Post by dreamcrisp1 on Aug 19, 2019 19:02:04 GMT -5
EllieT, I’ve mentioned before but here, if everything goes well, you get to go home within 3-4 hours. I think if you ask you can stay longer but not sure how long they would really let you stay. This is also why I doubt much of my hospital bag will get used haha.
Post by murphybrown on Aug 19, 2019 19:37:54 GMT -5
1. How far along are you? 18 weeks
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Tomorrow is our anatomy scan. Last pregnancy this was a difficult time because blood tests indicated there might be a problem and we had to go to genetic counseling at the same time. This go round I'm not even worried. Hopefully, all goes well and we see a happy, healthy baby.
3. Questions for the group? I'll ask at my appointment tomorrow, but is it bad that I still sleep on my stomach? I'm not in that position all night long, but I often start out that way. I'm not uncomfortable, so I assume its fine?
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? Haven't started for this one, but last time I had a surprise csection and I was happy to have slippers for all the hall walking after surgery, my own towel instead of their sad excuse of a towel, nursing tanks, and maternity clothes to wear home. I didn't bring a lot of extra stuff and just sent DH home for things I forgot (towel).
Post by sunflower17 on Aug 19, 2019 20:02:32 GMT -5
swiftlyirun, I had my first the end of January. I live in the south, but it was pretty cold here. I remember wearing my comfy fold down yoga pants—I had some maternity and some that were regular but still fit.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Painted the nursery yesterday - it looks really good! The crib and glider that we ordered should be delivered in a week or 2, and I’m excited to start putting the room together.
3. Questions for the group? Any good books to prepare for birth, breastfeeding?
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? I haven’t packed, but I’ve gathered a couple items and started on a list.
Post by aprilsails on Aug 19, 2019 21:09:56 GMT -5
@elliet I am with a midwife practice in Ontario. If I have an uncomplicated birth (even with epidural) and can get up and walk at the 4-6 hour mark I can be discharged (my Sister just was last week and she had a fairly dramatic although successful induction). I have the option to stay for at least 24 hours if I want as well. If my recovery is complicated or I were to have a csection I would be in for 48 hours at most.
I want to get home ASAP since my hospital does not have overnight nursery care and last time was a hot mess with the nurses waking me up for checks all night and then ignoring me when I actually needed them during the day. The midwife comes to me to do all newborn screening. DD (4) will be at the grandparents house for sure for the first couple of nights, so although that may be hard on her, i will use that time to rest and recuperate physically myself.
2. We went to a back yard birthday party on Saturday and all got eaten alive by mosquitos. So I’m waking up itching in the middle of the night and also listening to my kids complain about being itchy.
3. Nope!
4. Obviously too early for that for me. Must haves from my first two are your own pillow and towel, chapstick, hand lotion, flip flops, non-maternity yoga pants (I didn’t like how the panel in the maternity ones highlighted my deflated belly).
swiftlyirun, I wore yoga pants, a nursing tank, and a zip up sweatshirt when I went home after my November baby.
red, at the hospital where I work, we don’t like to discharge baby without a follow up appointment scheduled. If you have someone picked out, you just call them from the hospital and set up an appointment. A lot of practices set aside slots for newborn visits so it isn’t an issue getting it scheduled.
Some of the private pediatric practices see their own patients in the hospital and some have their patients seen by the hospitalists (doctors who work just in the hospital).
Circumcision is actually done by your OB here, which I believe is the way it is most places, although I think there may be some regional variation.
Yankees21, I had high fluid with my daughter. I was already having weekly scans for another issue, which is how they noticed it. It was always borderline, and some weeks I measured high, some not. The only impact I noticed was that when my water broke, it was A LOT.
red, our peds sees them after we are discharged. Both of my boys the circumcision was done by the OB. In other cases, moms can opt to have a pediatric urologist do it after birth. It really depends on what your comfort level is with it. Both of mine turned out fine with the OB doing it with no issues other than that I didn't know with my first even with circumcision you're suppose to still pull back what skin is left at each diaper change. The skin had tried to re-adhere and the ped had to pull it back in the office which was not fun for him. I had never had to take care of a boy before so I didn't know.
Post by chocolatelove on Aug 20, 2019 7:39:13 GMT -5
1. How far along are you? 21 weeks 4 days
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
We had the fetal echo on Thursday and as far as they can tell, he is heart healthy! We need a cardiology consult when he is between 6 months and a year old just to be sure there aren’t more minor defects that aren’t visible yet, but we know he does not have the most severe conditions or my condition!
We check on his spine again next week.
I definitely feel him moving a lot now; can’t wait until DH can feel it.
I also think I finally got DH to understand why this pregnancy is a bit more challenging than those of his girls. Their biological moms were so much younger than I am (20s vs 38) and they didn’t have a heart defect. Hoping he gets why I need to slow down a little.
3. Questions for the group?
When did you start researching daycares? It seems so early but I don’t want to miss out on a good place either.
What did you all do for a shower? My sister asked this weekend if I wanted one. Most of my friends don’t even know I am pregnant and my anxiety is still super high given our loss last year (anniversary is in 2 days) and the potential Spina Bifida and other complications for this little guy. I do want the opportunity to visit and celebrate with people, but I also feel uncomfortable with the idea of a big deal shower, if that makes sense.
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out?
Definitely not, though appreciate seeing everyone’s answers on this one! I might get a robe now, lol.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? This kid feels like she's just going to fall out. I'm carrying low and there's just SO MUCH PRESSURE. Also we are insane people considering putting gin an offer on a house this week. INSANITY.
3. Questions for the group? Nope!
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? I packed one (kind of) with DS and found out I don't need 99% of it. Honestly, this time I plan on packing clothes, shampoo, my brush and straightener, and makeup. Oh and a toothbrush. I didn't need anything last time. I'll just throw this all together before we head out the door. The one thing I do plan on bringing is a robe. Last time, I didn't have one and between checks and nursing, I seriously just sat there almost entirely naked, covered in the sheet. Made getting visitors a little awkward.
1. 23+2 2. My varicose veins are outta control on my left leg. I had some preexisting ones, but new ones and spider veins are popping up. My feet are so swollen even flip flops a size up are leaving dents. Scared of how much worse this will get. 3. Do you need a pediatrician set up ahead of time to be there at the hospital? I thought my OB office said to call now, but when I did the office said I need to wait until the baby is born. If we circumcise, it’s the pedi, right? So confused on this. I’ll ask at my OB appt Fri but curious what others have done. 4. Haven’t even thought about a hospital bag yet.
Circumcision is very state dependent. In my state (Maryland) the OB does it. Ours did it in the hospital on day 2 after he got cleared from the pedi (who puts in the order).
3. Do you need a pediatrician set up ahead of time to be there at the hospital? I thought my OB office said to call now, but when I did the office said I need to wait until the baby is born. If we circumcise, it’s the pedi, right? So confused on this. I’ll ask at my OB appt Fri but curious what others have done.
We found a pedi before - had to let them know who it was before I went into labor. My pediatrician does rounds at our hospital. So while it wasn't "our" doctor (but honestly we see whoever is free every time we go in), someone from the practice was there each day to check in. We met someone from the practice just in time - 12 hours after our meeting with him, I was in full blown labor.
We did not circ DS, but if we had, it would have been done at the hospital before discharge. I don't know who was going to do it, but it would have been arranged while we were still there.
Post by farfalla2011 on Aug 20, 2019 10:59:10 GMT -5
1. How far along are you? 35+3
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Baby is still breech. I'm seeing a chiropractor a couple times a week, trying all the other old wives tales in hopes to help encourage him to flip, but I highly doubt he's going to. He's SUPER high and has been pretty comfy in the same place most of my pregnancy. His favorite is pushing his head up as hard as he can into my stomach and ribs which does NOT feel great. So, as it stands right now, we'll most likely meet him on 9/17 assuming I don't go into labor earlier than that. I have so much anxiety about a c-section and the recovery of it. We attended a childbirth class on Saturday which only made my anxiety about it all worse. But, at the same time, I'm glad I know a lot more about what to expect instead of going into things blind. I know at the end of the day, the goal is to have him here and healthy, but it's not the way I was hoping for things to go.
3. Questions for the group?
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? I REALLY need to start thinking about this since it's getting so close. But, I haven't even started on this at all.
No hospitals here have nurseries so you do have to take care of your baby yourself but DH would be there. Last time I know he took DS for a walk around the hallways for an hour or so to let me sleep. I can’t remember any annoying check ups (other than the first night when they came to “massage” my uterus once) that bothered me/us. All in all we had a very nice experience for our post partum stay last time and felt like we got to bond as a family. If I were to go to the same hospital this time again I would be allowed to stay. But that hospital is 90 km (55 miles) away and I had a fast delivery (about 2.5 hours in the hospital) so I’m not feeling ok with going as far away again and my midwife has recommended against it. I’ve heard conflicting info on whether or not they actually would let me stay longer at the hospital here if I asked for it.
Baby has to be seen by a pediatrician before we get released but all the following check ups (I think one after 24 hours and then one after 48 hours) will happen back at the hospital so really we will have to drive back to the hospital twice in the first two days (this hospital is local so only 10 km (6 miles) but through the city with lots of traffic) so it’s not like we can just rest at home. And then there is DS. And my mom there looking after him. In a fairly small apartment.
I know there are lots of women that like and really want the early discharge but I also know there are many many like me that don’t like it. I just wish they would make it more optional and not force it. It’s almost making me second guess what hospital to deliver at. If my labour hadn’t been so fast last time I definitely would have gone back to that hospital as we had a great experience there.
Post by aprilsails on Aug 20, 2019 13:20:32 GMT -5
That’s a tough decision @elliet. I’m sorry you have to go back and forth to the hospital for the follow up checks. I too would just stay until at least 24 hours if that was the case.
Ask your midwife again if you can stay for at least 24 hours. It certainly is an option for me here if I want. I don’t, but my circumstances are not the same as yours.
Post by sunflower17 on Aug 20, 2019 14:08:16 GMT -5
1. How far along are you? 15 weeks 5 days 2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Nothing much 3. Questions for the group? Nope 4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? Not packed since I’m so early. From my experience last time, necessities are: towel, robe, flip flops, phone charger, basic toiletries so I could shower, do my hair and put on a bit of makeup, yoga pants, tank tops/tee shirts. For baby: pacifier, swaddles, a few outfits/something to wear home.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Aug 20, 2019 15:41:31 GMT -5
EllieT, I’d also want to stay in that situation. Over here all checks are done at home so we don’t have to leave until we’re ready but since you have to go back to the hospital, may as well stay.
When did you start researching daycares? It seems so early but I don’t want to miss out on a good place either.
What did you all do for a shower? My sister asked this weekend if I wanted one. Most of my friends don’t even know I am pregnant and my anxiety is still super high given our loss last year (anniversary is in 2 days) and the potential Spina Bifida and other complications for this little guy. I do want the opportunity to visit and celebrate with people, but I also feel uncomfortable with the idea of a big deal shower, if that makes sense.
Daycare: In my area, infant care is extremely hard to find so waitlists are long. We started almost immediately but have come up with so few options In my previous city, where I actually directed a center, people got on the waitlist at 4-6 weeks pregnant (I knew before their family did!) and I ended up with 25-30 people hoping for one of my 4 spots.
I know in other areas, people seem to be able to start the search while on maternity leave and find something so I would reach out to moms in your area and get a feel for things.
Baby shower: What about holding off until after baby arrives? You could do a sip and see or something similar. Though I understand if there are complications, you may not want people actually around him... Would she be open to a low key brunch before he arrives or something like that? Where you get the time with people but not the traditional big deal shower? I have a friend that was adamant she wanted nothing bought for her baby but we all just wanted to celebrate her and this sweet baby on the way so we met at a nice restaurant for Saturday brunch. She was thrilled, we all got to love on her, and there were no games, gifts, or awkward moments.
red we had a pediatrician in mind, but when I called the office before having DS, they just said that when he was born we would tell the hospital who his pedi would be and they would contact her. Same for DD. She did come by the hospital to visit and check on each baby while we were there. If DS had been circumcised before going home (he was too tiny and ended up having it done in the office), she would have done it then, too.
chocolatelove- I started calling a few weeks ago, so about 21wks then. The top daycares are waitlisted a year here, next Aug. Thankfully my MIL can cover March-May and I’m off summers or we would be in trouble. There is a lesser rated national chain with a 4 month wait though if we end up needing it.
Post by chocolatelove on Aug 20, 2019 20:42:03 GMT -5
Thanks, red and chocolatepie. I sent of my inquiries to the few we had in mind tonight. We are in the Philadelphia suburbs. I don’t expect a lengthy wait list, but imagine we won’t be able to waltz in either.
As for the shower, I thought of doing something afterwards, but I’m due on 12/27, at the height of flu and cold season, so I don’t think I want to have that many people around him at once. I like the idea of brunch. My sister didn’t ask what type of shower I wanted, just if I wanted one, so I am being a bit presumptuous in thinking I can offer an opinion, lol. In some ways, I think I’d rather just do a couple of small gatherings, like one with my aunts and cousins, then one with my close friends, and then one with a few family friends on DH’s side. Obviously I am not going to ask my sister to host 3 events, but maybe I can do a close family only shower and then have a few meet the baby gatherings with friends in the spring. We also want to have a housewarming party before the baby comes, finally, so maybe that can be the opportunity to visit and celebrate too.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? scheduled our repeat c-section at the OB appt this week, eeeeeek! also had an ultrasound with the MFM and things look good. he's measuring big, which isn't surprising since DS1 did as well. no evidence of the SCH so that's great. everything looks good basically!
3. Questions for the group? not this week.
4. Has anyone packed their hospital bag? What are the important items you wish you had? Stuff you felt could have been left out? not yet. last time i planned to pack it after i got home from my 38 week appt since i had done our 'final' target run the day before. i got sent for monitoring due to high blood pressure at that appt and they ended up admitting me for an induction that night. DH packed my bag via speakerphone and using my list in google docs. i do not recommend that approach, lol. it was 5 years ago now, will need to dig up my google doc and start a new one for this time around!
EllieT, how are you doing? Did you have baby girl as yet?
No baby yet. Today is my due date but no sign of anything. Then again, I didn’t really have any signs before going into labour with DS and then he was born just hours later. I’m thinking another week or so.
Feeling ok, uncomfortable but ok. It helps a lot that my mom is here now entertaining DS.
EllieT, how are you doing? Did you have baby girl as yet?
No baby yet. Today is my due date but no sign of anything. Then again, I didn’t really have any signs before going into labour with DS and then he was born just hours later. I’m thinking another week or so.
Feeling ok, uncomfortable but ok. It helps a lot that my mom is here now entertaining DS.
How are you?
Was DS late? Glad you’re feeling ok! Hopefully it won’t be a week!
Nothing here yet either. My due date is tomorrow. Tried to do a sweep 2 times last week and couldn’t. Trying again tomorrow but I doubt I made any progress since Friday. Having a heat wave again here, which sucks but I’m surviving. Can’t walk as long as I usually do so that’s annoying since I have no other form of transport. This dude seems too happy in there. I think I’ll try to schedule my induction for Thursday if they allow me.
No baby yet. Today is my due date but no sign of anything. Then again, I didn’t really have any signs before going into labour with DS and then he was born just hours later. I’m thinking another week or so.
Feeling ok, uncomfortable but ok. It helps a lot that my mom is here now entertaining DS.
How are you?
Was DS late? Glad you’re feeling ok! Hopefully it won’t be a week!
Nothing here yet either. My due date is tomorrow. Tried to do a sweep 2 times last week and couldn’t. Trying again tomorrow but I doubt I made any progress since Friday. Having a heat wave again here, which sucks but I’m surviving. Can’t walk as long as I usually do so that’s annoying since I have no other form of transport. This dude seems too happy in there. I think I’ll try to schedule my induction for Thursday if they allow me.
He was 10 days late. It was a Friday and I had my last mw appointment around 11 am and she called and scheduled the induction for the coming Tuesday (42+0). I came back home and we were planning a nice evening together and one last weekend as two. Then around 3 pm I started feeling something and DS was born just before 11 pm.
they won’t induce (except for medical reasons) before 42+0 here so I’m thinking I will be late again but once it gets started it could be over very fast.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Aug 25, 2019 9:40:27 GMT -5
EllieT, ahhh ok. Hopefully not as late! My friend just had her 2nd and she came at 40+6 when her first was 41+6 I believe. Hopefully yours is the same.
They usually do 41 weeks here if you ask due to the new Dutch literature. But I’ve also read literature that suggests for Indians, the gestational period is actually 1 week behind (39 weeks) so 41 weeks is 2 weeks over. The rate of stillbirth goes up and I actually know a few people who have had them so I’m not comfortable going past Thursday (knowing it’ll probably take 1-2 days of induction).