Post by covergirl82 on Dec 16, 2019 12:57:06 GMT -5
mae0111, he did get benched a few times, but I would say probably not enough. DS listens better to coaches who are not DH, so if he pulls this attitude during club basketball, the coach of that team won't put up with his crappy attitude and will bench him too and more. DH did tell DS that he's not coaching basketball next year because DS doesn't listen to him.
covergirl82 - I can’t coach DD1 anymore because she didn’t listen to me or respect me as a coach. And that sucked because I love coaching! But DD1 also does better with another adult. With me, she would fight me when it was her turn to rotate out, or if I had to hold her out an inning during softball because we had too many players that game. I warned her... and then I stopped. So she went through a season of softball without me and didn’t seem to like it... but the disrespect hasn’t stopped enough for me to pick up coaching again.
It’s hard to bench any kid, especially if the team is relying heavily on that kid to win. But it’s always for the best. My sister is a tremendous athlete. I remember my dad benched her for her attitude one game, and all of the parents were begging him to ground her at home and let her play! 😂
madringal, fire alarms and swimming don't mix. That is even worse than lightning. I know your DD was talking about dropping swim but maybe you could ask her coach to talk to her and see if she would be willing to try another meet. Even if it was just a fun dual meet or inter-squad meet during practice time.
covergirl82, my dad always benched (you sat out/time out) for unsportsmanlike conduct. I know the season is over but if this happens again I would suggest that your DS try and help his teammates improve by inviting them over for a b-ball practice play date.
186momx - We have 3 meets left of the regular season, two are intense and one is our end of season conference meet in February. I will give it some time and see how she does the rest of the season and then maybe sign her up for conference. She still has to go to practice at least 3 days week, and she doesn't mind that. And if I asked her about signing up for other meets, she'd probably say "yes!" but when we get there it's a whole other story. It's just not worth the battle anymore. She doesn't enjoy it, I don't enjoy dealing with her when she's miserable, so it's just better for everyone if she just doesn't do the meets.
DD's coach cornered me while we were at the gym for power tumbling so 7:30pm last night not after our private at 3:30. She is starting pre-team back up in January and wants to move DD back to pre-team where she will be top dog and her own little helper since DD is still missing skills. We have until mid-January to try and get our missing skills but need to continue privates for the missing skills as she doesn't have time to work with DD during practice. That last bit is what is bugging me the most. Lets just say I didn't sleep well last night as I couldn't turn my brain off.
DD's coach cornered me while we were at the gym for power tumbling so 7:30pm last night not after our private at 3:30. She is starting pre-team back up in January and wants to move DD back to pre-team where she will be top dog and her own little helper since DD is still missing skills. We have until mid-January to try and get our missing skills but need to continue privates for the missing skills as she doesn't have time to work with DD during practice. That last bit is what is bugging me the most. Lets just say I didn't sleep well last night as I couldn't turn my brain off.
Oh no! This was totally my fear in DD2 making a team - then moving her backwards if she didn’t progress fast enough. I’m sorry, I know how stressful that must be. Does DD know yet?
madringal, yes her coach talked it up to her about how she would the top dog and get to demonstrate all the time and be her big helper. The more I've thought about it the more I think it is the worse move. I sent off an email to the head coach to discuss it. I also talked with the other pre-team coach Nat last night who knew nothing about this and agreed that it would be the worst move for DD. Nat also agreed to work with DD after winter break on Wednesday nights and suggested head coach to work with DD over break.
madringal, yes her coach talked it up to her about how she would the top dog and get to demonstrate all the time and be her big helper. The more I've thought about it the more I think it is the worse move. I sent off an email to the head coach to discuss it. I also talked with the other pre-team coach Nat last night who knew nothing about this and agreed that it would be the worst move for DD. Nat also agreed to work with DD after winter break on Wednesday nights and suggested head coach to work with DD over break.
I hope they come up with a plan makes sense. Moving her backwards would be so discouraging. Why would they move her up if she didn’t have the skills necessary to be on the team? Seems like they rushed to get her on the team but now they don’t want want to take the time to keep her there. Did the other girls that moved up with her all have those skills she’s missing? Or did they get them after moving up?
madringal, yes her coach talked it up to her about how she would the top dog and get to demonstrate all the time and be her big helper. The more I've thought about it the more I think it is the worse move. I sent off an email to the head coach to discuss it. I also talked with the other pre-team coach Nat last night who knew nothing about this and agreed that it would be the worst move for DD. Nat also agreed to work with DD after winter break on Wednesday nights and suggested head coach to work with DD over break.
I know she loves it so no judgement, but it does sound very dramatic. I’m glad we stuck with dance.
We did do some gymnastics, and I might have told this story before but the studio closed down and stole all the spring tuition. So we just weren’t that invested to find another new one after that.
waverly, if DD didn't love it and we didn't have a great parent teammate village at the gym supporting us I would have gotten her to switch to something else.
madringal, you are right they rushed her onto team. The other girls who moved with her got their skills within the first 3 weeks of moving up. DD didn't and still hasn't. If I could go back in time with my current knowledge I would have asked about adding privates way back in early October when everyone else got it and DD hadn't.
I see the head coach at 3:30 so will update in Twerks later today.