" to the April board because I really didn't want to see it dissolved.

I have to say, a lot of people made me feel very welcome right away, but there are also several posts (one actually about my intro post, others about all of the new lurkers) that have made me feel a little rejected. As stated previously, I know the timing sucked, but it really took a lot for me personally to put myself out there.

It makes me super sad because I have had such a hard time finding RL mommy groups to join (again with the whole shyness thing and just general lack of groups to join around here as far as I can tell), and was hoping that I would finally be able to join in the fun.

[mikehoncho]

Jenni- I was trying to remember your s/n so I could put a disclaimer in here for you, I don't want you to think your not welcome..that's not at all the case. Like I've said above, I don't have a problem with new people joining. It's just hard to get to know people through the internet period. It's even harder when there are 400 intros on Monday 600 on Tuesday and 800 on Wednesday..by Thursday you feel like you don't "know" anyone. This isn't a bad thing..it's just an adjustment. Also..I don't feel that way on this board. We haven't had a million intros over here.

Long story short, darrrlliiinn youuuu areeee the onlyy excepptiooonnnnnnn (paramore..anyone?)

[mimivee324]

Sept 19, 2012 18:09:22 GMT -5 jenni54542 said:

May I offer some "newbie" perspective?

I'm an April mom, have been the entire time. I was due April 27th and had my little guy on April 17th. I am generally a very shy person. I have moved a lot IRL and have always had trouble meeting new people and making friends.

I stumbled on the April 2012 BMB shortly before my due date. As I have lurked, I really began to like the April mommas. You always seemed like such an awesome and cohesive bunch (but weren't afraid to disagree with each other which was great). I kept meaning to jump in and just kept putting it off because of that whole "shy" thing. Then it came to the point where it seemed like it would just be ridiculous to join in because I had waited too long.

When the whole thing with the trolls went down, it made me really sad. I checked in frequently with TB throughout the day and really felt like something was going to be missing from my daily life now. I finally kicked myself in the butt to make myself post and lend my "support" to the April board because I really didn't want to see it dissolved.

I have to say, a lot of people made me feel very welcome right away, but there are also several posts (one actually about my intro post, others about all of the new lurkers) that have made me feel a little rejected. As stated previously, I know the timing sucked, but it really took a lot for me personally to put myself out there.

It makes me super sad because I have had such a hard time finding RL mommy groups to join (again with the whole shyness thing and just general lack of groups to join around here as far as I can tell), and was hoping that I would finally be able to join in the fun.

Would it be weird to agree with basically all of this? I'll just say "well said" instead. It's hard out there for a newbie! I feel like you need to devote a lot of time to becoming a regular and being accepted (which could just be my shyness and insecurities shining through there). But either way, as we all know, with LOs lots of time is hard to come by!

[jenni54542]

Thanks guys! I know it's overwhelming for the posters who have been around to see so many new people posting now, but it does seem like there are a lot of awesome people coming out of the woodwork. Who knows, this could make the April board the uber BMB (even larger than it is already).

I don't intend to splash right in and post a ton. I wanted to allow things to settle down and give the current April ladies a chance to find their new normal.

I am sad I waited to post until everyone was split up. I miss seeing everyone in one place!!

Also, if you don't want newbies hanging around, you're just going to have to try to be less fun! ;D