aprilsails it’s totally normal for them to not try for the heartbeat before 12 weeks.It can be very hard to find it since baby is so small so a lot of practices don’t try because it worries patients.
aprilsails it’s totally normal for them to not try for the heartbeat before 12 weeks.It can be very hard to find it since baby is so small so a lot of practices don’t try because it worries patients.
I know and she explained it all to me. I just feel as though everyone in the US goes in for an early ultrasound and that’s not often offered here. I mean, I know my dates, everything should be ok, but I’m just kind of left not really feeling pregnant at the moment. I am grateful, but also a bit anxious.
Of all you ladies who commented on wanting to have a med-free birth again this time around, what did you do to achieve this? How did you prepare?
I read this book, which was helpful but maybe not worth the time investment of reading an entire book. She recommends a lot of specific coping strategies, none of which I used, but the general suggestions were probably useful. In a nutshell, she discusses various methods to distract yourself from the pain. The strategies fit into a few categories: leg movement, breathing/vocalizing, visualization, keywords/mantras. Everything should be rhythmic. Rest in between contractions.
I ended up hitting a yoga ball while tapping my foot and saying "ow" over and over during contractions - for hours and hours. DH counted me through contractions. My sister had three med-free births, and her strategies were to count with her husband, breathe rhythmically, and visualize round things opening. She said one of the nurses commented on how quiet she was for a med-free birth. I was, uh, not very quiet during mine.
Unlike Susie, I would say it's the most painful thing I've experienced - but I don't run marathons and the like. Well, maybe not the most painful thing necessarily, but certainly the most painful thing I've dealt with for that long.
aprilsails it’s totally normal for them to not try for the heartbeat before 12 weeks.It can be very hard to find it since baby is so small so a lot of practices don’t try because it worries patients.
I know and she explained it all to me. I just feel as though everyone in the US goes in for an early ultrasound and that’s not often offered here. I mean, I know my dates, everything should be ok, but I’m just kind of left not really feeling pregnant at the moment. I am grateful, but also a bit anxious.
Nope on that too. I didn't have an US with my first 2 until the NT scan (so 12ish weeks). I remember how much it sucked to have to wait but it really isn't that unusual.
I just feel as though everyone in the US goes in for an early ultrasound and that’s not often offered here. I mean, I know my dates, everything should be ok, but I’m just kind of left not really feeling pregnant at the moment. I am grateful, but also a bit anxious.
I get it. I was debating between two practices early this pregnancy, and this was one of my deciding factors. One (which I saw for baby #1) I knew would do a dating u/s at 8-9 weeks, then a NT scan at 12-13, and we wouldn't try to listen for the HB on doppler until 16w. The other practice would do just a urine pg test at 6w, a Doppler HB check at 8-9w (which sounded to me like a whole lotta borrowed worry), and a first u/s at 12-13. I know that the first practice's schedule wouldn't change the outcome of the pregnancy, but it sure made me more comfortable.
Hang in there.
humpforfree, I'm sorry. Hopefully we will see you back here soon!
cactuscookie, to be fair, the "most painful" thing I can remember for sure was not at all routine, or anything I EVER hope to do again! In 2012 I was involved in a 35 mph bike crash during a race, and left the course by ambulance. I broke my helmet in two places, but didn't sustain any head injuries (cue angels singing). I did however have extensive road rash from ankle to shoulder and up my back, among other injuries. The cleanout was unbearable. All through labor I basically thought well, at least this isn't that!
Post by KellyEasterbrook on Feb 14, 2019 20:12:05 GMT -5
1. 23w+6d 2. This is the week of the last pregnancy when out daughter passed away. Between that and having to decide yesterday it was time to put down our 17-year old family dog...well...I've had better weeks. 3. Nah, not this week. But thank you to all who replied to my question last week re: priorities for baby planning. I may add a diaper pail tot hat list after reading this thread! 4. Birth plan = give me drugs, have baby, bring baby home. That's all I've got!
Post by KellyEasterbrook on Feb 14, 2019 20:18:55 GMT -5
knx9211, I had an SCH around 8 or 9 weeks that bled for a few days. I had some additional bleeding a few weeks later and *knock of wood* everything has turned out fine so far! It was so stressful, though. I hope you have a good outcome.
knx9211 I had a SCH at 6 weeks and everything turned out good! I had some more hemorrhaging at 13 weeks again, but there hasn’t been any more bleeding since.
KellyEasterbrook (hugs) sorry you are having a bad week and I am sorry for you losses. ❤️
cactuscookie , to be fair, the "most painful" thing I can remember for sure was not at all routine, or anything I EVER hope to do again! In 2012 I was involved in a 35 mph bike crash during a race, and left the course by ambulance. I broke my helmet in two places, but didn't sustain any head injuries (cue angels singing). I did however have extensive road rash from ankle to shoulder and up my back, among other injuries. The cleanout was unbearable. All through labor I basically thought well, at least this isn't that!
That's horrible! I feel sorta bad for making light of it now.
My most painful thing is debilitating cramps I get in my feet. However, those only last for, at the absolute maximum, about half an hour, whereas I had several hours of intense labor contractions. But at least I got breaks in between contractions, plus it helped somewhat to know that the pain was something that my body was doing right, not a malfunction.
I've never even considered going to a chiropractor before, but man. My tailbone is not going to make it 15 more weeks.
hamster , I was having terrible burning in my tailbone on the days I work. I went to see a physiotherapist (physical therapist equivalent in the US, I think) and she basically said my entire pelvis was super tight. She massaged my butt with her elbow, which was quite painful at times. I was sore to the touch a few days, but haven't had the tailbone pain since so I call it a win!
I've never even considered going to a chiropractor before, but man. My tailbone is not going to make it 15 more weeks.
Chiro is seriously the best thing I've done for pregnancy related pains. Like someone described above, digging a thumb or elbow into my ass hurts like hell during but I feel so much better after.
We tagged along on H's haircut, and the hairdresser asked if we had a name. He said "depends who you ask." Fine, you just earned yourself a top 1000 list. He's deliberately being a douche thinking it's funny. Dont push the pregnant lady!!
Note that he also said I get to name this one, since he named the last one....
1. 23 weeks 2. I had my first dream about baby. I can’t remember the details but I clearly remember the baby having blue eyes. I just assume baby will have brown but maybe not.... 4. I don’t have a birth plan. Going into it without any expectations for a certain type of birth. DS1 was a long 30+ hour labor and I did end up getting an epidural which was a godsend so I could rest half way through and have the energy to push him out. DS2 I was induced 5 days late (OB only broke water and that started contractions). He was super fast but over 10lbs and fractured his collarbone. Baby #3 the plan is to induce at 39 weeks given past birth history. I will get an epidural if I have time. I guess my only wish is that she doesn’t come before the induction date because my other kids will still be in school and I really don’t need a baby coming the last week of school - there’s a lot going on that week!
After 2 weeks of stable bp, it spiked again yesterday and the MFM sent me to the hospital for labs. All is fine, thank goodness. I swear all of this running around and stress of thinking something is always wrong is going to give me a heart attack. So over it. Trying to take it easy today.
Good news is I finally got to see my baby’s face yesterday! Every ultrasound I have, he has both his hands and feet over his face and we basically don’t know what he looks like at all, so it was fun to see. He looks like my DD
Post by cherryvalance on Feb 17, 2019 19:27:39 GMT -5
poppyseed, isn't it crazy when you see them and they look like your other kid? I feel stupid for saying it, because they're obviously siblings, but when I saw DD and she looked just like DS, I died. Glad everything is good and hope you can keep taking it easy!