Apparently two people in my division got into a shouting match this morning when I was gone. WTF, you're grown ass adults. One woman doesn't work for me, but she is the admin, so she sits with us. I don't get why people can't just do their jobs, stay in their lane, and go home.
We have this issue too. Two of my staff share a large cube because their responsibilities are the same and they need to work together. Earlier this year one of them requested a space change because they can't get along. We ended up sitting them down and letting them air their grievances. We refuse to change their work space because they need to work together. It was so ridiculous the complaints that came up. I was like "come in. do your job. and go home." It was SOOO immature. I could barely get through the meeting. The bicker like children.
My dog has been experiencing weird stomach symptoms for the last 2 weeks or so, took him to the vet. Blood work came back and he has high phosphorus levels. Late last night, got an email from Chewy staying that dog food I’ve purchased has excessive levels of Vitamin D. After some googling all my dog’s symptoms are there, including high phosphorus levels.
Tried calling our vet, but they’re closed today because they’re located in Deer Park... near the area of the ITC storage tank fires in Houston. Even though the fires are out, Benzene was detected in the air and Deer Park is under a shelter in place. Now getting ready to drive my dog to the emergency vet on the other side of town.
I’m so incredibly frustrated- between the fires and dog food recall (not to mention I became horrible ill with food poisioning last month), I have to ask myself where’s the integrity? Too much craziness happening!
Post by vanillacourage on Mar 21, 2019 9:55:44 GMT -5
I’m about to head to coffee with my college exboyfriend. He lives in the town where we’re vacationing. We dated for 4 years, would probably have ended up together if not for weird timing quirks. Haven’t seen him in 15 or so years but my health shenanigans have kicked me in the butt about taking opportunities to connect with people. Wish me and my wig luck, lol.
cleo29 I'm sorry this is so hard. I agree your STBX is not being very fair. He could have been proactive if he thought there was a problem. And "I'm not attracted to you anymore" is dumb. I hate hate hate when that is said to women because we tend to blame that on appearance, when really I think it just means he's not feeling connected anymore (which entirely separate from plain old attraction IMO). I hope you don't take that too much to heart. It sounds like your relationship has had a lot of issues that both of you contributed to so it's not that something is wrong with YOU, at all. I remember when I split from my XH I worried that I was the problem and that I was never going to find someone new because I was bad at relationships, unattractive, etc. Then I met my current H and realized that I'm pretty damn good at a relationship when I'm with someone who is actually compatible with me. If the relationship/marriage is not right, there is nothing you or I can do to make it so.
tacokick FWIW I thought the reason you don't invite people over sounded perfectly reasonable and didn't give me an impression that you were hoarders at all Though I also agree no explanation is even necessary!
My random - my H ordered a new laptop, and he got a message yesterday that it was delivered and "left at the front door". Well, we live in a secure building on a street that gets heavy foot traffic, and where I'd be surprised if it lasted 5 minutes without being stolen, given our neighborhood. I told him I highly doubt that that was actually where it was left, and that that's probably just a standard delivery message. Well, the package wasn't in our building when we got home, so who knows! I assume it was just marked as delivered but will actually show up today. We've had a lot of issues with things getting delivered since we moved, since our building doesn't have an office with regular hours or a doorman or anything, so there is often nobody there to let deliveries in. The idea of leaving a package in front of our building is cracking me up though. My H almost never orders anything online so this whole thing is new to him. I have gotten sort of used to it already since I order stuff all the time, but it's usually nothing expensive.
Sadly, for me, i am a details person. I need to know all the things and in some strange way it helps me cope. Even if it is hard in the moment. I have read my dad's autopsy report, I have read and heard the black box tape and have watched everything I can his crash. i know there are many out there who would never do that or the idea of it is kind of crazy to them, but for me, that is what i need. i need all the information. Uncertainty is not good.
And if i am being honest, he is not the only one who has felt that way, but I was willing to just keep going. this really is for the best, but it hurts like hell and i kind of wish it happened when the girls were younger. Maybe because i wish i were younger while newly single. lol i don't know.
i am happy that you found someone new and thank you and everyone else who tagged me here for the support. H is not a jerk, i just think there is so much going on right now and has been. he is going to see his mom next weekend and she has diminished greatly. So please, even if you curse him for hurting me , please just keep him and his mom in your thoughts.
Definitely be kind to yourself. I got divorced in 2015 at 37 and ended up finding an amazing man who I'm WAY more compatible with - and I'm now 40. So, it's never too late
I am so tired of fighting with insurance over DS' ADHD meds. They screwed up in December, again in January, and now the pharmacy is telling me on a 90 day refill they can only fill on day 88 since it's a controlled substance (apparently it's some sort of state mandate in NC). Mail order says they can fill at 80%, but since it's a controlled substance I have to sign for it-and the 88 day rule still applies from what I'm now told due to the state's rules overriding the insurance company, so there's no way it will get here in time. I can get an override only if I can get the doctor to call in stating that we will be out of the area on day 88, 89 or 90 and get it filled. I sent a quick message to XH, who is on a controlled substance for ADD, and he doesn't have this problem at all. He calls in at the 80% mark and picks his meds up the same day. I guess I am counting out days now and arranging my calendar around being able to pick up the prescription so he doesn't run out. I get it, but it's another thing to add to the list of things to very carefully manage and another ball to not let drop.
And hugs, cleo29, it's hard starting over. The thought of it petrified me for a long time. The other posters with positive outcomes are encouraging.
Post by onomatopoeia on Mar 21, 2019 10:39:55 GMT -5
We went to a party on Saturday. On Monday, 15 of the 18 people there were bedridden, including me and my 2 kids. It was like Captain Tripps, St. Paddy's Day version. DH left Monday on a work trip and missed all the fun (sarcasm) and last night I had a hard time not rolling my eyes when he complained of being stiff and 'a little queasy".
At least it was fast. The kids are all good and I'm 93% better today.
I’m supposed to fire my employee today. I want to puke.
Is this the same one that you've been having problems with or someone else? This is part of the reason that I could never be a boss, I hate confrontation.
I’m supposed to fire my employee today. I want to puke.
Is this the same one that you've been having problems with or someone else? This is part of the reason that I could never be a boss, I hate confrontation.
Same one. She finally made a big enough mistake (and then lied about it) that nobody can argue that she shouldn’t be fired. I’m happy that she’ll finally be gone, but I hate confrontation and I’m dreading the workload that I’ll have until I hire a replacement.
Is this the same one that you've been having problems with or someone else? This is part of the reason that I could never be a boss, I hate confrontation.
Same one. She finally made a big enough mistake (and then lied about it) that nobody can argue that she shouldn’t be fired. I’m happy that she’ll finally be gone, but I hate confrontation and I’m dreading the workload that I’ll have until I hire a replacement.
I'm glad for you. I know that you were worried about politics with her being friends with the CEO, so it's good that she finally messed up in a big enough way to make her firing inevitable. I know that the extra work load will suck in the short term, but I think that things will just be so much better for you in the future not having to deal with her anymore.
Post by thelurkylulu on Mar 21, 2019 11:03:39 GMT -5
I was so happy to get away from my old boss that I forgot how much starting a new job sucks. Having to prove yourself, make new friends, learn new processes and procedures, etc. It’s just not fun. I think I need a career change and quite honestly, a vacation because I’m so burnt out right now.
Post by blondemoment123 on Mar 21, 2019 11:43:01 GMT -5
How the heck are you supposed to put on makeup when you can’t see? I’m wearing my glasses still because of the pink eye and putting on foundation this morning was a challenge.
How the heck are you supposed to put on makeup when you can’t see? I’m wearing my glasses still because of the pink eye and putting on foundation this morning was a challenge.
Did you toss all of your eye makeup and clean your brushes? Don't reinfect yourself!
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 21, 2019 12:07:40 GMT -5
Oh lawd it's finally Thursday but feels like we've started a new week. I feel like I haven't accomplished anything today, and I stayed an hour late yesterday. I tried to pass the event off to someone who's job it is to recruit, making a good case that the population we assume will be there will be more of who she works with. So now we either are sending both of us one day (Friday), and maybe her on Saturday (if she can go), or leaving the table unmanned on Saturday. I appreciate not having it be mandatory for me, but just send her it's a waste of resources to have 2 people out. We have to have another meeting tomorrow about events too, the whole thing is akward we have no direction with this new person, but yet are hearing rumors that we're not inclusive enough. This is why I'm starting to look for new jobs, I just hate that I'm so close to home with this one I'd lose that huge perk.
2020 being a leap year is screwing me up. We're looking ahead to next year's dates for events and the leap year is pushing everything a couple of days ahead. We usually just keep the same day of the week and move a day over, for example go from January 10 to January 11 if that's. Anyway I'm being a diva and asking that we change things a bit because an event I co-manage would happen on my birthday that year, on a Wed. It's stupid, but I don't want to work late on my birthday. Thankfully there's no logic why we can't swap something so that with a different event that happens the day before, if I'm not at the other event the whole thing won't fall apart, but I feel like a diva making such a demand, esp if I might not be there in a year and a half(+). With my luck DH will work on that day, and it's mid-week so I'll just sit at home and do nothing, or work because it's mid-week. Anyway enjoy 2019 before we worry about 2020.
On a positive note, I took advice from Book Club about downloading an e-book on your phone and reading in line, it really helped and made me not so ragey at the grocery store. I'm so self-concious I feel like people will judge me for being on my phone, but I'm not complaining about the wait.
cleo29 I’m sorry. Are you uncomfortable with him in the house at this point? Do you think it would be easier for you if he stayed somewhere else?
For now, i am ok. we have not told the girls yet, I think that will happen this weekend because i think they know something is going on. we cannot afford him moving out just yet, but as luck would have it, another couple we are friends with are separating too and so he and the might get a place together to try and save money. we'll. i definitely would not want to do this for a year. and i think that would be more confusing for the kids anyway.
I did tell him that I really do not want him going on dates or anything of the sort for a while, especially while we are all still living here together. that, is something he has to do. he agreed.
How the heck are you supposed to put on makeup when you can’t see? I’m wearing my glasses still because of the pink eye and putting on foundation this morning was a challenge.
Did you toss all of your eye makeup and clean your brushes? Don't reinfect yourself!
I threw them all out. It was time anyway. I figured the foundation was okay though. Should I toss that too?
Did you toss all of your eye makeup and clean your brushes? Don't reinfect yourself!
I threw them all out. It was time anyway. I figured the foundation was okay though. Should I toss that too?
What kind of foundation? If it’s a liquid that you squirt and you don’t touch the opening with the brush or your hand, then just sanitize the outside and it should be fine.
If it’s a stick, a compact or anything else that you would have directly touched with your brush/sponge or your fingers then toss it.
I threw them all out. It was time anyway. I figured the foundation was okay though. Should I toss that too?
What kind of foundation? If it’s a liquid that you squirt and you don’t touch the opening with the brush or your hand, then just sanitize the outside and it should be fine.
If it’s a stick, a compact or anything else that you would have directly touched with your brush/sponge or your fingers then toss it.
Same one. She finally made a big enough mistake (and then lied about it) that nobody can argue that she shouldn’t be fired. I’m happy that she’ll finally be gone, but I hate confrontation and I’m dreading the workload that I’ll have until I hire a replacement.
I'm glad for you. I know that you were worried about politics with her being friends with the CEO, so it's good that she finally messed up in a big enough way to make her firing inevitable. I know that the extra work load will suck in the short term, but I think that things will just be so much better for you in the future not having to deal with her anymore.
Anddddd HR told me that I can’t fire her. Her performance evaluation was all “meets expectations” (because my boss wouldn’t let me do anything less) so I can’t go from that to firing her. I have to write her up and put her on a PIP.
I'm glad for you. I know that you were worried about politics with her being friends with the CEO, so it's good that she finally messed up in a big enough way to make her firing inevitable. I know that the extra work load will suck in the short term, but I think that things will just be so much better for you in the future not having to deal with her anymore.
Anddddd HR told me that I can’t fire her. Her performance evaluation was all “meets expectations” (because my boss wouldn’t let me do anything less) so I can’t go from that to firing her. I have to write her up and put her on a PIP.
OMG I'm ragey for you. What's the issue? Is it a state law documenting the bad performance forever? Is it that this person is related to someone high up? Does your boss understand that bad employees are a drain on the company?
I have a lot of random thoughts today - cleo29, my XH said the exact same" I am just not attracted to you anymore" when he told me he didn't want to be married. 6 months later, as he was asking me to come back, he said that he only said that because he thought it would make it easier for me to accept/move on. Much to his disappointment, he was right. There was a whole history of emotional abuse regarding my looks that played into why that was a serious manipulation on his part, and hopefully that is not the case for you - but, it could be, that in his own stupid man ways, he is trying to make t easier for you? It sucks, but just know that how he sees you isn't how the world sees you, or how you should see yourself. As for your class - I thought cycling was the ideal exercise to cry during? lol
wildrice - I have one package that was once delivered to the front door of my building. Predictably, it was gone because I lived on the corner of two heavily trafficked streets. It was so dumb, but the vendor re-sent and all was well. It only happened once though. Hopefully it will appear for you today. lol
Other randoms:
On my way to the elevator with Jiggles this morning, I walked past an apartment where the couple inside were loudly fighting. She called him a fucking asshole, he called her a dumb bitch. It made me very uncomfortable just being on the other side of the door because it all sounded so mean. And I thought to myself, how the hell are you fighting like that at 8:30 in the morning? That is a sign you need to break up, for sure. lol
And I was supposed to go on a date tonight, we were going to meet for coffee - my standard first date from a dating app meeting. He gives me a place that is basically between my office and apartment, so I am good with that. Happens to be near his apartment. Today, he texts that he is looking forward too seeing me, and if I can make it by 6:30, we could grab our drinks and head to the rooftop at his apartment to watch the sunset. Eh...okay. I generally don't go to a persons place on first meeting, but, common area should be fine. Then he responds "and after, we can chill at my place". So I am like, ahh, okay, I think we have a different idea about why we are meeting. So I shoot back that I am not sure how long I will be able to be out for as I have a dog, but, hey, if it goes well, I would be excited for a second date where I'd have more time. To which he responded "haha, okay, I guess we can skip the coffee and go straight to my place for a quickie"
-_-
1) Clearly he is looking for just sex, which is fine, but also not what I am going for. 2) Even if it was what I was going for - in what world is a casual, first time sex encounter that is planned as a quickie going to be tempting?
I am *extraordinarily* busy at work but somehow the bulk of spring break childcare is on me, including today, DS’s birthday, which H was supposed to take off to spend with us. But he just took off to the office because “something blew up.” This is one of the worst possible days for me to be off but you know what - I’m here.
Also, I bought every single present, decoration and party planning necessity, including a family party tonight and escape room Saturday. I’ll be making the cake. H and I are fine but sometimes I just want to shake him and be like, this doesn’t happen by magic. I do these things! Thank me! Be present!
Anddddd HR told me that I can’t fire her. Her performance evaluation was all “meets expectations” (because my boss wouldn’t let me do anything less) so I can’t go from that to firing her. I have to write her up and put her on a PIP.
OMG I'm ragey for you. What's the issue? Is it a state law documenting the bad performance forever? Is it that this person is related to someone high up? Does your boss understand that bad employees are a drain on the company?
The HR person agrees that it is a serious error, but she’s afraid that if it went to court, my employee could spin it in a way where we wouldn’t win.