I know this is ridiculous but...

[achi]

I’m feeling pretty bitter today. I know this is totally not how it works at all, but does anyone ever see someone’s announcement for a 3rd or 4th baby and feel like they’re hogging all the babies? Because damn.

[scsarah]

Definitely. One of my former co workers had her third and confessed that it was an oops. She didn't know about our fertility stuff, so I can't be hurt that she said it to me, but it just made me so frustrated and sad.

[doggielover]

You're not alone, anyone going though IF has it. Honestly I don't even want to go out with some friends because all they're going to do is talk about their kids (1 has 4 kids)

[shauni27]

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I graduated this board a couple of years ago and I STILL get bitter when I see people have more than even one kid. IT is not logical but my mind instantly gets angry and sad for myself and the other women who I know struggled/continue to struggle for just one healthy child.

[msmerymac]

I'm in a facebook group for my RE practice and it seems like everyone in that group is dealing with secondary IF and already has a kid, and I'm here, trying for 5 years, with nothing to show for it except a lot of medical bills. I know that's not really true, it's just my perception of reality at the time.

Also, my dad's GF's foster daughter (did you catch all that?) has 5 kids. Now, of course, she got the, "Don't you know how that happens?!" after her third, but still. It's a lot of fun. :/

[achi]

Thank you for making me feel less crazy everyone.

I thought I was ready to be done, but lately I’m feeling like I’m not. It’s such a roller coaster.

[joenali]

I have the most annoying coworker ever. All she talks about at lunch is “her babies”. My babies did that, did this, didn’t do this but did that. She can’t stop talking about her babies. It’s literally nonstop. And I’d like to punch her.

On the other hand I have plenty of lovely coworkers whose children I’ve known and some I’ve taught and I WANT to hear about them. And sometimes I’ll ask how they are doing. It’s different than the above crazy lady. Maybe it’s because they don’t always talk about their kids? I don’t know.

[joenali]

Jan 2, 2020 14:23:30 GMT -5 achi said:

Thank you for making me feel less crazy everyone.

I thought I was ready to be done, but lately I’m feeling like I’m not. It’s such a roller coaster.

Every day my mind changes. Every day! Solidarity sister.

[seeyalater52]

Jan 2, 2020 18:39:04 GMT -5 joenali said:

I have the most annoying coworker ever. All she talks about at lunch is “her babies”. My babies did that, did this, didn’t do this but did that. She can’t stop talking about her babies. It’s literally nonstop. And I’d like to punch her.

On the other hand I have plenty of lovely coworkers whose children I’ve known and some I’ve taught and I WANT to hear about them. And sometimes I’ll ask how they are doing. It’s different than the above crazy lady. Maybe it’s because they don’t always talk about their kids? I don’t know.

I find it incredibly annoying when people seem to ONLY be able to talk about their kids. It’s like they have one setting, kid talk, and they never ask me about my life because all they care about is kids and all mine are dead so that’s not very interesting. So they just go on and on and on about their kids. I resent it.

[seeyalater52]

Jan 2, 2020 10:44:49 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

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I graduated this board a couple of years ago and I STILL get bitter when I see people have more than even one kid. IT is not logical but my mind instantly gets angry and sad for myself and the other women who I know struggled/continue to struggle for just one healthy child.

Hard same. Intellectually I get that secondary infertility or TTC again after primary infertility is hard. But damn, I just want the ONE kid and I’m probably not even going to get that.