How did it go? I want one really badly, but I guess I shouldn't get one for my husband's birthday. LOL
Well, now I feel bad being so petty. I mean, the wacky waving fan man was super cheesy, but DH loved his. I mean, LOVED. 😂 He knew I’d want to return mine about 4 minutes after he received it so at least he wasn’t surprised by my reaction. I really did try to be jovial, but it was hard to fake.
BUT. he got me like 4 other things off my list that were SO COOL. Totally what I wanted. So I feel bad that I was feeling so petty about this one thing. Blah.
If you think you want one, it’s worth it as a funny/novelty gift. It works as a fan man is supposed to. But be smarter than me and buy a 9-volt battery since that’s what the one I linked takes. We had to spend about 20 minutes finding a battery before we could continue opening gifts, LOL. #eyeroll
Don't feel bad! My husband's gifts in the past would have had me thinking the same thing, and actually I DID think the same thing about your husband's choice. LOL But I was so shocked to find out they made one like this, I started to see the point. That he knew you wouldn't want one, but might find it so funny to see that it existed. Maybe I'll get it for my son for Valentine's Day. That way I can have one, but not have my husband thinking wtf? for a birthday gift. I can't bring myself to just buy it, but I really want one!!!
DH got me a “big gift” because what I asked for (a Sous Vide, which he did get me) was also for him since I’ll cook for him with it.
What did the big gift turn out to be? A new Breville toaster oven to replace the one we got for our wedding that’s getting finicky. Like dude, I only expected the SV I asked for but don’t go raising my expectations when you bought an appliance.
My son's ILs don't know limits. Not only do they go overboard all year long in gifting to our grandsons, at least 2-3 times a week they get several gifts each but now they do it with our granddaughter. This granddaughter is NOT their granddaughter, she is OUR daughter's child. I don't know for sure how much they spent on her but easily $150, maybe $200 worth of gifts. Giving her a small gift or two would be nice but the amount of gifts and cost is crazy. They are nice people, we really like them but they don't know when to stop. It drives our son nuts because they don't always think through the gifts that they give.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
I don’t think it’s their step-grandchild. I think it’s OPs grandchild from another child of OPs, so no relation to them at all.
My son's ILs don't know limits. Not only do they go overboard all year long in gifting to our grandsons, at least 2-3 times a week they get several gifts each but now they do it with our granddaughter. This granddaughter is NOT their granddaughter, she is OUR daughter's child. I don't know for sure how much they spent on her but easily $150, maybe $200 worth of gifts. Giving her a small gift or two would be nice but the amount of gifts and cost is crazy. They are nice people, we really like them but they don't know when to stop. It drives our son nuts because they don't always think through the gifts that they give.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
I thought the same thing until I reread. I was about to get eye rolly so glad I reread before I did!
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
I don’t think it’s their step-grandchild. I think it’s OPs grandchild from another child of OPs, so no relation to them at all.
It’s the OP’s Grandchild’s cousin, no relation to the in-laws. My mom treats all of my nieces and nephews the same, so like my kid gets the same amount of $$ or gifts as my nephews who are not biologically related to my Mom or my child. It never occurred to me to be bothered by that, or that one of my SIL’s would have feelings about it.
I don’t think it’s their step-grandchild. I think it’s OPs grandchild from another child of OPs, so no relation to them at all.
It’s the OP’s Grandchild’s cousin, no relation to the in-laws. My mom treats all of my nieces and nephews the same, so like my kid gets the same amount of $$ or gifts as my nephews who are not biologically related to my Mom or my child. It never occurred to me to be bothered by that, or that one of my SIL’s would have feelings about it.
I'm drowning in kids' presents right now (so many over spending relatives), so I would be annoyed with randoms spending more on my kids than I did.
It’s the OP’s Grandchild’s cousin, no relation to the in-laws. My mom treats all of my nieces and nephews the same, so like my kid gets the same amount of $$ or gifts as my nephews who are not biologically related to my Mom or my child. It never occurred to me to be bothered by that, or that one of my SIL’s would have feelings about it.
It would be like your brothers in laws buying your kid a lot of gifts. I know people mean well and are very generous, but I also know parents are often overwhelmed with so much stuff.
My sister's ILs consider us like family and do buy my kids gifts, though not an excessive amount. If it were an excessive amount, it might annoy me but I have no idea why this would annoy my mom (who would be the equivalent of the OP, if I understand the relationships correctly).
I got one Christmas gift this year and it was from my daughter purchased with money I gave her. No one else bought me specifically a gift. My FIL gave me $100 but gave H $300 (yes, H offered to split it). SIL gave H a gift for just him and then gave us a set of sheets. I’m disappointed.
I will say, I don’t give gifts to get gifts, but it makes me sad that I wasn’t even on anyone’s radar.
I don't really think this is petty. Unless there was an explicit "not exchanging gifts this year" agreement, I would be pretty livid if my husband didn't get me a single gift.
My brother and I agreed to exchange....then I bought our mom tickets to see Michael Buble (we agreed to split the cost) after I told him how much he owes me, he asked to not exchange with me anymore since it blew his budget.
thanks.
oh and he forgot to pay me back for our mom's gift.
had to share this. If your kids do Go Noodle at school they may know this song and the "wobbly man" dance. My kid gets so excited to see them "in the wild" now
had to share this. If your kids do Go Noodle at school they may know this song and the "wobbly man" dance. My kid gets so excited to see them "in the wild" now
My son's ILs don't know limits. Not only do they go overboard all year long in gifting to our grandsons, at least 2-3 times a week they get several gifts each but now they do it with our granddaughter. This granddaughter is NOT their granddaughter, she is OUR daughter's child. I don't know for sure how much they spent on her but easily $150, maybe $200 worth of gifts. Giving her a small gift or two would be nice but the amount of gifts and cost is crazy. They are nice people, we really like them but they don't know when to stop. It drives our son nuts because they don't always think through the gifts that they give.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
She is not a step-grandchild, she is no actual relation to them. She is my daughter's child. These grandparents are my son's in laws, not my daughter's in laws. It's nice that they want to give their son-in-law's NIECE something at Christmas and Birthdays but they give too much.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
She is not a step-grandchild, she is no actual relation to them. She is my daughter's child. These grandparents are my son's in laws, not my daughter's in laws. It's nice that they want to give their son-in-law's NIECE something at Christmas and Birthdays but they give too much.
Have your kids mindfully choose some of it to give away to charity. It can be a good lesson in excess.
Wait. I get that you think they are going overboard and I guess that’sa legit opinion to have. But. Are you complaining about the other set of grandparents treating their step grandchild like a member of the family? Because you may want to rethink that. Unless I’m missing something.
She is not a step-grandchild, she is no actual relation to them. She is my daughter's child. These grandparents are my son's in laws, not my daughter's in laws. It's nice that they want to give their son-in-law's NIECE something at Christmas and Birthdays but they give too much.
My friend was part of a big family or at least a family that had extended family that liked spoiling the kids during the holidays. She can remember her mom saying, "this all too much.", she would then take an equal amount from each of her kids and put them away and then if they were home sick or had several snow days, she would take one out of the closet.
I think this would be easy to do and you could still donate some to a charity. i have an issue with how my kids take care of their things. If hey do not take care of, play with, etc their toys, they will be leaving the house. We are only a week out from Christmas and I am already annoyed. lol
I get that's easier said than done and my ILs give gifts for the quantity (they don't gift, it's not a verb) but at this point everything they give that isn't needed or asked for is trashed or donated. We've asked them to stop giving us ornaments. They keep coming. I keep trashing.
If they won't stop, your local children's hospital would be grateful for new toys, especially in the ER.
I get that's easier said than done and my ILs give gifts for the quantity (they don't gift, it's not a verb) but at this point everything they give that isn't needed or asked for is trashed or donated. We've asked them to stop giving us ornaments. They keep coming. I keep trashing.
If they won't stop, your local children's hospital would be grateful for new toys, especially in the ER.
My son has tried and they will not stop. My daughter-in-law also realizes it is too much but she will not say anything to them. They are good people, they really mean well so I know my son is lucky to have in -laws that are so giving. To provide some examples, when 1st grandson was born his room had a double closet with 2 rails all full of new baby clothes, plus a dresser full. He never wore over 1/2 of the stuff. They come over with bags full of clothes, toys, shoes and they only live 5 minutes away so it is 2-3 times per week. They will buy the boys new (8 and 4 now) shoes which is super helpful but they will buy them 3 new pairs and a few weeks later another pair or 2. They see something cute, they have to buy it. I do like the idea of having the boys pick a few things and give away the rest as there are a lot of kids who don't have anything, that is really a great idea and I'll talk to my son about it.
I get that's easier said than done and my ILs give gifts for the quantity (they don't gift, it's not a verb) but at this point everything they give that isn't needed or asked for is trashed or donated. We've asked them to stop giving us ornaments. They keep coming. I keep trashing.
If they won't stop, your local children's hospital would be grateful for new toys, especially in the ER.
My son has tried and they will not stop. My daughter-in-law also realizes it is too much but she will not say anything to them. They are good people, they really mean well so I know my son is lucky to have in -laws that are so giving. To provide some examples, when 1st grandson was born his room had a double closet with 2 rails all full of new baby clothes, plus a dresser full. He never wore over 1/2 of the stuff. They come over with bags full of clothes, toys, shoes and they only live 5 minutes away so it is 2-3 times per week. They will buy the boys new (8 and 4 now) shoes which is super helpful but they will buy them 3 new pairs and a few weeks later another pair or 2. They see something cute, they have to buy it. I do like the idea of having the boys pick a few things and give away the rest as there are a lot of kids who don't have anything, that is really a great idea and I'll talk to my son about it.
New kids' clothes are always in demand at DV shelters and child services/foster care.
I always have FOMO so my new petty complaint is that H and i both have had colds this week so NYE was kind of a bust. I feel a lot better, and a bit stir crazy after laying around for 3 days, but H feels worse than me and had to work this week. We did go to a movie with dinner, as planned, but came home after and did nothing. We stayed up until midnight but H didnt want champagne and I didn't want to open a bottle for just me, so we basically just went to bed. Its lame to be disappointed, but as childless atheists I already feel left out of a lot of holiday stuff so i always want NYE to feel special. It's nobody's fault but I still feel whiney.
Also this may be my first NYE in 20 years that I am completely sober, lol.
I get that's easier said than done and my ILs give gifts for the quantity (they don't gift, it's not a verb) but at this point everything they give that isn't needed or asked for is trashed or donated. We've asked them to stop giving us ornaments. They keep coming. I keep trashing.
If they won't stop, your local children's hospital would be grateful for new toys, especially in the ER.
My son has tried and they will not stop. My daughter-in-law also realizes it is too much but she will not say anything to them. They are good people, they really mean well so I know my son is lucky to have in -laws that are so giving. To provide some examples, when 1st grandson was born his room had a double closet with 2 rails all full of new baby clothes, plus a dresser full. He never wore over 1/2 of the stuff. They come over with bags full of clothes, toys, shoes and they only live 5 minutes away so it is 2-3 times per week. They will buy the boys new (8 and 4 now) shoes which is super helpful but they will buy them 3 new pairs and a few weeks later another pair or 2. They see something cute, they have to buy it. I do like the idea of having the boys pick a few things and give away the rest as there are a lot of kids who don't have anything, that is really a great idea and I'll talk to my son about it.
Is your son coming to you looking for ideas on what to do with these item? Presumably your son and DIL are not just throwing out the items they are being gifted? If someone is showing up at their door with bags of items 2-3 times a week for the past 8 years they would have found a way to stop it if they really wanted it stopped and, since that does not appear to be the case, have found a way of donating/handing down/selling the items when finished with them.
wow, you don't know me. I don't know you. People learn things by being on this board, what was said - years ago - I learned from, it was not said as racist. Many of the people on here have always heard things said or terms used and it was just part of life and sometimes people have be informed/educated why what they said was wrong and grow from it. It sounds like you don't believe people learn and grow and you must have been born perfect yourself.
wow, you don't know me. I don't know you. People learn things by being on this board, what was said - years ago - I learned from, it was not said as racist. Many of the people on here have always heard things said or terms used and it was just part of life and sometimes people have be informed/educated why what they said was wrong and grow from it. It sounds like you don't believe people learn and grow and you must have been born perfect yourself.
I guess I must have been born perfect to have known as an adult that brown people don’t smell disgusting and that their smell doesn’t make me want to throw up. And also to have known not to then discuss this with my coworkers/other people. You’re an adult, not a child, with grandchildren apparently. You don’t need to come to this board to ~learn~ that.
wow, you don't know me. I don't know you. People learn things by being on this board, what was said - years ago - I learned from, it was not said as racist. Many of the people on here have always heard things said or terms used and it was just part of life and sometimes people have be informed/educated why what they said was wrong and grow from it. It sounds like you don't believe people learn and grow and you must have been born perfect yourself.
If you really learned, you’d lead with “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have said those things. I was wrong.”
But you didn’t, so you haven’t learned, and you still think you aren’t wrong.
I told my SILs I don't want to do a gift exchange back in October. I think this was a weirdo move on my part, but I have NO desire to do anymore gift exchanges. WE can just get the kid's stuff. Plus I'm being petty because while we got them a specialty Whiskey and an awesome makeup set (that she wanted) we received a book (that I don't care about) and a shirt last year. Plus both SILs are well off let's just skip the gift giving. Thanks...
Bleh.
good for you. Judging by this thread, many would be a lot happier if they had this conversation and stopped the obligatory gift exchange stuff.