My H just causally dropped into conversation that he’s been meeting with a recruiter about a new job that would involve a 200k raise + bonus. He’s like, it would involve a lot of travel so I didn’t how how you’d feel. Me: Here you go 🧳!
It’s a living history museum (think small scale Williamsburg with far far less funding) and the only one within hours of where I live. Very niche field. It’s 5 days for a full time employee. As a part timer I have no paid time off (except the NJ mandated sick pay). The thing that saves it is that our work week is Wednesday through Sunday most of the year, but you can usually arrange to work Monday and/or Tuesday if you’re off over the weekend to avoid using days off and do other creative things like that to flex time. But mostly you have to really love it to put up with it. The truth is, I’ve worked in a few other small museums and all have 5 days off, and low pay, it’s the nature of small historical sites.
That stinks. I feel like places that are passion jobs often take advantage of the fact that people will put up with whatever they are given. I really dislike that mindset. Employees are your best resource, treat them like it!
I honestly don't care how much I love a job, I need more time off than that. What keeps me going is being able to take trips for fun and also to see family. I would find another field if low PTO was the norm where I worked.
Yeah, it would be this site or continue SAH, so that’s obviously a factor here. I do it because I truly missed working and love the site itself (it’s a significant piece of industrial era history, but underfunded). The truth is, they need to be open and need a member of the management level team on site if they’re open, but they’re also operating on a shoestring budget (and even not as a member of management staff, currently by choice, I’ve seen the books, this isn’t being overstated), so can’t afford to have enough staff to keep the site open and be generous with PTO. They’re up to 5 full time employees, up from 3 when I started there.
My H just causally dropped into conversation that he’s been meeting with a recruiter about a new job that would involve a 200k raise + bonus. He’s like, it would involve a lot of travel so I didn’t how how you’d feel. Me: Here you go 🧳!
I’m cracking up. That would be my reaction too! Lol
My H just causally dropped into conversation that he’s been meeting with a recruiter about a new job that would involve a 200k raise + bonus. He’s like, it would involve a lot of travel so I didn’t how how you’d feel. Me: Here you go 🧳!
I’m cracking up. That would be my reaction too! Lol
It probably won’t happen and I’m sure it would suck if he really was constantly gone but yeah, dude, let’s explore that option, lol.
The first year at my current job I get zero paid days off. I can take unpaid days but I don’t start accruing time until my one year anniversary. It’s not uncommon in my field. And it sucks.
I'm the cookie mom, which is already annoying. Today we had a booth. Two families begged and pleaded to have their girls attend this one. Then neither could chaperone. Which was fine when the two other families could. But both chaperones had to back out today because of sick kids. I text everyone that the booth is cancelled. I swing by to put up a "sorry,no cookies sign" and check that no parents are hanging around waiting because they didn't get the text.
No. No parents are hanging around waiting. But the two high maintenance families had just sent their eight year olds over alone. No adult around, no hand off. So there they were, sitting on the steps of the store alone. WTF does that? Argh.
ETA: Same family brought their kid to Saturday's girl scout meeting with a fever and without a jacket in shorts and t-shirt, despite it being an outdoor meeting in February.
Random: I just got Instagram and it boggles my mind how attention seeking grown ass adults are. Is it really not embarrassing to be a grown adult with those dumb signs with writing on it? Half the time I see pictures I am envisioning the whole scenario-hey help me get this shot! Wait! That ones not good enough! And all the posing? Do they feel silly in real life with all of that posing? What is the human response to people waking by? Does the poster feel embarrassed at that moment? Thats how I feel when I see people snapping selfies at the gym....like...(I’m thinking) are you embarrassed I’m catching you bc you look dumb and attention seeking.
I also do not get the dancing. This is all so weird. I’d like to go back to my non social media life now, but my oldest is going to middle school next year so I’m sure I’ll be seeing more platforms down the road.
Society has become so attention seeking and in the past decade I’ve seen anxiety SPIKE in my job not only with kids but also adults. Parents-moms especially. There’s so much to social media in this equation I think. I was reading an article about a colleague who is developing an assessment that measures social media rumination and I can’t wait to learn more about it.
My coworker and love talking about it-like the episode of black mirror where the girl is obsessed with her rating and she can’t get into the condo complex she wants. This relates in real life bc we (coworker and i) believe people are now behaviorally reinforced with a different kind of (fake, disgenuine) praise when they get a Like. And how that is changing human behavior as a whole.
“Oh I love my boyfriend it’s our 4 month anniversary” smoochie picture and they are then positively reinforced by likes that people don’t really give an effort into, they are just clicking on.....when in REAL life, if you said those words? The response would be, “um, ok...” and the person would NOT be reinforced. Their behavior wouldn’t be reinforced because the message they receive would be “I did something weird and not really accepted” So behaviors in society are actually changing bc of this disgenuine reinforcement.
Anyway nerding out over here over principles of behavior and weird social media norms. (Get off my lawn.)
I'm the cookie mom, which is already annoying. Today we had a booth. Two families begged and pleaded to have their girls attend this one. Then neither could chaperone. Which was fine when the two other families could. But both chaperones had to back out today because of sick kids. I text everyone that the booth is cancelled. I swing by to put up a "sorry,no cookies sign" and check that no parents are hanging around waiting because they didn't get the text.
No. No parents are hanging around waiting. But the two high maintenance families had just sent their eight year olds over alone. No adult around, no hand off. So there they were, sitting on the steps of the store alone. WTF does that? Argh.
ETA: Same family brought their kid to Saturday's girl scout meeting with a fever and without a jacket in shorts and t-shirt, despite it being an outdoor meeting in February.
As a troop leader, I feel you. I love working with the girls, but dealing with parents is absolutely the worst. Most are fine, but there is ALWAYS at least one high maintenance family that has zero concept of or respect for the amount of effort that people put in to make stuff like this possible.
Random: I just got Instagram and it boggles my mind how attention seeking grown ass adults are. Is it really not embarrassing to be a grown adult with those dumb signs with writing on it? Half the time I see pictures I am envisioning the whole scenario-hey help me get this shot! Wait! That ones not good enough! And all the posing? Do they feel silly in real life with all of that posing? What is the human response to people waking by? Does the poster feel embarrassed at that moment? Thats how I feel when I see people snapping selfies at the gym....like...(I’m thinking) are you embarrassed I’m catching you bc you look dumb and attention seeking.
I also do not get the dancing. This is all so weird. I’d like to go back to my non social media life now, but my oldest is going to middle school next year so I’m sure I’ll be seeing more platforms down the road.
Society has become so attention seeking and in the past decade I’ve seen anxiety SPIKE in my job not only with kids but also adults. Parents-moms especially. There’s so much to social media in this equation I think. I was reading an article about a colleague who is developing an assessment that measures social media rumination and I can’t wait to learn more about it.
My coworker and love talking about it-like the episode of black mirror where the girl is obsessed with her rating and she can’t get into the condo complex she wants. This relates in real life bc we (coworker and i) believe people are now behaviorally reinforced with a different kind of (fake, disgenuine) praise when they get a Like. And how that is changing human behavior as a whole.
“Oh I love my boyfriend it’s our 4 month anniversary” smoochie picture and they are then positively reinforced by likes that people don’t really give an effort into, they are just clicking on.....when in REAL life, if you said those words? The response would be, “um, ok...” and the person would NOT be reinforced. Their behavior wouldn’t be reinforced because the message they receive would be “I did something weird and not really accepted” So behaviors in society are actually changing bc of this disgenuine reinforcement.
Anyway nerding out over here over principles of behavior and weird social media norms. (Get off my lawn.)
I'm of two minds, and it really depends on the person's motivation and the extent of silliness happening. But sometimes what looks like dumb attention-seeking is a show of confidence, and I think that's pretty damn cool. I'm an adult woman with a professional job who still makes silly IG posts, sometimes involving dumb poses out in public. Taking yourself seriously (i.e., knowing your worth and advocating for yourself) doesn't have to mean being buttoned-up and dour all the time. I've recently decided to stop apologizing for my age and my clothes and for wearing makeup every day. I am not less intelligent or capable for those things. I'm also not any less credible because I have an active social media account and I made my friend take several pictures of me in a badass inversion at aerial yoga so I could post it. Because I was damn proud of having my feet over my head in a non-accidental way! It might be my own battle against insecurity talking, but I think celebrating other people's confidence (Going to the gym is hard, but you did it! Yay!) is something we -- women in particular -- *should* be doing.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Feb 14, 2020 11:17:53 GMT -5
sonrisa, I'm making my third run to council today to pick up more cookies. I feel you.
We haven't done a booth yet because I don't have super-committed parents, and, while I am the troop leader and willing to go above and beyond, I would do anything for scouts, but I won't do that. I just have visions of us having cases of leftover cookies that no one would sell.