It is a huge pain when you are trying to get into and out of parked cars. Instead of safely stepping onto a sidewalk, both side doors have to watch for traffic. You can't just open a door at the curb and unload the kids without worrying about being hit. Wait for a break. Grab the diaper bag and throw it to the curb. Wait for another break. race to get the toddler out of their seat before someone barrels down on you. Set them on the curb and wait for a break (and hope the toddler doesn't wander into traffic). Dive back for the baby.
At least around here, bicyclists are incredibly entitled and much less safe about pedestrians (or each other, or cars) than car drivers. I've never had a car barrel towards a kid (a toddler who is exactly where they belong) expecting the kid to run out of the way in time, but I've seen it multiple times with adult male cyclists.
Drivers here don't drive in bike lanes.
Hmmm, okay. That makes sense. It seems like as a society we make it really hard for cars, bikes, and pedestrians to safely coexist. I don’t know the answer, just that as a cyclist I’m terrified riding in the road and always wish for a physical barrier between me and the cars, but I’m also happy to work with pedestrians.
Dedicated multiuse paths are my favorite solution. (paths for bikers and walkers, but not cars). We have a web of those that connect most of my county and lead into SF. I still don't like entitled adult male cyclists who ride three abreast and expect the rest of the world to scatter for them (and barrel through intersections blindly without looking) but those paths are the safest solution for all if cyclists can be safe and courteous. Which I'm sure you are.
Hmmm, okay. That makes sense. It seems like as a society we make it really hard for cars, bikes, and pedestrians to safely coexist. I don’t know the answer, just that as a cyclist I’m terrified riding in the road and always wish for a physical barrier between me and the cars, but I’m also happy to work with pedestrians.
Dedicated multiuse paths are my favorite solution. (paths for bikers and walkers, but not cars). We have a web of those that connect most of my county and lead into SF. I still don't like entitled adult male cyclists who ride three breast and expect the rest of the world to scatter for them (and barrel through intersections blindly without looking for cars) but those paths are the safest solution for all if cyclists can be safe and courteous. Which I'm sure you are.
That sounds like the ideal solution, honestly. I don’t think bikes belong on sidewalks, but I think they belong on the road even less.
dutchgirl678, is there some reason your H can't put meat on his own plate? I get that you guys are stressed and everyone is on SUPER BEST BEHAVIOR, but the ribs were there.
I have a story about ribs and in-laws too... My H and I were over to my parents for a patriot holiday (4th of July I think, but it might have been Labor Day). Dad served ribs. As he served them, people came up and grabbed what they wanted. He didn't seem to have a problem with this until my H made his plate. I don't quite remember what he shouted - something about burnt ends or small pieces. I had taken two small pieces to leave the bigger pieces to bigger appetites. I have no idea what my H put on his plate. But my dad took his drunk irritation out on my H. At the time, we just ignored him...I mean, we were already eating so it's not like we could give the pieces back.
This is really minor compared to what a lot of people deal with, but I'm really pouting today about the $30 copay I have to spend each time I see a physical therapist. I've had some pain issues since December and finally had an appointment today, and she wants to see me 2x a week for the next month. That will be $240 that I did not plan to spend, which is a lot of money in our budget. I'm already feeling stressed about money for a number of reasons so this is not what I needed. I think I'm largely frustrated because I used to have unicorn health insurance that barely had a co-pay for anything, no premiums, and my employer kicked money into a FSA too. Now I pay premiums, fund my own FSA, have copays, and I actually have a slightly lower salary. Universal healthcare cannot come quickly enough, and I'm one of the lucky ones without any major health problems or chronic conditions!
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SwimDeep, I wish I knew what he was thinking. After my dad grabbed a large piece I kind of took control of dividing it up but I thought he already had meat on his plate. I didn't look and he didn't say anything.
This is really minor compared to what a lot of people deal with, but I'm really pouting today about the $30 copay I have to spend each time I see a physical therapist. I've had some pain issues since December and finally had an appointment today, and she wants to see me 2x a week for the next month. That will be $240 that I did not plan to spend, which is a lot of money in our budget. I'm already feeling stressed about money for a number of reasons so this is not what I needed. I think I'm largely frustrated because I used to have unicorn health insurance that barely had a co-pay for anything, no premiums, and my employer kicked money into a FSA too. Now I pay premiums, fund my own FSA, have copays, and I actually have a slightly lower salary. Universal healthcare cannot come quickly enough, and I'm one of the lucky ones without any major health problems or chronic conditions!
This is one of the frustrating things about our system. I can get prescription for painkillers for less than $5/bottle. PT is far more expensive! I can get 60 Xanax for less than $2. Therapy is so much more expensive! In my case, both physical and mental therapy have been needed for long term improvement, but ugh, pills are so much cheaper!
SwimDeep , I wish I knew what he was thinking. After my dad grabbed a large piece I kind of took control of dividing it up but I thought he already had meat on his plate. I didn't look and he didn't say anything.
I think your H was being super polite... I mean, so polite he's not even going to put food on his plate.
I am so overwhelmed all the time, both at home and at work. Something has to give. My family isn't going anywhere, so I've been trying for a really long time to find a less stressful job. I have 20 years experience but somehow am still not qualified for anything.
Im so frustrated. I just want to curl up by myself for, like, a couple months.
Can we all agree to stop using the phrases “friendly reminder” or “gentle reminder” ? It’s on about every notice and announcement at school.
It’s ok to just say “reminder” or “remember”. It doesn’t make you an asshole. People need reminding and won’t take offense.
Along with this, if the issue is that one person isn't following the rules, just address it with that person directly. Don't remind the whole team if 11/12 people are already doing things correctly.
I've been trying to do this thing that my high up director wants me to do, and the meetings keep being canceled or moved. Always right before or during the time we're going to meet. I'm so annoyed.
Post by Skyesthelimit1212 on May 14, 2019 16:00:53 GMT -5
It's been quite awhile since I've been here,..that's not my complaint, lol.
I started a new job, which you think would be awesome, but I HATE one of the LA I support. She's condescending, She seems to get glee from telling me I've done something incorrectly, she doesn't give me full instructions on how to complete a project, then gets upset when I've missed a step in the process. I swear she's setting me up to fail.
People who take my napkins but didn’t buy anything. Petty and irrational, I know but it drives me crazy.
Or even worse. Come in, use the WASHROOM (for 15+ mins so you knew what he was doing, ICK), take some napkins, order an ice water (w/ lemon!!!) & leave! 😐
We had a fellow local business owner do this 3+ times/ week. We had to start charging $1 for waters to go. Un-shockingly- he’s no longer in (car detailing) business.
Post by downtoearth on May 14, 2019 16:39:40 GMT -5
I don't want to reinvent myself, but I'm finding myself alone and a little bored. I keep thinking I want to get a mid-life-crisis PhD. I could probably get paid, but not enough to support my house and fam, and can't move from my town easily... so that isn't practical. Instead, I need a new hobby or activity. I bike, hike, camp, workout with friends (yoga/barre/Pilates), have weekly social beers/book clubs, but I think I need something I can do on my own without exercising. Any ideas?
Think I could get a second masters or some sort of PMP or certification online that would interesting? Try to write poetry? Should I actually learn Spanish like I've tried many times? Maybe learn the guitar? What would you do if you found that you have about 6-12 hours a week in the evenings/weekends to fill that you didn't have before? I keep thinking of online classes b/c then you are sort-of interacting with others and not just by yourself.
I don't want to reinvent myself, but I'm finding myself alone and a little bored. I keep thinking I want to get a mid-life-crisis PhD. I could probably get paid, but not enough to support my house and fam, and can't move from my town easily... so that isn't practical. Instead, I need a new hobby or activity. I bike, hike, camp, workout with friends (yoga/barre/Pilates), have weekly social beers/book clubs, but I think I need something I can do on my own without exercising. Any ideas?
Think I could get a second masters or some sort of PMP or certification online that would interesting? Try to write poetry? Should I actually learn Spanish like I've tried many times? Maybe learn the guitar? What would you do if you found that you have about 6-12 hours a week in the evenings/weekends to fill that you didn't have before? I keep thinking of online classes b/c then you are sort-of interacting with others and not just by yourself.
I'd probably enroll in some community college classes, photography, painting, pottery, something like that that I've always wanted to learn/do.
Can we all agree to stop using the phrases “friendly reminder” or “gentle reminder” ? It’s on about every notice and announcement at school.
It’s ok to just say “reminder” or “remember”. It doesn’t make you an asshole. People need reminding and won’t take offense.
I did these when I taught and a bunch of parents said they felt “attacked” because I didn’t phrase it was a gentle or friendly reminder. WTF
I used "quick reminder" once and was told it was not an apt description because it was a reminder about a meeting that was about a complex topic that won't be discussed quickly. I was like "quick was modifying the nature of the reminder, not the event." Then I resolved to move to Costa Rica and become a hermit because people are TOO DAMN MUCH.
This is really minor compared to what a lot of people deal with, but I'm really pouting today about the $30 copay I have to spend each time I see a physical therapist. I've had some pain issues since December and finally had an appointment today, and she wants to see me 2x a week for the next month. That will be $240 that I did not plan to spend, which is a lot of money in our budget. I'm already feeling stressed about money for a number of reasons so this is not what I needed. I think I'm largely frustrated because I used to have unicorn health insurance that barely had a co-pay for anything, no premiums, and my employer kicked money into a FSA too. Now I pay premiums, fund my own FSA, have copays, and I actually have a slightly lower salary. Universal healthcare cannot come quickly enough, and I'm one of the lucky ones without any major health problems or chronic conditions!
I went through that about a year ago and it helped me to consider it personal training or even spa-like (I spent the first 20 min on a table with heat and sensors stimulating my muscle, so it was very relaxing, considering I would have otherwise been at work) and that made it seem far more affordable!
My vent is that I would like to actually do my job as defined by my job description, not the 9,000 other things that have been thrown at me lately. Nowhere in my job description or skill set does it mention major $$$ fundraising campaigns.
I’ll join the fuck this body and also, fuck cancer, and fuck useless dr office staff!
In the past 3 months I’ve had several strokes and I’m looking at a lymphoma relapse after 15 years clear. And I can’t get my records sent to Hopkins. It’s been like 10 days. I’m being presented to the lymphoma staff based only on what *I* have sent. Never mind my oncologist, who referred me there, any get his staff to send his record. He and I are emailing about which one of us should spend time at the front desk tomorrow morning and watch it happen. Oh, and I learned I will hit my OOP maximum on my first chemo dose. Anyone know if copays will stop then, too?
eta: I’m not yet 45, which people keep reminding me “you are too young for all of this” fuck them, too
I’ll join the fuck this body and also, fuck cancer, and fuck useless dr office staff!
In the past 3 months I’ve had several strokes and I’m looking at a lymphoma relapse after 15 years clear. And I can’t get my records sent to Hopkins. It’s been like 10 days. I’m being presented to the lymphoma staff based only on what *I* have sent. Never mind my oncologist, who referred me there, any get his staff to send his record. He and I are emailing about which one of us should spend time at the front desk tomorrow morning and watch it happen. Oh, and I learned I will hit my OOP maximum on my first chemo dose. Anyone know if copays will stop then, too?
eta: I’m not yet 45, which people keep reminding me “you are too young for all of this” fuck them, too
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through right now.
Typically once you hit the OOP max (not just deductible but full max) you don’t owe copayments anymore for the plan year on covered services. However, often providers won’t find that out until after your claim has processed so they may still ask you to pay them. A lot of times if you explain that to them they’ll agree to bill you later if you owe something after the claim clears, but occasionally they’ll insist on charging you a copay at point of service (which you’ll then have to wait to be reimbursed for, which is annoying.)
This is really minor compared to what a lot of people deal with, but I'm really pouting today about the $30 copay I have to spend each time I see a physical therapist. I've had some pain issues since December and finally had an appointment today, and she wants to see me 2x a week for the next month. That will be $240 that I did not plan to spend, which is a lot of money in our budget. I'm already feeling stressed about money for a number of reasons so this is not what I needed. I think I'm largely frustrated because I used to have unicorn health insurance that barely had a co-pay for anything, no premiums, and my employer kicked money into a FSA too. Now I pay premiums, fund my own FSA, have copays, and I actually have a slightly lower salary. Universal healthcare cannot come quickly enough, and I'm one of the lucky ones without any major health problems or chronic conditions!
This is one of the frustrating things about our system. I can get prescription for painkillers for less than $5/bottle. PT is far more expensive! I can get 60 Xanax for less than $2. Therapy is so much more expensive! In my case, both physical and mental therapy have been needed for long term improvement, but ugh, pills are so much cheaper!
It is really backwards. I guess I can see paying $30 for a specialist that you see very infrequently (like a dermatologist) but those who require regular appointments to make any progress should be on a different scale. Nobody goes to PT or a counselor once and has their problem fixed.
Our insurance actually only charges $15 for mental health, so that's better but still a lot IMO! And we are fortunate to have good insurance.
I’ll join the fuck this body and also, fuck cancer, and fuck useless dr office staff!
In the past 3 months I’ve had several strokes and I’m looking at a lymphoma relapse after 15 years clear. And I can’t get my records sent to Hopkins. It’s been like 10 days. I’m being presented to the lymphoma staff based only on what *I* have sent. Never mind my oncologist, who referred me there, any get his staff to send his record. He and I are emailing about which one of us should spend time at the front desk tomorrow morning and watch it happen. Oh, and I learned I will hit my OOP maximum on my first chemo dose. Anyone know if copays will stop then, too?
eta: I’m not yet 45, which people keep reminding me “you are too young for all of this” fuck them, too
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through right now.
Typically once you hit the OOP max (not just deductible but full max) you don’t owe copayments anymore for the plan year on covered services. However, often providers won’t find that out until after your claim has processed so they may still ask you to pay them. A lot of times if you explain that to them they’ll agree to bill you later if you owe something after the claim clears, but occasionally they’ll insist on charging you a copay at point of service (which you’ll then have to wait to be reimbursed for, which is annoying.)
Thanks! Considering they told me today that I would hit my OOP max on the first dose (and I haven’t started yet), I hope they’ll know 😂 I’ve never hit an OOP max, so I have no clue how that works. Last time, I was on an HMO plan, and I think all told it was about $1500 in copays for the whole thing, copays were it, and they were much lower in 2004.
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through right now.
Typically once you hit the OOP max (not just deductible but full max) you don’t owe copayments anymore for the plan year on covered services. However, often providers won’t find that out until after your claim has processed so they may still ask you to pay them. A lot of times if you explain that to them they’ll agree to bill you later if you owe something after the claim clears, but occasionally they’ll insist on charging you a copay at point of service (which you’ll then have to wait to be reimbursed for, which is annoying.)
Thanks! Considering they told me today that I would hit my OOP max on the first dose (and I haven’t started yet), I hope they’ll know 😂 I’ve never hit an OOP max, so I have no clue how that works. Last time, I was on an HMO plan, and I think all told it was about $1500 in copays for the whole thing, copays were it, and they were much lower in 2004.
Ah good, if it is all through one provider that is a lot easier to manage because they’ll have your info in their system. Health care has gotten exponentially more expensive, it’s truly awful for people facing more serious or chronic health issues.