Ours was quiet and overall nice. I think I may have a touch of a stomach bug, so I tried to lay low. We didn’t leave the house yesterday, other than DH who ran a few errands (grocery shopping, getting the car washed).
This week looks pretty calm. I’m off tomorrow because DD’s class does a celebration for birthdays where you come in and tell the story of how the kiddo came to be part of your family, either through birth or adoption. DD has a summer birthday, so we are doing it around her half birthday, which was Saturday. Also tomorrow I’m doing an informational interview about the job in Phoenix. I’m intrigued, but I’m concerned it’s a step backwards. I’m a supervisor of supervisors now. I would be an individual contributor there simply because their lawyers don’t get direct reports until they are VPs. They’re a very flat organization. It’s a lot to think about.
I had the recharging weekend I needed. Spent Friday night at beau's place with takeout and a movie. He had to work the rest of the weekend so I was just home alone getting stuff done.
It was shockingly warm here all weekend - high 60s - so I had the windows open and cleaned my house top to bottom. Fixed the dishwasher so it's draining again, put away the last of the holiday "stuff" that was cluttering up my sewing room/office, got all the laundry done. Binged a ton of Gilmore Girls while doing chores and spent some time reading out on my porch on Sunday. Even got caught up on my 30 days of yoga videos because I had missed a couple due to migraines last week.
I actually feel ready to tackle the week, which I haven't in a while!
Great weekend. DH and I ended up at the local bar and grill for drinks and dinner Friday. We stayed way too late, but had fun. Saturday was a yucky rainy day so we laid low and then went to dinner with DD with one of our gift cards from Christmas and came home and watched a movie. Sunday was church, grocery and homemade pizza.
My new staff starts today. He will be in personnel today and training videos hopefully tomorrow. I need to find somethings for him to do and some time for him to shadow different staff this week.
We had a great weekend! Unseasonably warm and sunny most of the weekend so I went for a couple of long walks and the kids were out playing all over the neighborhood.
Today has been a very Monday-ish Monday here. It was 71 and sunny yesterday and now it’s 35 with rain/snow. DD1 has bee claiming she’s sick every school day for the past week (miraculously fine over the weekend). This morning she refused to get ready for school. I’m so tired of fighting that I said she could stay home and go back to bed. No, she said, she planned to watch her iPad today all day, maybe a movie or two.
Um. Nope.
So at that point I was 5 minutes late and had to get DD2 to school, and DD1 had no shoes, hadn’t brushed hair or teeth, hadn’t finished breakfast or packed her bag. So I left. Now she wants me to driver her to school late. It’s about an hour round trip. Sorry girlfriend.
Pretty good weekend - visited awesome beach tide pools Saturday evening at sunset, took kids to legoland yesterday. DS2 is a little bit sick but doesn’t seem to be anything major.
Woke up to a text today from our in home daycare provided that her husband was rushed by ambulance to the hospital yesterday and has the flu. I have to fly to a meeting late morning today and I have to speak at a conference tomorrow. So I don’t have much flexibility to WFH right now. I’m waiting till a reasonable hour to start texting babysitters (it’s pre-7 am here). I’m sure I’ll figure something out. And worse comes to worse DH can cover it. But always fun to wake up to a scramble Monday morning.
We hada pretty low key weekend ourselves. A playdate on Saturday for DS, football with the neighbors, two birthday parties, and shopping for DS's big boy bedding (and returning most of what we bought). We've had a beast of a time finding bedding for him - Amazon order from Santa was awful and returned, bought one from Bed Bath & Beyond, but the comforter didn't cover the whole mattress, a quilt from Target that was too large (and he didn't like the color). So he's been rocking just sheets for the last few nights, which is a step up from just sleeping on the mattress pad that he'd been doing after we realized the Amazon bedding felt like a rain jacket vs. soft and cozy.
DD woke up this morning with a kink in her neck. I didn't even know that could happen to kids. She is miserable and you'd think the world was ending. Refused to eat breakfast, sobbing when she found out she'd still have to go to school. If she had agreed to taking Tylenol or that it was bad enough to see a doctor, I might have had more pity on her. Needless to say, she's at beforecare right now and I'm feeling bad that we sent her.
mae0111, she's refused Tylenol (she took more drugs in her first 3 years of life than most people take in their entire lives, so I feel for her), but was okay with an ice pack and I told her she can always ask her teacher to go to the nurse for ice if it gets too bad.
This is also my time of year where I freak out about anything out of the ordinary that happens to her because we have a scan coming up in March or April, and that always messes with my head, and my first thing I want to do is google stiff neck and brain tumors. I have held off and just googled stiff neck in kids and stopped there.
Question for the WP. I ordered DH a shirt on December 11 for Christmas. Paid through PayPal. I get notice that the shirt would not arrive for a month. I try to cancel. Call the number on the site, it goes to fax. Email 5 times within a 7 day period. I finally filed a dispute with PayPal. Finally get a response and they say I cannot cancel the order, because it has to be cancelled within 24 hours. I tell this to PayPal because there was no way to communicate with them in 24 hours. Horribly run company. PayPal agrees with me, gives my money back. The shirt shows up Saturday. Where DH promptly opens it, puts it on, and loves it. Now what do I do? Offer to pay again? Who knows when they will respond. Just keep it since, I had to go out and spend an extra $100 for him on Christmas so he would have a present. Contact PayPal? They were really great to work with.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 13, 2020 11:29:43 GMT -5
Low key weekend.
We went shopping for dance shoes with the kids, which was a pain in the ass. Apparently this is the season where girls are getting fit for new pointe shoes and we hand to sign in and wait FOREVER. Experienced people had appointments, so it took even longer than expected. We should have just left but after a while we kept thinking our turn would be coming...By the time my kids had their turn, DS was upbeat and great, and DD was horrible and uncooperative.
Sunday DH's brother came over and he and his son and DH made gumbo. It was such a great night! DS' brother is getting a divorce and I think his brother is trying to reconnect in the wake of it and we're happy to do that. He's such a great guy, I hope the divorce leads to happiness for him b/c I know they've been unhappy together since....shortly after I met them I guess.
I can't remember if I've posted about this already, but the kids' school is pissing me off in a very minor way...they've instituted a rule that when the temp is xx (I don't know what) you must wear a jacket to be allowed to play outside. Fine but they've never announced this to parents. My kids are always wearing jackets when it's in the 50s so I haven't said anything, but recently the Dean has started making comments about the thickness of my kids jackets. Today it was 58 degrees and even though my son was in his fleece jacket, she grabbed his heavier coat that happened to be in the car and told him to bring that too "in case". LADY! He's not going to wear it and he's going to loose it! I don't know, it's just stupid IMO. We're not in Michigan!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 13, 2020 11:31:24 GMT -5
rere, just saying what I would do, I would keep it and if they communicate with me I'd go from there. I would not bother reaching out to them. If they reached out and ASKED me to pay, then I probably would, but I wouldn't reach out and offer.
k3am , my first thought with a stiff neck is they slept weird. It should get better tomorrow.
Our weekend was pretty good. We saw the Harlem Wizards Fri night. Sat was raining all day, so the whole family saw Star Wars in the theater. This is a big deal because of DS's sensitivities we haven't been able to see a scaryish movie with him even. Like last year DS and I had to leave the Incredibles and go watch Mama Mia 2 instead. Cartoons are worse for him than live action. I was afraid DD might have a nightmare, but she was OK. She just was a little more afraid to be by herself. We worked up to this point by watching lots of Star Wars on Disney plus. I can't believe we are finally at this point since we've been trying for the last 4 years.
We did more fun stuff Saturday, so Sunday was more getting through my to-do list but it was more personal stuff (dye gray hair) and less housework which was nice.
mae0111, google tells me two days of ice before trying a heating pad. And thankfully we have a heating pad, because that would be one strike against me in DH's argument for why we need a microwave.
rere, keep the shirt and don't worry about payment.
rere, keep the shirt and don't worry unless they contact you.
I lost it on DH Saturday when I got home from tax class. I asked him to unload dishwasher and deal with the dishes in the sink and to vacuum the living room as it was covered in dog hair. This should have taken way less than 30 minutes. Got home and he had unloaded dishwasher and vacuumed but left the pots in the sink and had put stuff in the dishwasher so wrong it wasn't close. I'm talking plastic container lids on the bottom, silverware on the top 3rd rack, a giant plate laying on the top rack where glasses and containers go. I was pissed and DD wouldn't help me as daddy was supposed to do. His reason why he didn't do it was that he works hard all week and he needs time to just chill and relax and do what he wants on the weekends and after work. I also supposedly need to not do anything for 30 minutes after getting home so I can learn how to relax. Ladies some nights I'm not even home for 30 minutes before I need to rush out the door again. I tend to finally relax once DD is in bed and all my evening chores are done. Right now that just seems to be when I finally crawl into bed.
I think DH knew he was in the dog house as everyone left me alone Sunday morning and I slept until 10.
Post by sandandsea on Jan 13, 2020 14:22:36 GMT -5
We had a nice weekend. Ds2 had a play date while ds1 was at 2 sports on Saturday. Saturday night we hosted a game night amd it was fun. Everyone was fine by 10:15 and we were cleaned up and in bed by 11. Sunday we went to church and ds1 had cub scouts with DH whole ds2 and I hung out at home. I also made it through 879 weeks of laundry and folded it all while watching les mis.
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 13, 2020 15:13:36 GMT -5
Saturday was pretty good. We just hung around the house all day due to the wintry mix. I got some cleaning done and it was nice to relax. Sunday my dad called to say that my aunt is very close to passing. DH and I also decided that Monday we would call the pet hospice company to come on Monday to put our dog to sleep. She couldn't walk and was in pain (she was shaking and panting). So yesterday wasn't the greatest.
Today has been emotional and awful. I drove the 45 minute (one-way) trip to visit my aunt one more time. She was very tired from meds, but knew I was there. The hospice nurse came while I was there (my dad, mom, and two aunts were also there) and said she probably has just a few days left. After that, I hurried home to spend a little over an hour with my dog before the pet hospice vet came. (DH was home too.) I'm glad my dog is no longer suffering, but that was such a hard thing to do. She was the best dog and I'm glad we had a little over 13.5 years with her.
I'm supposed to hear today about the job I have been interviewing for, but as the day goes on, I get less optimistic about getting an offer.
So right now I'm just having a glass of wine and then I'll have to go pick up the kids from school in an hour.
Another weekend thing... DD1 decided that she definitely wanted to go to camp for 4 weeks this year. She acknowledged that by doing this, she would likely miss our family beach vacation. Last year, her behavior was so awful that we had to leave early and come home.
We decided to book the vacation for our normal week, knowing she would be gone. I was ok with it because she would be doing super fun things while we were away, and she clearly didn’t enjoy the beach vacation last year, so it all seemed like a win-win.
BIL announced yesterday that they shall be renting a house the same week as us... 2 doors down. It’s unclear if DH invited them or if they invited themselves. And it’s also possible that now my MIL is staying with us, which I did not agree to and did not want.
This changes the tenor of our vacation in a big way, and DD1 will be so upset to miss it. But... it will be better for all if she stays at camp.
I have so many feelings about it. But what’s done is done.
mae0111, I would be so mad. There is that weird dynamic with your H and his family right? My sister and dad tried to crash our vacation last year, luckily neither of us had booked a place, so we stayed at different places about an hour apart and coordinated a couple of get togethers and then headed out to our next campsite. Although I will say my H's grand idea of setting up camp and taking it down 5 times in a week was terrible, but I had to compromise because my family had just crashed our vacation.
Because of the Hawaii trip and time issues, I decided we are not doing a family trip. We can do 1-2 beach weekends for a night or 2. We should look into a house for that unless we want drunk people in the hallways at 2 am like our last hotel experience, but I am not sure I care that much for 1 night, 2 nights maybe.
Our plan is overnight camp both kids for one week, then grandparents house for one week (and our couples trip). And 1-2 beach weekends.
mae0111, NO, NO, NO, I would totally change my booking for another week. Your in-law dynamic isn't great and you don't need them messing up your quiet time. I also think it is very mature of your DD1 to be okay with you going to the beach for vacation while she is at camp. She must of really loved camp last year.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 13, 2020 19:04:53 GMT -5
covergirl82 I'm sorry for the emotional day. Have a second glass of wine tonight.
Our productive weekend getting the house more put together turned into a productive weekend getting water out if our flooded basement. 9" of water. Apparently what the plumbers thought was just a regular second sump pump was actually the pump that pumps out the water that comes in through the perimeter drain. They said we didnt need 2 sump pumps because we have a perimeter drain. It rained all day Friday and all day Saturday. Didn't start flooding the basement until Saturday morning. The control board on our new furnace got wet and the furnace wouldn't come back on Sunday. Thankfully the HVAC company we use had one so we had heat back on by Sunday afternoon. The plumber responded to DH's sharing of the events with "fuuuuuck" so I think he knows he screwed up. Soooooo they better fix it for free, or they can pay for allllllll the things that have happened as a result. Should be fun!
The roof stopped leaking though! It's issue should be an easy fix that I'm also not going to pay for without at least an argument.
Yeah. It's too late. We already booked and we went back and forth on the week several times with the rental owner, so we can't pull out now. It will be ok. I just have to reset my expectations regarding what this vacation will be.
186momx, She really did love camp, and she really didn't love our vacation last year. She will be angry... but she will be angry to find out that we did anything besides sit in our house and stare at the walls while she's away. Major FOMO. So I typically plan a lot of things that DD2 likes but DD1 hates. The zoo, the aquarium, certain playgrounds, etc. It's dicey because now her cousins are coming (which, again, not planned), but she will get another vacation with them about a month later.
Post by traveltheworld on Jan 13, 2020 19:31:41 GMT -5
covergirl82, sorry that you are going through a tough time.
We had a good weekend. Had one of my closer work colleagues and his family over for dinner Saturday night; then went out to dinner with DH while the kids slept over at my parents' place yesterday.
We have DS's observation day at the gifted school tomorrow so I'm anxious. I really hope he likes it.
DD bailed on basketball today. Without telling anyone. Her school teacher found her hiding behind a solar panel pole and crying 30 mins after class started because she didn’t feel well. Girlfriend has a fever and a cough and is overall miserable.
covergirl82 I’m so sorry about your aunt and dog. I hope you get good news about the interview.
After my crazy childcare day - I dropped DS2 off with DH midday at his office downtown and went straight to the airport - I get to my 4 pm meeting (which I was just asked to attend 3 days ago), only to be told my item was being bumped to next month. So now I’m flying back home.
And I had arranged childcare for tomorrow (part with daycare provider, even though her husband is still in the hospital, then pickup by babysitter) only to have babysitter fall through. I have to speak at a conference tomorrow in front of hundreds of people. I’m hoping daycare provider will agree to keep him a little bit longer until other babysitter can make it there. Otherwise it falls to DH. Blah.
In good news, I got a zika test since I went to Fiji while pregnant and it was negative. I didn’t think there was any real chance of it being positive - I did a lot of research before going and they didn’t have a single zika case in the last year+, I was crazy about bug protection, and don’t think I gotta single bite - but it’s still reassuring. I paid out of pocket for DH to get tested too a couple weeks ago since it’s sexually transmitted, and he was also negative.
Post by librarychica on Jan 14, 2020 8:36:42 GMT -5
Our weekend was not great, Monday was kind of awful as well. I’m sick, I still don’t have childcare to cover H’s epic 22 day business trip and my oldest is really struggling socially in school. A mess!
But I had a really nice dinner with my brother last night. We don’t have much in common anymore and have been really at-odds at family gatherings lately but it was much more relaxed with the two of us and we connected. We are both trying, so I consider myself blessed.
Also DD1 seems to have enjoyed her day of “consequences” with the dean of students a little too much. “He’s so nice and his office is so quiet! He gave me extra math after I finished my first math and then I read for a while and then I did more math and then school was still in so he let me watch a video about animals.”