DH was solo parenting while I was OOT. My kid broke her leg. Even when I offered to leave and try and get home earlier he said no, I'm an adult, I got this. Having a 50/50 partner is so important.
Sooo b/c I have nothing else to talk about really, today was the 1 week check-up with the cast and it was a nightmare. I guess I wish we were more prepared, but my kid basically screamed the whole time and is probably going to be afraid of doctors for life at this point. They had to adjust her cast, so they cut it, stuff this shim into it, and then re-casted it. She was basically inconsolable the whole time. All 3 of us were crying it was awful. She goes back in 2 weeks and I am dreading it.
Then DH tried to take her to school b/c she loves school, but she was in so much pain that he basically said drop off was shitshow so he took her home and my mom wasn't there because she had just run up to the grocery store. :-(
Dh is between jobs. He is a contract employee, the contract changed to a new company and he has an offer from them just waiting to be brought on so he seems to have some time off.
I spoke with him about it and told him he should pick up more responsibilities around the house (I do like 97%). He agreed. He made dinner last night, posted it on facebook and everyone is acting like he is the second coming of Jesus.
I think it's highly possible that I have made 4,500 meals since we moved in together, but he is getting all this praise. I'm really irritated.
No actually Nikki, I had to hire a lawn service because he never got around to mowing the lawn which was literally his only chore. I've almost left him twice because of this shit, so maybe let's just hold on giving him the medal of honor.
So petty and bitchy but I had to get it out somewhere!
Ugh, I'm so sorry. That is really irritating. On a related note I get REALLLLY tired of when DH takes our toddler out somewhere people act like he's the fucking messiah. It's called being a parent, look it up.
That is one of H's pet peeves. When our eldest was born (almost 40 yrs ago), and when I went back to work part time, he was home with her a couple of days a week and my mom watched her a couple of days. It irked him to no end that people would comment that he was 'babysitting', and that they would give me a hard time when he went to change a diaper or feed a child, as if he was doing my job instead of, you know, being a father taking care of his child.
As much as we used to share duties equally, it seems like his work has taken up more time in recent years and more household duties than before have fallen to me. It's fair, and I am not complaining, but one day I noticed that he had done a small task that I had been meaning to do. By the time I got back to the living room, where he was, I had thought about thanking him for taking care of it, come to the conclusion that I do it because it needs to be done...it isn't a job assigned to anyone, and nobody really needs to be thanked for doing it, even though we do thank each other often for that kind of stuff. lol
I told him that I had noticed it and appreciated that he did it and was going to thank him, but no one thanks me and I do it all the time... so why did I think he deserved a gold star for doing it?
He laughed at my weird 'thanks but you don't deserve it' and admitted that he actually thinks about doing that task more often but gets distracted and forgets, and then it is done before he has the opportunity again. He also agreed that he didn't need a gold star or anything. ;p
I'm looking forward to the weekend! We have nothing too fun going on but it beats being at work. DH got his promotion-Regional VP (of a company that is a household name)-! Its being announced next week. I'm super proud of him!
I am honestly in awe of how many activities other families manage to arrange for their kids. I was just talking to someone last night, who was saying that each of her 2 kids has 2 activities per night, every night. Plus the parents are in a couple activities themselves. This honestly seems to be the norm in my experience with my kids' friends.
I just... I guess I'm easily overwhelmed? We barely get through homework and daily violin practice and household chores and maybe 2 activities total per week. It's more during baseball season, and my daughter wants to try softball this year (which my H originally agreed to, but is now having second thoughts because he is worried about the scheduling). I truly can not imagine having to coordinate (let alone pay for) multiple activities per kid every single day.
To be clear, I'm saying this without judgement. If they love it, I love it for them. I just waiver between feeling bad for my own kids, and truly not understanding the logistics of how other people squeeze it all in.
jinkies , totally agree! I have three kids and the only way we manage activities is because I only work PT. If I was still FT there is no way I could get them to their stuff. Other than DS's soccer all of our stuff is pretty close to home and low commitment and low cost so I don't mind but some weeks can be a beating.
I am honestly in awe of how many activities other families manage to arrange for their kids. I was just talking to someone last night, who was saying that each of her 2 kids has 2 activities per night, every night. Plus the parents are in a couple activities themselves. This honestly seems to be the norm in my experience with my kids' friends.
I just... I guess I'm easily overwhelmed? We barely get through homework and daily violin practice and household chores and maybe 2 activities total per week. It's more during baseball season, and my daughter wants to try softball this year (which my H originally agreed to, but is now having second thoughts because he is worried about the scheduling). I truly can not imagine having to coordinate (let alone pay for) multiple activities per kid every single day.
To be clear, I'm saying this without judgement. If they love it, I love it for them. I just waiver between feeling bad for my own kids, and truly not understanding the logistics of how other people squeeze it all in.
I also wrestle with feeling bad that we are not enriching our kid more, but I can't handle being over scheduled. It is legit my worst nightmare.
I say yes to any activity that can be done after school before we have to pick them up lol. Otherwise we do maybe one sport at a time. Never more than that. I cant even imagine.
On kid related note, we are on our second snow day of the week. WEEEEEEEE
Today is our anniversary. We live in the midwest and got married on the beach in Florida. I'd really like to get to the point where we can start spending our anniversaries where it's warmer.
Ours in one month. We were married in Florida and live in the upper Midwest. We thought we could celebrate our anniversary in Florida every year. . . then life happened 😜
I am honestly in awe of how many activities other families manage to arrange for their kids. I was just talking to someone last night, who was saying that each of her 2 kids has 2 activities per night, every night. Plus the parents are in a couple activities themselves. This honestly seems to be the norm in my experience with my kids' friends.
I just... I guess I'm easily overwhelmed? We barely get through homework and daily violin practice and household chores and maybe 2 activities total per week. It's more during baseball season, and my daughter wants to try softball this year (which my H originally agreed to, but is now having second thoughts because he is worried about the scheduling). I truly can not imagine having to coordinate (let alone pay for) multiple activities per kid every single day.
To be clear, I'm saying this without judgement. If they love it, I love it for them. I just waiver between feeling bad for my own kids, and truly not understanding the logistics of how other people squeeze it all in.
I only let my kids sign up for one sport/team at a time. Not only do I hate being over-scheduled, it’s also not in our budget to do more than that. I also like to reinforce to them that when you commit to a team, you need to be there for that team. So many kids are missing games and practices to go to other games/practices for other teams. It’s hard to feel like a team and learn to play like a team when people are always missing.
Post by juliachild on Jan 17, 2020 13:15:48 GMT -5
I left work early yesterday with a migraine. I have a bunch to get done. Then today the roads are a sheet of ice. I walk to work, but I couldn't even make it two steps off the curb. So there goes my productive day at work.
I am getting the house cleaned up and listed a bunch of stuff on eBay.
I left my last job just before Thanksgiving. There was one woman there who, if we didn't work together, I would probably like. But she dropped the ball a lot, and pushed a lot of work onto me that definitely was supposed to be her job. For whatever reason, I became her favorite scapegoat for anything that she had forgotten to do or didn't remember the details of. When in doubt, her response to a question was always "I remember that Jinkies handled that" (regardless of whether that was true).
So I got really good at saving receipts, and I tried never to make a verbal agreement with her that I didn't follow up in writing.
ANYWAY. I am continuing to do some freelance work for them until they rehire my old position. She is continuing to blame everything on me in my absence. I've responded to two emails just this week clarifying that I actually didn't handle something that she claims I did. In both cases, I had email documentation to prove it, which brings me joy.
ALSO. For the question that I got today... everyone involved in today's email chain was involved in the original email chain from a year ago describing responsibilities. They could have found this information without paying me a consulting rate. Sometimes I think my greatest super power is my ability to use Outlook's search function.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Jan 17, 2020 16:57:50 GMT -5
We got all new technology at work this week. laptops, huge monitors, docking stations. I'm the office Admin so needless to say I've been very busy with coordination all week plus the docking stations didn't show up till Wednesday right as I was walking out the door. Corporate hasn't given us any direction for what to do with the old equipment so I currently have 2 interview rooms that are full of computer equipment. Hoping it's not like it has been with the new phone system we got MONTHS ago because the old phones are still laying around and we were told not to throw them out or recycle them ourselves. I am really looking forward to a 3 day weekend after this.
I sent off the check to payoff DD's car. This would have already happened if her dad hadn't backed out on paying his 1/2. Waiting for it to clear and then it's time to finally buy myself a new car. The current one still technically runs great but with some leaks and other small things it isn't worth the cost to fix it since it has 231K miles on it.