Everyone at work is in a bad mood today. At least it is not just me. DH keeps waking me up at 5 am or even 4 am. The first morning he had a new coffee machine. The second morning he turned his closet light on. Today, he was scratching. He told me well you woke me up once rolling over at 3 am, um not the same thing as you waking me up 4 times this week, plus you are probably making it up so that we are "even."
Meetings are driving me crazy because people have to second guess everything I say. Have you done the research, no? Do you know what I am talking about, no? Then boss is like well I'd like to do X. That's fine but what are you going to do with Y, and no I am not figuring that out for you. If you want to do X then you need to figure out how. No don't tell me whatever you feel like- all the other places do things this way for a reason, so don't tell me I should do something a different way, when this is the gold standard in the industry. I was told to do drawings, and I am not an interior designer, and I am doing research into something else right now. Then I start the process to do drawings and am told maybe we don't need them. Then they get ignored anyway. Guys- hold up, we have time, so calm the F down and let me go through my process. Stop trying to push crap through to feel like you are making progress when it is crappy work that we are going to hate and have to re-do anyway.
I was in Houston the last two days. This morning my presentation started at 7:45 am, so 5:45 am my time - on days like these I wish I drank coffee. The good news is that I caught an earlier flight back that I didn’t think was going to be possible (left downtown at 8:30 for a 9:35 flight) and should be able to take DS1 to a 2 pm birthday party that I was going to have to have another parent cover. So all in all day is starting off well!
After bday party is tball then dinner with tball parents. Otherwise open normal weekend.
I got to spend the morning making an official complaint to HR. So that was awesome. Yesterday I called a peer about a project she runs but my team supports and she spent half an hour yelling at me at the top of her lungs about how I should never talk to leadership about HER projects and how a week ago I sent an email (that I copied her on) that she was offended I sent. Then she took it a step further and made comments about how “if we were going to continue being teammates” I was going to have to completely change my style. It felt like she was actively threatening to get me fired. I followed up with my boss, who was very much “well, in the future just don’t send emails about her projects” and completely refused to address the fact that I had just been threatened by a peer.
So this morning I called HR actually just to get some advice, but it turns out that as soon as I called, it was an official complaint that requires investigation. So now I get to worry about retaliation. So that’s awesome.
My doctor is trying to kill me with a nervous breakdown. Every time I go, he finds something. Never just a see you next year. This year my hemoglobin dropped from 13.9-13.1. Still normal, but now he wants to follow up in 3 months. Now I am spiraling and convinced that I have cancer. Last year it was heart palpitations sending me to the cardiologist, year before my protein was down and of course I am spiraling then also.
I am playing volleyball tonight to get out of the house. DH is working. DD is going to a friend's and I am sure Ds will have my basement full of boys playing pool and video games.
Tomorrow, I have practice for a skit. In a week, a friend of ours puts on a variety type show were people sing, do skits, etc... We are doing Sister Act. I may go watch the game at a friends.
Sunday, I may have bribed DS to go to the movies with my mom. She still wants to take them to the movies like when they were little. DS is 16 and doesn't want to go. I told him it will hurt her feelings and it won't hurt to go to the movies. If he agrees, I will go to lunch with them all and then head over to the movies. I will go see Call of the Wild or 1917 with him if they want to see something else, just go with her. DD is good as long as she doesn't have to go by herself. Mom really was a good grandparent when they were little. At some point, she thought she needed to teach them life lessons like how to clean and do chores, and how the pioneers lived, so now they think she is BSC. We don't have any real relationship, so she doesn't see them very often, and she forgets that they are teenagers now.
mommyatty, weird about HR. One thing our HR is good about is letting me come in, shut the door and vent. She will then tell me my options or advise me on how to deal with it. It's never official unless I pushed for it.
mommyatty , our HR is very much like rere 's. They don't want to do an investigation unless they have to. My guess is that they may have been looking for an excuse to start an investigation, or what you talked about was serious enough that they couldn't avoid an investigation.
Document EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. Email yourself notes and records so that everything is time stamped. Hopefully nothing comes of it, but be prepared if it does.
DH was gone all weekend, and has been traveling for work this week. All of my "adult" conversation has been with my boss, our CEO, HR, and daycare workers. Needless to say that when someone I have just casual conversation with came into my office yesterday.. I just word vomitted. I could not shut up for the life of me. He gets back tonight and then I can silently/irrationally be mad at him, since he's going to want to relax and unwind after a long week and all I'm going to want his for him to do everything.
DD's birthday party is tomorrow. We'll have 11 kids total, of which 9 are 7-8, 1 is 3.5, and one is 11 (and keen to help out with the little kids), and DH and I are both planning to skate to help out as necessary. (Counts do not include any parents or siblings that may/may not show up and skate) I've got fingers crossed that before long DD kicks the adults off the ice and we can go have a drink in the bar.
I'm basically doing the least for this party. I'll make her cake tonight, and party favors are beanies. The party coordinator said we can come 30 minutes early to set up and decorate, and I'm just like.. UM.. DECORATE? Why would I do that?!?!
TGIF It has been a long week. DD decided she didn't want to go watch her teammates tomorrow. Her coach isn't even going to be at the meet and one of the 4/5's coach is covering for her just like they covered practice last night. The 4/5 coach was shocked DD wasn't competing and DD answer was you need to talk to JA on why. I'm working Saturday and Sunday but also need to fit in grocery shopping, laundry, and house cleaning. I think DD is coming to the office both days with me. She is really annoyed at dad because he can't stay home on the weekends so drags her all over the place wandering stores. She told me that she would rather sit at the office and read than be dragged all over town. She is counting down until she turns 10 and can start staying home. I can't get it through DH's head that she is gone all week and just wants home time to be quiet and chill but nope he has to go off and be gone.
TGIF!!!! How does time go so fast, but every week feel sooooo long?!?
I’ve been bored out of my mind at work this week which does not do good things for my mood or attitude or anything! Plus I hate the end of February since it tends to be cold and gross here and this February has been particularly bad. It’s snowed like 12 or 13 days of February (I live in the plains of CO so that isn’t super normal) and it’s been gray more often than normal which makes me cranky.
Tonight we have our family night which is like my favorite time of the week. And then after I take a long hot bath with a face mask and it’s just a lovely way to unwind. I started that when DH was deployed a few years ago and I desperately needed time to myself to relax occasionally. So the kids and I would have a floor picnic in front of the TV every Friday night, then I’d put them to bed and get me time. It was amazing so I’ve kept the tradition.
Tomorrow we have to take our tax stuff to the accountant. And we are doing a triple date to an escape room and dinner that I’m very much looking forward to.
Otherwise we aren’t doing much. DH has a couple more weeks of class for his masters and then we can finally enjoy weekends again. Plus it will get warm again. I cannot wait.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 21, 2020 13:28:32 GMT -5
Tonight is our school's auction and a glow party. Which sounds like a lot on a Friday night when I don't have energy.
Tomorow is a dear Friend's birthday party. She lives in our same city but it will take me an hour or more to get to her kid's party so I'm not looking forward to it. Then Sunday is a playdate, which will probably be at our house because somehow it seems like that's always the way it works.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 21, 2020 13:33:22 GMT -5
So glad it's Friday, but man, do I miss my every-other Friday off schedule today. I need to talk with my new manager to see if he 1) is open to me having a 9/80 schedule and 2) will let me start that after the lady currently on mat leave returns (end of March).
I got my PTO payout today from my last job, so that was a nice boost to our savings account (for now). When DH gets his bonus in a month, we should have enough between my PTO payout and his bonus to pay off our travel trailer. I'm excited to have one more thing paid off, and then we can use that monthly payment from the trailer to work on paying down the mortgage.
DD has Odyssey of the Mind competition tomorrow, so we'll be gone from around 10 am - 3 pm. At least we can sleep in and have the evening to relax. And then hopefully that means that she will not have her usual practice on Sunday afternoon. I need to catch up on some things around the house.
Sunday the weather is supposed to be nice ("winter-in-Michigan" nice - mid-40s and sunny), so I'm going to make the kids go outside and play for a little while in the fresh air and sunshine.
DH is going to do our taxes on Sunday. Crossing my fingers we get a refund of at least $2,000 (I'm anticipating it will be higher than usual because DH paid too much into SS due to his job change and his 2019 total wages being above the SS taxable limit), as that should cover most of the cost of food for our spring break trip to WDW.
Post by traveltheworld on Feb 21, 2020 13:52:38 GMT -5
I go on vacation tomorrow! Wohoo! I can't wait!
On the good news front, after reconciling myself to the fact that DH's contract won't be renewed and that he'll likely be a SAHD for a while, his contract got extended. It's only till end of March, but the director said that he really wants DH to stay, but they are going through so much internal restructuring that he doesn't even know what positions are being filled/eliminated, so he can't do anything at the moment other than to temporarily extend his contract. It's nice to be able to go on vacation knowing that there's a job to come back to (albeit short-term).
Work is just crazy busy right now. We are actively trying to hire, but everyone is so busy we don't even have time for interviews.
Post by sandandsea on Feb 21, 2020 14:46:22 GMT -5
We also do movie nights on fridays! I use it as an easy dinner night where we all sit on the couch/floor and watch a movie so it’s some quiet relaxing time as a family.
We have ds1s passport appt tomorrow and then futsal and church. Sunday ds1 and dh are headed to the track and I’ll stay home with ds2 to do laundry, tidy up and order grocery and hopefully get to relax.
mrsGreeko my usual Friday morning consists of sleeping in until 6, rushing DH and the kids out of the door ASAP, and then taking a bath and leisurely getting ready for work.
Morning bath seemed weird at first, but it’s the only time I could sneak it in and I love it.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 21, 2020 20:18:43 GMT -5
I survived my life & health pre-licensing course. It has been a looooong 4 days, but in about 16 hours I will find out if it has been worth it when I am done with the test. The kids are are MIL's tonight and DH is going to bed shortly since he goes back to work full duty tomorrow.
My test is late morning and I told MIL I'd like to come home and take a nap since I've gotten 4.5-6 hours of sleep each night, which she was totally fine with. I'll get the kids late afternoon and we may just have a lazy evening.
DH has house projects planned for Sunday. Hopefully one of them includes helping me get the broken tile off the shower wall so I can replace it. That's needed done for over 6 weeks and was supposed to be done 5 weeks and 4 days ago according to when his BFF said he'd come by and take it out and replace it.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 22, 2020 10:39:05 GMT -5
OMG We went to the school's auction and glow party last night and both of my kids just totally fell apart, DD just crying saying she was tired, DS crying saying all kinds of things, but it was rooted in "I'm tired and I needed not be around society at this hour after a full day of school and after school enrichment dance class".
Lesson learned. Either we get off work early and pick the kids up right after school is over when we have these school events at night so they can rest and decompress before being around other humans, or we skip the event all together.
ETA: Also, I hate to admit this but I have no restraint when it comes to things like this. I cannot look ahead and see the obvious that something is going to be a total disaster because we have done too much or are taking on too much. I can normally in the moment see that this is the case, but I can't at all see it ahead of time and ward it off.
mustardseed2007, my little introverts do this too. DH is much better at anticipating it than I am. But mine are also getting good at communicating when they’ve had enough. We’ve had lots of birthday parties the last few weekends, and last night DS said “Tomorrow we don’t have to do anything. We can just have a day to lay back!” And he seemed so relieved.
DH and I went out to dinner for his birthday last night. Our old nanny came to babysit, and the kids were thrilled. Win for all.
Today we took the kids to the city. We went to an observation deck for one of the tallest building, and walked around the small museum. We had a disaster of a lunch where the restaurant couldn’t handle the volume so we waited for over an hour for lunch. Then we went inside a huge stained glass globe that was built in the 1930s. The kids were amazed.
Stopped for ice cream, and finally home. Tomorrow we have nothing until later, when we will go to my mom’s for dinner. We don’t have a kitchen, so a non-takeout meal will be nice.