Post by traveltheworld on Apr 16, 2019 13:06:50 GMT -5
186momx, DS is like that too - he seldom presents his frustrations outside of the home, especially not in front of teachers/coaches. But he gets so worked up at home, especially with me. It was actually one of the things we talked to his psychologist about - her response (which I already knew) was that DS felt the most comfortable with me, so he just lets all of his frustrations out. We've worked really hard over the years to help him better regulate his emotions; and now sometimes he will go and "calm down" by himself after he gets home; it usually involves 20 - 30 minutes of quietly reading in his room and playing lego, then he's all happy again. I also find that handing him a snack right after practice/school really helps - it keeps him distracted for a bit, and then he's usually better at conveying his emotions afterwards.
traveltheworld DD has very few meltdowns. I'm trying to think of her last big meltdown and it was back in December over watching more Magic School Bus. I said no and she threw a huge fit about she had to watch it otherwise she doesn't learn anything. It resulted in loosing Magic School Bus for a month and no TV for a week. I agree with you that she lets out her grievances with school or sports with me at home because she feels the safest with me. She won't even talk it out with grandma and just says it was fine. Aftercare saw it back in October and pulled me aside because it was so unlike DD to grumbled and be angry about something so they were worried.
phdmomma, that is actually a good idea. I just need to record it in the mornings. I have a meeting set up with her teacher Thursday at 3 to go over some things from her report card so being able to show DD telling me should be helpful.