I posted yesterday I was down with a stomach virus and now everyone else has gotten it. Ds1 had a math competition today that he has worked hard for and it’s so disappointing for him.
H basically refuses to do anything for fear of getting sick and I am pretty over him. Ds2 puked all over his bedding and h just wadded it up in a garbage can instead of trying to rinse it so we could wash it. Then when I was up in the middle of the night getting ds2 water (keep in mind I was throwing up All day and have now been up all night with ds2) ds1 called out that he was sick. h got up and I told him he should go lie down with ds1 (I had ds2 with me in bed) and he basically refused. So ds1 was sick all alone. I told him this morning he really should go personally tell the teacher why ds1 wasn’t there (we don’t have her #) and he balked at that. He was upset that he had taken the kids out last night to our baseball opening night - which is ridiculous because the kids were showing no signs of being sick at that point. Ugh. I am really over him.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 22, 2020 8:17:04 GMT -5
H is home today and already on my nerves. I solo parent 90% of the time and just want to drink coffee and catch up on the DVR for an hour or so. He’s so annoyed that DS wants to play. Rage.
Post by notoriousmeg on Feb 22, 2020 8:52:28 GMT -5
We are having a lazy day. We had a long week between work travel and doctor appointments. Any thoughts on good places to shop for sweaters/tops with wide sleeves? It is still cold here and I am in a cast that goes above my elbow for another 5 weeks. I have to dress professionally for work, so I can’t do t- shirts. Thanks!
I woke up with a raging headache and a sore throat. Why does this happen when I have shut to do today? Why not last weekend? Gah
Also my friend is up for a promotion and now thinks a lesser candidate will get the job because they can’t spare him from his current position. This happened to me years ago where I was doing 50% of the new role along with my regular job and they gave the promotion to a person who they expected me to train...so I moved to a different job. Unfortunately my friend can’t do that.
We have a LOT of running around to do today. Most of our errands relate to our recent car problems. We need to pick up my new (used) car from our local mechanic and drive it to another town and drop it off at the Honda dealership for additional work. Thankfully Vroom "should" be paying for this SECOND round of unrelated repairs.
Thankfully we have an extra car, but DH currently has that parked in his parent's vacant garage. We need to drive down to pick that up, etc., etc.
DS has his first piano recital today! It's limited to parents only, so it should be fairly mellow. DS started lessons late in the summer and has really taken to it. I'm excited to see him perform in front of others.
readyin07 - that sounds like my worst nightmare. As an emetephobe, I sympathize with your husband, but (and I don’t think this is an exaggeration) kids throwing up is one (small) reason I don’t have them. I don’t know if I could bring myself to help them. My mom says it’s different when it’s your own, but...I don’t know.
Yesterday was kind of an emotional rollercoaster so I slept like crap, my entire right shoulder/arm/hand hurt so I skipped yoga. I just needed a break of sitting on my butt drinking coffee.
Most of today will be organizing our built ins and laundry. Hoping to get 1 bookcase emptied and down into our playroom.
Post by lexxasaurus on Feb 22, 2020 9:29:45 GMT -5
Surgery was yesterday and it went well. They removed the broken piece of my IUD and put in a new one while I was still under. It is so rare that it happens (but everything rare happens to me) that I wasnt afraid to do a second one since a non hormonal IUD is my only options besides condoms. And no to that. I slept, watched Love is Blind, got fed by my boyfriend and slept some more. The bleeding and cramps are definitely worse than the plain insertion of my first one, obviously, but I'm trying not to be a baby. Was up a lot last night because of it though so I'm glad the only plan today is our therapy session and that's it.
We’re up in the mountains with my mom at a ski in/out condo. Took DS1 on a couple of runs yesterday. He had a great time and did so well! I’m looking forward to skiing with him more today and getting a full day in with DH. We also played Ticket to Ride last night and I think we all enjoyed it. I had fun anyway. We’ve had a great start to the weekend thus far.
I told my boss yesterday that I’m leaving. It literally could not have gone better. He used to work for the company I’m moving to, but I didn’t really know what he thought of them. He said it’s a great organization filled with high performers (“like you”) and that I will “thrive” there. I had reservations, which the interview process helped resolve, but him saying that just really eliminated any worry I still had. He said he’s proud of me and that I absolutely deserve the salary they offered. I’m just thrilled. And, the kicker, he and I had talked about him quitting too back in January. Turns out he was serious, so we came up with a game plan for giving notice. He’s giving notice on the 2nd and I’ll follow up with my notice the day after his. Then we’re going out to celebrate since he’ll be in town. Lol
readyin07 - that sounds like my worst nightmare. As an emetephobe, I sympathize with your husband, but (and I don’t think this is an exaggeration) kids throwing up is one (small) reason I don’t have them. I don’t know if I could bring myself to help them. My mom says it’s different when it’s your own, but...I don’t know.
I’m not saying this is the case for everyone, but I used to gag like crazy cleaning dog puke. With my kids, it literally doesn’t even phase me to hold them over a toilet while they puke, or to clean it off a car seat. I don’t know why it’s so different, but it just really doesn’t bother me.
MIL’s worst fear is throwing up and she hates when other people do it, but she has always seemed ok with it with her own kids and even with mine. It’s not like she enjoys it, obviously, but she seems to tolerate it fine.
Regardless, readyin07’s H is indeed a parent so this isn’t something he gets to remove himself from. Fuck that. That’s a really shitty thing to do anyway, but especially when your spouse is also sick.
readyin07 - that sounds like my worst nightmare. As an emetephobe, I sympathize with your husband, but (and I don’t think this is an exaggeration) kids throwing up is one (small) reason I don’t have them. I don’t know if I could bring myself to help them. My mom says it’s different when it’s your own, but...I don’t know.
I’m not saying this is the case for everyone, but I used to gag like crazy cleaning dog puke. With my kids, it literally doesn’t even phase me to hold them over a toilet while they puke, or to clean it off a car seat. I don’t know why it’s so different, but it just really doesn’t bother me.
MIL’s worst fear is throwing up and she hates when other people do it, but she has always seemed ok with it with her own kids and even with mine. It’s not like she enjoys it, obviously, but she seems to tolerate it fine.
Regardless, readyin07 ’s H is indeed a parent so this isn’t something he gets to remove himself from. Fuck that. That’s a really shitty thing to do anyway, but especially when your spouse is also sick.
Oh no, for sure, he definitely should have stepped up.
But seriously. If he’s that worried about getting sick, the LEAST he could do is start cleaning and sanitizing the house. Like, do SOMETHING productive. I get the fear because when we thought DS had a stomach virus, my anxiety skyrocketed, but shit. HELP.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 22, 2020 9:57:04 GMT -5
readyin07, your husband is an ass and I hope you tear him a new one. nobody *wants* to be sick but get the fuck over it. Interestingly, when the stomach virus ripped through our house, H and I were equally exposed to the children and I was the only one who got sick. I really might have wanted to murder him if he made me tend to two sick children on my own while I was sick. The anger rising up in me at the thought is proof I'm just one bad H decision away from being a lifetime special
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We are having a lazy day. We had a long week between work travel and doctor appointments. Any thoughts on good places to shop for sweaters/tops with wide sleeves? It is still cold here and I am in a cast that goes above my elbow for another 5 weeks. I have to dress professionally for work, so I can’t do t- shirts. Thanks!
readyin07 - that sounds like my worst nightmare. As an emetephobe, I sympathize with your husband, but (and I don’t think this is an exaggeration) kids throwing up is one (small) reason I don’t have them. I don’t know if I could bring myself to help them. My mom says it’s different when it’s your own, but...I don’t know.
I’m not saying this is the case for everyone, but I used to gag like crazy cleaning dog puke. With my kids, it literally doesn’t even phase me to hold them over a toilet while they puke, or to clean it off a car seat. I don’t know why it’s so different, but it just really doesn’t bother me.
MIL’s worst fear is throwing up and she hates when other people do it, but she has always seemed ok with it with her own kids and even with mine. It’s not like she enjoys it, obviously, but she seems to tolerate it fine.
Regardless, readyin07’s H is indeed a parent so this isn’t something he gets to remove himself from. Fuck that. That’s a really shitty thing to do anyway, but especially when your spouse is also sick.
I am the opposite...I can handle pretty much anything that comes out of the dogs, but I had the hardest time with anything more than baby spit up from my kids. Luckily they didn't have many stomach viruses, and even more luckily, that was when DH really took over, because he knew how to handle that problem. I did not even feel bad when our youngest had a really awful stomach virus on my mom's watch while we were in Hawaii. My mom was a nurse and it didn't bother her.
readyin07, I am sorry that you have been so ill and without help. That is rough. Didn't you say in another post that your H is a germaphobe? If he really has a phobia, then he isn't really as big a jerk as he sounds like in this post, although he really needs to do something about it so that even if he is afraid, he can figure out a way to stll be helpful and compassionate...and not a jerk.
OMG I would feel rage if my husband acted in that manner.
Speaking of husbands, my H had anal fissure surgery on Thursday. Yes we have been making a ton of butt jokes. Anyways, he is so dramatic when he is recovery from things. But this time hasn't been too bad. His shoulder surgery a year ago legit almost broke us lol. I tend to be a suck it up butter cup type. And he likes to milk things and think he has all these rare things going on lol. So I am very happy that we might survive this surgery. We were both so nervous, because last time was just horrible. I was really dreading the dynamic between us again because it absolutely brought the worst out in both of us. It is such a relief that it ended up not being a big deal.
Post by lexxasaurus on Feb 22, 2020 10:15:44 GMT -5
I also now know what you ladies are talking about when you describe the massive (strangely comfortable) hospital panties. Lol. That and a pad the size of Aladka make me feel super sexy.
Post by RoxMonster on Feb 22, 2020 10:17:01 GMT -5
We went to a fun Mardi Gras-themed fundraiser last night, had drinks, danced, and now I feel super groggy. It doesn't help that my dog decided to lick my face every half hour beginning at 5 AM this morning ugh. Go back to sleep, dog!
We have some errands to run today and it's supposed to be fairly mild, so we might go for a hike.
Also H, who is the stingy budget person, said he wants for us to go to Disney again in late 2021. Our kids will be at a perfect age and he doesn't want to miss that window. OMG I am so excited to start planning again lol. I had to unfollow all the groups/blogs etc I was following for our trip in 2018. I am ready to jump in again!
Post by Patsy Baloney on Feb 22, 2020 10:42:39 GMT -5
I’m sorting cookies. 916 boxes strong! My troop set its goal at 1025, and I really believe they’re going to make it.
My mouth is still really sore from some numbing ridiculousness at the dentist yesterday. My teeth that were worked on do feel really good, but the gums around them are sooooo sore from the extra shots. Ibuprofen has yet to get ahead of it today. Hoping my lunchtime dose will be the one to do it.
Maybe a box of do-si-dos will make me feel better...
I just wrote out the to-do list for today, and it's totally not all getting done since it's almost 11 already. Whoops! We do need to get as much done today as possible, since DD and I will be at our GS service unit's Thinking Day event most of tomorrow afternoon.
We had the rest of our fence replaced this week, and now I need to look into landscape architects/designers because our yard is a mess of stuff that requires more maintenance than we have time for. It's probably cost-prohibitive, but I would love to just pay someone to rip it all out and start over on everything.
Holy crap readyin07 how you haven’t murdered your H is amazing. My H gets like this about dog messes, literally just covers them with a towel and sprays Lysol. We don’t have kids together, but if we did and he pulled that with them I’d lose my ever loving shit. You’re a saint.
I had a really bad day yesterday, so I treated myself to sushi, a 6 pack of Corona, and Haagen Daas for dinner. After I threw up I slept great LOL
H and I ran errands this morning, just picked up bagels, and are now waiting for the tree guy to show up since he never came yesterday (see above bad day). We were supposed to go out tonight tonight to celebrate our anniversary, but I’m just feeling it, so I cancelled our reservation.
We are having a lazy day. We had a long week between work travel and doctor appointments. Any thoughts on good places to shop for sweaters/tops with wide sleeves? It is still cold here and I am in a cast that goes above my elbow for another 5 weeks. I have to dress professionally for work, so I can’t do t- shirts. Thanks!
I feel like I need to point out that being emetophobic isn’t about being squeamish. I could clean up dog shit and puke all day. I could help someone throwing up from being drunk or some kind of non-contagious issue. But I absolutely panic at the thought of catching a stomach bug so if that’s how OPs H is, I definitely see both sides.